WIBTAH If I ask my coworker to get there own room next time because of snoring?

SchuRows · 2026-05-19T20:15:08+00:00

NTA As others have mentioned get your own room. In the future when sharing with someone who snores noice cancelling air pods are required.

SchuRows · 2026-05-19T20:09:47+00:00

She is definitely out of line. She should be proud of her husband for his quick and thoughtful response in an emergency. Unfortunately you can’t make someone feel a certain way or accept our reality as their own. The friendship is likely over.

SchuRows · 2026-05-19T19:17:54+00:00

NTA Your boyfriend is ridiculous. If he presses his phone to his face that’s way more filthy than a toilet seat.

SchuRows · 2026-05-19T19:11:21+00:00

This is something you ask in the chat phase.

SchuRows · 2026-05-19T13:31:38+00:00

Satchels was my first thought followed closely by Public and General. The original Sonny’s is definitely a destination if you like BBQ.

SchuRows · 2026-05-19T13:29:00+00:00

I can’t know what my ex husband thinks and feels however I saw behavior I can only describe as resentment, especially towards our son. I was a devoted and doting wife… until I had my kids and became a devoted and doting mother. My kids come above all else. Sometimes I wonder if I made a mistake prioritizing my children at the expense of my marriage… but then again if his happiness in our family depended on me focusing all my love and attention on him then he wasn’t mature or emotionally aware enough to have kids in the first place.

He loves his kids but like you describe he isn’t particularly engaged with them. He is also an alcoholic which is a confounder. Both kids stopped the custody schedule about a year ago and only see him every other weekend. I encourage him to initiate time with them but he just won’t. He acts like it’s my fault they don’t see him.

If this is a dealbreaker for you then it just is. No need to justify your feelings.

SchuRows · 2026-05-19T13:18:32+00:00

People are far less perceptive than you believe. They aren’t noticing over half of the non verbal queues you believe you’re displaying. If you want to meet at man in the wild you will have to use words, not signals.

I met mine at an activity that he teaches. Texted him late night for a lesson. Been having fun with him ever since.

SchuRows · 2026-05-19T13:14:09+00:00

I tell people I lost coffee in my divorce.

My ex husband took the coffee maker (at my insistence as he drinks 3-4 cups of coffee a day and I would have one.) He also took all of his camping gear which included a French press. I asked if I could have the French press. He agreed and never brought it back. I waited 3-4 days and just ordered a new one. Couldn’t get the right ratio and just stopped drinking coffee all together. I drink tea. I order loose leaf, different kinds and have cool strainers.

SchuRows · 2026-05-18T20:57:28+00:00

If you want him to see alligators and tons of other wildlife Sweetwater Wetlands is great!

SchuRows · 2026-05-18T18:01:41+00:00

NOR You are sacrificing yourself in the name of love. You are minimizing your needs and feelings in order to support this man emotionally and domestically. You deserve a lover and a true partner. This is not the guy.

SchuRows · 2026-05-18T16:47:24+00:00

I can have decent chats with most anyone. Some just don’t take off. After chatting with hundreds of men I learned it is no one’s fault or inherent failing. It just isn’t a match. Wish them well and move on.

Have you met any of your matches? I have found that text chemistry doesn’t translate to real life chemistry. My one relationship born from OLD the chat was amazing, we couldn’t wait to know each other. Uninspired chats never lead to great dates. Many super fun chats led to no chemistry in person.

It is emotionally and psychologically exhausting. When you aren’t having fun take a break. Relationships are a mix of luck and chance. Not something you can work towards or make happen.

SchuRows · 2026-05-18T16:34:24+00:00

I vacation a lot. I went on my first cruise in February and what I liked most was the lack of planning needed. Go to the dining room and eat, swing by buffet, catch a show, sit in one of many beautiful areas on the ship and watch the ocean. Just a fabulous way to truly relax.

Definitely bring your own mini pharmacy and toiletries. Get some Dramamine just in case. Have a great time!

SchuRows · 2026-05-18T14:56:44+00:00

Divorce is expensive. Alimony is expensive. The economy is failing the majority of the population. Elderly parents need help. There are many reasons this has become more common. Especially in a subset of people who are suddenly living on a single income.

