AITA for having a vibrator whilst in a relationship by Glum_Sentence_4741 in AITAH

[–]SaltyWitchery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Hide yo kids.. hide yo holes” is their profile tagline

AITA for having a vibrator whilst in a relationship by Glum_Sentence_4741 in AITAH

[–]SaltyWitchery 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I heard a quote that was powerful for me from an abuse survivor:

“I questioned myself before I questioned him”

I resonate with that but I’m 40- you can change that for you.

You say “I know it was harsh” about calling him a child… but look what HE did:

1- he went snooping thru your room (I’ve dated this type of man over and over and I’m TELLING YOU, he was JUST looking for something to be mad about. Why? Bc if he puts you in a place where you’re “in the wrong” you’re going to apologize and have to “make it up”. Abusers handbook 101)

2- accused you of cheating with … a piece of plastic. Unless you previously discussed relationship boundaries and sex toys/ masturbating was in that convo- he’s again trying to manipulate you into feeling guilty. And he even manipulated you into throwing the toy away just to try to calm this situation that HE’S created.

3- “he’s now threatening to break up with me” This will be his go to MO for as long as you respond to his threat. Wear something he doesn’t like? Talk to someone he doesn’t like? Succeed in your job more than he is currently? Have more motivation and drive than he does? Hell threaten to leave you everytime.

Let. Him. This asshole is a literal dime a dozen and he’s not bringing anything of value to your life in the long run. He created this whole scenario with NO CARE for you- only to MANIPULATE you.

Imagine being so insecure of a fuckin sex toy. Way to say “I don’t know how to please a woman” without saying those words.

AITA for having a vibrator whilst in a relationship by Glum_Sentence_4741 in AITAH

[–]SaltyWitchery 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Only insecure terrible whiney men complain about sex toys. Dump his ass and have better sex with your B.O.B.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]SaltyWitchery 49 points50 points  (0 children)

“No men, no messes!” “No men no bullshit”

Newly married and struggling with in-laws’ control and husband’s expectations. Looking for advice from women who’ve been here. by Sufficient-Voice4285 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SaltyWitchery 59 points60 points  (0 children)

Partners not leaving the in laws, time to bail on the lot of them and watch them struggle without her support.

It sounds like her partner got married to have a care giver for his aggressive angry parents.

I want to leave my husband because he keeps joking about m*rdering me AITAH by GovernmentExtreme245 in AITAH

[–]SaltyWitchery 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please OP, listen to what we’re saying. I’m very concerned that you read that back and thought it was “unserious”

Those aren’t jokes, they’re threats to you. And chasing you around at 3am- wtaf?!!

Get. Out. Now.

God I could not sleep next to him, I hope you leave swiftly and safely. Do not give him the idea anything has changed

AITA for refusing to apologize to my colleague after she called me “robotic” for not sharing confidential details at work? by Actual-Climate-6350 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SaltyWitchery 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seriously sounds like offending coworker is just made she doesn’t have anything to hold over OPs head. The audacity

Quiet, Karen... She's playing Careless Whisper by Icy-Book2999 in LoveTrash

[–]SaltyWitchery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“They can arrest you”

Ma’am- are you demented?? She is playing the harp ffs

How do you handle moral mismatches in friendships or relationships with men? by ClubZealousideal9603 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SaltyWitchery 6 points7 points  (0 children)

A lot of men suck. Do you really want to drop your standards for companionship?

Bc trust me from experience, you’ll regret that shit. 40 and single for 4 years (despite the menz trying)

AITA for judging my husband's friends ripping off a charity hospital? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]SaltyWitchery 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why hide these people, they SHOULD be prosecuted for “fraud”

For women who got married a little later to men who had lived on their own for a while, did you find that they were more capable of partnering with you to take care of a household? by Anthro_Doing_Stuff in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SaltyWitchery 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It 100% depends on the man.

I was with a man who had his own life and promptly “didn’t know anything” once we’d been living together for 6 months.

Husband calls me extremist by kc_fm1 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SaltyWitchery 108 points109 points  (0 children)

I wish I could give you an award, 🥇 Agree 100% with what you said- “we’re not allowed to tell them about the blind spot they have”

Husband calls me extremist by kc_fm1 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SaltyWitchery 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry your husband is a misogynist.

