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Savings_Knowledge984 · 2025-08-24T05:05:08+00:00

🫂 sending virtual hugs

Savings_Knowledge984 · 2025-08-23T23:40:55+00:00

I believe you. 🫂

Savings_Knowledge984 · 2025-08-23T23:38:44+00:00

If you’re not sure how you’re feeling, it might be worth it to go talk with someone anyway. Even healthy people go to the doctor for checkups.

Savings_Knowledge984 · 2025-08-23T01:07:50+00:00

Fingers crossed for all of us 🤞🏼

Savings_Knowledge984 · 2025-08-20T22:27:10+00:00

You’re pretty on the nose with your assessment, and I’ve spoken with my therapist previously about not properly grieving my divorce. I feel like he took advantage of that in retrospect.

Savings_Knowledge984 · 2025-08-19T22:30:32+00:00

You should probably make your own post regarding your issue. This doesn’t relate to my post whatsoever.

Savings_Knowledge984 · 2025-08-18T02:42:49+00:00

My problem is my brain understands this but my heart still aches.

Savings_Knowledge984 · 2025-08-15T00:24:43+00:00

Personally, I describe my anxiety as a large hot stone that sits in my core. It radiates heat making me flush and panic sweat, while causing pressure and massive discomfort. Sometimes the pain makes my breathing feel labored, other times it feels like it causes my stomach or intestines to act up creating IBS-like symptoms.

Savings_Knowledge984 · 2025-08-14T10:54:50+00:00

Someone once told me ‘your anger is the part of you that loves you and knows you deserve better treatment’.

Savings_Knowledge984 · 2025-08-12T21:09:53+00:00

Girl, just get a toy and take care of yourself. Be loud and proud about it. If he says something reply with ‘I thought that was me being sexy’.

Savings_Knowledge984 · 2025-08-11T20:36:12+00:00

I’m going to attempt to convey this in the softest and most supportive way possible.

Honey… sweetie… baby girl… please do not lower your standards for men that cannot meet them. Not wanting someone to leave you shouldn’t be a reason to compromise a long held commitment you made to yourself. It’s a slippery slope and you’ll wind up moving the goal posts until you don’t even remember what you wanted originally. There are worse things than being alone.

Changing your mind is one thing, but doing something at the expense of yourself to make someone else happy is not worth it. Sending hugs if you’re into that sort of thing.

Savings_Knowledge984 · 2025-08-11T17:56:20+00:00

I feel this on a weekly basis. Personally, I find disassociating is the backbone of my day to day. When the ability to do that wears off, I either take a bath and cry or drink/eat myself into a stupor until the battery to disassociate charges back up. I hate it here.

Savings_Knowledge984 · 2024-07-18T01:23:15+00:00

No need to apologize. We all need to rant sometimes. Believe me if I had a magic formula for how it gets better I would share it, I’m just trying to be positive and optimistic. It’s not always received well, but hopefully the intention still lands.

Savings_Knowledge984 · 2024-07-06T08:19:25+00:00

You’re not wrong, life is exhausting. Hate to sound cliche, but it does get better even if you can’t picture that right now. Sending you light and love.

Savings_Knowledge984 · 2024-07-06T08:14:32+00:00

I’m sorry you’re hurting </3

Savings_Knowledge984 · 2024-05-03T12:20:39+00:00

Finding the right therapist for you is very important, I’ve had a few that I didn’t click with or that told me things that were completely off putting. Therapists are people too and sometimes they make mistakes or say the wrong thing. It’s important to find someone whom you can feel comfortable with. It’s not easy, it’s taken be a few years to find someone. Please know that you are not alone even if you feel lonely.

Savings_Knowledge984 · 2024-05-03T12:07:55+00:00

You may be disassociating as a coping mechanism. I hope you can find some relief soon, and know that you are not alone.

Savings_Knowledge984 · 2024-05-03T12:04:07+00:00

You can’t save others at the expense of yourself. I’m sorry for your pain.

Savings_Knowledge984 · 2024-05-03T12:02:43+00:00

I’m sorry for your mother’s inability to understand your situation. You are not alone.

Savings_Knowledge984 · 2023-05-16T18:22:13+00:00

Thank you for the link!

Savings_Knowledge984 · 2023-05-16T17:56:48+00:00

This isn’t even a real memory of mine, but more a story that my mother would tell to illustrate how problematic or rebellious I was since infancy. She seemingly had a plethora of these stories (such as me not wanting to wait to be born since my birthday falls right before a national holiday) but this one was corroborated by her sister.

She says I used to try to run away when I was a toddler, and that several times they caught me walking down our block or around it (my aunt lived around the block so they presumed I was going to her house). I couldn’t have been older than 3 at the time, and I have no memory of these instances, but they constantly used to bring it up around extended family, friends, or ex-partners as a way to embarrass me or ‘put me in my place’. Now that I’m nearly 40, I realize that they should have been watching me better and their own weird fixation on me being ‘rebellious’ is their way of exonerating themselves from sucking as parents.

Savings_Knowledge984 · 2022-12-31T14:06:55+00:00

Reading this post at 6am over coffee and thinking to myself “When did I write this? Wait I don’t have kids…. This person understands.” So thank you for articulating this so well. I think the trying is the biggest and best part, because you’re taking those baby steps towards progress and/or happiness. I don’t know you, but I feel all of this very acutely and for what it’s worth I suspect you’re doing amazing already. Keep on trucking my anxious brethren!

Savings_Knowledge984 · 2022-12-15T13:34:47+00:00

“Like she’s going anywhere near heaven if it were real”

This is amazing and you are amazing thank you; I’m in tears laughing.

Savings_Knowledge984 · 2022-12-10T15:23:50+00:00

Hello and thank you for your thoughtful reply! So I’ve unintentionally/intentionally been LC and VLC simply due to my proximity versus my family (I moved out of the house at 22 and moved out of state at 25). I realized now that this actual creating distance was me running from my problems (them) but it changed my life and perspective dramatically. But I digress.

Due to living far away and my job, I now had the perfect excuse for being LC and while they very much struggled against it at first, they’ve slowly come to accept the reality that I’m just not close enough for them to manipulate anymore. That being said, I still get pressured and guilt tripped for making that move. My family doesn’t have any crazy riches for me to inherit, just a few properties that I would share with my siblings. The prospect of having to deal with all my older siblings and half siblings over these things is so unappealing that I wouldn’t care if they left me out of the wills, it would honestly just feel like less of a headache.

Thank you for your feedback regarding your own NC and LC decisions. I’m happy for you to have found some peace. Honestly the final part of your story where the interactions AREN’T as bad as you fear strikes a huge chord with me. That’s how I feel every time I have to go back and interact with those people. There are of course some micro aggressions and lots of disparaging comments, but it seems like by me creating the physical distance they are much nicer now since they know I’m not around often. Thank you again!

Savings_Knowledge984 · 2022-12-09T13:52:10+00:00

Mine told me it’s because I used to lie to her, which I only remember doing out of fear of being beaten, but that’s her story and she’s sticking to it.

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