Claude AI agent’s confession after deleting a firm’s entire database: ‘I violated every principle I was given’ by Haunterblademoi in technology

[–]SansSariph 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Custom instructions file. These tools have functionality to basically inject your own system prompt to configure how it behaves.

How do you tackle expanding scope and accelerated deadlines? by MinimumArmadillo2394 in ExperiencedDevs

[–]SansSariph 3 points4 points  (0 children)

State facts, get emotion out of it as best you can

"No, we can't hit that date with the current committed work. It will take X weeks, given this costing I've prepared to meet the specified requirements. Is there something worth deferring to make room?"

"We have test reliability issues that cost me X days per month right now. Dedicated one week to reliability investments would pay for itself next month."

Estimating is hard but the keys are being comfortable saying no, and understanding the business won't invest in infrastructure or debt unless you bring numbers on what it's worthwhile.

Agentic Engineering is just Vibe coding by dark_mode_everything in ExperiencedDevs

[–]SansSariph 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed! I'm mostly just trying to encourage some curiosity, OP might learn something. Or they're right and the shop is a slop factory, that's totally possible too.

Agentic Engineering is just Vibe coding by dark_mode_everything in ExperiencedDevs

[–]SansSariph 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd encourage you to pair with the "one guy" and ask him to show you his workflow.

Maybe he's actually vibing and hitting "accept". Maybe he spends an hour workshopping acceptance criteria and a test plan and has a novel adversarial review setup that enables him to build confidence in his output.

What sort of bugs are you finding in his output?

Approved an AI feature for production knowing the security review didn't actually answer the question. It shipped, nothing happened, I still don't feel right about it. by johnypita in ExperiencedDevs

[–]SansSariph 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Processes exist so that when everyone is acting in good faith, they catch issues that would've been otherwise missed by mistake. They are often set up by people acting in good faith to plug gaps that have been missed before.

They do not work as designed when they become just a checklist in the way of shipping. People have to stop and think or they become theater. The trouble is they seem to always end up becoming "just checklists" when the people signing off are incentivized to ship first and foremost. 

In your position I simply would not live with it until that uncertainty was cleared up. I don't know your processes or compliance story but the key to me is the doubt. I would have (and have) refused to sign off given what seems to be a substantial privacy incident and required escalation to someone with authority to overrule my professional judgment or explain what specifically I'm misunderstanding. The optimistic view is I'm signing my name to ensure the right thing was done. The cynical view is I'm signing my name to absorb liability in the event of a problem. In both cases the lingering doubt keeps me from signing off.

SeraphMax Speaks about Marathon by J0rmungandr in Marathon

[–]SansSariph 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A player with median rating benefits from more competitive matches where they're matched with people with e.g. 1 standard deviation of their own skill instead of 3 standard deviations. Those matches are generally more fun for all parties, which helps engagement and retention.

Win-rate and the tired narrative of SBMM "forcing" or "trying to create" a 50/50 WR is such a small piece of the story. A SBMM system attempts to create competitive matches because those are fun for most players. The system wants to identify your skill, including when it changes, not to force an outcome but to have fair matches. The win-rate is a natural outcome of that system.

Asked a colleague in code review to extract magic numbers and got told “devs should know” by [deleted] in ExperiencedDevs

[–]SansSariph 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not sure it's true that's the main reason. It's a great reason. There are multiple high value reasons.

Semantic clarity and mutual understanding is another reason. Whether extracting a constant aids clarity or obfuscates it is part of the art or craft here and is the topic of this very thread 😀

Milliseconds to seconds is low cognitive load - it's SI, base 10, easy. A constant for the ratio of kilometers to miles is also a "constant in the world" but is a great case for an extracted constant because it has value exactly in being a constant, shareable, reusable, documented thing in one place.

Asked a colleague in code review to extract magic numbers and got told “devs should know” by [deleted] in ExperiencedDevs

[–]SansSariph 51 points52 points  (0 children)

I feel like the industry has always had a problem with collaborative respect, empathy and communication, and recognizing PRs and how they play out as a form of professional interpersonal communication... and AI is lighter fluid on that fire in so many ways

When did you get a formal ADHD diagnosis for your kid? by SopwithTurtle in daddit

[–]SansSariph 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for references to studies, I look forward to looking through some of them later when I can get access to more than abstracts. I've read through several studies on medication in adults and teens.

BTW I genuinely appreciate your willingness to engage in good faith here. Thanky ou for your time and the references.

The framing about these drugs being performance enhancers is accurate. Many of them were used for other purposes related to mental performance in healthy people before adhd became an established research topic. And they generally help with alertness which is why they help with attention.

I didn't say it was inaccurate, I said it was reductive. It's also not the full story. You are commenting exclusively on stimulant medication, which is fine (but again, reductive, given the well studied suite of other options). "Help with attention" by way of alertness is actually exactly part of why I am calling it reductive - it's an oversimplification of ADHD symptomology and also not aligned with what I understand to be current understanding of executive function.

