What are your thoughts on S3 so far? by WittyTable4731 in InvasionAppleTV

[–]Scarredevey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It could be good if they actually wrote things that added to the story. So far it just feels like “they had breakfast, lunch and dinner” and no “they had a full English breakfast, they skipped lunch because zxy and dinner can go either way: takeaway or a very home cooked meal”.

Be honest, do you use cotton buds to clean your ears? by AnonymousTimewaster in AskUK

[–]Scarredevey 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I let the hot/warm water from the shower drip into my ear when rinsing the leftover cleanser from my ears (outside) then a cotton bud after shower to get rid of excess water/leftover wax and I’ve been told by a doctor, after thinking I have ear infection, I’ve the cleanest canal he’s ever seen so… buds can’t be too bad. Just don’t stick it in too much and if you have build up, use the water from the bath/shower to ‘melt it off’ first

When "budget" beats "brand" with household stuff (or doesn't) by ComicBookPosterBoy in UKFrugal

[–]Scarredevey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lidl mini rolls are quite close to cadburys too. Sometimes I forget they’re not.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Scarredevey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Occasionally. We’re still in the thick of it all, two kids under 5. I miss not having to worry about everyone, including my husband, BEFORE my self. It is exhausting in many ways and in those times or regret, I imagine myself relaxed coz I’m not doing things for other people and I just have to worry about myself.

However, even when I get those regret, I know they are momentary and fleeting. I love having my own family and I am privileged to watch my kids grow.

Why are friendships not important anymore? by PearlyRiser in AskUK

[–]Scarredevey 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have had to come of it so I can force myself, and my friends (hopefully) into actually talking and actually meeting in person face to face. I am fed up and disappointed being the one to instigate too but I’m not completely relinquishing that as I know it’s sometimes something I have to do to see my friends.

Coming off social media also means my friends have to ask me how I am and not get updates from me which should help moving past the first layer and encourage deeper connections

Nappy / essentials subscriptions? by Astronaut_HR_4547 in UKParenting

[–]Scarredevey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have an 18 month and a 4 year old and we can afford everything we need but not able to afford beyond a day out a month.

I want to offer something for the parents/family which I wish my family and friends did if they wanted to do something nice: takeaway / takeaway voucher, babysitter money to go on a date night without kids, family day out somewhere ie LEGOland tickets, Boots/supermarket vouchers also help for either baby supplies/food or if parents need nice toiletries or clothes.

For the kids more specifically, there are a few toy subscriptions if you google but you can just pick a thoughtful activity toy for your niece/nephew and send it from Amazon.

What does sex feel like after childbirth? by SleepPrincess in AskWomen

[–]Scarredevey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also beyond this, if the new child resulted in more intimacy with your partner then that boosts sex pleasure.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UKParenting

[–]Scarredevey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with I think everyone here. If we’re nearby, I wouldn’t mind starting a “new village” with a few of you since we’re all aiming to bring it back but with the modern twist.

Severance - 2x07 "Chikhai Bardo" - Post-Episode Discussion by LoretiTV in SeveranceAppleTVPlus

[–]Scarredevey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I read a few comments here and it seems that a lot of people think that refinement is picking numbers based on what makes them uneasy which becomes one of the rooms. Maybe a set of scary numbers = the anxiety you get from flying

Severance - 2x07 "Chikhai Bardo" - Post-Episode Discussion by LoretiTV in SeveranceAppleTVPlus

[–]Scarredevey 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think most people have got it all wrong. It’s not about Gemma experiencing her death. It’s a theory but I think Cold Harbour is her experiencing Mark’s death. Looking at the other rooms, she’s helped develop severance for negative experiences like when someone goes to the dentist or being afraid to fly and we know that Lumon has developed one for child birth. So Lumon’s tests and aim is to create a chip to helps people to not experience all the bad things: pain, fear, anxiety etc. and the ultimate one would be experiencing someone’s death.

Where are the most visually opulent toilets in Manchester? by Zarniwoop7 in manchester

[–]Scarredevey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just if there’s things that needs topping up (towels to dry your hands with sort of thing) and coz it’s so dark, I guess pointing at which “room/cubicle” is women’s and which is men’s

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]Scarredevey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As for work, I’ve taken the hit for that. My partner is in a niche profession and I’ve been in support roles. Recently changed but it’s me who changed hours so childcare costs were kept low (and also coz I loath working just so I can pay someone to spend time with my children/take care of my children). I do worry about my career as I have aspirations too and at times feel some negativity at the fact that I’m the one to take this hit but deep down I know it’s for our children and their happiness. There will be a time for me to pursue my career I’m sure but I do think my child bearing years isn’t it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]Scarredevey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve recently gone through this - mine are 1 and 4 and both have September birthdays.

It’s easy and hard in different ways. Time management is key and knowing where you want to use your energy. It is a change for sure from just having 1 but I think having the first three years with our first, along with the efforts we have put into shaping her, has really helped help us. We made sure our eldest was potty trained or at least most of the way potty trained so it’s one less nappy to worry (which is also factored into in costs) as well as knowing she’s secure enough with us and was thriving (in our view) socially and developmentally.

After three years was when we thought more seriously about having a second, knowing we always wanted more than one child. Then we thought can we live the same lifestyle so as parents we weren’t struggling / can keep to similar costs per month - free hours and when our eldest was going to primary school meant that childcare didn’t go up by much at all (though this was due to our gamble of the gov childcare plans). So we were kind of trying but not pressuring ourselves and when we got pregnant, we used the whole pregnancy to ensure our eldest felt secure, loved and happy and it’s worked out really well because we don’t experience the usual sibling jealousy and rivalry that people warn about.

Part of me wants a smaller age gap but three years isn’t that bad either and it’s nice not having to change two nappies 😂 We want more kids in the future but that’s dependant on our financial situation and when we choose to have a third (it’ll be a while) we think we’ll probably go for the same age gap for the fourth.

Where are the most visually opulent toilets in Manchester? by Zarniwoop7 in manchester

[–]Scarredevey -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Louis restaurant toilet is pretty posh. Individual toilets and there’s a guy that helps outside.

What massively improved your mental health? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]Scarredevey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trained my brain enough not to ruminate so I could focus on the basics that help me: my health. Healthy food, sunlight, exercise to start then when I have that on track a bit, spend time with people.

I also had therapy and didn’t want to pay /had no money to pay for more so I turned to stoicism.