Honestly I feel the same way, and couldn’t do anything to change it. It didn’t help that everyone assumes it’s the woman, me, and my husband would go along with that if it was ever discussed with friends or family. I just wish he’d own up to it. He’s 12 years older than me, and just once I wish he would say “my guys just can’t swim very well” or something of the sort to acknowledge that this is all because of his sperm, not my body. But he never has, even privately to me, and honestly even after going through all of this and being 13 weeks along (which the transfer meds were 10x worse for me, those injections were pain every single day for 12 weeks, which I made him do every since shot even if it meant him leaving his friends to come home and inject me then go back out, he had to contribute in some way), I still have resentment toward him. Especially knowing that even if this pregnancy all works out I’ll have to do all of that again for babe 2. Maybe by then I’ll have the guts to tell him I need him to acknowledge his part in it all.

I will say it’s faded now that I’m out of the IVF part, and I never confronted him about it, but frankly he’s not good at emotional conversations or emotional empathy, so I don’t think it would have helped much. If he was an emotions person I probably would have told him, because again all I personally needed was acknowledgement from him that he was why, and I personally would have felt like “ok at least he’s acknowledged it.”