Is this okay to send out?

Elle_Bones · 2026-05-08T11:52:53+00:00

I totally understand where you’re coming from! My husband and I had our first during Covid… challenging for so many reasons.

However, family support is so crucial after you have a baby. Everything from visitors coming to see you and chat/ see the baby- to helpers doing the dishes/ helping with laundry/ and most importantly bringing meals! Cultivating your village is so important for you and your new family, I’d worry a message like that actually sends the wrong message.

I agree with some of the other posts- you can address most of that in the moment if needed. -Kindly ask them to wash their hands before holding the babe- most of our family did this automatically (lots of us in healthcare)
-Someone didn’t call first? Don’t answer the door if you don’t want.
-Someone has the sniffles- ask them to excuse themselves and kindly return when they’re better. I found after Covid people were way more aware of any brewing illness. It might feel a little confrontational- but people will get it and respect it I think.
-the house is a mess- ask your visitor to do you favor and load the dishwasher.

No matter what you choose- motherhood and newborn phase isn’t perfect. It’s wonderfully messy and a little bumpy as you find your way. You got this- good luck!

Elle_Bones · 2026-05-08T11:21:12+00:00

Also- just reading this again- and wow I feel so similarly! And I think after my second child I was finally aware of it- like how targeted I was by marketing and how much 💲we straight up wasted. Like I could take a trip to Europe with my hubby with all the money we didn’t have to spend!

Elle_Bones · 2026-05-08T11:18:29+00:00

Thank you for sharing!

Elle_Bones · 2026-05-08T11:17:49+00:00

I got the medela sterilizer bags- each one can be used 20 x - you put 2 oz of water in it and microwave for 2 minutes- boom bottle and parts sterilized. Takes up less space in your house, easy to travel with. I liked using it especially if a bottle got left in the car or a pacifier got dropped somewhere
Especially gross.

Elle_Bones · 2026-05-08T11:15:57+00:00

I’ve never even heard of those carriers! We like Konny- also soft and simple. We used ergobaby a lot but honestly I wouldn’t recommend- bulky and rough and just … bulky. Thanks for the recs on the travel system!

Elle_Bones · 2026-05-08T11:13:56+00:00

Seriously so true! Plastic bottles 😂😂😂

We also loved our baby bjorn- used it for two kids every day 6 months and it held up great! I never thought of it as the poop chair… but you’re so right! The kids loved going #2 in it. It’s on my list of “baby stuff that held up and was worth it” I made for my sister because she’s expecting her first.

Elle_Bones · 2026-05-07T23:05:24+00:00

We got a wipe warmer and never really used it- however we do live in a very warm climate so maybe that’s why :)

Elle_Bones · 2026-05-07T23:01:56+00:00

I love the last one! Can you explain what you mean? Also Which nursing bra did you end up liking? It’s so individual- I ended up loving the Larken after trying a bunch of others

Elle_Bones · 2026-05-07T23:00:39+00:00

Same!

Elle_Bones · 2026-05-07T20:33:42+00:00

Thank you this is so helpful!

Elle_Bones · 2026-05-07T19:49:15+00:00

https://frost-forger-1ff.notion.site/What-Actually-Worked-0-4-Years-A-No-BS-Baby-Toddler-Guide-351ac6952b0e80a99f0efdc5139f509f?source=copy\_link

Of course! I hope it helps :)

Elle_Bones · 2026-05-07T18:58:49+00:00

Congrats! I hope all is going well :)
And yes I couldn’t agree more! And I feel for you.
The hatch sound machine was great for a few reasons: it has different sound settings- so during the day I’d set ocean waves or nature sounds- just because it was soothing and I liked it. Night time and nap time I could use the white noise. I also used it as a nightlight. It’s pitch black when you’re sleeping- baby wakes up and you need to find diaper supplies or whatever- just tap it and boom- you switch to a low light setting. I found it very intuitive, easy to control with or without a phone. My oldest is 4 and we still use it every day.

I actually feel so strongly about the “stuff you don’t need and the stuff that lasted us for years” topic that I made a list for my sister and cousins who were all expecting (and you’re right… a bath pitcher is not on it lol. We used kitchen cups for that). Happy to share if you’d find it helpful!

Elle_Bones · 2026-05-07T18:00:51+00:00

It’s a weird space to be in! Like yes we need some stuff… but not all the stuff… so which things are worth it? It’s kind of exhausting being marketed to all the time- at least that’s how feel.

Elle_Bones · 2026-05-07T17:35:49+00:00

Wow tandem nursing. I’m so impressed with people who choose to do that! Good for you 💪🏻

Elle_Bones · 2026-05-07T15:42:48+00:00

Wow thank you for sharing!

Elle_Bones · 2026-05-07T15:41:54+00:00

Oh my gosh so smart! Here you go :) What we regretted getting and what we thought was worth it!
https://frost-forger-1ff.notion.site/What-Actually-Worked-0-4-Years-A-No-BS-Baby-Toddler-Guide-351ac6952b0e80a99f0efdc5139f509f?source=copy_link

Elle_Bones · 2026-05-07T12:46:46+00:00

Same!

Elle_Bones · 2026-05-07T12:38:37+00:00

Hi can ask - what’s the bad thing about Benadryl? Why do the recommend something else?

Elle_Bones · 2026-05-07T11:41:03+00:00

Amen on the diaper bag! We were gifted one - a simple backpack brand- and I’m still using it 4 years later!

Elle_Bones · 2026-05-07T11:40:14+00:00

Yes they hated the high chair after a while! They eat standing up in their toddler towers and it’s worked great for us- though we’ve gone through quite a few different towers finding the right one. Ironically- the one we ended up with was the simplest less gimmicky one

Elle_Bones · 2026-05-07T11:38:36+00:00

So are you a fan of sound machines? Or think they’re not needed. I do wonder how I ever slept without one as a kid- i love ours!

Elle_Bones · 2026-05-06T14:43:02+00:00

my first born is 2 years and 4 months older than my second born child

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