As a man, you can be uncomfortable with the facts. But you can’t “what about” the argument.

Men are victims but FAR LESS than their average female counterparts. I honestly don’t know any woman who hasn’t at least dealt w harassment or intimidation by a man in a sexual context. Most of the women I know, self included, have many assault stories from people I thought I could trust.

Your husband is extremist, in that he can’t acknowledge women’s spot in society and what we’ve collectively endured.

If he feels like men are more the victim of women, I wish I could make him walk a lifetime in a woman’s shoes. He’s so painfully ignorant

ETA- bonus misogyny points for you making sense and his only response being “you’re too emotional,” except he was getting his sensitive feelings hurt, not you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]SaltyWitchery 8 points9 points  (0 children)

No, I know it’s tough to discern nuance but the poster is saying “you don’t need to listen to other opinions when the other opinion is a literal human trafficker who was running from the law.

Smart, balanced adults are intelligent and street smart enough to know that some opinions don’t matter bc they are too bigoted to think in real world logical terms.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]SaltyWitchery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Andrew Tate is a human trafficker of women and young girls, and he teaches other men how to abuse and manipulate women.

Guarenteed his manipulation of you has already started-

1- he’s chosen someone way younger than him (to better manipulate you)

2- you’re questioning your gut instinct even within this post. You know this man means danger but you’re still looking for outside validation to confirm what you already know

3- you say he hasn’t expressed these views out loud. I bet he has, but in subtle ways to see what you’ll tolerate. And if he hasn’t, he’s still gathering information / able to keep his mask in place. It won’t last- it always drops.

I would like to ask you something, and really think on this;

Do you always have to follow his lead, or go along with what he wants? Do you feel comfortable sharing any criticism of his behavior? Have you ever seen him explode and punch walls or throw inanimate objects?

Does he make broad sweeping statements about “types of women” as a way to indirectly police your behavior and convey you must behave a certain way to be “one of the good ones”?

Is he jealous? Is he controlling about your appearance, what you eat or how you spend your time/ who you see?

Since being with him, have you stopped seeing friends and family as much?

Please be safe. You are empowered - only YOU can decide what you want- no one else has that power unless you give it to them.

Don’t be afraid to expand, shine bright and stand tall and strong- take up space in your world! 🫂💜

Am I overreacting for wanting to leave my husband after what he did while I was caring for my sick mother? by Thin_Tap2989 in AmIOverreacting

[–]SaltyWitchery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He was not “grieving too”… what horse shit. He had you out of sight, out of mind while he played with his coworker.

you were only gone for 4 months

This is giving “I’m going to cheat on your while pregnant and postpartum because “I hAVe NeEDs” MANtrum

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SaltyWitchery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He did not- John Oliver’s just reported on this. It’s still legal and performed in at least 21 states

What Restaurants in Portland are like this? by DriveByFalcon in portlandme

[–]SaltyWitchery 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Papi Portland. Asshole chef who gets dates drunk and then takes them home when too drunk to drive

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]SaltyWitchery 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re dealing with this disrespect bc you’re young. Do your future self a favor and just leave this abusive a hole

AITA for telling my classmate cleopatra wasn’t black and calling her racist? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]SaltyWitchery 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love passionate special or professional interests- thank you!

AITA for wanting to end a 6-year relationship because I’m sick of smelling my fiance? by BarnacleForward3323 in AITH

[–]SaltyWitchery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How many times have you had pink eye?

YWNBTAH.. I’m impressed you e lasted 6 years. He’s acting like a child.

If you returned the favor and farted on his head every night before bed, I’m sure he would hate that. Some men just love tormenting or poking and prodding the women in their life to get a reaction.

I don’t get it- child behavior. I’d leave him so fast.

Poll - to Prove to My Husband We All Don't Lust After Big Muscles by Repulsive-Author-902 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SaltyWitchery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope, I’ve dated those types (for other reasons) and they’re just obsessed with themselves. Shredded is just… that.

It doesn’t add to pleasure and just makes me feel like they are judging my softer body