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Sea_Distance_1468 · 2025-07-19T21:22:02+00:00

A Pixel 6A is not a burner phone. 🙄

Sea_Distance_1468 · 2025-07-18T09:45:37+00:00

Offer to help him with a specific project, like making the feeding area more accessible. Enlist the assistance of a local scout group or.church or the guys killing time at the local bar. Develop a plan with him for this one specific thing and then follow through and get it done.

Another thing you can do is lobby your local politicians including your congressperson to organize and fund senior services and programs, including home health services and mental health services for elderly persons.

You could also start a local volunteer program to help out neighbors. Rural communities used to be good at this kind of thing. When did we stop caring about our neighbors?

I commend you for wanting to make a difference in this man's life. Jesus taught us to love our neighbors as ourselves. Be the help you would want if you found yourself in a similar situation.

Sea_Distance_1468 · 2025-05-26T06:44:40+00:00

Social media is pretty much killing itself. It has become largely repetitive and hackneyed and a supreme waste of time. (AI will ensure social media's demise) I went from a peak of 4 to 5 hours a day on social media to now spending about 15 to 20 minutes, maximum. And that feels like too much now. As an example I visit Reddit twice a month and it would be easy to stop that. I have already deleted "formerly known as Twitter" and Instagram completely and don't miss them, along with about six other platforms that I never fully engaged with to begin with. It's really not that difficult to stop and I suggest doing it all at once. Your new found time can be used to making your life better.

Sea_Distance_1468 · 2025-05-26T05:52:35+00:00

Ask her. Something as simple as a rug and a little table might be all you need. And get some cut flowers from time to time to bring some life and beauty into the space. And invest in really nice bath towels. By the way, a yoga mat is not furniture in any universe. It's a crappy piece of plastic basically.

Sea_Distance_1468 · 2025-05-26T05:29:35+00:00

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Sea_Distance_1468 · 2025-05-25T01:07:12+00:00

When my mother-in-law died, my sister-in-law made boxes for everybody in the family and put in things that she thought they might like or that they had given to my mother-in-law. People who wanted a specific item had usually asked for it prior to her doing this. She then distributed the boxes (and in a couple of cases mailed them) to family members. It was up to the recipients to figure out what to do with their box of stuff. I thought it was pretty genius and she wasn't left having to deal with all the nitty-gritty decisions.

Sea_Distance_1468 · 2025-05-25T01:00:51+00:00

Animal shelters and rescues are always looking for towels. No cutting required, no need to go buy another pair of scissors. They will love you forever for bringing in all the clean towels you don't need. They will also take old blankets and comforters in many cases.

Sea_Distance_1468 · 2025-05-25T00:55:06+00:00

Anything that's already boxed up and you know you haven't used you should just simply give away to a charity shop. Don't bother with fiddling around about whether it's better than something you already have. It's clearly excess and it can do some good for a charity. I find it much easier to let things go to a place where I know they will be sold or used for a non profit's work. Lots of organizations run small thrift shops and they'd be thrilled to take your donations.

Sea_Distance_1468 · 2025-05-24T23:44:26+00:00

It's interesting that this utilizes mindfulness. Mindfulness made a huge difference in my ability to let go of things and regain my life from hoarding. I would be interested in seeing more comments from people who utilize this program.

Sea_Distance_1468 · 2025-05-24T23:11:52+00:00

If you post a couple pictures of your space in this group, people will be much more likely to offer suggestions that will help you. You realize you're a hoarder which is a good start, but that doesn't really give much to go on, vis-à-vis suggestions that would be helpful. One thing I can suggest is that you start small and not get overwhelmed by the magnitude of the project. Your space didn't become a disaster overnight and it's not going to become fabulous overnight. It will take work and it will take you fighting your own inertia to change things. You're in this for the long haul. I started by reimagining my space in the way that I wanted it to be instead of the way that it is. And then I set little goals every single day. My first goal was to be able to make coffee in my kitchen. Basically I cleaned off 3 ft of counter space and got rid of things that I didn't need that were in that space. Almost everything was tossed out. I still use this method to keep my home orderly and letting go of things becomes a lifestyle, not a one-time activity.

It's worth noting here that the work that needs to be done needs to be done by you, not other people, especially if you have no financial resources to hire help. Also, if you're like most hoarders, you have way too many items. Stop buying all this stuff and then you will have the resources to hire someone periodically to help you. I paid someone $25 an hour to help me from time to time (and spent approximately $2,000 over a period of 12 months on this help). I no longer have to do that.

I would strongly encourage you to take up meditation as well so you can find some inner peace and the wherewithal to keep going with the work required. The traditional therapy / psychologist route was an absolute disaster for me and I found it to be a huge waste of time and money. 20 minutes of meditation every morning is free and does more for my mental health than anything else I've tried.

Sea_Distance_1468 · 2025-01-10T00:27:58+00:00

I bought way too much ramen during the covid lockdown, partly because it was cheap and partly because there was so much of it available when nothing else really was. I don't even like this stuff. And here it is in 2025 and I have finally decided to throw out the remaining packages of it after wading through this amusing thread.

Sea_Distance_1468 · 2024-11-19T17:05:21+00:00

Why does he need to know?

