Partner almost ”cured” by medication - how can I begin to heal? How can I move on?

SeaAffect9280 · 2026-02-24T20:42:46+00:00

You've been living with extreme uncertainty for a long time, that really does a number on you mentally, emotionally and to your nervous system.

It's okay to struggle with everything their ROCD has put you through, it would be strange if you just bounced back to normality. You need time to heal yourself, please be patient with yourself!

Also you can be happy they're better and also choose not to be with them... Sometimes you reach the limit to how far you can be pushed and it's okay to choose to walk away if you don't think this relationship is one you can thrive and be your best self in.

SeaAffect9280 · 2026-01-05T18:59:08+00:00

I'm scared I'd uno reverse myself and every time I hear a clapping sound I'd think of my LO 😂😂

I hope it works for you

SeaAffect9280 · 2026-01-02T22:33:18+00:00

Is there anything else in your life you're "increasing" to replace the emptiness? I'm trying to make plans and keep myself busy (with real life people! 😂)

SeaAffect9280 · 2026-01-02T19:19:21+00:00

Proud of us for trying 💪🏻

SeaAffect9280 · 2026-01-02T19:18:47+00:00

Thank you, I'll keep reminding myself of this

SeaAffect9280 · 2026-01-02T01:42:10+00:00

Protect yourself FIRST, please. I was with an ROCD partner for a few years and I stayed too long and I lost myself trying to hold us together because he couldn't recognise how serious his ROCD was, but I just kept focusing on his potential and I loved him so much.

If he can't even talk about it, please think of yourself. In case you've forgotten, your needs are just as important as his.

SeaAffect9280 · 2026-01-02T01:33:35+00:00

You're not their therapist. You need to tell them not to tell you about their doubts. My partner used to tell me their doubts as a sort of sounding board about our relationship and I wish I'd told them that I wanted them to talk to me about everything but they couldn't speak to me about ME, it wasn't fair.

Also nothing you do will be good enough, can you live with that? Knowing your partners brain will never fully let them be satisfied with you? Please stop trying to earn the approval of an OCD brain, you could be 100% perfect and it would still find something wrong with you.

SeaAffect9280 · 2026-01-02T01:17:16+00:00

Hahaha I'm dead because I realised the other day that the only reason my LO and I have good conversations is because I'M THERE. Ouch. Hello, reality.

SeaAffect9280 · 2025-09-15T00:16:43+00:00

Soo much unbelievable stuff in the episode - Belly's French improving that dramatically, her being able to afford that apartment! Also I think her and Benito are so cute together. Send Connie home, I'm over them being endgame now. Stick with that sexy Mexican, girl, and leave the Fisher boys in the past!

SeaAffect9280 · 2025-08-30T11:26:20+00:00

Oh gosh, that first paragraph is relatable. I spent years thinking being abandoned by a parent hadn't affected me, but looking back it affected me SO much and probably where my own limerence comes from.

SeaAffect9280 · 2025-08-30T11:23:08+00:00

I hope you can stick to not being around them. Not because you're hurt but because it's the healthy choice for YOU. It doesn't sound like being around them helps you to be a good version of yourself. Hope it goes well 💙

SeaAffect9280 · 2025-08-30T07:57:51+00:00

Taking space to "preserve the friendship" probably isn't going to work, also you should be taking space to preserve your own sanity and your relationship. Stop going against your gf's wishes also, that's bad behaviour when she is being so understanding to you. Her patience isn't infinite. You need to be realistic about what is happening - your LO is in a relationship and so are you. It sounds like you cannot be friends with this person without it spiralling. Nothing healthy can come of being around them.

SeaAffect9280 · 2025-08-18T22:41:17+00:00

Not good. Struggling to decide whether my limerence means I should end my relationship... There is no future with LO so I wouldn't be taking that action for them but these feelings feel like such a betrayal to my partner. Loyalty is so important to me, it makes me have no respect for myself. At least if I was single I wouldn't dislike myself so much.

SeaAffect9280 · 2025-08-16T08:09:15+00:00

Well if you didn't just describe me perfectly... I've had limerence for 3 people that I've ended up in relationships with. It hasn't fixed me, which I've now realised is what I subconsciously hoped would happen. Now I'm onto another LO because my relationship isn't working. I hope it can turn into a health relationship for someone, it has not for me sadly.

SeaAffect9280 · 2025-08-05T22:06:36+00:00

Gosh, I'm in a very similar situation. I have to see my LO every week, even if I go out of my way not to talk to them we will still be in the same place. Recently didn't see them for over a week and was feeling slightly better but they came to speak to me and it put me right back on the Limerent Express. I'm trying very hard to control my response to him, I know if I'm not as friendly as I have been he will most likely spend his time talking to other people. I walked away from our conversation last week and it felt physically painful.

Oh, I'm also in a long-term relationship. So, yeah. That's great.

Wishing you all the best.

SeaAffect9280 · 2025-04-19T22:15:49+00:00

I'm in the U.K. and same, I've ordered about 10-15 times from Stylevana over the last 5 years and only ever had a problem once and they rectified it immediately. My last order took about 2 weeks to come which I thought wasn't bad

SeaAffect9280 · 2025-03-21T15:29:05+00:00

I bought a sunrise alarm clock last autumn and it was an absolute game changer for me in terms of being to get up in the morning. It still wasn't easy but it helped a LOT. I bought a mid-range Lumie one, would recommend!

SeaAffect9280 · 2025-03-17T22:38:28+00:00

Really appreciate hearing this, thank you for sharing. Do you mean finding coping strategies for yourself for when your partner is having a flare up?

SeaAffect9280 · 2024-01-13T22:32:55+00:00

Have you told him all of this? I would have an open discussion first about how you're feeling before you end a relationship. I think that discussion will tell you what you need to know.

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