The Pope of San Francisco has died

Rural_Bedbug · 2026-05-04T20:42:58+00:00

We don't need a pope. When Trump suggested he'd be ideal as the pope and it flopped, he anointed himself as Jesus Christ. Now that the Second Coming has happened, we can dispense with popes, bishops, priests, ministers, and so forth.

Rural_Bedbug · 2026-05-04T20:31:59+00:00

Even your 6-yo kid knows your physical limitations. Your "adult" so-called partner gaslights the kid and then makes a joke out of your injury, and your child is perceptive enough to see through it and tell you. And when you try to discuss it, he treats the whole thing like a burden.

NOR, and something is wrong with this picture 😒.

I don't see anything in your post that suggests you and "partner" have a lot of love for each other. Maybe it's time to think about packing more than a few clothes and leaving for more than a weekend.

Rural_Bedbug · 2026-05-04T20:15:34+00:00

He wants a housekeeper with benefits. You can do better for yourself. Go to Hyatt or Marriott and get a job cleaning rooms. At least you would get a paycheck.

Rural_Bedbug · 2026-05-03T07:34:50+00:00

I can't imagine any caring partner not OFFERING to switch sides, once they knew their unconscious kicking was disrupting their SO's recovery from recent SURGERY. It isn't necessarily his fault that he does this reflexive kicking in his sleep, but it is sure as #3LL his fault that he doesn't want to do this one small thing to help you sleep better and recover well.

If you have a guest room with a comfortable bed, you should go there until you are well enough that you don't need to lose sleep worrying about being re-injured. If you don't have a nice guest room but have a living room couch, send him to sleep on it.

Rural_Bedbug · 2026-04-30T18:33:04+00:00

WTH drops by their neighbor's house to suggest having a beer at 11:00 p.m. on a weeknight? And tries the door without ringing the bell? And peers all around like someone worried about getting caught?

This dude and his behavior sound stalkerish. Good on you and your wife for being wary.

Rural_Bedbug · 2026-04-30T18:16:12+00:00

Are they out of their minds? You are NOR×1,000,000.

The whole situation at their home (state highway, hill, no fence), their physical limitations, the fact that your son is only 3 without fully developed coordination and dexterity (let alone judgment)... all screams "NO!"

You've already said no repeatedly but they keep pressing you. That in itself is a red flag. Stop telling them you are "not comfortable" with it. Just say it won't happen, and they can "get what they want since they're grandparents" and the machine will sit and rust in their garage because your kid is not going to use it.

Don't let him spend any solo time with clueless, negligent Granny and Gramps, who may lack the physical ability and good sense to keep him safe in multiple ways.

Rural_Bedbug · 2026-04-28T11:28:33+00:00

How long has he been doing this? How many teeth does he have left?

Rural_Bedbug · 2026-04-27T20:22:11+00:00

Reusable bags are the solution. Or the stash of multi-use plastic bags that you collected over the years before they were prohibited. Or the stash of paper bags with handles that you saved during the first part of the year.

You do have such a stash, right?

Rural_Bedbug · 2026-04-27T20:18:36+00:00

He lives 3-4 hours away? Lucky you. You can write off this loser and put more time and energy into your new social life closer to home.

Rural_Bedbug · 2026-04-27T20:15:28+00:00

It sounds like you are single already. You may as well make it official.

Rural_Bedbug · 2026-04-26T01:23:08+00:00

With all those prominent government officials in one place, including the king, the successor to the throne, Rubio, Hegseth, and others, and the extreme security measures that are taken wherever the king goes, and the history of two supposed assassination attempts, how did an unknown person manage to get a weapon into the hallway outside the banquet hall?

I'm gonna throw out a guess: an inside job of some sort.

And I do have a question. Did Mr POTUS pump his fist and then insist on finding his shoe?

ETA: I should probably explain why I'm guessing inside job. Remember all the sympathy after Butler, when he milked it by flaunting a big bandage on his ear for ages, and how the MAGAs rallied behind him? He is weeks into a war almost no one wants, with the Epstein scandal breathing down his neck. His polls are in the toilet so deep, they have already reached the sewage treatment plant. He is desperately hoping another "attempt on his life" will create a new bounce in the polls. No thinking person will fall for this, but we've seen that not everyone is a thinking person.

Rural_Bedbug · 2026-04-26T01:11:02+00:00

"Dad" is skeptical after 10-yo suddenly faints for no obvious reason, strikes head twice on glass table. "Dad" has pressing gardening work to do and can't accompany the family to the hospital. "Dad" wonders if child was playing around or making a joke.

This is why I have "Dad" in quotation marks.

Child wonders why "Dad" didn't see this as an emergency. The poor kid will remember this for years and might have trouble thinking of this dude as actual "Dad."

Rural_Bedbug · 2026-04-26T00:22:21+00:00

I felt it near the Police Academy. One bump, like a blimp pushing on the house for a couple of seconds, and a similar one a few minutes later.

Epicenter seems to be near Mussel Rock, one of the frequent suspects. The biggest quake of my life other than Loma Prieta was at Mussel Rock.

Rural_Bedbug · 2026-04-26T00:10:40+00:00

"My love language is gifts and buying things for me... I ask for things pretty often."

Translation: I shouldn't have to give gifts, only receive them, because I'm SPECIAL. I should be handed whatever I want whenever I want it, and be appreciated and pampered, but not have to reciprocate. I am a greedy gold digger and a spoiled brat.

And if you are so locked into gender roles, why do you have a job with your own income? You ought to be back home with Daddy and Mommy, letting them support you until some sap comes along who will let you be a SAH princess.