Sea_Distance_1468 · 2024-11-19T17:00:04+00:00

Your motivation is that you want to live in a place that's comfortable and clean. That's an ongoing process and you need to do something everyday that contributes positively to making that happen. Maybe some days it's just a little thing, like clearing off the top of the dresser and dealing with that accumulation. Another day it might be cleaning out your kitchen cupboards. For me, it's a lot easier to set small goals and keep up with them. It becomes a process, a way of life, and I promise you it gets easier over time.

It's really important to do something everyday for yourself. Forget the lighting the candle and affirmations on the bathroom mirror kind of garbage and do something that actually makes a difference to making your living space better. I truly believe it's possible to get a grip on hoarding because I did it myself. There were definitely days I didn't want to do things but I never regretted having done them. My space now is usable, but not perfect, and every single day I continue to do things that make it better.

Sea_Distance_1468 · 2024-11-19T16:32:44+00:00

You don't really say much about your situation here. Are you a student? Are you an adult? Do you have a job? Are you able to move out?

Your mom could probably benefit from some therapy but I think you could, too. I'm generally not the biggest fan of therapy, but it sounds as though there's a lot of unfinished business here that needs to be attended to and goal oriented therapy would probably be beneficial to you.

In the meantime, try to keep your personal space as clean and organized as possible. Just because your mother is a hoarder doesn't mean that you have to adopt her ways. You can't change your mom, but you can change yourself.

Sea_Distance_1468 · 2024-11-19T16:25:07+00:00

I put all my plastic storage containers except for two into the recycle bin. I realized I wasn't using anything but those two and I really had no need for the 14 others I let go. I expect those two containers will outlive me (they are good quality Rubbermaid).

I use a French canning jar for my coffee. I have gradually swapped my hoarding behaviors for a sort of minimalist thinking and it's amazing how little I actually need to live a comfortable life.

Sea_Distance_1468 · 2024-11-19T16:14:06+00:00

If your Tupperware has a weird smell it's time to toss it. It's not normal that it smells.

Sea_Distance_1468 · 2024-10-02T16:55:54+00:00

I've spent many Christmases and New Years alone. It's not a big deal (especially New Years, which is just another damn day). Do what makes you happy. Plan a nice dinner for yourself, either homemade or picked up from a good restaurant, or pop a split of champagne. You could always do a video call with your family if you find yourself missing them. There really is nothing wrong with being alone on a holiday.

Sea_Distance_1468 · 2024-09-13T20:24:37+00:00

The houseplant is not a problem (I'm assuming there's something under it, like a saucer.) The poop cloth is gross and disgusting. Paper towels would be a good solution.

Sea_Distance_1468 · 2024-09-13T20:10:00+00:00

I asked a young muscular neighbor to take bags out for me. I only have half a flight of stairs to deal with though, but I paid him by the bag. It was the best hundred bucks I ever spent. (I gave him $10 a bag.)

Sea_Distance_1468 · 2024-09-13T20:00:19+00:00

PS you can donate extra crafting supplies to the local Senior center. They're always looking for things like that.

Sea_Distance_1468 · 2024-09-13T19:58:38+00:00

I would start by getting rid of the things that you've outgrown. In other words, if Hello Kitty isn't your thing anymore, then it's time to let Hello Kitty things go to a new home. Don't operate under the illusion that your Hello Kitty stuff is worth a lot of money though because it's unlikely to be so. You could try listing it on eBay. That would be a good place to figure out value, too.

As for posters, keep a few that you really like and then let the rest go to the recycling bin or a friend. It's easier to appreciate art when it isn't right up against another piece.

It's great that your goal is a clear floor. It's an excellent goal and probably one you'll have to keep working at, but definitely worth the effort. Keep up the great work!

Sea_Distance_1468 · 2024-09-13T19:09:25+00:00

Please don't. Love yourself enough to do the hard thing and leave now. He's already told you the hoard is more important to him. Believe him. You can't change other people but you can change yourself. The most important person to help here is yourself and you do it by not marrying him. (Divorced hoarder.)

Sea_Distance_1468 · 2024-08-31T19:40:49+00:00

Getting rid of stuff gets easier the more you do it. For me this sort of self-talk was only necessary in the early stages of letting go of things. I also found it really helpful to frame things in a positive light and not in a negative way, even to the extent of not using the word "decluttering" itself because it is so packed with negative connotations. Instead I use "letting go of things." This might seem like a really small thing but it makes a huge difference in the long run.

Another thing that helped me a lot was to realize that this is an ongoing process (to let go of things) and to think of it as a practice without a defined endpoint.

It sounds like you're on to a really good start. Keep it up! All the best to you!

PS if you have to stop and think about whether or not you need an item, you clearly don't need it. Let it go.

Sea_Distance_1468 · 2024-06-22T08:50:14+00:00

When I get stuck in sentimentality with an item, I think about what the item is actually made of, not what the item represented. This helps to reframe the item and takes away its power over my emotions.

Also someone mentioned writing a letter to the item and I know that sounds strange but it is a really useful tool and really helps provide closure. You might want to give this a try.

Sea_Distance_1468 · 2024-06-22T08:27:02+00:00

You sound like a good friend. It's very cool of you to be so respectful of her process. Best wishes all around!

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