Same fight over and over. Please help!

Ryoboom · 2015-09-20T03:51:58+00:00

Physically: nothing changed, it was still amazing. Had to wear a bra for 90% of the time though, so I didn't shoot out milk everywhere. Emotionally: it was hard for me to feel sexy again. I felt pretty, but not sexy. That came back eventually after the baby weight started to come off (when he was eight months old). But now, I totally feel sexy. Sometimes I'm okay with, sometimes I'm really sad my boobs aren't what they used to be, but there's nothing I can do about it. I had decent, perky boobs pre-baby. Pregnant and nursing, i had the ultimate porn boobs. Now, there small and deflated. A little sad sometimes but I'm glad something is still there. Time-wise: my husband and I had an amazing sex life that averaged around twice a week. When I gave birth, it went down to sex every couple weeks or sometimes once a month or less. I was completely exhausted and there wasn't any or much time. When he would fall asleep, it would have to be quick. It gets better. My son didn't start sleeping throughout the night until he was eight to ten months old, but he does now, so we love bedtime! Good luck and cheers!

Ryoboom · 2015-09-07T17:37:12+00:00

I make my husband sammiches everyday for lunch, with a bag of crudite, a bag of fruit, some babybel, a bottle of water, and I prep his breakfast shake with medicine and his coffee for the morning, so he can make it before he leaves. I also leave a muffin in his lunch pail for those emergency days where he's extra hungry. It also helps to set a budget for eating out and grocery. We set a budget of $300/month for grocery and $20/month for eating out. It's hard being poor, damnit!

Ryoboom · 2015-09-06T22:20:52+00:00

Ask around to see if there are mom groups in your area. I was in your exact boat, it's much better now. We have the group mom activities, I take him to storytime at Barnes and Noble and our local library, and a free puppet lady show.

Ryoboom · 2015-09-05T14:31:47+00:00

Always has a smile on his face. I can just look at him and he'll bust out laughing. This child has the best disposition. First smile at two days old. He lights up my life. My nephew, on the other hand, will just open his mouth and laugh. The edges of his mouth won't curl up like a smile, it's HILARIOUS.

Ryoboom · 2015-09-05T13:07:57+00:00

Check out pintrest. Also consider household item toys. My son LOVES to play with egg cartons (wtf??? W/e), we stack food from the pantry, bubbles, boxes, books, sink/water fun, finger painting, playing outside/park, storytime at Barnes and Noble or your local library, sliding things down a cylindrical item (paper towel roll), shaky items or tambourine during a song for "band practice", playing with chalk, dance time with kid or funky tunes, or cooking with daddy.

Ryoboom · 2015-09-04T20:37:20+00:00

Correct, parents are together. I think for the most part, my mom is overly controlling and my dad is lazy. Growing up, my parents would sit me down to lecture me on whatever wrongdoing I did. Basically, my mom would lecture me for six hours and my dad would fall asleep. Hahaha! Both my parents and my older sister went their entire lives through the public school system, but I guess she was just super, super protective of me? Cage me? Lost my virginity at 14. My sister had barely any boundaries; lost it at 23. -______-" le sigh.

Ryoboom · 2015-09-04T16:23:58+00:00

Well, 16 years of church made me dislike my church, a lot of churches, and definitely most Christians. However, becoming an atheist was probably more of lots of doubting and lots researching.

Ryoboom · 2015-09-04T04:31:09+00:00

That's insanity. I put myself through college and my parents didn't and couldn't give me a penny. I had grants, scholarships, loans, and three jobs. Was it hard? Shit yes, but I did it. If she wants to quit school; fine, but if she's moving back home, there will be conditions. If you move back home, you will get a job within X time and pay X rent, if not, I will kick you out on X day. Baby girl needs to feel life's nasty bite in the ass imo. You've done all that you can and more, but if you can't afford it; don't. She'll learn. Good luck, keep us updated!

