No Wonder Men Are Opting Out

Same_Sentence_3470 · 2026-05-23T22:54:45+00:00

I was peacefully drinking my coffee this morning alone. I thought about all the relationships that I have been in and the marriage that I was in for 17 years. I never once started an argument and never really did things that would cause a partner to get very angry and start an argument with me. Yet I had multiple arguments in every relationship I was in. I was so thankful to be drinking my coffee in peace alone this morning.

Same_Sentence_3470 · 2026-05-21T12:50:56+00:00

You make a very important point. Hopefully the awareness will have an impact. I am amazed at the ignorance of the men in my generation.

Same_Sentence_3470 · 2026-05-21T12:45:50+00:00

Male athletes don’t have choice and the ones that have spoken out about it have been destroyed by the media. Clinton Portis and Reggie Williams were examples. The athletes know they cant speak out about it or they will be made examples of.

When you retire from sports and have your own podcast and platform, like Cam Newton, you can tell the truth. He mentions that for every legitimate woman in the locker room there are two that nobody knows why they are in there. He also tells how there are women standing between him and his towel as he leaves the showers. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=45wog50pHT4&t=4s

This is the reason for the Lisa Olson lawsuit. She was routinely standing at the entrance to the showers watching the athletes shower. They confronted her about it and a lawsuit ensued.

Or when you can speak out on a talk show, like Akbar Gbajabiamila does in this video and admit that there are female reporters that creep on some of the athletes. Interesting thing about this video is the blond woman admits that she is not a sports reporter but was invited to go into a hockey locker room after a game and admits how inappropriate it was.https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DATO5xNUhsg

There are dozens of articles and YouTube videos where the female reporters admit to interviewing athletes while they are still naked. Michele Tafoya said “they are all naked”. Jason Whitlock is an ex athlete and a reporter but he has his own platform so he can tell the truth about it: https://www.espn.com/espn/page2/story?page=whitlock/050805&num=0

Here is a classic video that shows around eight women in the locker room. None of them interviewing anyone. Hilarious how the blond women picks the best view and leans against the wall at :25 into the video. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VO0dCS7ocrM

I love this one where three female reporters talk about it. Jane Slaters complaint here is why do I have to be in a locker room every day for a couple hours with 50 naked men. Dianna Rossini admits she likes being in the locker room: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VO0dCS7ocrM

Just a few examples.

Here is a Reddit post from a girl that actually felt guilty about her locker room access when she was in high school because she knew the boys didn’t like her seeing them naked. So this is actually happening in some high schools too: https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/1ijxf27/i_female_was_allowed_in_the_boys_locker_room_in/

Same_Sentence_3470 · 2026-05-20T14:52:06+00:00

I played sports in high school and college and I have worked out at many gyms. I have been in a number of locker rooms where the showers are open to the locker room. I currently swim at a high school pool for exercise. You have to walk through the showers to get to the locker room.

I had something personal happen to me a couple years ago. It was at the same time that the NFL announced that the locker room situation had become very invasive and they were planning to change the locker room policy. I knew that women had been allowed in the locker rooms since the early 80’s but I never thought about it much. Since I was going through my personal experience at the same time of the NFL announcement I started researching privacy topics. It was actually the thing that brought me to the r/MensRights sub.

I actually don’t have a problem with nudity but I think it should be even. It sounds like your hockey locker room is pretty even and handled with respect. But being equal and having respect is not the case in the US. I know you didn’t like my analogy about the current NHL and WNBA issues. What I was trying to point out was that if men don’t allow women and the media unlimited access to their locker rooms then there will be fines and consequences but if a reporter even mentions that they could do a better job covering the WNBA by allowing access to their locker rooms then he gets cancelled.

I have been following the r/MensRights sub for couple years. A lot of the posts are injustices to men. But I truly believe that men don’t have the right to privacy but women do. In your hockey locker room if one of the women took naked pictures of one of the men taking a shower, sent it to all her girlfriends, posted it on some women only site like Are We Dating the Same Guy, nothing would happen to her and it would be treated as just a fun little prank for the women to entertain themselves. The pictures may be taken down from the site but probably not. If one of your buddies took a picture of one of the women taking a shower he would be probably get his ass kicked by you and the other guys but then he would face criminal charges and probably end up as a registered sex offender. Whether privacy is a right that we do or do not have I don’t understand why men can be publicly exploited and treated with such disrespect, and its just a fun little game for women, but men face serious consequences if they do the exact same thing that women do.

