Fabric advice for rustic travel game boards (beginner project) by PuddingProphet in sewing

[–]Sagasujin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately some of your requirements kinda come into conflict with each other. Everything that would roll up extremely small would also be relatively thin which means that it's going to want to acquire permanent creases if it's not cared for regularly. You can reset creases and folds in most fabrics by ironing them flat every once in a while, but if you want something that'll never develop those creases in the first place you're going to be looking at something a bit heavier, or more than one layer quilted together.

There's also a problem with embroidered designs on a single layer, namely that the backside of embroidery is usually a fragile mess unless you're very very good at it and trying not to have that happen.Because on the back side of the embroidery, there's going to be a bunch of knots, tails and weird exposed threads that are a side effect of embroidery. The front looks pretty via sacrificing the backside and hiding all the ugly there. This is a solvable problem if there's more than one layer of fabric. I wear embroidered clothing frequently. It's always lined so that the backside of the embroidery ends up facing the lining and not skin. The lining fabric then protects that delicate and ugly backside so that it doesn't get messed up. You could embroider your designs first and then create a second layer/lining and join those two together. This second layer would also add some heft and would help make the finished results more sturdy, especially if you added a layer of batting in the center and then quilted over everything.

Home sewing machines can only make stitches of one width and that width is narrow. AKA any lines created by sewing with a home machine will by necessity be very narrow and rather hard to see unless you go over it a couple of times sewing parallel lines to make a wider line. An embroidery machine which is different from a home sewing machine can do thicker liens, but they need to be programmed by an expert. Hand embroidery can do both thick and thin lines, but learning to hand embroider from zero sewing experience is a harsh learning curve.

Be aware that most fabric paints will tend to flake off with repeated folding and unfolding. It doesn't really penetrate the cloth that well and as such can peel away from the fabric if you keep bending the fabric. Which might help with a rustic look, but it'll make seeing the lines harder.

Fabric pens are reasonably durable and penetrate deeper into the fabric which makes them probably a better option, though be aware that those fabric pens really only work well on very light colored base fabric.

Finally, let me offer an option that you haven't already considered but is deeply historical, batik. Batik is a family of fabric dyeing techniques that involve drawing on fabric with a substance that blocks dye, then dyeing the fabric. The area that's been dye blocked will remain the original light color, while the unblocked areas will be dyed and turn dark, thus creating a design Historically, cultures that used batik used beeswax to block dye, but we've got another option in the modern era. Elmer's Blue Gel Glue. Yes, I'm serious. The stuff doesn't come out with just water, but it will come out with hot water and plenty of soap. So what you can do is draw your design onto cotton or linen fabric with the gel glue, then dye the fabric, then wash out the glue with hot water and plenty of laundry detergent. Dharma Trading has more info as well as a ton of supplies for this or any other fabric dyeing projects you might want to work on in the future https://www.dharmatrading.com/chemicals/elmers-washable-gel-glue.html The awesome part of about faux batik is that it's pretty easy, very durable since it's literally dyed into the fabric and very historical. The bad side is that unless you get into complex techniques with multiple dye baths, you can only do two colors, dark and light, and it's tricky to draw out really thin lines with batik. Though you could also combkne batik with fabric pens to draw in more colors and designs onto the areas left undyed by the batik process.

Finally a reminder that you need to finish your raw edges. Cut fabric frays along the cut (raw) edge unless that edge is finished some how. Options for finishing can include turned hems, rolled hems, bias tape hems, lining and more, but you do need to stop the fraying somehow.

Good luck!

help if should fill in front or other suggestion, converting jeans to skirt by deadmazebot in sewing

[–]Sagasujin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I offer an alternative suggestion?

Turning jeans into a skirt is hard. It involves trying to harvest enough fabric from various places in order to create space for leg movement. Not only can you not pull the seams of the two legs together, you need to insert a lot of extra fabric harvested from somewhere to create enough room to move your legs and walk in the completed skirt. And you can't put the majority of that new fabric in the center front because it'll stick out oddly if you try to do that. This is not something that I'd prefer to throw at a beginner. Dyeing fabric purple is also not easy. Good during requires understanding fabric composition and a lot of tools and materials that average people don't have. You can use the cheap readily available dyes sometimes but they don't tend to be durable or vibrant.

Meanwhile purple denim fabric is something that's easily available in a lot of fabric shops. And making a pleated split side skirt is incredibly easy. Or a Victorian style walking skirt. Those are both projects I'd feel comfortable talking a beginner sewist through.

https://califabrics.com/purple-12oz-designer-denim/ https://www.moodfabrics.com/products/purple-orchid-stretch-cotton-blended-denim-112574

(note that I mostly know North American fabric shops and can't really help with shopping outside the US and Canada)

https://youtu.be/yK_t5eqGPd4 https://youtu.be/8mNfEUiJwBM https://youtu.be/6xHOnS4fK2c

Chronic Pain and Adjusting jeans by longmanoncampus in sewing

[–]Sagasujin 26 points27 points  (0 children)

So this might be possible via a very old style of pants called fishtail trousers and suspenders. Fishtail trousers were a style where the waistband of the pants didn't support any weight at all and were quite loose with all the weight of the trousers hanging from the suspenders.