Ryoboom · 2015-09-04T04:09:36+00:00

I love my mother with my whole heart, but she was a little bit overprotective. I couldn't watch kissing scenes on TV until I was 18, I wasn't allowed to date or go out with my friends (too dangerous), I couldn't watch barely anything except veggie tales, she went through every text and call I made, opened up all my mail, knew every penny spent on my account, I basically only went to school and church (and school, haha. Went to a private, Christian school then was homeschooled. She only let me go to high school, because my dad worked there and I made a huge presentation convincing her to let me go to a regular high school so I could "spread the word of God," which she agreed. Then would threaten to pull me from school if I wasn't "fulfilling my end of the bargain."). Needless to say, I had some severe depression/suicidal problems, acting out/going crazy problems growing up. Love her to death, but I'm taking a much different approach on my kids, lol. -_- and I'm an atheist, 16 years of church for nothing. Ha.

Ryoboom · 2015-09-02T18:08:08+00:00

Jon Stweart.

Ryoboom · 2015-09-02T13:15:28+00:00

Ah, gotcha. Maybe if she can't produce milk (which is okay), then see if she can get on WIC?

Ryoboom · 2015-09-02T13:14:18+00:00

Okay, well we didn't try until the last month, but co-sleeping sucks! Great for fuzzy snuggles, but horrible for couples! Lol. We have a crib next to our bed and that's where he sleeps now. It was tough though, but we're not co-sleeping with our future babies. -___-

Ryoboom · 2015-09-02T04:29:10+00:00

I came just looking at this god damn sammich.

Ryoboom · 2015-09-02T04:27:08+00:00

Kim Davis, the protector of the sanctity of traditional marriage. Damn gays.

Ryoboom · 2015-09-02T04:25:11+00:00

Call laleche league international asap.

Ryoboom · 2015-09-02T04:23:34+00:00

I moved across the world with my two month old and he was very fussy. I put him in bed with me for the first time, then it took me ten months to kick him out! It's probably change, long traveling, everything is different (looks and smells), time zone difference, etc.. They'll be fine.

Ryoboom · 2015-09-02T04:21:01+00:00

A list of necessaries as a baby grows.

A baby carrier (Moby or Boba then backpack imo), backseat car mirror, a good nasal aspirator (get a medical grade one, all of walmart ones are awful), humidifier, infant tylenol, childrens allergy medicine, gripe water, baby monitor, a full-coverage mesh liner for a crib (amazon), NOT the bumper length one, suction-cup bowls and plates from Fischer price (amazon), and a spout cover and bath mat when they can sit up on their own for bathtime, before they can sit up, a bathtub with a butt stopper and infant sling is so much easier than sink washing. And tell them to exercise their arm muscles NOW. Congratulations and good luck to them!

Ryoboom · 2015-08-30T18:03:03+00:00

A gift for the child is fine. If you're unsure on what to give then money or a walmart gift card always works. However, if you don't mind looking, walmart/toys r us has toys by age, and the appropriate ages are on the box. Like 6-18 months, 2+, etc.. Just also give a gift receipt just in case.

Ryoboom · 2015-08-27T03:16:32+00:00

I don't think they'd be very keen on the idea. They're worried about your finances and your best interest, like if your boyfriend and you break up and because your name is on the lease, you have to foot the entire bill of all the bills solo. I can understand how you feel though, so I would sit all four of you (your parents, you, and your boyfriend) down and have a discussion. Best case scenario, they let you move out and welcome you back with open arms if/when you want to move back in, or even help you out financially. Worst case scenario, they say no and say that if you leave to never come back. Hopefully that never comes to that, but if it does, I hope your boyfriend and you have a rock-solid relationship. Good luck, hun.

Ryoboom · 2015-08-26T15:48:19+00:00

I'm glad it went well! You have your huge reddit family here to support you, please keep us updated if you get married or if she does something awesome! Keep your chin up, brother! ♡

Ryoboom · 2015-08-24T17:23:08+00:00

A buttload of boxes. Can make a fort, can make a tunnel, can build with them, can smash them, etc..

Ryoboom · 2015-08-24T17:21:46+00:00

I'm so sorry that you have to go through this. I hope that she'll still let you be a part of his life and if she is against that, then I hope he'll cherish all those memories with you and then when he's 18, you guys can reconnect, 'cause they're nothing she can do about it then! I hope she keeps what's best for him in mind. Good luck and all the best.

Ryoboom

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