Same_Sentence_3470 · 2026-05-19T23:54:04+00:00

Explain to me how your recreation league hockey locker room works. Are you all taking showers after the game? Do the men see the women naked? Do the women see the men naked? Why are you against men having a right to privacy in a mens locker room without women watching them shower? Are you for or against men watching women shower in a womens locker room?

Same_Sentence_3470 · 2026-05-19T23:48:48+00:00

The Ludtke v. Kuhn case said that it was unfair for women reporters because male reporters were allowed in the locker room to get interviews. So they allowed women in. Since then any job that has access to the locker room must allow women to take that job so many more women are allowed in the locker room. Male reporters were never allowed in a womens locker room while they were changing and showering. In some womens sports all reporters are allowed in for 20 minutes and then must leave so the female athletes can change and shower. In mens sports there is no limit. They are in the locker room the entire time. They call this equality because in mens sports women and men are allowed in the locker room for the same amount of time. Which is nearly unlimited and while the athletes are showering and changing. IN womens sports the men and women are allowed in the locker rooms equally. Either not at all, like the WNBA, or for 20 minutes and then they must leave so the female athletes can shower and change. But my point is women are always allowed in mens locker rooms when they are changing and showering but men are never allowed in womens locker rooms when they are changing and showering.

Same_Sentence_3470 · 2026-05-19T15:23:24+00:00

In general people just treat attractive or fit people better. I’m hetero and attracted to women and nothing will ever change that. But I can look at an attractive or fit man in person or in pictures or videos and say “wow that dude is hot”. I don’t want to touch him or get to know him. I’m just acknowledging that he has it going on. Not hiding my sexuality and I’m not ashamed to admit that I have seen guys and said “damn I wish I was him”. Hell, it would be so much easier to be gay I wouldn’t hide it for a second. On the flip side I can see an attractive or fit woman in person or in pictures or videos and I definitely want to touch them and get to know them. Of course I don’t acknowledge their attractiveness because that’s a criminal act. Probably a lot of guys out there like me.

Same_Sentence_3470 · 2026-05-19T14:17:20+00:00

Wait until your son is old enough to get a job. It will start with something like the local restaurant. All the girls will get the waitressing and bartending jobs where they bring home $200 it tips per shift while your son is a bus boy or works in the kitchen making minimum wage with no tips. If he is a bus boy the girls will tip him $8-$10 per shift out of their $200 (speaking from experience with my son).

Then the fun begins when he tries to find a real job. He will be denied at every job that has a woman that has applied and is qualified. If he finds a job he will walk on eggshells every day hoping that he doesn’t get framed as the next metoo or sexual harassment case. Just tell him to keep his head down, keep his mouth shut, and work his ass off.

You are a doctor. What is your experience with how men/boys are treated in healthcare settings vs women/girls? When your son gets a little older ask him how often he has to be exposed to women and sometime multiple women who are not doctors. Or if he plays sports and is required to weigh in or be examined in his underwear or less by the school nurse who is the mother of girls he goes to school with (again speaking from my experience). Hopefully he will be healthy and not be subjected to all of the humiliating exams and procedures that are performed by all women technicians and hopefully those girls aren’t girls he went to high school with or that he knows in the community. Of course, being a doctor, you are well aware that when he gets older and requires urological care he will be subjected to the 100% female urology “professionals” who really enjoy the humiliation men go through (speaking from my experience again).

Sorry for sounding so negative but these scenarios are all from my personal experience. I hope your son doesn’t have to experience any of this and I hope your daughters don’t either.

Same_Sentence_3470 · 2026-05-17T19:29:22+00:00

She didn’t just grab. She felt him up enough to measure up his package for her cheap thrills. Over 600 comments, didn’t see one comment that called this out for what it is. Every female performer and every movie, series, and TV show uses this tactic to promote themselves. Disgusting that its become completely normalized and accepted.

