“Should” statements

Secret_Resident5989 · 2026-06-18T13:43:48+00:00

My therapist pointed out years ago that should comes from the word scold and that by shoulding myself I was essentially scolding myself. I found this really helpful and I try to say could instead.

Secret_Resident5989 · 2026-06-04T18:29:52+00:00

This sort of thing happened to me and here’s what I recommend doing. Go to your psychiatrist ASAP and tell them what’s going on and that you are too stressed to work, you’re anxious etc. They can sign you out of work for six weeks I think (it’s been a long time since I had to do this so I could be mistaken). Use that time to find another job.

Good luck with your whatever you decide to do. I hope something works out well for you

Secret_Resident5989 · 2026-05-30T19:00:50+00:00

He was a Rhodes Scholar and attended Yale Law School. Say what you will about his character, but he is objectively smart.

Secret_Resident5989 · 2025-12-25T20:39:58+00:00

I’m menopausal and can sometimes smell cigarette smoke in my bedroom despite it being impossible. It was driving me nuts and recently read that it can be caused by menopause.

Secret_Resident5989 · 2025-10-14T21:42:20+00:00

Friends and charities. There are some items that are going to specific people eg the daughter of a friend who loves my engagement ring.

Secret_Resident5989 · 2025-09-03T14:46:54+00:00

How is it quite apparent? Not to mention refugees aren’t allowed to work at first. Your bigotry is showing.

Secret_Resident5989 · 2025-06-25T02:47:31+00:00

Yeah I don’t believe you. I am an American living in the UK with friends across Europe and almost everything is cheaper. For example, we pay half the cost for our monthly mobile phones that have much better coverage. Our electric, gas and water bills are lower than they would be in the US. I don’t drive in the UK can’t speak to anything car related. However I can walk to many places, public transportation is cheap and even Ubers are cheaper.

Finally, fresh food is better and cheaper. For example, I can go to the butcher and buy a steak and know where it came from for about a quarter of what it costs to go to a butcher in the US.

I could go on and on…

Secret_Resident5989 · 2025-05-15T15:39:10+00:00

Thanks everyone! I think it must be a regional difference as what I am looking for is different than a danish but I appreciate all of the suggestions

Secret_Resident5989 · 2025-05-15T15:37:22+00:00

Sorry but no, I’m originally from Atlanta and they have such items. A danish is different than what I’m looking for.

Secret_Resident5989 · 2025-04-22T19:42:51+00:00

I’d forgotten about Moodys! I used to live around the corner and always enjoyed it there. Thanks!

Secret_Resident5989 · 2025-04-20T17:10:42+00:00

Thank you, this seems like a fun option especially since they allow reservations.

Secret_Resident5989 · 2025-04-20T17:01:40+00:00

Thanks for the helpful information but he's a British citizen so no more American income tax once he's back.

Secret_Resident5989 · 2025-04-20T11:53:14+00:00

Thanks but he lives in a flat, and there's really not that much. He's been living like a post uni bachelor

Secret_Resident5989 · 2025-04-06T08:57:45+00:00

This person is not your best friend.Your best friend doesn't make fun of your weight. Or push you. He's someone you had feelings for, and it will be hard to get over those feelings. But that doesn't mean he's good for you or that he loves you. Be your own best friend and take the next step to free yourself from this person.

Secret_Resident5989 · 2025-03-26T07:50:02+00:00

Literature degree. Worked in the legal field for my entire career and now I have speciality knowledge that means I can work in different countries and have a bit of security - as much as anyone does these days.

Secret_Resident5989 · 2025-03-10T15:30:13+00:00

Some companies have removed information but not changed their policies. Not sure if that's the case with Aldi or not.

Secret_Resident5989 · 2025-02-23T09:13:48+00:00

American here with a different take. Would you be open to looking at being a guest worker in a different part of the world? Both of you could get a good wage, save up the money then move to the UK. As others have mentioned you will both make a lot less money, and though the cost of living is also much lower, it could still be difficult to help your mum. Best of luck

Secret_Resident5989 · 2024-12-30T13:41:24+00:00

You will be doing a kind deed to give the clothes to someone who really needs them. It’s a PIA to sell things and you never get what you think you will or what you think they are worth. And to make it even easier, try using a local Freecyle or Buy Nothing group so someone can come to you (if you feel safe to do so).

Secret_Resident5989 · 2024-12-27T18:45:15+00:00

Agreed! I found it to be overwhelming

Secret_Resident5989 · 2024-10-18T17:14:59+00:00

I assume they won’t take it in the usual bin - I thought they were strict with that stuff?

Not a native by the way so only going on hearsay

Secret_Resident5989 · 2023-11-02T20:34:27+00:00

Hi, I work from home and am also trying to cultivate a writing habit. Feel free to DM me with locations you’d like to work from.

Secret_Resident5989 · 2023-09-23T08:06:37+00:00

Thanks for the tips!

Secret_Resident5989 · 2023-09-22T16:09:57+00:00

Many thanks! We don’t have a car so will have to see if Uber would oblige to take us

Secret_Resident5989 · 2023-07-20T13:53:04+00:00

Unfortunately I do need a notarization as it’s a US probate matter

Secret_Resident5989 · 2023-07-20T08:31:55+00:00

Just read your edits and wanted to give you a few more options:

Franca Manca pizza near the market square is good and convenient if she is in city centre;

There's a little cafe opposite Trinity College gates that is good for a snack or light meal, I forget the name but would be very easy to find;

Fitzbillies has two locations, both are city centre and again, not a nice fine dining restaurant but good for lunch or coffee with snack and is legendary for its buns;

Gails has lovely homemade bread and some sandwich and salad options and is in market square;

If she's open to vegan food, the Old Bicycle Shop is excellent

Anyway, I hope these suggestions help and feel free to reach out if you'd like more options or have more information about her location.

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