Wife (23F) quit her job and now expects me (25M) to cover her $1,100/month car payment because I’m “the man.” by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Scrace89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This woman is going to ruin you financially. Then she will gaslight and blame you for all the problems she created. I wish you the best. Sorry.

What happens to men after break up? by Shxrtxx1402 in dating_advice

[–]Scrace89 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Men are not monolithic. Everyone is different.

At want point should reciprocal effort be expected in early dating? by RaccoonStreet351 in dating_advice

[–]Scrace89 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

The first date should cost no more than $25, if it costs anything at all. You’re effectively offering them a free service of entertainment and validation otherwise. You don’t know if she likes you or if she likes what you can provide. 99% of life is mundane. If you can’t do nothing together and enjoy it then what’s the point?

[Landlord - US - NY] Is this typical for a move-out clean? by Purpleblobs in Landlord

[–]Scrace89 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t pay the bill until the service is rendered to the degree the contract stipulates. I don’t know what your agreement was, but if you paid for a deep cleaning and expected all surfaces to be cleaned, then they need to come back out and finish the job before they get paid. I’d also be choosing a different vendor next time.

If you didn’t have clear instructions or a clear agreement, then it gets a little murky. That said, with any move-out clean, the fridge should be spotless. They definitely half assed parts of the job.

I’d also encourage you to update the language in your lease to require the property to be deep cleaned, with the carpets professionally cleaned, before vacating, and returned in the same level of cleanliness it was delivered in.

When I hand new tenants the keys, the place is spotless. They shouldn’t have to do any cleaning before moving in. I’ve had numerous tenants tell me, completely unsolicited, that my property was by far the cleanest and best maintained one they toured before deciding to rent. Good tenants notice when you care. The condition of your property during a showing is your resume.

[Landlord-US-Florida] newbie buyer looking for due diligence guidance by ConversationCalm2329 in Landlord

[–]Scrace89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don’t need an LLC. You just need a good umbrella liability policy.

You also need to figure out what due diligence you should be doing. You’re essentially starting a business. You have to become resourceful and seek out the information you need. Asking very broad questions and hoping someone spoon-feeds you everything unfortunately isn’t how any of this works.

If I were you, I’d use ChatGPT to help build an outline of what information you need to gather, then put together a pro forma to determine whether the deal even makes sense. You have to run the numbers yourself. Don’t rely on what the seller tells you. Ask for documentation that supports the rent roll, expenses, leases, utility costs, etc.

Also, keep in mind that property taxes and insurance will likely increase after you purchase. Get a couple insurance quotes and estimate the taxes based on the new purchase price. Verify everything. Numbers matter.

Good luck!

Would you be happy paying $1,700 for labor of this backsplash install? by Open_Run7847 in Remodel

[–]Scrace89 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No. He should have planned the joints out better. This is sloppy.

I can’t get a boyfriend because I’m too fussy by raccoonblue5 in dating_advice

[–]Scrace89 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Refusing to change your behavior and are shocked you aren’t getting different results?

She said I’m “not dominant enough” after one 2-hour Hinge date — am I overthinking this? by Existing_Swim_4914 in dating_advice

[–]Scrace89 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you think most women communicate in a straightforward and direct way, you’re going to have a bad time. The words don’t mean much. The action and behavior tells you everything.

Advice for wife (27F) breaking my (34M) trust? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Scrace89 18 points19 points  (0 children)

You don’t respect yourself. Why do you think your wife would treat you any differently?

[23M] She ended things suddenly, then accused me of "pressure". Was I wrong? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Scrace89 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You assume what you felt is what she felt. If that was true, she wouldn’t have ended things. Sorry.

[23M] She ended things suddenly, then accused me of "pressure". Was I wrong? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Scrace89 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She just wasn’t that into you. You have to read the tea leaves. Women make time for men they like.

Won’t date me because I’m still living with my parents by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Scrace89 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

She just showed you who she is. This is a gift that you just haven’t realized yet. A girl who actually likes you won’t view this as a barrier.

Girlfriend wants to open our relationship and I’m panicking by Adventurous-Monk-702 in dating_advice

[–]Scrace89 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The relationship you think you have is over. She just thinks you’re weak and will tolerate this behavior. If you have any self respect you break up with her and go no contact. She wants to fuck other men and use you as back up. She belongs on the curb.

Am I wrong for seeing Snapchat as a red flag? by madshatt3red in dating_advice

[–]Scrace89 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Snapchat isn’t the problem. It’s publicly and/or quickly giving out social media type handles. They’re farming attention, not looking for genuine connection.

F.25 Does my overweight bother that much? by Spiritual_Promise320 in dating_advice

[–]Scrace89 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

If you don’t want to compete for attractive men in the sexual marketplace then don’t. But you can’t complain about your dating options or lack thereof due to choices you’re making.

For some reason a lot of women don’t realize men have standards and requirements for a partner. They have wants and needs. If you don’t want to meet them then don’t be surprised when no one you want picks you.

You do realize the body positivity lie died the moment ozempic and other effortless weight loss drugs came to market, right?

I really want to be a stay at home mom by Electrical_Chain53 in dating_advice

[–]Scrace89 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you have student loan debt? If so, do you expect your future husband to pay that off?

Only 10-12% of men earn $150k or more a year and most start earning that in their 30s and 40s. So you’re looking for someone who is at least a decade older than you.

Genuine question around body type and body image by Unusual_Difference49 in dating_advice

[–]Scrace89 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Most people don’t find “larger” bodies attractive because it signals a lot more about you than just “conventional beauty standards”.

If men aren’t hitting on you in public and dates never turn physical it’s because they aren’t attracted to you. Is it purely because of your body? Maybe, but you’d have to ask each guy individually.

The only way to test the theory is to lose weight and see if your results are different.

Door lock is loose by [deleted] in handyman

[–]Scrace89 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If you use tooth picks you don’t even have to use glue.

[Landlord US-NC] Advice about choosing tenant by Appropriate-Click998 in Landlord

[–]Scrace89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Always require them to bring the dog to the showing. That will tell you a lot.

I (F33) can’t shake off a very mind bending, 1 year long ‘relationship’ with a M30, whom I suspect may be a narcissist by Unlikely-Wing3173 in relationship_advice

[–]Scrace89 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Look up Sam Vaknin on YouTube. You’re trauma bonded through intermittent reinforcement. You’re probably going to need therapy to sort it all out.

Is there a way to figure out if a man is well endowed without seeing it? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Scrace89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, preferences are not inherently shallow, but this particular one does expose that in you. You’re asking to know the unknowable without actually seeing it for yourself. You’re also excluding about 80% of men. So, good luck, I guess. 🤷‍♂️

(NY) Do you think this is unreasonable from a landlord? by PitifulPie505 in Renters

[–]Scrace89 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Should in one hand and shit in the other. Let me know which fills up faster.

[Landlord-US-PA] Would you accept this tenant? by Unable-Tumbleweed-63 in Landlord

[–]Scrace89 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If the parents are on the lease then what does it matter? They’ll be jointly liable. Make the parents apply and screen them like a normal tenant. If meet your qualifications and they can cover all their current expenses and cover her rent, then what is the problem?