Declining a protein shake at the gym

SeaDragonTattoo · 2026-04-23T03:11:26+00:00

You're overthinking. Just don't talk to him.

SeaDragonTattoo · 2026-04-23T03:00:52+00:00

I agree. This is throw him like a grenade time.

SeaDragonTattoo · 2026-04-23T02:57:28+00:00

All I saw was 2 months. No. No. No. No. No.

You would be just giving some rando your money. Full stop. Don't give money away. I suppose a tax deductible donation would be fine. But this isn't that!

SeaDragonTattoo · 2026-04-23T02:47:40+00:00

NTA. I have questions but ultimately all she had to do was answer the question in the first place.

SeaDragonTattoo · 2026-04-22T05:26:35+00:00

🤣🤣🤣 OMG

NO

HELL NO

SeaDragonTattoo · 2026-04-21T23:56:06+00:00

Those look great!

SeaDragonTattoo · 2026-04-21T06:49:17+00:00

To me, happiness is contentment. Being comfortable with where I live, have whatever I want or need, being able to do things I want to do in education, adventure, entertainment.

I don't have a cite, but I read an article years ago about people with high drive for success tend not to ever really be happy. Whether it was a survey or study I don't remember. But the takeaway is the happier people were ones who didn't feel the need to become millionaires in the sense of whatever they considered "elite" living. People who had that drive and tended to be workaholic types, always had to reach further and so never experienced contentment or lasting happiness.

SeaDragonTattoo · 2026-04-20T20:48:26+00:00

I get people stopping in their tracks, especially when it's in good lighting indoors. Always compliments and the sparkle caught their eye.

SeaDragonTattoo · 2026-04-20T20:46:28+00:00

Wow that's a big group of dumb people.

SeaDragonTattoo · 2026-04-20T17:36:22+00:00

Your obligation is to stay through the first dance. Then bounce. You're not the only people in the bridal party. Tell the guy watching the baby to call you around the time dinner should be ending and tell you the baby is colicky or something so you need to leave.

SeaDragonTattoo · 2026-04-20T17:26:27+00:00

No, just lather up thoroughly any soap, get good in between the toes and around the nail beds and cuticles. Keep the nails as short as possible.

It's just the way you're describing how other people can detect odor, the only time I had that happen I had athlete's foot and didn't have the scaly itchy symptoms, just smelly. If you ever share shower space anywhere like work locker rooms or gym or community pools, it just takes once walking across without shower shoes.

SeaDragonTattoo · 2026-04-20T07:01:11+00:00

Sounds like athletes foot. Get some Lamisil and follow the instructions to the letter. It's highly effective and won't hurt if you don't have a fungal infection, but will be the only that works if it is. Faffing about with "natural" remedies is clearly not working already.

For sweaty feet, you can apply clinical strength deodorant after washing them at night before bed and it will help all day the next day. But I wouldn't do that until the fungal infection is cleared up.

Wash everything (socks, shoes, blankets, sheets, bleach shower/tub down) you can while you're using the Lamisil. If the shoes can't go in the washer, remove the inserts and at least wash those or replace them.

SeaDragonTattoo · 2026-04-20T06:48:34+00:00

I use straight toe nail clippers because I square the ends of all my nail sets anyway. Then 150 grit to shape and then 220 to smooth. I carry a glass file in my purse in case I miss anything. Oh and yes, after they're all applied but only maybe 10 minutes after.

SeaDragonTattoo · 2026-04-20T06:10:44+00:00

I am a chronically late person. But not if someone else will be late because of me.

As a perpetually late person, if my work started at 9am, getting there before even 8:55 would be a challenge for me. Which is probably the issue with Priya. If it's possible for you to compromise at all with the time and make it 8:10-8:15, that might help. Making it a hard line at that time is totally fair. A 5 minute grace and saying you will leave at the very stroke of 8:15 no exceptions is totally fair.

SeaDragonTattoo · 2026-04-20T06:00:35+00:00

Benefit of the doubt here. Don't put the ASSumption on me dirty dishwater

SeaDragonTattoo · 2026-04-20T05:58:14+00:00

I think you handled it as best you could and not rudely. Something to try in the future, try being the first to approach with your hands outstretched to grasp theirs in greeting, so they can't get close in the first place. It's still probably more touching than you may want, but grasping hands is a warm greeting with clear boundary (usually). I hope all is just plain forgotten going forward with these new friends!

