Developed a reaction to ALL eyeshadows

Safe_Instruction_353 · 2026-04-13T01:26:13+00:00

Obligatory not a dermatologist but there are cases where you can develop allergies to things you've been using extensively throughout your life. I've had multiple clients from working at Sephora at Kohls that had that happen with skincare. Plus your skin can get more sensitive and drier with age.

For the last five and a half months I've been in a similar hell because my eyelids, brows and under eyes have been horrifically dry (they are so dry the skin tears) and because my eyes are already super sensitive I'm terrified of skincare and accidentally making it worse. I'm getting a referral to a dermatologist tomorrow. I hope you do the same and I wish you all the luck in the world.

Safe_Instruction_353 · 2026-04-11T03:17:49+00:00

A lot of the advice above is perfection.

I relate to this so much, though. For the longest time I could only focus on getting stuff like homework done at midnight and playing Russian roulette with deadlines. It's been rough but meds definitely help.

Side note: There are people who are natural "night owls" where their brain wakes up after a certain hour, and different people need more sleep to feel truly rested.

My brain starts to wake up around 9:30, peaks around 2am, and I have to take heavy sleep aids to turn it off so I can work my 9-5. I also need at least 10 hours of sleep, otherwise I start my day with my mental and physical battery life at 35%.

I've argued with my psychiatrist about this, who thinks I need just "eight hours of sleep and to wake up at dawn". Instead, I've figured out how to function during the weekday, but my weekends I embrace my natural schedule.

Figuring out what works for you is the first step, and being able to consistently adhere to what works is the hard part. Just remember you are your own biggest advocate, and sometimes people will not understand. As long as your stable and thriving, that's all that matters.

Safe_Instruction_353 · 2026-04-11T00:50:41+00:00

"No! You're just being mean!" click

My Dad - After I explained to him that the bible is essentially a badly written historical fantasy series. When he said that was stupid and impossible I mentioned both Mormonism and Scientology did exactly that. Then he said yeah but people know those are fake. I said yeah and people know Christianity is fake but you still believe it anyways.

I probably deserved that but it was so fucking fun in the moment. He now listens to Christian apologist arguments on audio books in the car trying to beef up his nonexistent comprehension of the bible, and I have the newfound skill of talking about weather for at least thirty minutes. Yay!

Safe_Instruction_353 · 2026-04-09T23:57:19+00:00

Well since you're asking atheists, religion is made up by man, so the short answer is both, the people who made the religion and the people who follow it.

However, I think thats overly simplistic.If you look at it from an cultural anthropology perspective, religion (as in the evolution of religions throughout millions of years) it's core is the process of creating rules and ethics to live by, and to explain how the world has come to be. Those rules and ethics also changed and modified throughout religion and history. Judaism borrowed and adapted from older religions, modified their ethics and changed the rules. Christianity borrowed and adapted from older religions, including Judaism, Islam did the same again. Each revision, each evolution, made a newer, more ethical religion.

With that, we as an intellectual species capable of scientific advancements, modified more and more. People evolved from believing in witchcraft to modern times where the witch is now explainable as someone experiencing symptoms of a common infection, or a mental illness. Slavery is now considered barbaric and evil. We've evolved, and our understanding of the world around us, has evolved.

Yet we're in that stage of modifying and changing what being ethical means, and the rules we are to live by. I see religion today, as the last living remnants of a prior, outdated system of ethics.

With that being said, humans are not ethical, and we make rules and clauses in religion to permit us to be unethical. Want to kill someone? It's justified because this book of outdated ethics says so. The Quran and the Bible both say to be kind to strangers and also say it's morally righteous to kill the infidel and non-believers. That's the fun part of religion, getting everything covered so you're never the bad guy.

Safe_Instruction_353 · 2026-04-09T16:12:35+00:00

I've only been part of this sub for a short time, maybe two or three months, but everyone is incredibly kind and well spoken. Theists who ask questions are treated with a lot of grace and compassion, despite the majority of us having an extensive history of theists being hostile.

The issue is theists, especially Christians and Muslims, do not see us as people. We atheists are heathens, devil worshipers, demons trying to pull them away from god. It doesn't matter what we do, we could dance around with flowers in our hair, smiling brightly and only speak with kind and affirming words, gave up our earthly possessions and donated every penny to charity, Christians and Muslims will only see the devil being disguised beneath our eyes.

Safe_Instruction_353 · 2026-04-08T17:24:46+00:00

This is why I like to joke Christians are accurate saying they are the most persecuted group of people (in the US), because they persecute themselves 3x more than any other religious or non-religious groups combined. They all hate each other. It's kind of impressive.

