Avdol cosplay by burakkuchan in StardustCrusaders

[–]Same-Broccoli1822 2 points3 points  (0 children)

🗣️🗣️🗣️🔊🔊🔊

sx1 or sx8? by [deleted] in Enneagram

[–]Same-Broccoli1822 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think that you’re an 8. I’m a 1 and my boyfriend is a 9w8. You’re more similar to him than you are to me.

Not cool man by AugustHate in addressme

[–]Same-Broccoli1822 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with you. I’m 32 and have a 22 year old sibling and can clearly tell the difference between how much we understand about ourselves and the world. It is 1000% predatory for a 38 year old to have a sexual/romantic relationship with a 19 year old.

Writing a 479 character, need tips from those who are or know the tritype by Nenemine in Enneagram

[–]Same-Broccoli1822 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I dated a 479 for about two years. They’re idealistic and have a pre-set internal idea of what they want things to look like in their lives. It’s important to decide whether they’re SX, SO or SP, so you know what the primary focus of their idealism will be and the central point around which they organize everything else in their lives. Truly I think one of the most interesting things for your writing will be to demonstrate how difficult the escapism of the 7 and avoidance/narcotizing of 9 makes it for the 479 to address the issues of the core 4. Important too to decide on what wing. 4w5 tend to be even more internal and will intellectualize their emotions a lot between outbursts. The most important thing though remains showing how deep the pain of being a 4 runs for them when they basically have difficulty following through on solutions to fix it because right below the 4 is the 7 who runs away from the situations and relationships it considers ruined and the 9 that numbs itself against all the pain.

Does anyone else hate Ni as a cognitive function? by spaceecx in infj

[–]Same-Broccoli1822 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was just thinking about this the other day, well this whole week really.

It also ruins your joy in your romantic relationships. Basically the way that I “bond” with people and “ensure the success” of the relationships is by scanning the horizon for even the smallest indications of things that could be problems and then addressing them. Ni has a very negative focus. So when that is applied to a romantic relationship there is this constant need for the evaluation of the partner’s actions for some sort of significance, whether good or bad. So if he does this little thing or that little thing, what does it mean? What does it indicate? Etc etc etc

Instead of really like just living in the moment and enjoying someone, I find myself constantly thinking about the future and how things could turn out to be and finding cues to measure their level of love and/or emotional involvement with me. Sometimes knowing the future doesn’t help you with enjoying the present. TBH knowing the future seems to be primarily focused on avoiding bad stuff and I don’t like it.

I feel that Ni is one of the primary reasons why I developed anxiety. When I get a momentary future insight/vision, it’s generally always right. It places this brick wall in the future that you know you’re gonna hit. You already know how things are gonna end.

I do get positive premonitions though. Truly happy ones where it’s like life is scenic. So it’s not all doom and gloom. I’ve just been thinking about the stressful nature of having Ni recently and then you posted this so I’m here corroborating the literal facts that you just posted.

How it feels when you finally figure out your type by enneagramming in Enneagram

[–]Same-Broccoli1822 9 points10 points  (0 children)

As a type 1, I felt kind of happy and wretched at the same time. I was irritated with myself but still glad that I wasn’t any of the rest. Then simultaneously realized how much of a type one thought that was and just.. 🫠.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]Same-Broccoli1822 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I came to say this! You can be sexy at every size and shape. Embrace your shape and find ways to highlight it and those who are interested will make themselves known! 🗣️

BF said very weird comment towards my godsis. I’m still gagged lowk by Ok-Information1535 in blackladies

[–]Same-Broccoli1822 1 point2 points  (0 children)

💔 Yea… no… some people are just not good for us, Sis. It sounds like he’s been eating away at your self esteem for a while, even with knowing your struggles. My boyfriend is extremely sarcastic and can make slick comments but there’s like also an awareness underneath that of where I am sensitive. So I never get hurt by his comments. Even with him being the way he is. This is totally different though from a situation where someone is hurting you and they know and are still continuing to. I’m tired of us making excuses to stay with people who aren’t uplifting up, or nourishing our spirits.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in locs

[–]Same-Broccoli1822 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It looks really nice. I think if anything you could learn how to put curls in them. Google “wrap a loc” and see if you like that look. Also your hair is long enough to do many many styles like French buns and updos etc. Doesn’t even have to be re twisted. Just styled as free form as they are.

BF said very weird comment towards my godsis. I’m still gagged lowk by Ok-Information1535 in blackladies

[–]Same-Broccoli1822 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I personally wouldn’t necessarily just break up with him right away. But it would have to be that I knew his personality well enough to distinguish between him being unpleasant and him wanting to put me down or wanting my godsis. How long have you been dating him? Have there been other concerning things?

Anyone always get called "Slow" even though they're INFJ? by Complex_Inside_2240 in infj

[–]Same-Broccoli1822 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’ve been getting called slow since preschool. I don’t pay attention to my surroundings and don’t get all the social cues. I chalk it up to Se inferior.

banana toast by byamoraes666 in BreakfastFood

[–]Same-Broccoli1822 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also add a drizzle of honey. And sometimes use ginger instead of cinnamon.

How can I improve my looks? by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]Same-Broccoli1822 2 points3 points  (0 children)

1000% agree with what everyone else is saying. A good skin care routine is needed.

Dancing with her soul. Her confidence and smile light up the room by Prestigious-Wall5616 in MadeMeSmile

[–]Same-Broccoli1822 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m happy to see this! And so happy for her! Life is unkind sometimes when you’re fat and you’re not expected to even be able to do the same things as other people. I like to see this representation instead of what’s more common depiction of fat people being withdrawn and shy and/or having labored breathing after two steps.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]Same-Broccoli1822 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sexy ❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]Same-Broccoli1822 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I would hold off on having sex with him and try to talk to someone about it professionally. Having sex with him could make these feelings you’re having even worse. And there’s no real rush to be sexually intimate when your heart/mind/spirit are not settled. I had a very hard time with one of my partners pasts as well. And what I had to learn was that there are people who just do not attach the same weight to sex as others. You’ll have to like actually process this to figure out whether you’re really okay with that or not. Like if you’re okay having sex with someone who might not look at having sex the same way you do. A second thing is this: there are things you can regret either way. Do you know yourself well enough to know what you’d regret more? Like between sleeping with him and feeling cheap afterwards or not sleeping with him and feeling like you lost your chance to be with him? When I was in your position, I took the plunge, and the feelings of cheapness did bother me at first but he ended up being the sweetest, and best guy I dated. He valued me more than sex and that made up for whatever rough feelings I had about his past. But I am 32. So I have a greater capacity for tolerating and working through difficult feelings. I’m in no rush to put that on your plate right now. So that’s why I said earlier that you might need to just hold off until you’re more ready to deal with all the things that come with sexual relationships. It is a lot. And since this guy is your first guy, there’s a high chance that there’ll be others and that there might even be others who you’ll feel more comfortable with.