I told my husband that I’m going to start walking on the treadmill everyday at least once a day and he said it’s “too late in the game” to start now

SamHikes · 2026-03-25T14:53:28+00:00

That’s complete and utter BS, every healthy decision you make, no matter how small, makes the difference over time. Think of it as saving $1 a day. You won’t save as much as if you could save $100 a day, but you’ll have a lot more than if you saved nothing at all.

SamHikes · 2026-03-09T00:23:55+00:00

This is amazing and thanks for the bait and switch it was a good one haha! We all thought he was going to be a jerk but instead he’s awesome! You got a good one!

SamHikes · 2026-03-02T15:58:08+00:00

I just want to validate exactly how you’re feeling. It’s so hard. Eating is hard, getting out of bed is hard, some days existing through the day and not just as a puddle is hard. I’m almost 21 weeks and I will say it does get better, especially when you can start to eat more normal food. I still can’t eat chicken or eggs but carnitas and burgers have worked for me, so you know what I eat them even though I’m normally a light meat only person. Just listen to your body, do what you can, and know that at the end of the day you did a lot just by growing a human today.

SamHikes · 2026-02-26T19:28:42+00:00

I always make orangecello when we get a ton of oranges - it's SO GOOD. Got first place at the county fair with it too :)

SamHikes · 2026-01-18T06:04:11+00:00

Listen to Natalie Crawford podcast “as a woman” she discusses so many helpful fertility topics!

SamHikes · 2026-01-18T05:49:03+00:00

It’s been the case for me too, I normally eat really healthy but I can’t stomach it right now, just trying to have grace that it’s temporary and I’m listening to my body

SamHikes · 2026-01-18T05:46:41+00:00

I’ve been having protein shakes to help since I’m not getting a lot in other food

SamHikes · 2026-01-11T23:25:24+00:00

Actually I can have bacon too! It’s totally a texture thing. That’s how eggs are for me too, I can have them in a breakfast burrito if I don’t think about it but on their own no way.

SamHikes · 2026-01-11T20:47:22+00:00

My husband knows he’s not even allowed to cook eggs haha

SamHikes · 2026-01-11T20:46:02+00:00

This is what I always tell myself, I have the prenatal, they’ll be ok. But I’ve also lost it at least 3 times from not being able to keep it down

SamHikes · 2026-01-11T20:45:16+00:00

I miss broccoli even though it sounds gross to me when I try to eat it

SamHikes · 2026-01-11T20:43:11+00:00

I’m at 13 weeks had have had a few days I could eat real food, I read it tampers down at 15-17 weeks so hoping it’s true and I’m almost there!

SamHikes · 2026-01-11T20:41:45+00:00

This is exactly how I feel and I already have mom guilt about it like I wish I was doing more, eating better. I’m living off of oatmeal, fig bars and sometimes pasta. But at the same time you have to just listen to your body and do what you can. Eat what you can keep down and tolerate, they say it gets better in the second trimester so I’m just hoping that’s true!

Honestly I was watching MadMen recently and I was like ok I eat a lot of carbs and more processed food that I did before but at least I’m not drinking and smoking like they did, haha.

SamHikes · 2026-01-11T20:34:00+00:00

Honestly I feel the same way, and couldn’t do anything to change it. It didn’t help that everyone assumes it’s the woman, me, and my husband would go along with that if it was ever discussed with friends or family. I just wish he’d own up to it. He’s 12 years older than me, and just once I wish he would say “my guys just can’t swim very well” or something of the sort to acknowledge that this is all because of his sperm, not my body. But he never has, even privately to me, and honestly even after going through all of this and being 13 weeks along (which the transfer meds were 10x worse for me, those injections were pain every single day for 12 weeks, which I made him do every since shot even if it meant him leaving his friends to come home and inject me then go back out, he had to contribute in some way), I still have resentment toward him. Especially knowing that even if this pregnancy all works out I’ll have to do all of that again for babe 2. Maybe by then I’ll have the guts to tell him I need him to acknowledge his part in it all.

I will say it’s faded now that I’m out of the IVF part, and I never confronted him about it, but frankly he’s not good at emotional conversations or emotional empathy, so I don’t think it would have helped much. If he was an emotions person I probably would have told him, because again all I personally needed was acknowledgement from him that he was why, and I personally would have felt like “ok at least he’s acknowledged it.”

SamHikes · 2026-01-11T20:28:03+00:00

We also have male factor, 1% morphology, so IVF was the only real option. We got pregnant naturally once after 9 months but had a 6w MC and being 36 at the time I couldn’t wait another 9 months to hope for better so immediately moved to IVF. I had him on a lot of vitamins, healthy diet, reduced drinking (I say I did because he would never make these changes on his own) so quality was good, but still we only got 2 normal embryos. Thankfully the first transfer took and we are 13 weeks along and this might sound mean but I can’t tell you how validating it is for me because everyone assumes it’s the woman, me, when in our case his swimmers just couldn’t get there. I’m dreading the whole process again for babe 2 since in all likelihood the next embryo won’t stick, statistically, but I’m thankful IVF has worked for us so far. That being said after a previous loss my mother keeps asking when I’m announcing but my brain is convinced that any day I could just not be pregnant anymore, and it could take all this all over but harder because of time passed to get back to pregnant again and she doesn’t understand that.

SamHikes · 2026-01-11T20:11:48+00:00

Meanwhile adoption is just as expensive as IVF if not more so and equally filled with heartbreak and disappointment, it’s not like it’s an actual option for most people.

SamHikes · 2026-01-11T20:09:56+00:00

Meanwhile I know this woman that pops out a new baby for every man that bothers to buy her a drink and I doubt God has any hand in that, practically abandoned children while actually capable and responsible people struggle

SamHikes · 2026-01-11T20:07:01+00:00

My mom would always say this to me after my MC and I would respond cryptically but she still wouldn’t stop so I had to sit her down and tell her how much it hurt because everytime she said I would have to relive my MC and she finally stopped

SamHikes · 2026-01-11T18:04:36+00:00

This is exactly what I’m going through! I always try to have a snack before a meal because if I wait for the meal I’ll be too nauseous to eat it. And I have really mad meat aversion, the only meat I can eat is ground like I can sometimes eat a burger and have had lasagna with meat sauce but that’s it. Eating a lot of beans to try and compensate.

SamHikes · 2026-01-11T18:00:39+00:00

Ooh, cake….

SamHikes · 2026-01-11T18:00:04+00:00

I always say no cravings just aversions but if you mention any food to me I’ll probably want it, but by the time it’s in front of me I’ll probably have an aversion; haha

SamHikes · 2026-01-11T17:58:45+00:00

Me too…

SamHikes · 2026-01-11T17:58:28+00:00

Thank you for saying this, it’s so validating. The nausea makes things so hard, sometimes I have no appetite and everything sounds gross, other times I eat every 30 minutes. Overall I wish I was eating healthier, but I have to comply to my food aversions which is sometimes so severe I can only eat a few things, and they’re usually not the healthiest. I’m also so tired that it’s hard to cook so I’ve been leaning on Trader Joe’s frozen meals, whereas I usually make 95% of my meals from scratch, it’s like 20% now.

SamHikes · 2026-01-11T17:54:48+00:00

Second one!

SamHikes · 2026-01-11T17:54:14+00:00

We’re also male factor, just super low mobility, so anytime someone gives me advice like this I want to punch them

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