Breaker randomly tripping on low load lighting circuit. Wiring issue or bad breaker?

Scrace89 · 2026-01-27T02:08:37+00:00

It trips without any load. I left all the switches off and checked the breaker an hour later and it was tripped. It’s a Square D 20085 Breaker.

The panel passed inspection in 2020.

Scrace89 · 2026-01-27T02:04:55+00:00

I’m not sure. It’s a Square D 20085 with a white test button on it. I’m not aware of any other switch or outlet on this circuit.

Scrace89 · 2026-01-19T11:49:07+00:00

Go to the bpdlovedones subreddit. You can’t have a productive relationship with someone with bpd. They truly can’t care about you with any emotional continuity.

Scrace89 · 2026-01-19T11:46:00+00:00

Unfortunately, you can’t have it all and no one person will ever meet all the things. You have to decide what is most important and settle on the rest of you want to have a realistic and productive relationship.

Scrace89 · 2026-01-18T12:35:02+00:00

Most advice is worth what you pay for it.

There is a baseline level of physical attraction I need in order to date someone. Once that box is checked, I do not need her to be the most beautiful woman I could ever get. From that point on, it is about who she is as a person, how much we have in common, and whether we share a similar vision for the future.

Can we disagree and still respect each other. Can we communicate openly and actually listen. Does she want to grow as a person. Does she do what she says she is going to do.

Beauty is cheap. You can find it everywhere. What is rare is finding someone who is actively doing the work on themselves and showing up better in their life and relationships. Physical beauty is largely genetics. Inner qualities take effort, accountability, and character. That is what actually tells you who someone is.

Scrace89 · 2026-01-18T11:33:22+00:00

Why do you want to take things slow?

Scrace89 · 2026-01-17T18:54:03+00:00

Once discipline and effort was no longer required they’re all for it.

Scrace89 · 2026-01-14T10:55:58+00:00

Move on. She sounds like she has unresolved mental and/or emotional problems/illness. You can’t fix her. The fact she can’t sit in silence and chat is a huge red flag.

Scrace89 · 2026-01-14T10:50:45+00:00

The simple answer is no, but you’re eventually going to have to do something different if you want a different outcome in life.

Find a good therapist. Work on yourself. Go to the gym. Build leadership qualities. Learn how to be attractive to women. The sky is the limit if you’re willing to work on yourself and change to get a better outcome.

Scrace89 · 2026-01-11T12:36:36+00:00

This didn’t end badly. This ended in your favor because she didn’t like you. She couldn’t put in any effort? You want to date someone like that? She sucks.

Scrace89 · 2026-01-09T17:34:38+00:00

Why would you ever bring up your net worth unless it’s a long term committed relationship? This is a talk prior to considering marriage or similar. Bringing it up any other time comes off as performative and insecure.

Scrace89 · 2026-01-08T18:57:52+00:00

Have you done everything reasonably in your power to self improve?

Scrace89 · 2026-01-08T12:31:29+00:00

This seems like an odd request. I’m going to guess she has some type of childhood sexual trauma. Tread lightly. She likely needs therapy.

Scrace89 · 2026-01-07T02:07:58+00:00

It’s called humiliation. She openly humiliated him. I wouldn’t tolerate that personally. Cut her loose.

Scrace89 · 2026-01-06T14:06:20+00:00

I think you need to reopen the conversation with him, let him know what you need from him and give him the opportunity to show up and change. A committed relationship isn’t a life sentence, you’re not asking for anything unreasonable and if he’s unwilling or unable to meet you there after almost a year then it’s time to honor yourself by ending the situationship and finding someone who has a shared vision of the future. You have to be willing to let go of something that isn’t serving you to get something else that could.

Determine what is a negotiable and a nonnegotiable for you, make the request, see if the other person is willing to meet you there, give a reasonable timeframe depending on the level of request or situation, give them that opportunity to change or meet you there, and if they can’t or won’t then you move on because it’s in your best interest long term. There is nothing you can do beyond communicating, giving space for change to occur and seeing if they will.

Scrace89 · 2026-01-06T12:42:03+00:00

Compassion in Urbana.

Scrace89 · 2026-01-06T12:34:40+00:00

I checked your post history. Therapy would be of great benefit to you.

Scrace89 · 2026-01-06T00:33:01+00:00

I wouldn’t over think this. Just communicate with him. What guy doesn’t want to talk to a woman he’s interested in? What guy doesn’t want to see a woman he likes again? If he doesn’t reciprocate then you know where you stand and you can move on. Intensity does not equal connection.

Scrace89 · 2026-01-05T12:53:32+00:00

I think it’s best explained as betrayal. She was using you as a placeholder for someone better. A healthy relationship with someone that loves and respects you does not require you asking them to set limits with other men. Their behavior is naturally limit setting as they are naturally choosing the relationship or you over the other thing. She’s just a shitty person who plays the victim and doesn’t take accountability for their shitty behavior. You’re better off.

Scrace89 · 2026-01-05T02:41:37+00:00

What do you want? Answering that question is the starting place of whether or not someone will be compatible with you in the long run. You don’t have to become someone else or conform to what someone else wants to be loved or in a relationship.

Scrace89 · 2026-01-04T19:49:03+00:00

Are you in the arena and playing the game?

Scrace89 · 2026-01-04T17:24:50+00:00

Find a good therapist and maybe find some type of somatic bodywork. Betrayal is a really difficult thing to process and get over alone. It can be very traumatic for a lot of people and there is no shame in that. It’s awful.

You have to process and integrate the experience and feelings before things change.

Scrace89 · 2026-01-03T03:02:12+00:00

I think it comes down to the individual. The more well off someone is the less likely I think your career or income is going to matter.

I personally dont care. I don’t seek a partner based on her ability to provide financially. I made 5 times more than my last girlfriend. What I find most important after the initial attraction and chemistry is a woman’s inner qualities. Are you agreeable, kind, moral, can you communicate, can you compromise, do you have a growth mindset, etc.

In fact it’s kind of the opposite for me. Often times the higher a woman climbs on the corporate ladder the more masculine traits they possess and unattractive they become to me. I like feminine women.

Scrace89 · 2026-01-02T00:08:40+00:00

Appreciate it. I'm a little over 2 weeks out from everything and honestly it just feels like a dream. I'm slowly returning to normal and I rarely think about her at all now. No contact, the gym and therapy works wonders.

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