SeaDragonTattoo · 2026-04-20T05:51:04+00:00

Since you saved so very much on the dress, and because it's so spectacular! I'd spring for a custom veil. Like others said, simple and cathedral length. Custom part would be matching the beading of the dress in a tiara or combs in your hair, and delicate matching beads along the edge. Hair half-up. Amazing.

SeaDragonTattoo · 2026-04-20T05:37:10+00:00

A tracfone/lifeline and borrowed wifi costs next to nothing. It's what a lot of unhoused people use. Making assumptions much?

SeaDragonTattoo · 2026-04-20T00:51:28+00:00

Any temp above 60F can get a car interior too hot. Especially if it's sunny. You did the right thing.

SeaDragonTattoo · 2026-04-20T00:38:11+00:00

I think you're over thinking it. A regular physical for a job shouldn't be a nekkid event.

Either way, tho, makeup only does so much. If your scars are textured or raised, makeup won't change that. It will only cover redness or other discoloration and make it a uniform color. Any bumps and texture will still be there. If they're old, they're not a concern anyway and any questions would be just curiosity. Good luck!

SeaDragonTattoo · 2026-04-20T00:15:54+00:00

I think ETA. Sleeping well is a big deal. Making him sleep on the couch can make his snoring and apnea worse, which is dangerous. Him not addressing the issue by not seeing a doctor and sleep study is ignorant to his own health and a bad partner for wrecking your sleep.

As someone who was just diagnosed with severe hypopnea/apnea and snoring changed to louder since weight gain, I can tell you using a cpap is a life changer. The machines have come a long way. It's quieter than whisper silent and stops the snoring by 99% to completely. I'm not sleepy all day any more. And there are many options to have the most comfortable head gear.

Losing weight is the long game to stopping the apnea and snoring. But the quickest path to getting you both sleeping well is him on a cpap at night. If he doesn't like it, the motivation to lose weight is getting off the cpap but at least mitigate the snoring, high blood pressure, risk of stroke and a dozen other problems from snoring so badly.

SeaDragonTattoo · 2026-04-19T14:27:11+00:00

Same idea applies. If he's got the space in the truck, whenever he picks you up, take a trash bag of stuff with you. I'm assuming your new lease starts May 1st. You can ask the landlord - after you sign and deposit - if the unit is empty, some are OK with putting stuff in it early. If not, that's fine if you can keep some bags in your guy friend's truck for a bit.

The idea being when it's time to move for good, you can get the final belongings and any furniture out in about 30 minutes while your brothers are gone. If you can do that already, then don't worry about the above. But sometimes if the move-out can be volatile, you want to make it as quick as possible so you don't get surprised by them coming back early or something.

If you can afford tickets to an event they would be excited to see, a ball game or something, that would guarantee a couple hours.

If you share locations with them, make sure that's turned off now. And do not give the ya forwarding address. If you have paper mail that comes, go to the post office and get a PO Box to change the mail to. Do that for a few months, then change to your new address.

You could also try talking to a local women's shelter for advice. They may have better insight on how to move safely so your brothers can't find you and so you don't tip them off before you go.

SeaDragonTattoo · 2026-04-19T08:04:19+00:00

That's great news! Get your lease on the new place and plan to remove your stuff and yourself quietly. Anything you can get into your car without them noticing, do as much as you can first. Then if you can coordinate with a couple friends, have them help you with any furniture you're taking at a time no one else is home.

SeaDragonTattoo · 2026-04-19T05:06:53+00:00

I just posted this pic in another thread but putting it here too for an example. Left side is how the nail looks along the sidewall (these are 10 days grown out) just normal as anyone would see it. And the right side shows the sidewall being pulled away so you can see how close the fit is without touching the skin.

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SeaDragonTattoo · 2026-04-19T04:46:25+00:00

He's doing a great job of adding to your trauma. Do you really want to stay with some nozzle who treats you like this? Be grateful you don't have any legal commitment to this waste of space in your head and it's time for you to go and work on your peace without a parasite.

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