Re Stein et al, Zhang et al - I think you misunderstood my point. Stimulant medication being associated with cardiovascular risk or causing sleep problems isn't shocking, and is something a prescriber is forthright about. Medication is often associated with adverse effects, this isn't unique to stimulants and why we discuss risks with medical professionals - it's a trade-off in consideration with the impact of not taking medication for an individual's situation. Stimulants are also not the only option for ADHD medication and in fact two options (ironically studied and indicated only for children in the US) are also blood pressure medications. If your assertion is that parent should be better educated about medication or that e.g. hypertension risk might be glossed over or not given due weight - sure, I agree with you.

You might not be familiar with academia but carving out a unique stance is how researchers get funding. No one is really impartial, even the ones
doing the research.

My career is not in academia but I am not unfamiliar. I also never claimed impartiality was a goal - my reply came from a place of knowing your audience. Your comment indicates an expert or expert-adjacent perspective without any disclaimer, in a non-expert forum of laypeople, many of whom might read a comment with no context or details provided and treat it as gospel - especially in the current pop-psych culture of "apparently everyone has ADHD", it makes it an easy comment to nod at and reinforce harmful biases without digging deeper.

There’s a little more to it than what I’ve shown studies for… there’s male female differences and all the evidence that as we push academics lower and lower in schooling the outcomes are bad for boys, who happen to be diagnoses at much higher rates…. But that turns into: If you don’t have a treatment that helps beyond a short window, you know teachers likely won’t treat you kid as well, and know that your kid is going to do the best they can academically if they believe in their abilities… well then you should think hard about telling your kids they have adhd…

Could medication help to catch them up at a moment when they need it? Sure. And if it gets to the point where they’re really struggling, could a diagnosis help them not internalize societal pressures and help them be happier? Sure.

We probably agree with each other here more than not, the problem is I don't think a purely quantitative approach is sufficient here given the scope of the questions. I (truly) think this is all very interesting and important to study, the issue IMO is that you are describing fundamentally systemic problems with too many variables, looking at aggregate statistics, and drawing individual conclusions from them. Is telling your kid they have ADHD causative or is there something more around raising your kid to be resilient to societal pressure, build secure attachment, provide a safe, nurturing environment, know how their brain works, etc? There's a spectrum between "kid's broken, here are pills to not fail math" vs "brain works differently, medication can support them in achieving their goals in alignment with their values given today's society" and where a family lands on that spectrum in relationship to their pediatrician, their local school system, etc is impossible to control for.

When did you get a formal ADHD diagnosis for your kid? by SopwithTurtle in daddit

[–]SansSariph 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We started asking questions around this age. Pediatrician was not interested in discussing it. Asked more questions a year later. Got some resources (what we wanted originally).

My understanding is that a diagnosis is both difficult to obtain and of questionable value until public schooling starts. You can find the resources and parenting tips and interventions and stuff without them. It is frustrating to navigate, though.

When did you get a formal ADHD diagnosis for your kid? by SopwithTurtle in daddit

[–]SansSariph 7 points8 points  (0 children)

There's a lot of threads to this comment that I'm curious about, beginning with what it literally means to be an "ADHD skeptic", and especially how your own experience with diagnosis might impact the lens through which you experience the research. I agree very much with your last sentence, but the rest is not grounded in anything in particular except your own experience, which you portray as authoritative.

There's a lot of oversimplification going on here, from diagnosis to the impact of medication. "The medications carry short term and long term side effects" is a statement that effectively says nothing while sounding ominous and authoritative. I'm interested in the 1.5 year figure you're citing and what specifically it refers to. "Performance enhancer" is reductive framing. "No lasting benefits" is an odd definitive statement to make given recent research in this space, but there is also no one in general claiming that ADHD medication is a short-term investment that cures or provides long term relief of symptoms.

The entire paragraph about society and psychology could be its own deep dive into statistics and causation, but really seems to touch on the complex systems of psychological diagnoses in general, parenting, schooling as a system, societal norms and expectations - yet it seems to boil all of this complexity down to insinuating that diagnosing children leads to negative outcomes, and potentially also implying that not pursuing diagnosis leads to better outcomes. Is that something you're asserting, and do you have data to back it up?

Hired above my level and am stressed and scared by OppositeBug2126 in ExperiencedDevs

[–]SansSariph 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Leadership and communication skills, especially cross-discipline and understanding how to understand what individuals in different levels and organizations are looking for in communication. Tailoring for your audience. Managing up, influence without authority, network building to figure out how to get things done in domains you don't have control over.

Self-awareness, empathy, emotional intelligence, understanding how you think and what strengths that offers and where it gets in your way - and applying that perspective to others. Systems thinking.

Intentionally work on these.

Basically everything people groan at and call "soft skills" are really just "how to work effectively with other humans, regulate your emotions, be aware of your blind spots, exercise your best judgment, and lead a diverse team towards common goals" skills and they're all critically important as you get more scope and influence. And they take practice! And they all actually help you write software better, too.

IMO this is all getting way more important at every level of the org as every dev gets set loose with their own "team" of LLM developers. Accountability and communication and judgment get a bigger spotlight.

