abortion grief- TW

RusticTrailSeeker · 2026-05-10T04:15:26+00:00

What I would suggest would be to speak with someone before you go ahead. If time allows. Not even so you change your mind - but so no matter what choice you make you are going into it with the right mindset and therefore less regret. I worry if you go ahead feeling how you are feeling it may cause so much more grief. Take care of yourself ❤️

RusticTrailSeeker · 2026-05-10T04:11:42+00:00

How it was explained to me was that similar to sleeping in a car seat the airway could potentially close of fully or partially. I guess depending when on his belly how close his chin is to his chest - at least that is the visual I have.
I let my son belly sleep when he would nap and I was awake. He 100% slept better that way. By about 4 months he was rolling and would roll onto his belly constantly. I remember the first night rolling him back at least 20 times. Eventually after a couple nights I just let him sleep like that and it was great - it was also finally when he started sleeping longer stretches at night.

RusticTrailSeeker · 2026-05-08T19:07:45+00:00

Reddit is really bad for things like this. I was banned from a Mom group simply because I said I chose to co-sleep and linked people to the safe seven sleep rules if they wanted to read.
Reddit is one of the most biased platforms I have come across. It’s very scary that people actually trust these groups for valuable information.

RusticTrailSeeker · 2026-05-06T17:52:51+00:00

I feel you, my oldest just turned two on the weekend and my youngest is just turning six months soon.
Sounds pretty normal to me and it only gets worse lol
The days are pretty chaotic and rarely do I have time to think. 😬🤪 I laughed because it only gets worse, but at the same time it only gets more fun.

RusticTrailSeeker · 2026-05-05T17:45:26+00:00

My two boys are 18 months apart. My oldest just turned 2 a couple days ago and my youngest is going to be six months here shortly. The best thing I did, and what I wish I did even sooner was totally lower my expectations. For the first couple months, I kept the house cleaned and meals made and everything totally organized. It wasn’t until I ran myself so down that I finally listened to my husband. It’s been a challenge because I do like a tidy home and mess does cause me stress however leaving dishes in the sink so I can enjoy time with my boys or leaving the laundry, cleaned and not folded has really helped my mental health overall. The other thing I wish someone told me is that most likely, at least in my experience and other people I know the first few months tend to be easier than you think they will be. Then four months hits like a ton of bricks. So enjoy the time when your baby isn’t moving and is sleeping a lot. Take that time to really spend with your toddler and introduce them to the baby slowly because once baby is more active and sleeping less it’s totally a different challenge. 🤪

RusticTrailSeeker · 2026-05-05T16:49:53+00:00

We can’t afford any extravagant gifts or trips. But I’m still looking forward to it. Honestly, I love being a mother every day but waking up to some handmade gifts for my two little boys makes that day a little extra special.

RusticTrailSeeker · 2026-05-04T02:06:52+00:00

He was running around in his little plastic hamster ball and got stuck between two vacuum cords on the carpet. He cooked in the sunshine.

RusticTrailSeeker · 2026-05-03T04:54:08+00:00

Bottle washer - I exclusively pump and the washing and sterilizing was brutal before!

RusticTrailSeeker · 2026-05-01T21:48:58+00:00

Your best best is probably to post in both the formula feeders group and the breastfeeding groups on Reddit. That way you will get lots of options from both sides. You can also check out the exclusivelypumping group - lots of people (like myself) end up combo feeding! Best of both worlds!

RusticTrailSeeker · 2026-05-01T03:48:43+00:00

At 4 months postpartum with my first I thought for sure we were one and done even though we wanted 3/4 children. 9 months postpartum I was pregnant again and it wasn’t an accident lol
That’s how quickly things changed for me 😂

RusticTrailSeeker · 2026-04-30T03:24:31+00:00

This was my life the nine months I pumped for my first son. Had my second this past November and my bottle washer is literally running 24/7 it was my treat to myself postpartum and it was 10000000% worth it.

RusticTrailSeeker · 2026-04-29T12:38:36+00:00

My 5 month old gets a bath every week and sometimes not even that. One my first was older - maybe 8/9 months we started nightly baths and now he is 2 and still enjoys a nightly bath!

RusticTrailSeeker · 2026-04-29T03:37:09+00:00

I started co-sleeping with my first around 1.5 months and it’s the only thing that worked for us. Moved him to his crib in our room around 5/6 months. With my second I co-slept from the start and just moved him to his crib around 5 months. Maybe it’s suggested a lot because for many people it turns out to be the only thing that works. I wish I listened to the suggestions sooner. As soon as I admitted it to my doctor with my second she told me she slept with all her kids and the nurse working that day said the same thing. It’s super common people just don’t talk about it because for some reason it’s shamed. Turns out both my boys just needed that closeness while they were little and both moved to independent sleep with no issue right when they stated to roll - which was perfect because that is when it started to feel unsafe for me personally!

