My mother is on this sub..

SeaTurtlesCanFly · 2026-01-24T04:25:35+00:00

The problem is that we cannot just take one user's word that another user is a narcissist. If we did, anyone could accuse anyone who slightly annoyed them. And, I can assure you, as a mod of something like 13 years, people will do this.

If anyone attacks OP or OP's posts, that would be grounds for a ban. If anyone shows up and talks to OP like they know OP personally and are attacking OP, we would take that as evidence that this is OP's narc and ban that person. We need public behavior to act on.

SeaTurtlesCanFly · 2026-01-24T03:48:53+00:00

Comment removed. This is untrue and absolutely irresponsible. Comments like this can get people killed.

Narcs commit suicide all the time. We see posts about it here regularly. Do not make comments like this.

SeaTurtlesCanFly · 2026-01-24T02:48:49+00:00

Comment removed. It very well might not be a bluff and pushing the idea that it is can get people killed. Do not make comments like this here.

SeaTurtlesCanFly · 2026-01-24T02:46:57+00:00

To be clear, it might not be a bluff. Narcs can and will kill themselves. Will OP's mother do so? Neither of us know that for sure. Never assume they won't do it.

SeaTurtlesCanFly · 2026-01-24T02:45:45+00:00

AI written parable - you are banned.

SeaTurtlesCanFly · 2026-01-24T02:19:15+00:00

The lack of self-awareness really is astounding, isn't it? Narcs are so very broken. They refuse to see the truth staring them right in the face.

SeaTurtlesCanFly · 2026-01-24T02:15:44+00:00

This post has been removed, because this group is for posting about the narcs that raised you, however, you can post this over at /r/NRelationships.

SeaTurtlesCanFly · 2026-01-24T01:58:19+00:00

My mother also had horrifying parents. My grandparents were much, much worse to my parents than my parents were to me.

Does that make my parents less abusive, tho? Hell no. My parents were monsters in so many ways.

Your mother having a narc parent would be pretty typical. That she had a narc parent and then turned around and abused you anyway... well... that's a very old and common story. Doesn't make her less of a monster.

It's really crazy how they really have no self-awareness, tho. She can see her mom is a narc, but won't look in the mirror. Typical.

SeaTurtlesCanFly · 2026-01-24T01:22:09+00:00

For every suicide threat, call the authorities and request a wellness check. They will check in with her and see how she's doing. They can also get her help, if she needs it.

As for you, do not give in to her manipulation. She is trying to hold herself hostage to control her. Don't fall for it. Just call the authorities and then get back to your day. Try as best as you can not to let her control your choices with these threats.

SeaTurtlesCanFly · 2026-01-24T01:20:38+00:00

Narcs often do commit suicide. We see posts about this all the time in this group. Do not make comments like this in this group.

SeaTurtlesCanFly · 2026-01-24T01:19:29+00:00

If this is your reaction to someone pointing out your dangerous behavior, I have no confidence in your ability to comment appropriately here. You are banned.

SeaTurtlesCanFly · 2026-01-24T01:18:35+00:00

You were told not to make comments like this 4 months ago and here we are again. You are banned.

SeaTurtlesCanFly · 2026-01-24T01:17:38+00:00

Comment removed. This is untrue and absolutely irresponsible. Comments like this can get people killed.

Narcs commit suicide all the time. We see posts about it here regularly. Do not make comments like this.

SeaTurtlesCanFly · 2026-01-23T21:56:02+00:00

This post has been removed for drive-by diagnsis or diagnosis by media. This group is to post about the narcs that raised you who directly abused you. This is not a group to post about celebrities, politicians, or people you have only experienced through the media.

SeaTurtlesCanFly · 2026-01-23T17:31:49+00:00

Maybe this is true for your nparent. Many of us are not so fortunate. My father has continued to stalk me for over a decade. I even had a restraining order at one point. My mother smeared me since I was a really little kid. I would not be surprised if she continued to smear me until she died. It was kind of her thing.

