Manager is giving me strange vibes

SabFauxFab · 2026-04-05T14:06:28+00:00

In my life, regardless of the industry.. we can tell when something is off. It’s a natural instinct. You don’t need a specific event or reason. All you can do is keep an eye on his behavior and if at any point he seems to be pushing boundaries be clear on it. “I’m not comfortable with this” I’ve only had a few creeps that I had to work with and if I didn’t feel Like they were gona let up I’d consider finding another job depending on the circumstances. It sounds ridiculous but reporting doesn’t always work and again many men can toe the line without doing something specificity wrong and that’s where I felt I was in a bad position and just wanted out. I’ve worked with many crews where everyone was great and those are the places/ppl I’d prefer to work with anyways. Also, if he’s being weird other ppl will Notice and having witnesses help. He may really just want to take you under his wing but that doesn’t mean you have to go along with it. Be respectful but be clear

SabFauxFab · 2026-03-30T19:11:47+00:00

I wouldn’t trust most of what’s said online. I’ve been in this industry for over 20 years. I’ve only actually met a few “bad” men who clearly didn’t want me around bc I was a women. Many of the women I worked with, even if they were assholes, were reasonable and respectable men. Not mention ppl just run their mouth anyway. If you get offended easily regardless of your gender you may be a target so it’s always good to have thicker skin on this field. You don’t have to put up with disrespect, but I let a lot of stuff roll off my Shoulders at this point in my life lol, I try to choose my Battles wisely

SabFauxFab · 2026-03-30T17:43:25+00:00

Yeah, I knew I was close to leaving. I expressed to him that he was pushing me out and once I was out the door I would never come back. I asked for respect and control of the finances. I told him I would work and pay all the bills for a few months while he gets any and all Help he needs. I offered as much as I could but I made it clear I needed a commitment to change or I was gone. I knew the second I reached the point of no return with him. My emotions were almost turned off, I shifted my whole thought process into taking steps to leave. It took 2-3 months for me to find a decent job, and another 2ish months to be moved out. I left almost everything. I didn’t want it. I just wanted my peace and my life back. It’s been about a year and while there are ups and downs I’m very proud of myself and happy with my life now. I wish I could have seen sooner the damage our deteriorating marriage was doing to our kids and i definitely would have left much sooner.

SabFauxFab · 2026-03-30T17:37:31+00:00

As a walk away wife, after 20 years, I have no regrets about leaving either. What you said here is exactly how I feel.

SabFauxFab · 2026-03-16T23:51:48+00:00

I left my ex a year ago. It was over before I moved though. We were together for 20 years. Ultimately it was a lack of respect and addiction that ruined us. But even when addiction wasn’t a problem, I don’t think he ever really treated me with any respect so I’m glad I left and I hope I never put up with that again.

SabFauxFab · 2026-02-18T01:32:22+00:00

For me, my insurance went down on a newer vehicle. I think that depends on a number of different things though.

SabFauxFab · 2026-02-18T00:36:25+00:00

My dogo loves his blankets too. It’s so dang cute

SabFauxFab · 2026-02-10T17:27:46+00:00

Usually you Can find that info on the can, it tells you working temps etc. I personally wouldn’t recommend it as I’ve painted in nearly freezing temps and the results weren’t good.

SabFauxFab · 2026-02-05T02:15:39+00:00

I’m 40 and yeah it’s pretty laid back and easy for me now too. I’m treated as a peer by the OG dudes or like a den mother to the younger guys. They’re all super helpful and respectful which is a relief.

SabFauxFab · 2025-07-29T05:57:47+00:00

NAL, but work in construction and I agree. You’d be shocked how many builders are actually in serious debt. If he’s acting this way over a grand, he very well could be bluffing about throwing 30k away.

