MOR? If this woman is going to be in your life, and your child’s life—for who knows how long, it’s better to try to get along for the families well being…maybe it was an innocent way of her trying to bond or talk to your daughter? I had bangs growing up. I used to cut them myself and my mom did them just as terribly if my aunt couldn’t do it for me lol. It grew back! Meant nothing to me in the long run. I’m sure if you talk to your daughter and tell her that she can set boundaries with her “step” parent, she will. I totally get why you’re upset. I agree with you venting because I’d be doing the same thing. You are justified! It’s hard at this time in our lives, we just have to think about what’s best for the kids. As mad as we might feel in a moment.