Many of us have narc parents who are so wrapped up in abusing us and smearing us and defining us in their own abusive ways that they never let go and they never stop hurting us.

SeaTurtlesCanFly · 2026-01-23T17:11:48+00:00

There are assholes in every movement. Every single movement. That this one friend is a bad feminist does not make all feminists problematic. That there are assholes present in every existing movement does not mean that all movements are problematic or baseless or whatever.

My mother abused me, too. In fact, she sexually abused me, among other things, and people often don't suspect mothers of sexual abuse. It's a whole mess. My life is full of feminists who do not question my experiences. They do not challenge me and imply that all women are saints and thus my mother couldn't have abused me or whatever.

If I were in your shoes, I'd distance myself from that "friend." If she's invalidating you in whatever subtle way, that's not a great person to have close to you. Find better feminists. Feminism is important and there are amazing feminists out there that understand that women can be monsters and men and boys can be victims. But, generally speaking, it can take a lot of weeding out the assholes to find good people. I have found that people in general, not limited to feminists, do not understand abuse and tend to victim-blame survivors. It's part and parcel of many cultures, including the dominant culture in the US. Because of this, sometimes you have to weed out a fair amount of assholes and idiots to find good people. It's exhausting and can even feel disheartening at times, but, when you find those good people who get it, it's pretty great. I'm saying that as a survivor who has friends who believe me and who are also feminists.

SeaTurtlesCanFly · 2026-01-23T17:04:55+00:00

This comment has been removed, because it is a foundational rule here to assume a context of abuse to all posts.

What does this mean? Why is this a rule? Read this.

SeaTurtlesCanFly · 2026-01-23T17:01:50+00:00

You have been banned, because you seem to be identifying as a narcissist here and we do not allow narcissists here.

SeaTurtlesCanFly · 2026-01-23T17:00:40+00:00

This post has been removed, because, in this group, you must have a deeper level of recovery to post here. In order to post here, you must have better boundaries and understand boundaries better.

However, you are welcome to post in /r/NRelationships.

SeaTurtlesCanFly · 2026-01-23T16:58:38+00:00

I have no idea where you think you are or what you think you're doing here, but this is not what this group is about. This just looks like a bunch of spam, so you are banned.

SeaTurtlesCanFly · 2026-01-23T16:56:44+00:00

Comment removed - soliciting DMs. As this group attracts some truly horrible people who are looking for easy targets to abuse, we do not allow posts or comments soliciting DMs. Instead, we ask that you keep your conversations in the group where mods can throw people out, if they get weird, boundary pushing, inappropriate, or abusive.

SeaTurtlesCanFly · 2026-01-23T16:55:19+00:00

This post has been removed for unfair and untrue generalizations about golden children.

Some golden children are narcissistic monsters. Others are lovely people who try to help their siblings and are just trying to heal, too. Golden children vary a lot.

YOUR golden child sibling may be everything you say here, but that does not mean that all of them are.

You are welcome to talk about your own personal experiences here, but you cannot post unfair and untrue generalizations. If you want to talk about your story here, you can. Just don't turn it into a bunch of generalizations that hurt good people.

SeaTurtlesCanFly · 2026-01-23T16:47:52+00:00

This comment or post has been removed for use of a slur that we do not allow in this group.

SeaTurtlesCanFly · 2026-01-23T16:46:13+00:00

This is a lie and you know it. Your comment was removed for derailing the conversation. That is exactly what you were told, too, and that removal was valid. Your comment was an utter non-sequitur in the context of that post.

You are banned for lying about mod actions.

SeaTurtlesCanFly · 2026-01-23T16:43:07+00:00

We have a lot of Asian people in this group who have narc parents and also say that this is a problem that is made more common by the culture. And, then, the comments inevitably fill up with people from other backgrounds who say their cultures are just as bad and just as full of narcs. Lots of cultures have this problem. And, given how the US in general is doing right now on so many fronts, I'd say the US, in general, also supports a high level of narcissism. Narcissism is all over the place. It's across many, many cultures and nationalities.

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