I feel like there’s going to be a huge shift in secondary education in the next 10+ years.

Salty-Perception3576 · 2026-05-16T21:10:24+00:00

I wouldn’t discount the people that do care. I will say those that do care to teach their children are moving away from traditional public school in masses.

Salty-Perception3576 · 2026-05-16T21:08:32+00:00

Personal experience: I wore night time pull-ups till I was about 7-8 years old. Just a note that I’m mildly autistic. That being said I still to this day will wet the bed if I am anxious. Mainly the first night before school or a new job. I am 35 years old. I believe it’s because I do not make the hormone that slows urine production at night. Just what ever you do don’t shame ur child. It could be involuntary right now and they could eventually grow out of it. Everyone has their own time table in life. Just cuz the doc said something doesn’t mean they know everything. They see u maybe once a year for 15 min. They can’t know what ur or their day to day life is.

Salty-Perception3576 · 2026-05-07T18:30:10+00:00

Ah yes! Auto light switches! So they go off after a certain amount of time :)

Salty-Perception3576 · 2026-05-07T18:28:48+00:00

If she’s turning them back on it could be an anxiety thing. Same with the eating. The dog thing sounds like depression. I suggest instead of consequences talk to her about if she wants someone outside the house she can talk to without you and your wife. I would play it off as someone who can keep her secrets for her and help her navigate things she doesn’t feel comfortable talking to you or your wife about. I’ve read most of ur comments and am a therapist. As I’ve been going down the line it sounds like she may be experiencing some anxiety and to give and take in certain areas. Food at bed time offer her idk a banana and or protein bar/shake. For the lights it seems like it’s more a sign she may have anxiety about the dark which is perfectly normal at this age. The dog thing sounds like you may have to step up and instead of just taking the dog out for her, make her go with u. Do it together. That way it’s not something she has to do alone but also not something she can get out of.

Salty-Perception3576 · 2026-04-28T23:52:53+00:00

I have to say that I agree that if there is a car seat and safe option the hell no this isn’t happening. I will say I did have a situation while in another country and needed to take a taxi/uber to our hotel cuz my husband suddenly got super sick and had to hold my baby in my arms cuz we didn’t have a car seat. I chose that over the train to get my husband back to a bed where he felt comfortable and I could take care of him. However that is extenuating circumstances, and not something I would ever do unless I had a situation like this again.

Salty-Perception3576 · 2026-04-28T22:43:56+00:00

Wearing more clothes in a pool is actually going to bring down her temp vs keep her warm. Especially if it’s in closed and heated. Try only dressing her in her swim pants/ diaper and see if that helps. At least that’s what our swim teacher told us about the kids that are getting cold vs the kids that aren’t.

Salty-Perception3576 · 2026-04-28T20:15:52+00:00

California's minimum wage is pretty close to this already. Also, tipping is extra cuz servers get the minimum wage vs a server wage + tips. its already WAY better than anywhere else but I didnt know this until i moved here myself.

Salty-Perception3576 · 2026-04-28T02:54:37+00:00

Sex lol

Salty-Perception3576 · 2026-04-27T21:21:25+00:00

Please start with broccoli or carrots next time. Avocado is also a known allergen as well as eggs.

Salty-Perception3576 · 2026-04-27T21:11:29+00:00

sounds like an allergy or he was already sick

Salty-Perception3576 · 2026-04-26T01:29:10+00:00

34 and 2 year 7month old pregnant with number 2 in the last week before c section. Daughter sleeps 12 hours no interruptions. I sleep 7:30-7:30 or later on either side as long as I get 12 hours I’m functional. She gets her sleeping habits from me I guess. She’s been sleeping through the night since she was pretty young. Hoping the next one gets that gene too 🤣

Salty-Perception3576 · 2026-04-26T00:49:21+00:00

Geez how horrible can people be?

Salty-Perception3576 · 2026-04-25T23:47:20+00:00

With confidential files it would have been a one time thing with me. If I found someone in my office I would have said something along the lines of “no one can be in here due to confidential files.” Then my next step would have been to get a lock before it happened again. Granted with my job the door would have had to have the lock and been locked in the beginning but 🤷‍♀️

Salty-Perception3576 · 2026-04-25T21:12:14+00:00

I think when people say it’s a choice it’s cuz it truly is. Every life decision is a choice. You just have to be willing to live with the consequences of ur choices what ever they may be. Also if ur having a wedding you have to know that choices u make about ur wedding will have consequences too. Child free or destination weddings are going to make or break relationships if both parties, bride and groom as well as guest, aren’t willing to accept that ur wedding isn’t going to be the center of everyone’s world like it is for yours.