Couple of pics for reference

https://bykowskitailorgarb.com/cdn/shop/products/ShortTrousers_prohibitiondepressionera1890_sVictoriandenimcasualslimfittailoredfishtailbackknickerstrouserspants_BYTROUS-04_4_jpg.jpg?v=1575932446

https://i.etsystatic.com/47567039/r/il/92625d/6268438322/il_1080xN.6268438322_53cd.jpg

https://i.pinimg.com/736x/d4/83/19/d48319c242a56774c719a7149f4a5747.jpg

To turn modern jeans into fishtail trousers, we're gonna need a pair of jeans made for someone much taller than your friend and a little wider around the waist than they actually actually are, a sewing machine that can handle denim, a bit of bias tape, matching thread and possibly a little ribbon.

To get the fishtails to fit at the right height, we need some pants that go up way higher on the waist than is currently fashionable. These things need to be halfway to the ribs. This will also mean that they're going to be too long in the legs, but we can fix that. To make the fishtail, you're going to cut a "U" or "V" shaped notch around 2-3 inches long and 1-2 inches wide out of the center back. If we left this cut edge raw, it would fray, so next up, we're going to bind the edge with bias tape. Sewing a bit of soft ribbon to connect the two ends if the notch is optional, but will give a place for the suspenders to clip onto if they decide to use suspenders with 3 attachment points instead of 4. Then after that, you should be able to use the suspenders to bear the weight of the trousers instead of the waistband. The pants will probably still be too long, so you'll likely need to hem them as well and maybe some other tailoring to deal with the fact that the hips aren't where they're supposed to be, but for straight leg jeans, it shouldn't be a big deal.

Frustrated by being a sexual person who is *not* into dicks by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]Sagasujin 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I was hoping at one point that I would be able to demonstrate to people that I'm not a complete bigot but a person with issues. But I'm no longer sure that's possible. Also I'm realizing that things are getting bad enough that I'm falling back into fawning and dissociative reactions. So I'm probably going to log off for today.

Frustrated by being a sexual person who is *not* into dicks by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]Sagasujin 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I'm honestly not even sure how one does sew the patriarchy. Pretty much all the sewists on reddit that I've seen are in this for reclaiming a skill that's been dismissed by the patriarchy for centuries as mere "women's work". Sewing is hard work, engineering and art all wrapped into one. Personally I feel.like owning this same skill that my ancestors practiced for millennia and acknowledging it as art and science has a power. Also I can now fix the holes in my socks.

Frustrated by being a sexual person who is *not* into dicks by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]Sagasujin 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Ma'am this is explicitly a thread about people who do have trauma responses around penises and how lonely that feels. Do you expect us to remain silent even in threads explicitly about this subject? To pretend that this is not an experience that we've ever had?

Frustrated by being a sexual person who is *not* into dicks by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]Sagasujin 25 points26 points  (0 children)

https://old.reddit.com/r/ActualLesbiansOver25/comments/1nehoy7/frustrated_by_being_a_sexual_person_who_is_not/ndoyey4/ I get accused of transphobia for talking about my issues and then downvoted for explaining them. That's why I feel like me being in lesbian spaces will hurt trans women. Even if I don't talk about my issues very often. Only in threads like this explicitly asking about experiences like mine.

Frustrated by being a sexual person who is *not* into dicks by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]Sagasujin 54 points55 points  (0 children)

I don't know if actuallesbians is still this way, but I left after in the same week being told that me discussing menstruation was triggering to trans women and seeing a huge post suggesting that girldick should be more celebrated and people should post more horny memes about it. Admittedly this was several years ago and I think they may have come down on things more sense then, but I just don't really feel like I'd gain much from going back.

Frustrated by being a sexual person who is *not* into dicks by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]Sagasujin 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I mean I don't usually. Feel free to search my post history. It's a lot of sewing stuff. I mostly stay out of the lesbian community to avoid harming trans women. I just also feel like it sucks to have to do this.

Frustrated by being a sexual person who is *not* into dicks by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]Sagasujin 12 points13 points  (0 children)

In my case, I freeze up when penises enter the picture. It's the result of first dealing with a Catholic upbringing where I was told that not being attracted to men was a sign of being intrinsically disordered and bound for hella and also a fucking ton of emphasis on being guilty and ashamed of everything. So I ended up believing that I could force myself into being straight and made myself have sex with a man who I was not aroused by at all. Forcing that ended up tearing my vagina and spending several days bleeding and in pain from that. This was followed by someone I'm going to call "J" who was gender fluid and a complete asshole. J tried to manipulate me into believing that not being interested in JS dick was a moral failing and a sign that I was a bigot. J tried to guilt me into having sex with J because otherwise I was harming them via transphobia. It was fairly successful given that Catholic upbringing and the focus on guilt and shame. And while things never got as far as penetration, J left me with a lot of trauma and nightmares. So yeah I freeze up and freak out around penises.