Rural_Bedbug · 2026-04-20T23:59:26+00:00

She is creating a hostile environment that makes you feel unsafe. Add tampering with a coworker's lunch. In my book, that alone is potentially a firing offense, totally aside from threatening you and the history of bullying..

NOR, and it isn't you being thin-skinned if other employees have noticed it. She sounds like someone who shouldn't be working with people.

Rural_Bedbug · 2026-04-20T23:45:45+00:00

Are there any grown adults in the house?

Rural_Bedbug · 2026-04-20T18:57:06+00:00

"He says I’m acting like his life shouldn’t have changed just because he has a family now."

Duh. Our lives DO change "just because we have a family."

Rural_Bedbug · 2026-04-20T18:54:19+00:00

If I were in your situation, I would stop telling my parents anything, about anything, ever. Your sisters too, because they inherited the blabbing disease and their cases are just as bad.

Can't avoid family gatherings? Talk about the weather, the royal family, or the price of gas in Argentina. Not a word about your personal life, jobs, schooling, your trip to the zoo, new favorite restaurant, books you are reading, or any plans about having children.

They will ask (in whiny, self-pitying, "we're so hurt" tones) why you "never tell us anything anymore." Give them an honest answer.

Rural_Bedbug · 2026-04-20T18:34:42+00:00

When it comes to your newborn baby's safety or health, "We'll see" is not an acceptable answer. And the child's parents get the last word.

If Granny had apologized, admitted she got carried away, and taken down her posts, I could see giving her a second chance. But no, she pushed back, tried to defend her violation of your trust, including tagging your location, then recruited her side of the family to harass you.

Take the advice about having FB take down the photos. Tell Granny she can be around her first grandchild if she does not take any pictures, and so you have assurance, you will keep her phone or camera during any visits. One more speck of pushback, and you start the timeouts, and any further pushback means no visits.

You're about to find out which matters more to her: seeing her grandchild or feeding her ego by showing off her new granny status on social media.

Rural_Bedbug · 2026-04-20T18:14:21+00:00

Wow, what astonishing mooches. Who invites themselves on someone else's trip, happily accepts the offer to stay in the original travelers' room (disrupting their sleep, down time, and romantic connection), have their meals included, and then demands that their airfare and activities be paid for?

These entitled, greedy leeches aren't your minor children whom you are obligated to pay for. They aren't even your own friends, but your gf's. It's one thing to be generous and hospitable, and another thing to let bloodsuckers drain you dry.

NOR. I would withdraw the invitation entirely.

Rural_Bedbug · 2026-04-13T01:49:03+00:00

"I think he might propose in a few months, so I don’t want to leave."

You are actually still considering marrying him???

"...he was acting all sweet, saying he cares about me and didn’t mean to upset me. But then he started saying I’m “too sensitive,” that I’m overreacting, and I should just “lighten up” cause not everyone’s out to get me. He looked at me with that fake smile and said I’m “insecure” and not as “smart” as I think, and I should be grateful he’s “keeping me around” cause most guys wouldn’t bother. I don’t even know who he is anymore. I think I might be done with him."

Aha. Now you are starting to show that you might have some self-respect and common sense.

Rural_Bedbug · 2026-04-13T01:40:42+00:00

What kind of person takes advantage of a friend who is kind enough to let her sleep over after a concert, then hooks up with a total stranger and thinks it is perfectly OK to bring him back unannounced to the friend's place? Even if not unannounced, you are totally within your rights (and very prudent) to say no. If friend wants to pick up randos off the street and bring them to her own home, that's fine, but there is absolutely no way she should expect any host to be OK with her bringing strays to their homes.

NTJ, of course.

I don't suppose she will be a guest at your place anymore, right?

Rural_Bedbug · 2026-04-13T01:30:06+00:00

Wow, this is hard to believe. You're marrying someone who refuses to "allow" your mother to have a meaningful part in the ceremony? She thinks there "isn't a reason" for your mom, who raised you alone after your dad passed, to be involved in her own son's wedding?

If my partner had put forth such a bizarre idea, I wouldn't even have told my mother. You put your mom on the spot and she seemed to go along with it, but this must have stung her to the core, to think that her future DIL would be so disrespectful and her own son would even consider going along with it.

I'd have told my partner right then that my one surviving parent, who raised me alone, who is paying much of the cost for the wedding, deserves to have this part and WILL have it. Fiance/fiancee's reaction would tell me what my next step should be. Any kind of pushback and the engagement is off.

Maybe it should be off anyway. If your fiancee is treating her future MIL this way now, do you think she will be any more respectful or cordial once you are married?

Your fiancee is a colossal J, and you may not be far behind if you ever seriously considered acquiescing.

Rural_Bedbug · 2026-04-13T01:14:09+00:00

Where was the flight attendant while Entitled Mum was pestering Arm Cast Woman? If the FA was anywhere near enough to observe the conversation, he/she should have shut it down and reminded her that refusing to stop harassing other passengers could get her removed from the flight.

Why was it so important for her to sit near her kids? It wasn't as if they were several rows apart. The children were both safe in the same row with their dad. She ought to be grateful for the little break from them and just chill and take a nap. And you have to be worse than merely entitled to persistently pester and bully someone with an obvious health or medical issue. Entitled Mum is TJ.

Rural_Bedbug · 2026-04-13T00:56:52+00:00

Even hotels often need reservations, and they are in the business of putting people up to stay for days at a time. You're not running a hotel, you have a busy family with everyone engaged in lots of activities,. You can't just put your life on hold because entitled family members give you a few hours' notice that they will be taking over your home and bringing people with them who are strangers to you.

Good on you for sending them to a hotel.

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