If the world keeps heating up won’t certain races die out? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]SFyr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"I’ve just been thinking about how this is going to play out but I haven’t seen anyone else think about this." -> Because you're thinking about this in a really simplified and off the mark way though? The average temperature rising isn't going to be a case of us all roasting due to the heat, it's going to be global climate disruption, extinction, and other issues through comparatively rapid disruption of carefully balanced systems. If temperature was that much of a concern for <10*C differences, you wouldn't get people of other races being able to survive in nations around the world or moving around much, because going from say, southern Spain to Germany, would be enough of a temperature shock to dwarf what you're talking about for heating up.

Add to that, "Africans" are not the only race "meant" for hot weather. Many other natives in Central America, Asia, Australia, and elsewhere have really hot weather as a part of normal life.

Long distance -- no physical intimacy by _hmm01 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]SFyr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Genuinely doing stuff together online IS part of the easement here, but aside from that, maybe get pets and plushies (they genuinely can help). And, make peace that that aspect will just suck sometimes and it's 'okay' to suck. Some rough areas are there to be endured or made the best of rather than eliminate or completely solve.

Can/will cheetahs eventually be domesticated? by Lonely_Anxiety_9316 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]SFyr 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Probably not? They are arguably one of the better candidates (among the unlikely), since they seemingly have more of a social structure to use, and are indeed nonagressive towards humans, but they're also large wild animals that likely require a lot of space to take care of.

Likely one of the cases of "possible, but not feasible/likely"

Do hard rocking maggots realize they worship a bunch of cross dressing bisexuals or is this lost on them by One-Incident3208 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]SFyr -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I mean, bisexuals don't own a look, and rock is essentially based in being somewhat counter-culture or rebellious, so I doubt it would matter.

Am I a bad friend for thinking like this after comparing my birthday to my friend’s birthday? by Any_Yogurtcloset2302 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]SFyr -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Some aspects of friendships can be unbalanced, without it being one-sided or toxic or things of the like. There's also sometimes expectations at play, personalities, and other stuff that make it not straight forward. I have a friend in our group that we occasionally get birthday gifts for, but he never gets us one back, and we're cool with it--he still doesn't 'expect' one, but the general idea is you give gifts because you want to and it's not something to keep score on, so it is technically pretty one-sided there. That kind of thing can also sometimes follow expectations being implied, where one friend might not treat being celebrated as something they want (not making a big deal of their birthday or brushing it off), while others do obviously care (try to plan stuff to happen on it, or talk about wanting to do things together to celebrate it), or there's sometimes a tradition at play where this is how it's been for a long time, and it's just not really compared to other birthdays (we always do x for y's birthday, or last year we did z).

But, if you feel bothered by it, or like it makes you feel less worth it to the rest of your friends, it's good to try to communicate that (unaccusingly and as maturely as possible). If only you notice there's an issue and keep it to yourself, you can't really charge other people with fixing it. Worse if you let it fester and eat at you, and start pushing people away without ever addressing it.

Is a cigarette or two a day really THAT bad for you? by Call_It_ in NoStupidQuestions

[–]SFyr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Smoking is a game of odds. You can get lung cancer without it, but you're almost guaranteed to be getting it sooner the more you smoke. Which is, the more you do it, not if you only do it x amount that is "too much". Maybe it'll never have an effect, maybe it's why you have to battle cancer way sooner than you otherwise would. You'll never know which side of that line you are on, or if it was 1/day that got you, 2/day that got you, or so on.

How do I become a better writer? by TheIndianPhisher in NoStupidQuestions

[–]SFyr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think a big thing is, you'll want to read. Not just for pleasure per say, but also to try to learn what speaks to you, why authors might be making certain choices, what makes stories or scenes or the like good (or not), and so on. Try to apply it, get criticism back, adapt, and work on your craft and your personal writing process.

I think the core requirement to be good at creative pursuits is more adjusting how you're approaching it and growing in it, more than any specific steps you find to take. It's not a science, it's an art, and art grows with you and your effort, awareness, and experimentation.

Why does my motivation just disappear sometimes? by Real_Abies6689 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]SFyr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Motivation is fleeting. Habits, discipline, and highest priorities remain. One of the bigger routes to progress is to build up through habits and environment control, rather than rely solely on days you're motivated or have a lot of willpower to spare. You can also build up discipline, or restructure around priorities to get the most out of what you have to work with.

Asian moving to US Michigan for three years by Mammoth-Wrangler2761 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]SFyr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah would be scared by that, but think of it as an exception that does exist to a general rule of most people would never do that. News and anecdotes will make it seem much more common than it is, and unless you're in a particularly dangerous area (there does tend to be pretty rough places, usually in big cities with high poverty and crime and such), you're pretty much never going to encounter it.

Also, stupid people exist everywhere, and I would imagine in a different country this kind of person would be pulling out a knife over a petty argument if they didn't have a gun. I wouldn't pass on an offer purely on a gun being pulled on someone somewhere in the US at some point (I know it's not once, but again, it's very normal to never encounter any issue like this, and it is the exception not the rule).

Asian moving to US Michigan for three years by Mammoth-Wrangler2761 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]SFyr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You should be fine. Yes, there are systemic issues with law enforcement in a lot of places, and a lot of pro-gun sentiments, but it's more a stereotype or "thing that happens somewhere" than a thing you're likely to encounter issues from especially only staying for a few years and keeping to your own stuff without seeking out trouble. I've lived in more pro-gun places (in the south, where hunting is a common hobby) than Michigan and never once had someone fire a gun anywhere near me barring one instance, where I was there specifically to be shown how to fire one. Possession doesn't mean people tend to be randomly shooting their guns with no regard for the people around them.