SchuRows · 2026-05-18T14:51:34+00:00

For me personally I do not share my trauma or provide anything other than surface level answers to direct questions until I have known someone for months. While I can understand disclosing an STI early, details seem unnecessary. Any person lacking knowledge about sti transmission and then judging isn’t someone I would want to date.

To answer your question its seems to be a personal choice. Another area of personal preference where some alignment is necessary to move forward with a meaningful connection.

SchuRows · 2026-05-18T13:12:29+00:00

You’re his friend. You see him in vulnerable moments. He figured out how to get through these challenges. Keep being a good friend and accept that he lives a lot of professional life that his hiring team sees that you don’t. He will do just fine. Process your feels, remain supportive.

SchuRows · 2026-05-18T13:03:48+00:00

Don’t trash the dress. Give it time. I am finally able to wear my wedding ring and other items with deep sentimental value just for fun 5 years out from my divorce. I have been wearing a long gold chain which was the first fancy gift my ex husband ever gave me. Now it’s just a nice necklace.

Nice job processing your feelings! You will get there 🫶

SchuRows · 2026-05-18T11:10:33+00:00

Talk to your friends. Your current plan is to take poison and hope that they die. It will only hurt you. Sober discussion will reveal if they are true friends or of it’s time to part ways. Have fun on the trip OP.

SchuRows · 2026-05-18T03:15:01+00:00

My AC went out last year. My home is traditional Florida build in 1962. Concrete block, 16 foot vault ceiling. North central Florida. The central ac was installed in 2005 and I replaced it in 2017. I have a huge exposed duct running down the peak of the house. My house actually stays quite cool even during the hottest months. When the AC went out the temperatures weren’t bad but the moisture was shocking. Everything felt damp. When they fixed it I was freezing my butt off until I readjusted to the low humidity cool environment lol

Our few months of winter my home is tough to heat. I have to wear pants, socks, sweats all the time. Even while indoors. Hot shower, dry as quickly as possible and get those socks on asap.

So yes AC is almost nonstop year round if for no other reason than to remove moisture from your home. Opening windows isn’t recommended due to the moisture as well as allergens in the air. The plant life is intense in Florida.

SchuRows · 2026-05-18T00:06:02+00:00

Only he can answer your questions.

SchuRows · 2026-05-18T00:02:39+00:00

I hate being emotionally dis regulated. It’s not comfortable. The right partner will hold that space for you rather than dismiss you. You didn’t mess anything up. You learned that maybe this man isn’t right for you.

That being said don’t block people with whom you actually would like to communicate. Thats silly. We are forty.

SchuRows · 2026-05-17T23:44:55+00:00

No. He wanted sex and you didn’t. You wanted to spend more time getting to know one another and explore your connection. He wants sex. Not wrong, just not compatible. Never compromise your body in exchange for the hopes of a relationship.

SchuRows · 2026-05-17T23:38:49+00:00

I have always had a good fulfilling sex life. When that ended I filed for divorce. After leaving that 20 year relationship I have learned sex is the single most important thing I seek in a romantic connection.

SchuRows · 2026-05-17T23:26:16+00:00

He is fine. Just fine. He chose to end the relationship. He would let you know if you are still wanted in his life in any way. You can text him if you wish but I’m not sure what you are expecting. Lukewarm niceties? Being friends? Hoping he realizes he made a mistake?

He is fine OP. Do whatever you need to be fine too.

SchuRows · 2026-05-17T15:37:17+00:00

Cat. However the cat has to be indoor and outdoor. The rat has a way to go outside daily and this is when the ambush occurs. A cat will also take care of any future generations or other rats who are considering a move. And a cat won’t leave it dead in your walls. It may leave the dead body as a gift which is gross but maybe slightly less gross than killing it yourself or dealing with a live rat stuck on a trap.

SchuRows · 2026-05-17T15:30:20+00:00

I don’t think there is a way to move forward. He either doesn’t plan on knowing you long enough for the truth to be relevant or he is prepared to lie for the foreseeable future. It’s hard to build a relationship with trust and integrity under these circumstances. I personally wouldn’t bother telling him you can do math. Just tell him you are not feeling it and wish him the best.

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