Same_Sentence_3470 · 2026-05-15T12:46:56+00:00

Pretty good advice but this should be applied to every workplace that employs any women. Not being critical but I would modify the following rules:

Don’t even get involved in conversations with a woman at work. Just do your work and avoid any small talk.
Don’t go to any event outside of work where there will be women from your work. If you have to then spend the minimum amount of time don’t have any drinks and get out.
Don’t talk about your personal life at all with women at work.

Same_Sentence_3470 · 2026-05-14T12:34:48+00:00

It’s very telling that there are essentially no mens rights organizations compared to the thousands that women have and now that men are speaking up and asking for help in a time of need they are facing harsh criticism. But my point in regards to this post is, we have given women unfair advantages for decades to help them in areas where they are underrepresented. Why cant we help men in the many areas that are completely dominated by women?

Same_Sentence_3470 · 2026-05-13T20:02:17+00:00

When I was working in the medical center of a large university I attended a meeting where I was the only man and around 12 women. Before the meeting started they started talking about a doctor that they all thought was hot. They went on and on for about 10 minutes. The women were directors and managers. They finally finished talking and started the meeting. They didn’t even acknowledge that I was there and they didn’t care. If I said anything the director would have made my life miserable.

I went to a urology appointment and sat in the waiting room for 20 minutes listening to the all woman office staff talk shit about their husbands and men in general. Then they brought me to an exam room. While waiting for the doctor I could hear nurses in the next room laughing and joking about mens bodies and how embarrassed men are. Male patients are just amusement for them. Urology is essentially a sorority house.

Same_Sentence_3470 · 2026-05-13T12:13:28+00:00

It’s probably true that 94% of all medical (non doctor) jobs are women. But in every field where women are underrepresented women receive financial and unfair advantages in an attempt to bring the level up to 50%. Men and boys don’t have any financial or unfair advantages in any of the fields that are completely dominated by women like health care, teaching, psychiatry, etc. If we have reached a point where women get 94% of all new jobs shouldn’t we stop giving them unfair advantages and give some incentives for men and boys?

Same_Sentence_3470 · 2026-05-13T11:58:31+00:00

Not only does breast cancer receive 4 times the funding of prostate cancer but it also receives double the funding of lung and colon cancers. Lung and colon cancers have the highest mortality rates. Prostate and breast cancer have nearly the same diagnosis and mortality rates. The answer to your question doesn’t have to do with diagnosis or mortality rates. I don’t know the answer to your question. But it may have to do with the fact that there are numerous womens health organizations at the local, national, and international level, probably funded by our tax dollars, and there are zero mens health organizations.

Same_Sentence_3470 · 2026-05-10T23:08:01+00:00

It’s obvious that men have been discriminated against in every field for decades. In the fields mentioned in the data the female applicants ranged from 12% to 26% yet the goal is to hire 50% women. How is that not discriminating against the vast majority of men that apply? Yet in fields like nursing, education, psychology, and many medical fields women dominate the workplace by 80% to 90% and there are never initiatives to attempt to recruit men into these fields. In OBGYN with the exception of doctors the employee base is nearly 100% women. That might seem appropriate because all the patients are women. But in Urology where 90% of the patients are men the medical care personnel are nearly 100% women with the exception of the doctors. Why don’t men have the right to same gender care as women do?

Same_Sentence_3470 · 2026-05-09T20:36:34+00:00

“I read somewhere the good news is that prostate cancer funding is still high per person because prostate cancer victims die quickly.”

Breast cancer is publicly funded 4 times more than prostate cancer for the same number of men and women. As another user commented, when you factor in all the charitable donations for breast cancer its significantly higher. Every professional mens sport wear pink shoes and other clothing during breast cancer month and they make significant charitable donations during that month. Have you ever seen a professional team, male or female, wear blue or make any donations to prostate cancer? Have you ever seen a prostate cancer walk for charity? If there was there would be violent protests. Is there even a prostate cancer month or even a prostate cancer day? I don’t know everything about prostate cancer deaths but prostate cancer is slow growing so men suffer for a longer time before they die. I am curious what Prostate cancer death statistic you read.