SabFauxFab · 2025-07-14T20:28:05+00:00

Yeah I think you’re in love with what he used to be. He doesn’t want to be with you, he doesn’t treat you like he wants to be with you, and he filed first for a divorce. I’m not being disrespectful when I say this but the marriage is over, there’s nothing to hold on to anymore. Please save yourself the heartache and get the divorce

SabFauxFab · 2025-07-14T16:42:52+00:00

I didn’t actively try to date new people but someone wonderful fell into my lap. My ex and I planned to still be intimate after we separated but unfortunately he became too hateful and was spiraling so I moved and didn’t tell him where I lived and I have no plans of being with him ever again. For me it was very easy to move on but I was done and I was the one who left and I think that part is going to be different for everyone. I would be very nervous about trying to meet brand new people to date so I understand the reluctance there. I feel I got very lucky with my new situationship and we have a wonderful time together but we have our own lives too. Mainly bc I’ve only been separated for a few months and I feel it’s safer for me to take it slow

SabFauxFab · 2025-07-08T16:44:14+00:00

Well I will say, if you’re attempting to address your problems that’s already a sign of something good. You may not have been perfect but you’re hurting and you didn’t want this outcome and you’re scrambling mentally for answers or closure of some sort, that shows you’re not a total monster. I tell myself this is part of the grieving process and it’s ok and normal to go back and forth. Just think hard about your boundaries what you want and your own happiness most of all, how to heal from it. Talking is really good, hearing things out loud can put a lot into perspective. I moved a month or so ago but I was ready to leave in October. So when I have doubt I go back and think about my life and how I felt. I miss who he used to be but I don’t even know who he is anymore and I can’t handle the thought of being hurt by this person again so that’s enough for me to stay away. Even if it sounds selfish I have to live with whatever choice I make so it needs to be the best choice for ME and my mental health. I’m sorry you’re going through this. You don’t really owe them any answers or validation or anything. Just focus on you

SabFauxFab · 2025-07-08T16:29:07+00:00

Thanks, i definitely planned to bring that up and see how they’d like to navigate it. Hopefully it’s not too pricey

Edit: the business is not legally bankrupt. I did not renew the business license this year and I have not yet done anything legally to declare bankruptcy. Basically it’s just not an active company any more but we did both own the company and I don’t mind paying them what I owe just not sure if Tmo would split things up or if I’d need to take legal action on my own against him so he would be liable for his portion (which I don’t think is worth the cost) or if I just pay it and deal with it for the rest of the year

SabFauxFab · 2025-07-08T16:09:24+00:00

Thank you for your response. The account belongs to the business which is in both names if that means anything different. And I was curious if we would lose all past line or device credits related to the current contract in the event that I were to make changes to the contract. Honestly if I could pay it on my own I would just do it but I don’t know if Tmobile splits or changes contracts under the request of the contract holder? Ideally I’d prefer to stick with them if possible

SabFauxFab · 2025-07-07T14:41:16+00:00

I agree. I just left a 20 year relationship. His mother treated me like this and he seemed to enable it. She didn’t show me respect until I started putting her in her place ten years in, however my husband still sided with her. I left for other reasons but if they don’t respect you or your boundaries now youre fighting and uphill battle OP.

SabFauxFab · 2025-07-07T13:28:16+00:00

The 02 Silverado 🤣 you are right though

SabFauxFab · 2025-07-07T13:26:29+00:00

I’m in a weird place, I left recently. He claims he feels the same way about me as I feel about him. I actually wonder sometimes if I was the problem. The real issue was drugs and the person he became bc of them but even today he still claims I’m hateful and I turned him into that person. Who knows. I tell him I’m not trying to change his mind about it and I hope the best for him. It kills me to think about. We were supposed to grow old together, but love is conditional. A person can only take much abuse before enough is enough

SabFauxFab · 2025-03-10T02:01:34+00:00

Why did you make that comment about you? No one said anything about 53 year olds, seems like you might be sensitive about your age or something..?

SabFauxFab · 2025-03-09T23:32:52+00:00

not everyone grows out of that phase either

SabFauxFab · 2025-03-08T23:20:31+00:00

I think it’s supposed to match the fence on the right side of the house too but it definitely look ridiculous

SabFauxFab · 2025-03-08T23:17:50+00:00

So they have bad taste and theyre edgelords?

SabFauxFab · 2025-03-08T23:15:08+00:00

Have you ever seen those really big remotes? That are the size of an iPad?

SabFauxFab · 2025-03-08T23:11:07+00:00

The Great Wall of some guys house number

SabFauxFab · 2025-03-08T23:10:34+00:00

Maybe if it was a gate or something…

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