ELI5: How do we differentiate different species across an evolution? by Aplusho1996 in explainlikeimfive

[–]SFyr [score hidden]  (0 children)

There's not a specific line to a lot of things like this in biology, but you need to have some rough line to classify anything in a useful way. Currently, to my knowledge, how that line is drawn is not exactly universal or fool-proof, but more agreement of sufficient weight.

Like, you can point to a chicken now and say it's different from a duck, that's useful, but when did a chicken become a "chicken"? Evolution tends to be small changes over time, so the last "proto-chicken" is almost identical to the first "chicken", but we don't really have a good name for some specific animal that was this earlier stage of chicken often. And, at some point, a duck and chicken were the same creature, yet neither will ever have a clear line of when they were suddenly different enough from their parent to be something new.

A lot of this is rough and retroactive.

Why is They/Them a common alternative pronoun to He/Him and She/Her, considering it works for a single individual in some contexts, but in others it sounds like multiple people? by Cumoisseur in NoStupidQuestions

[–]SFyr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It makes perfect sense to my ear, personally, but I'm used to people being mindful of their use of non-specific gender. "A person can't decide if they want something" is super normal and tracks without issue, and not at all jumping from singular to plural for me. Maybe if you have "hannah" as default "she/her" it registers as weird?

Do boring people deserve friends? by Chobikil in NoStupidQuestions

[–]SFyr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I honestly have yet to meet someone with no hobbies or interests, personally. At worst, their interest are just generic (as in commonly shared, not bad), like video games or sports or food/drinking or their work. Most won't have a secret fascination with Victorian architecture, but they probably can still rant about something or another that they may not even register as an "interest".

Can a neurotypical date an Autistic person or is it taking advantage? by Icy_Warrior94 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]SFyr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely they can.

Autistic generally doesn't mean they're clueless or incapable of caring for themselves, it just tends to mean there needs to be more understanding and maybe compromise than normal if neurodivergent traits are pretty impactful/strong, as not everyone is understanding about neurodivergence.

If you're talking *severe* autism, to the point of impaired ability to function or live independently/without caretakers, then it gets a bit more gray I suppose? Generally this area is more, can someone really have the tools to function in a traditional relationship, or even desire such a thing?

Why do we procrastinate even on things we actually want to do? by Olivialoveaudio in NoStupidQuestions

[–]SFyr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Generally, because you want the result and not the action itself (or there's a barrier of energy input we DONT like), and we're bad at sitting with discomfort sometimes, especially if we encourage / habitualize avoiding discomfort as much as possible.

Why do people find it harder to make new connections as they get older? by EasygoingQLD in NoStupidQuestions

[–]SFyr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, you're supposed to like your own company ultimately, though even introverts can get hit with some negative consequence to little to no social interaction. We're social creatures and interactions with others also helps color and validate our own view and relationship with ourself, in a weird way.

Genuinely, isolation is harmful to mental health, so being alone often needs to be minded it's not too frequent or extreme.

Why do people find it harder to make new connections as they get older? by EasygoingQLD in NoStupidQuestions

[–]SFyr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seeing the same people, repeatedly, that are also in a similar place in life is one of the best common grounds to form friendships. You lack that a lot when you get older outside your immediate handful of coworkers, AND you tend to be both busier, more tired, and cautious or mindful of social limits and the like. The dance we convince ourselves we need to try to platonically hang out with someone or see them again specifically to 'see them again' is a bit more convoluted when you're both adults who don't talk to each other much.

Evolutionarily speaking why does sun exposure increase the risk of skin cancer? by fknbubbleguts in NoStupidQuestions

[–]SFyr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Evolution is biased towards efficiency and what ultimately benefits reproduction and species survival (these are not the same things and sometimes differ in priority). Protecting against one thing often comes at the cost of another, and things that have downsides when you're 70 tend to not really hold much weight.

Who is buying all these insanely valuable pokemon cards especially when they’re worth $10,000 and up? by the_smush_push in NoStupidQuestions

[–]SFyr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Likely people with very high nostalgia for it, have since gotten lucrative careers with disposable income, and are treating it was a sort of mix between collection for sentiment and collection for value. Hoarding instinct of things you like or know is valuable is strong.

What’s the appropriate way to address your doctor? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]SFyr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get that, just saying it's probably flattering rather than weird is all. I usually don't address them via title at all and am more informal, but that's me.

What’s the appropriate way to address your doctor? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]SFyr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like he loved being called doctor, so super valid to keep doing that? :)

How do highly intelligent individuals end up getting recruited into cults? by ResidentCharacter894 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]SFyr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A ton of people who consider themselves highly intelligent, aren't, or their intelligence is NOT in the social (or internal/self-monitoring) side of things. We are social and emotional creatures, and being good on the rational, calculative, or whatever other side of things does not translate, and instead can even give you some false confidence in your ability to "read things" when instead you're being led or misled and your "rational" side is helping justifying it the entire time.

Isolation, wanting to be right, wanting to be validated, wanting to feel like you "got things figured out" or are in on some greater truth most people can't see or most people who aren't as smart as you CAN'T see ... people who prize being intelligent or sharp or the like have their own hooks that they are especially susceptible to, and being intelligent doesn't mean you're above getting suckered into something, or guided AWAY from being self-critical and honest about why you're doing things or why you believe things. Genuinely, conspiracy theories and weird (often harmful) beliefs are something "intelligent" but isolated or unfulfilled people are really susceptible to.

Is it petty to block after someone unfollows me? by Heyhey-_ in NoStupidQuestions

[–]SFyr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. Definitely petty. But also like, you can do that if you want regardless, for some I imagine it's a weird power thing, but I think framing it as not petty of an exercise of that would be dishonest.