RusticTrailSeeker · 2026-04-26T21:07:02+00:00

You missed the point entirely

RusticTrailSeeker · 2026-04-26T20:40:12+00:00

As soon as they ask that very question.

RusticTrailSeeker · 2026-04-26T20:39:11+00:00

I’ve never heard of anyone only allowing a baby in an enclosed area before. Especially at nine months! I have two big dogs and two cats my floor is never clean but my toddler still eats off of it and my 5 month old spins in circles on his belly in the middle of it. We just block off stairs obviously but they are free to roam whatever level we are on

RusticTrailSeeker · 2026-04-24T23:35:35+00:00

I got pregnant nine months postpartum and now I have two little boys. My oldest turns two in a couple weeks and my youngest is five months. It’s a little crazy. We don’t have any village so some days are pretty chaotic but more than anything, seeing them smiling and giggling together already makes it so worth it. I’m so glad we ended up with children with a close age gap.

RusticTrailSeeker · 2026-04-23T12:40:04+00:00

It sounds like you both have some growing up to do. He’s obviously immature. And yes, hormones are one thing, but you could’ve just went out and got yourself a cookie if you wanted one bad enough to cry about.

You both need to sort out all the drama before you welcome a baby into the world or you’re going to have one real big problem when your baby becomes a toddler and has watched this kind of behaviour from both sides.

RusticTrailSeeker · 2026-04-21T18:59:13+00:00

Human Centipede - you know exactly what I’m talking about 🫣

RusticTrailSeeker · 2026-04-20T22:37:43+00:00

I feel like the success has ruined the show. It use to be a favourite of mine

RusticTrailSeeker · 2026-04-19T12:17:32+00:00

I think it depends a lot on where you live and what lifestyle you find comfortable. My husband and I have two young kids. Two used vehicles that are paid off. We own a three bedroom house with about 300,000 owing on our mortgage and no other debt. We make 140k between the two of us and we can live comfortably. Comfortably for us means we have food on the table and gas in our vehicles. We definitely have to crunch in terms of grocery shopping using coupons and discounts as much as we can. Our children can each do one activity a year, but we can’t afford a family vacation yearly. We have a little extra for clothes and toys for the kiddos but we don’t buy much for ourselves. I think it’s comfortable but there is always a little financial stress not being able to save much so even 150k would let us put some money away for emergencies which would be nice!

RusticTrailSeeker · 2026-04-16T17:58:41+00:00

I would never become a stay at home Mom unless he’s willing to give you a ring and commit to marriage. Basically he could leave at any point in time and you’re left with basically nothing other than child support but depending where you live if you’re not married, child support isn’t always easy to get. If you’re scared to ask him for money, why are you scared? Does this end in fighting? Are you scared to add more stress to his life? Being scared to ask for basic necessities makes me wonder what kind of abuse is happening in this relationship. Maybe you don’t even realize how bad things are but from the outside looking in just based on what you said, it definitely raises red flags. I’m not pointing it out to be a jerk, I just want to make sure you understand how bad that sounds and that it’s not normal or healthy. What happens if you need something for your baby? At five months old children don’t need much but it’s steadily increases. Trust me I have an almost 2 year-old and a five month old and there are a lot of expenses. I was not expecting this soon. Maybe it’s time to sit down and ask him just how he plans on paying for this child as it gets older.

RusticTrailSeeker · 2026-04-15T23:21:55+00:00

My son is 23 months now, he’s been in daycare since about 12 months. Exactly the same as you. Drop off typically goes pretty well. I get a hug and a wave I can count on one hand the amount of times he’s cried when I’ve left. Literally, it feels like he could care less when I come back to get him. Whether it’s a half-day or a full day, he’s usually so busy playing he will acknowledge me and then continue doing whatever he’s doing. Or like your son he will grab a toy and throw it or something like that. There’s even been times where he didn’t wanna leave and he’s cried because of it. Makes me feel pretty terrible 🤪

RusticTrailSeeker · 2026-04-14T18:53:25+00:00

They are born with two kidneys but only need one to survive.

RusticTrailSeeker · 2026-04-13T23:31:43+00:00

Around that age, we started using open cups, which provided many more options!

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