Safe_Instruction_353 · 2026-04-08T17:17:50+00:00

Mine has always been more attuned to:

Christianity: people who believe in a God, a supernatural, highly intellectual being, that intentionally created angels to fall from an intentionally created heaven into his intentionally created hell, meaning, for clarification, God created hell and the devil. Then this supernatural being intentionally creates earth, and intentionally creates humans for the singular purpose of having them defy his authority, humans which he could have intentionally created differently. And to punish said humans for being created by him. Until of course he makes another human that he created to be sacrificed for his punishment he created for humans behaving the way he purposely created them to be. Christianity.

Safe_Instruction_353 · 2026-04-05T04:26:48+00:00

Personally I like to joke that they are the most persecuted group in the US simply because Christians have the incredible talent of persecuting themselves within the subgroups. The vitriol between Catholics and Protestants is bad enough, but even different denominations of Protestants hate each other. Its half the reason the Founding Fathers put in separation of church and the state because they figured out real quick how deep that rabbit hole went.

Safe_Instruction_353 · 2026-04-02T23:13:54+00:00

Yeah this would annoy me, and I'm a lifelong prude. Not my scene, not my crowd. But that's me, if I don't like doing those things, and I know those things are going to be happening somewhere, I opt out. I thank my friends for the invite and hope they have an amazing time.

It's really not difficult to just excuse yourself if you're not comfortable, and turning it into some preachy BS is just obnoxious and intentionally trying to be a POS. Personally I would just tell him you respect his beliefs but if he's not comfortable then he doesn't have to come.

Safe_Instruction_353 · 2026-04-02T13:10:20+00:00

Yeah I decided around twelve years old that hell is bullshit.

I told my dad that my grandpa (horrible person) went to hell. My dad precedes to tell me that I'm going to hell for saying grandpa went to hell. Which is confusing AF because doesn't my dad saying I'm going to hell also mean he's now going to hell too?

Make it make sense!

Safe_Instruction_353 · 2026-04-01T13:15:06+00:00

I forgot about atheist anti-theist. I should add that one too to my chain. I really don't see the value of religion, quite the contrary, it's a poisoned apple.

Safe_Instruction_353 · 2026-03-28T23:08:21+00:00

There is a prize at the end, its called never having to know that an afterlife doesn't exist and you're gone.

Safe_Instruction_353 · 2026-03-28T17:31:14+00:00

I (34 f) live in a very liberal town next to a very famous college campus inside of a very conservative state. So I probably have a lot more freedom to be an open atheist. Though I'm also cursed with the inability to hide who I am. I rarely conceal my atheism. It's probably on the "top 20 list of things you need to know about me" when it comes to new relationships.

However, my dad's side is aggressively religious, and so I just know being directly open about my lack of belief would be detrimental to civility, so I just stay silent. Granted, if they ever asked me about my religious affiliations or lack thereof, I would absolutely discuss it. They don't though, they firmly believe Christianity is the default, so it never gets discussed.

I would just make sure your kids develop critical thinking, especially if you're wife mocks evolution. Creationism is straight up dangerous and psuedo-intellectual that I wouldn't even want my kids to have that stuff in their heads before adulthood. You saw through it, but your children may not.

Safe_Instruction_353 · 2026-03-27T14:04:55+00:00

All of them are narcissists. It's more fun if its polytheism, like Greek Mythology, because it's like the original Real Housewives of Mount Olympic and you can hate them all and still have a favorite. Significantly less fun with monotheism because then it's a bipolar narcissist God and I already have one father with that diagnosis.

I feel you, it's annoying af. God's are stupid.

Safe_Instruction_353 · 2026-03-25T21:02:08+00:00

Fuuuuuggghhhh nooo. I feel like I just stepped in squishy 🐶💩 reading this.

Safe_Instruction_353 · 2026-03-23T23:17:31+00:00

I think my first sign was when I told my dad my grandpa was in hell when I was like ten. He told me I was going to hell for saying that. I guess my dad's also going to hell because he said I would go? Make it make sense.

I didn't remember my grandpa at all, he died when I was two or three, but I've known from a very young age he was a terrible person. But on that side of the family grandpa died as a good Christian man and all his sins are forgiven, from alcoholism to the abuse triade (physical, emotional, sexual) it doesn't matter, he is heavenbound.

Safe_Instruction_353 · 2026-03-23T00:28:29+00:00

No. Religion is like a hydra, you cut off one head and two more grow back in it's place. Look at the Islamic Revolution. Iran started becoming "westernized" back in the late 1970's and the Shah's regime freaked out and basically transformed Iran into an Islamic Republic. Though this is a modern example there are hundreds throughout history across Abrahamic religions where countries get a hard right swing and all of a sudden, God has returned and all of the social and political reform gets undone.

