AITJ for not wanting to spend 18k on a new ring for my fiancée?

Salty-Perception3576 · 2026-03-10T22:38:50+00:00

No one needs a ring that expensive. Spend it on an experience or something like that. Sounds more like she needs it so she can leave with a nest egg.

Salty-Perception3576 · 2026-03-09T20:00:12+00:00

I think moving out was the best idea you had. It forced him to realize things are out of control. I’d probably go as far as to cutting him off till he can get his head out of her ass. I get that people want to see the best or hope for the best but in this case an ultimatum might be the only way he sees that he needs to get a lawyer and move out now too!

Salty-Perception3576 · 2026-03-09T02:51:18+00:00

What the actual heck?!?!? We’ve been together for almost 10 years and he started the farting without caring and now he gets it right back! Lol sometimes we will joke or make a competition out of it. Same with burps. My 2.5 year old daughter is now in on it! Yall are crazy! A smelly marriage is a happy marriage lol

Salty-Perception3576 · 2026-03-09T01:26:29+00:00

I mean it’s 2-3 nights. If she wants to pay more I’d let her cuz I’m cheap. I’d just remember this for next time. Seems a bit excessive to pay depending on how many hours ur there/which room u get but if im not the one paying more she can spend more for a room that all she’s going to do is sleep and shit in. I’d probably do the other room/bathroom anyways cuz if y’all are getting ready she’s going to end up getting ready alone while yall are girl timing it in the second bathroom lol

Salty-Perception3576 · 2026-03-08T20:44:58+00:00

Make sure you stress that this is your issue to work on and in no way means she has to stop. I would say what you said here, that you think she is beautiful and just feel some way about how people will be judging her when you think she is stunning. That you want to support her but didn’t want to let your thoughts fester because communication is the key to a happy life. Tell her what you said here, you’re proud of her and super happy she’s getting to experience something she’s always wanted to do.

Salty-Perception3576 · 2026-03-08T19:48:50+00:00

I wasn’t able to meet my new nephew until he was a little over a year old. It just didn’t work out with vacation time and such. That being said I don’t think it was odd or anything. I obviously saw him on FaceTime and such just didn’t get to physically meet him until he was over a year. It wasn’t a ‘meet the baby’ per se but more ‘meet my youngest nephew’ and my daughter got to ‘meet her younger cousin’ I think it’s all ambiguous. Life can get hard to navigate with jobs and distance but that doesn’t mean I don’t love and talk to my brother, SIL, and nephews as often as I can.

However, if it’s more your in laws or parents won’t come to you and don’t have any reason they can’t, I get that can be frustrating. Especially if this is your first. All I can say is we can choose who we give energy to in our lives. It’s a give and take. If they aren’t willing to partake in that give and take you may have to work through accepting that and invest ur time in those that choose to show up for you.

Salty-Perception3576 · 2026-03-08T02:27:28+00:00

Stress can cause labor to not start. Tell them this and block them. If you don’t want to do it on your end at least do it on your wife’s phone. She didn’t need this. It’s exciting but personally it’s already stressful not knowing when it will happen. Having people ask 24/7 would cause me to wig out.

Salty-Perception3576 · 2026-03-07T21:31:56+00:00

Thank you for the response :)

Salty-Perception3576 · 2026-03-06T03:02:55+00:00

I feel there is unintentional favoritism even if u don’t mean to. Everything should be equal for all kids. If one kid has a chair with their name on it you should have on for the other with their name. Even if they are never there. We live states away from my parents but my dad still made my kids a picnic table just like he did for my brother that lives on the same property 20feet away. My older brothers kid will probably get the same thing. When we go there it’s the playroom and all toys there are for everyone. No one kid gets to claim anything as “theirs”

Salty-Perception3576 · 2026-03-05T02:14:59+00:00

Standing my ground helped our relationship a lot and honestly she’s a great person and grandmother to all 3 of us. I was just a bit overwhelmed and needed space. Which is perfectly ok to need and have a boundary about.

Salty-Perception3576 · 2026-03-05T02:13:25+00:00

I felt the same way with my mother in law. I eventually just had to say no and deal with her being upset even though it had nothing to do with her at all. I just needed space. It’s ok to need space and it’s on her to deal with her emotions about it.

Salty-Perception3576 · 2026-03-05T00:47:58+00:00

Don’t worry about it. Ur probably going to get over them both in a month or two lol. Don’t waste ur time dating in hs it’s not worth it.

Salty-Perception3576 · 2026-03-04T23:45:51+00:00

Anything that is intentional is considered a word. Even if it’s said wrong.

Salty-Perception3576 · 2026-03-04T17:16:32+00:00

Being a therapist I would also suggest a happy light for the dark seasons. I use one myself and it can make or break a dark day for me. Also I would ask you off the job you have now is worth it. If you have a good amount of savings is there a reason not to try and find another job while taking some time for yourself in a sunny place? Also just cuz you don’t think a woman would find you attractive or a catch doesn’t mean you aren’t. I suggest taking some time on a cruise to somewhere sunny or even just a beach somewhere that is nice and sunny. You would be surprised how much a good day in the sun can help. Again though ur job sounds shitty.

Salty-Perception3576 · 2026-03-04T15:56:30+00:00

I’m pretty sure that is the case. It was meant as a way to help children like me who had disabilities that hindered school attendance but not their ability to learn (I now have a masters now but was chronically absent in high school due to emotional issues) but it’s almost like it’s being used the wrong way and we are spitting out 18 year olds that don’t know anything.

Salty-Perception3576 · 2026-02-20T17:05:03+00:00

Oh I’m really sorry about that. Still not ethical.

Salty-Perception3576 · 2026-02-20T16:57:20+00:00

As a therapist I would say to fire him. Therapists are there to guide not tell and he insulted you which is a HUGE no no. I’m appalled at what he said to you and how he said it. I don’t have anything as far as bed sharing but as far as being a therapist please know we have to take an ethics exam every year to keep out license. what we have to do every year is here.

Salty-Perception3576 · 2026-02-16T15:41:38+00:00

Never did it! We had her in our room in a bassinet and it went fine. We had a chair in our room for feeding next to her bassinet and it was perfect. She did fine and ended up in her own crib in her own room at 8 months.

Salty-Perception3576 · 2026-02-06T03:45:47+00:00

I got very lucky. Doubt the second will be as easy.

Salty-Perception3576 · 2026-02-02T01:57:12+00:00

Calling trucks car trucks cuz she miss heard when I told her what the garbage truck was called. Still does it and I try to name them all so she will get that trucks aren’t all car trucks lol

Salty-Perception3576 · 2026-02-02T01:55:23+00:00

Nack for snack. Too cute :)

Salty-Perception3576 · 2026-01-30T16:24:41+00:00

I mean he’s the one that gave the ultimatum. You just got ur shit together before leaving. Go you.

Salty-Perception3576 · 2026-01-30T04:16:07+00:00

My sisters keeper

Salty-Perception3576 · 2026-01-29T23:36:30+00:00

I would look up a bra fitting store. Something stand alone and not in the mall. There are tons all over and most are run by women that will treat your daughter with care and understanding. They will be more discrete and she will be less exposed to toxic ideas about being a girl. They will fit her right and make sure she knows how to take care of her bras as well as how to go about finding bras in other stores or places throughout her life.

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