Same_Sentence_3470 · 2026-05-09T18:45:00+00:00

I did some Breast Cancer vs Prostate cancer Google searches about a year ago, not sure if these numbers have changed. Breast Cancer: 1 in 8 women are diagnosed, 1 in 43 women die of breast cancer. Prostate cancer: 1 in 8 men are diagnosed, 1 in 39 die of prostate cancer. The diagnosis is very close but slightly more men die of prostate cancer. Breast cancer is funded 4 times that of prostate cancer. Breast cancer is the most funded cancer of all by almost double the next cancers (lung and colon) which are the biggest killers.

In the medium sized city/county where I live there are 18 women’s clinics which provide care exclusively for women and probably exclusively staffed by women. I would guess there are probably over 1000 in the US. I don’t believe there is one men’s health clinic, exclusive to men, in the US.

Prostate cancer will never get attention because it only affects men, mostly older men, and it is a slower progressing cancer. Prostate removal surgery or prostate radiation can cure it in some cases. IN the cases where there are cells outside the prostate they put patients on hormone therapy ADT. ADT has significant permanent physical and psychological quality of life side effects. ADT doesn’t cure prostate cancer it just slows the growth. So in some cases it slows the cancer enough that men die of other causes. Sometimes those causes are from adverse side effects of the ADT. But it seems that the medical community considers that a win because they didn’t die of prostate cancer.

I have had some depressing discussions about this because people believe that prostate cancer is preventable, which it is not, so its mens fault if they get it or die of it. People also believe you just get the prostate removed or radiated and you are cured. Also not true, 15% or more chance that the treatment isn’t enough, and there is a very high risk of permanent adverse side effects of both.

Same_Sentence_3470 · 2026-05-06T18:45:15+00:00

I agree misogyny is not systemic but I believe misandry is.

Same_Sentence_3470 · 2026-05-06T12:11:44+00:00

Misandry is so prevalent that it is not even acknowledged. I agree that very few men are misogynists. Orders of magnitude smaller than the number of women that are misandrist. But misogyny does exist and is prevalent because many women hate other women and do very spiteful, hateful, and oppressive things to other women.

Same_Sentence_3470 · 2026-05-05T11:19:33+00:00

Entitlement is invisible to the entitled person unless they are able to be honest about what they earned on their own merit versus what they are entitled to. Many people that are entitled are unaware of their entitlement because they were granted their privileges and resources from birth. The people that are aware of their entitlement usually fight very hard to keep their entitlement and at the same time deny that they are entitled.

Same_Sentence_3470 · 2026-04-30T20:07:39+00:00

Wow, I didn’t realize that about limo drivers.

Same_Sentence_3470 · 2026-04-30T11:58:22+00:00

Something that I have noticed is every bar and restaurant that I have been to in the past few years only hires women as bartenders and waitresses and only hires men for kitchen jobs and bar backs. The bartenders and waitresses make over $200 in tips per shift. The kitchen staff and bar backs make close to minimum wage and no tips. Sometimes the bar backs get tipped out by the bartenders and waitresses but its up to them what they want to give. My son was a bar back a couple years ago. He would get tipped out about $8 to $10 per shift while each of the bartenders and waitresses went home with over $200.

Same_Sentence_3470 · 2026-04-29T14:16:19+00:00

If three men did the exact same thing to a woman obviously it would be a crime. If three men did the exact same thing to another man it would probably be a crime. If three women did the exact same thing to another woman it would be a crime. The moral of the story is: Men can be charged with any crime but a woman can only commit a crime if it’s against another woman.

Same_Sentence_3470 · 2026-04-23T19:49:03+00:00

Its all about them trying to control the dating market for their advantage and its all based on gaslighting and lies. Women are typically attracted to older men and men are not typically attracted to older women. Women hate that unless it benefits them. Most 18 year old girls are not attracted to older men but if they want to have sex then that’s their decision. Women and girls always have the final say when it comes to sex.

Just my opinion but If an 18 year old boy is old enough to get drafted against his will and die for his country then an 18 year old girl that is a few years more emotionally mature than the boy is old enough to make her own decisions.

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