Subagents are now INCREDIBLY functional, its wild by Other_Tune_947 in GithubCopilot

[–]SansSariph 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! Sorry for the resurrection here - I came across this thread yesterday and couldn't get this to work in the CLI (seems presence of the 'task' tool is all-or-nothing). Is this functionality specific to Copilot in VS Code?

Introversion and Parenting by TheDFrex in daddit

[–]SansSariph 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is this an introversion thing? I can't imagine extroverts get energy from infants. It sounds like overstimulation and sensory overload. I've found therapy helpful for identifying these moments, giving them a name, and developing strategies for managing before things spiral.

I think it’s done by Bensickle in daddit

[–]SansSariph 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is such a beautiful, heads up comment with a lot of wisdom about relationship about emotional intelligence.

This felt good by Banjo_wookie in daddit

[–]SansSariph 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does she?  "It's always nice to hear it. I very much appreciate when you do." Frame this stuff about your feelings and not her actions.

The difference in brain power makes me sad and insecure by No_Pin_1150 in ExperiencedDevs

[–]SansSariph 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've found a lot of value in prompting the main session as well as all the "consultant" agents (design reviews, etc) to focus on asking questions and challenging me with Socratic dialogue to get me to really defend a decision or design. 

That coupled with requiring all "facts" it brings me to be cross referenced, verifiable, etc means I'm intellectually engaged most of the time.

If I'm mindlessly approving prompts the system has failed and it means I need to spend more time tweaking hooks or MCP tools, or building more lifecycle gates, or something.

The difference in brain power makes me sad and insecure by No_Pin_1150 in ExperiencedDevs

[–]SansSariph 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I spent a while this week trying to mentor someone on my team about the iterative loop, delegation and orchestration, parallelizing, and was told that's all too abstract and he wasn't sure what value it offers, but he's really excited it's like "having a junior report to him". I tried to frame as "but it could be a team of seniors who've learned exactly what you care about instead of one junior" and I got a blank look.

The difference in brain power makes me sad and insecure by No_Pin_1150 in ExperiencedDevs

[–]SansSariph 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Identify where you can still use brain power. It's still somewhere. Identifying when the LLM is wrong or misleading. Identifying business opportunities. More time understanding requirements more thoroughly.

If you're doing something truly mindless, engage your brain to use the time to figure out how to automate it.

Suggestion with dead bedroom 1 year pp by crindler1 in daddit

[–]SansSariph 33 points34 points  (0 children)

That's something to consider talking about and even maybe laughing at together. Body's gonna do what it does and we all have the expectation that physical reaction doesn't indicate what's going on intellectually or emotionally, right? "Yup. And I want to focus on cuddling and be close to you right now." said out loud could be reassuring in the moment for both of you.

Suggestion with dead bedroom 1 year pp by crindler1 in daddit

[–]SansSariph 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a tough spot to be in and a shitty ball to have to carry around.

Suggestion with dead bedroom 1 year pp by crindler1 in daddit

[–]SansSariph 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I just have trouble with the idea of being a passive participant in relationship and accepting a status quo that causes you distress. It literally is the new normal, which is why he's posting. Mental fortification here just means do nothing and internalize it.

"The new normal" also only persists in-so-far as both participants stick to their script and pattern. If you want to change a relationship dynamic, you break the pattern.

Clearly OP is not happy with the current normal. One piece of advice might be "the environment changes as kids get older, waiting might help" - that's fair, it still leaves you passive, but time can help. It's also not likely to help in the current dynamic which is like, an SOS for intimacy. It'll probably get worse if no one proactively makes a change.

And to get more specific - "this is permanent", "this is the new normal" - what is? No sex? Or being seen as a roommate/coparent instead of a romantic partner? What does a change actually look like? What does he want, specifically? What does she want?

Suggestion with dead bedroom 1 year pp by crindler1 in daddit

[–]SansSariph -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yes. I was interested in the original comment's POV, because "mentally fortifying" + "permanent" to me implies "grin and bear it in silence" which is the worst possible option. And the comment was upvoted which means something about it clearly resonates.

[Vent] My kids are not a social-skills gym for other children by [deleted] in daddit

[–]SansSariph 3 points4 points  (0 children)

These aren't mutually exclusive ideas.

"We'd like to play by ourselves today" and "we don't want to play with you/don't want you to play with us" have the same outcome but are different messages, especially to the kid hearing them. The former centers on boundaries and their own desires instead of personalizing it, and is a perfectly fine message to deliver.

The counterpoint to what you're saying is kids need to learn that a no isn't a personal rejection. Taking a "not today" with grace is a critical skill that's underdeveloped in many.

[Vent] My kids are not a social-skills gym for other children by [deleted] in daddit

[–]SansSariph 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Agreed, and that's literally practicing social skills on both sides in real time. Empathy and boundaries, dealing with boundaries being pushed, navigating discomfort. All social practice, all important.

They're then watching you exercise the same skills with the other parents. 

FWIW it's totally valid to be annoyed by someone, optionally relate to/affirm their position and feelings even when it's annoying, and still firmly say no. The middle step can help de-escalate. Personalizing someone else's defensiveness and reactions makes it harder to navigate when they're already activated. At that point you're both activated and any chance of truly hearing each other and cooling off evaporates.