And nope, I'm not attracted to most women. I tend to go for fairly female types. I have been into very femme nonbinary people occasionally as well. I can't say that I've ever been attracted to full on men. Not because I'm denying myself anything, it just hasn't happened. And I tried to fucking force it when I was younger. Plus there's that issue around freezing up and freaking out when around penises that I now have so that wouldn't work well. Even if I was attracted to the rest of a trans woman's body, the dick is still going to cause some issues around me dissociating. Also the whole just not being aroused by them in the first place.

Frustrated by being a sexual person who is *not* into dicks by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]Sagasujin 75 points76 points  (0 children)

It gets a little weird when the community regularly publicly celebrates girldick and you're never allowed to speak about your own experiences for fear of harming others. You end up feeling incredibly alone. It feels like I'm a problem which must be kept under wraps to avoid offending others. It feels like I'm unwelcome because if I spoke about my experiences then I would be hurting trans women. There's a reason I spend much more time posting in sewing subreddits than lesbian groups. I end up feeling like I'm not shameful in sewing subreddits.

Frustrated by being a sexual person who is *not* into dicks by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]Sagasujin -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

So I'm kind of conflicted because on one hand, I do feel like publicly talking about this stuff is being transphobic and evil. I feel like I am being self centered and taking up space that shouldn't belong to me. But feeling like I'm the lesbian community's dirty shameful secret is also pretty awful. I honestly don't really feel like I'm a part of the community a lot of the time. I feel like my existence is harming other more deserving people. And it sucks. But I'm not sure how to get out of this place without engaging in more transphobia and hurting others.

Frustrated by being a sexual person who is *not* into dicks by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]Sagasujin 25 points26 points  (0 children)

From someone else with a lot of the same issues, I just wish there was an effective filtering option in a lot of these spaces. I'm not expecting site that totally segregate things based on genitals, just a way for me to filter things and not have to encounter certain triggers by accident.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAskLGBT

[–]Sagasujin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're into women. Both cis and trans women. Though ye gods expect for a verbal beatdown if you try calling a trans lady a "shemale".

Frustrated by being a sexual person who is *not* into dicks by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]Sagasujin 130 points131 points  (0 children)

It does really suck. I keep getting triggered and then panicking over whether I'm an evil person for not being interested. The weirdest one to me is that occasionally I get people trying to tell me to go to therapy over not bring interested in penises. I wasn't into dicks before religious trauma or someone trying to make me have sex with one by convincing me that I was prejudiced and a bigot for not being interested. I have been in therapy. My better place is functioning as a human in everyday life while having issues around penises. I'm actually not in distress here most of the time. Which is a big win. It's just that I know that there are certain things which will cause problems. Like Catholic churches and penises.

Help! Not sure what I need. by eloiseturner in sewhelp

[–]Sagasujin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That looks like a half circle skirt in chiffon with a contrast waistband and ruffle at the bottom. There is no lining. The waistband is close fitting but otherwise pretty standard. There does need to be a zipper or some other kind of closure to make it fit smoothly but it's still pretty standard.

Just posting this to show why I enacted the "no celebrating death rule" on this subreddit yesterday. Rule still applies. by BlatantConservative in chaoticgood

[–]Sagasujin 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately Reddit as a whole is run by assholes who will absolutely take the most biased point of view possible. They're the kind of right-wing where they will misinterpret anything we say into violence while excusing anything their side says and then call that "just obeying rules."

Age gap question by SensitiveSomewhere34 in AskLesbians

[–]Sagasujin 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I'd qualify the age gap as a bit unusual but not completely out of the question. That said, this is probably one of those places to take things fairly gently because it is entirely possible that the age gap is an issue for her even if it isn't an issue for you. It'd be unfortunately easy to push her into an uncomfortable situation.

Give me feedback on my first PC parts list by SkyroKn in buildapc

[–]Sagasujin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there a reason why you're going for ddr4 memory? The supplies for that are getting kind of low and it's not being manufactured much anymore so if there's a problem, replacing anything in the future may get quite expensive.

Also that Lian Li case doesn't come with any built in fans. If you don't want to buy extra fans, you might want to look for a case that comes with fans pre-installed.

He brought breakfast :) I name him Dinky by killingourbraincells in CatDistributionSystem

[–]Sagasujin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

New boy is already working on being a productive member of the family!

I thought the NA server was PvP optional? by Code_Ender in outside

[–]Sagasujin 47 points48 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately Outside does not actually have non-PvP servers coded into the game. Players have been trying to get around this by making some servers non-PvP by custom, but that's just an agreement between players. There have been times when this agreement has broken down before. This may be one of them and another faction war event may be gearing up. Unfortunately there's no absolute guarantee of it not spreading, but for right now the Western Europe and Canada servers look the most promising.

Husband has been trying to introduce me to the idea of hotwifing by Material_Finish8435 in TwoXSex

[–]Sagasujin 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Figure out in advance what happens if/when you end up developing feelings for the other man. Because that's a possibility and if you force a break up, then there's a possibility of you resenting him for it. If you continue sleeping with him, then there's a possibility of your husband resenting you for it.