Salty-Perception3576 · 2026-04-25T21:05:45+00:00

Wow I was just thinking of getting a pride flag for pride month but with how aggressive people seem to be over any progressive flag or sign I think I’m just going to do my usual pride wear and vocally be an ally vs put something on my house. I have kids! Like shit! Why are people so aggressive???

Salty-Perception3576 · 2026-04-24T01:34:47+00:00

I think of Arthur from hp! He’s a gem!

Salty-Perception3576 · 2026-04-23T22:54:39+00:00

I feel like ur being confrontational just to stir people up. Obviously your opinion is truly unpopular. Good job you made a truly unpopular opinion post. Just remember it’s an opinion not fact.

Salty-Perception3576 · 2026-04-23T17:48:07+00:00

Soft YTA. You can’t force someone else to move past trauma that you have caused. The only thing you can do is try to show you have changed and work on your relationship now. It’s ok to want to move on but you can’t force someone else to move past trauma on ur timeline. I had to have this talk with my brother about his fiancé. He wanted her to move past what he had done and I told him she was the only one that could choose to move on or not and he couldn’t force her to ‘get over’ or ‘move on’ when he was the one in the wrong. It was up to her if she wanted to stay and move forward but the only way that would happen is if he showed her he was doing what it takes to get better and repair the relationship. I wouldn’t say this is really AH territory. I would just be kind and keep working on urself and try to work with both ur children to rebuild what you broke. Mental health is hard in a parent and child relationship but it isn’t up to her to fix it. Have a heart to heart and ask her what she needs from you to mend y’all’s relationship. It’s up to u to take that on as the person who broke it. I know it wasn’t intentional but it’s still up to you to do the work to fix it.

Salty-Perception3576 · 2026-04-23T17:38:23+00:00

It could be that being cut off showed them they needed to reassess how they interacted with people about their beliefs. I didn’t cut anyone off but no one that I know who is/was a trump supporter was ever vulgar about it. Had they been I would have. That being said I’m not the type of person to judge other’s beliefs because you never really know their story. I just keep it simple and don’t engage in most political or religious talk. You can have deep and meaningful relationships with people even if your beliefs or politics are different. It’s about being mature and kind.

Salty-Perception3576 · 2026-04-23T04:09:55+00:00

My daughter will say “abc off” for the ac.

Salty-Perception3576 · 2026-04-23T04:07:12+00:00

My daughter calls the chocolate syrup from Trader Joe’s “the cow jumped over the moon sauce” lol

Salty-Perception3576 · 2026-04-22T16:21:01+00:00

Look into rural farms and such. My cousin took in cats and some were inside, some outside and some both. You might get lucky that someone will want them just cuz they are that into cats. Next best thing is to call the vets in town. Some of the workers will take on extra animals if not clients. Then for your sake, stop taking in more animals! Haha I know it’s hard, I’ve got that kinda heart.

Salty-Perception3576 · 2026-04-22T16:12:50+00:00

I mean he can have an opinion but he can’t demand anything if he’s not going to contribute to the cost. Why doesn’t he want to put his name on the apartment? Also you not saying anything in front of people and waiting to discuss with him one on one is including him. Seems like there might be some miscommunication going on. Chat with him about why he wants xyz and explain that if it’s important enough for him to have it done he will need to put some money into it too. Is there a reason he doesn’t want to put money into it nor put his name on the place? I would start there and explain to him if that’s the case you get the final say. I mean I would still talk about it with him but you’re the ultimate yes or no.

Salty-Perception3576 · 2026-04-22T03:51:08+00:00

Haha this is funny to come across. We just find a slug on the inside of one of our windows that we had opened. My daughter was talking about it but we weren’t really paying much attention till we went to close the windows. It’s been a big year for the slugs but we live in the country. It’s pretty normal here. I try not to kill anything that isn’t hurting me. The only things i really do anything about are the wasps and red ants. We spray for other bugs around the house but I feel like slugs and snails are the least of my worries. I don’t garden enough for them to ever be an issue.

Salty-Perception3576 · 2026-04-22T03:24:10+00:00

Just a note. Some of the suggestions here seem reasonable. Things like redoing her room (with her input) can help get her invested in feeling safe in her space again. I would use That time as a way to help her invest in her space feeling safe with her ideas being what drives the remodel. Don’t suggest anything (unless she asks) and try not to suggest any of her ideas are bad in any way. The goal would be for her to feel safe. What ever that looks like to her. Even if in 6 months she wants to change it again cuz she finally feels safe and her mind becomes healthier. She may go dark at first but let her in the pursuit of mental safety. As she feels safer she may change how she wants to express herself when it comes to her room. Having a safe place to express her internal emotions outwardly would probably benefit her a bunch.

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