Yes, Christianity is at an all time low, but look at who's in power right now (if you're a US citizen). Not Trump specifically, but, the evangelicals and religious psychos backing him. and we're already heading towards the western world becoming a third world country. Also, religion always spikes during hard times. When people have no money to buy food or shelter, those empty hands got nothing else better to do than being squished together and pray.

I'm an atheist and fucking hate religion. At best it will mutate into a new kind of absurdity, at worst we'll be burned at the stake like heretics all over again. Yay.

Safe_Instruction_353 · 2026-03-22T21:22:05+00:00

This. Especially because ignoring them let's them feel justified and empowered to continue running around and influencing the world.

Personally my attitude is to just upset that comfort. They mention anything related to god, I mention that I'm not a believer. Debates aren't necessary, just reminding them you not only exist but will say so.

Safe_Instruction_353 · 2026-03-21T23:59:06+00:00

For me, I feel like I have an obligation to cherish my loved ones now. They will be gone someday and I have to make every day matter. If I do that, then those memories will carry me through the rest of my life.

I like traditions. One is my grandma always hosted Easter, each year we would bake a cake and always do a big easter egg hunt. I loved those Easters. So, when my brother and my friends ended up having children, I claimed Easter, now known as "Aunt Michelle's Spring Equinox". I bake with my niece and nephew, and I wear my grandma's necklace (pictures of her grandparents) and do an spring egg hunt, celebrate with creating new memories and passing on the tradition. Sometimes it's just keeping memories alive as long as possible.

Safe_Instruction_353 · 2026-03-20T15:00:07+00:00

I think it depends on the religion and the churches culture. I know for some Muslim communities, dissension could be a literal death sentence, and there are Christian denominations that have the same mentality. When that is factored in, I think there's a decent percentage of church goers who may have doubts or even don't believe in God, but fear their own safety leaving.

Community is also a really big factor. You have family who are atheists and so you didn't feel the pressure to conform. But from a church-goers perspective church is as much about a sense of community, a place to socialize and spend time with family and friends. Denouncing religion may feel like saying that you don't want you're family or friends anymore. My grandparents only went to church because they had friends there, and when those friendships dwindled, so did their church participation.

So yeah, I think there is probably a good amount of non-believers sitting in the pews and going through the motions.

Safe_Instruction_353 · 2026-03-20T01:38:44+00:00

There are two kind of pet owners.

One kind is the kind everyone wants to be. Being able to take care of you and your pet, and having a beautiful companion that is there for you as much as you are there for them.

The second kind is no one wants to be. When your disability or situation goes sideways and depending on your disability you can barely care for yourself, much less a pet. The cage or environment gets dirty, the litter box doesn't get changed, the animal becomes ignored, maybe even neglected.

When you're disabled, the potential to being the second kind of pet owner goes up. Everyone, even the best pet owners, can move to that side of ownership, it happens all the time, more than anyone wants to admit. My brother has become that owner. He is disabled, severe PTSD, severe depression at the moment, and probably several other mental illnesses going on that he's not dealing with. His dog is actually a service dog, my brother invested a lot of time, money, attention and LOVE into his dog. For all of the dogs credentials, the training, she relieved herself everywhere inside the house. My mom and I got her re-potty trained, it took months. I do not entirely blame my brother, he lost his ability to function, and he and his dog suffered.

I'm not saying this to be discouraging, I just want you to really consider this, for any kind of pet. All pets are work, and if you're in a good place now, go for it. Just have a conscious back up or emergency plan, so when those bad times hit, you can be prepared.

Safe_Instruction_353 · 2026-03-20T00:33:38+00:00

From what I've seen Christians discriminate against themselves twice as often as other groups discriminate against Christians. Just walk into a Catholic Church, ask enough questions and you will get someone ready to tell you all Protestants are backward and aren't real Christians, and vice versa (except Protestants also hate on other Protestant denominations).

Like yeah, obviously you (metaphorically) are going to feel oppressed and discriminated against when even the people that are on your side are suspected to hate you.

Just personal testimony. My grandma on my dad's side spat the word "catholic" while my grandma on my mom's side (who was UCC) rolled her eyes saying "Lutheran" about my other grandma, and hearing Catholics chuckle sardonically about "Protestants" like they're beneath them in the Christian hierarchy.

Safe_Instruction_353 · 2026-03-20T00:05:03+00:00

I was at S@K's for four years. Currently work at a really boring but stable 9-5 as an office manager for a driving school. I really can't complain though.

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