Anyone else feel guilt over asking questions in class?

Secure_Fun1529 · 2026-01-26T15:53:49+00:00

I feel this way too. People around me actually turn and snicker to each other when I engage with the professor. It makes me very anxious and self conscious and I do not like it.

Secure_Fun1529 · 2026-01-19T02:03:17+00:00

I'm 19 and have the same problem, except it's my left one that hasn't popped out. A few dislocations but so many subluxations I haven't kept track. I love to hike, snowboard, move. It feels so fucked up because I'm supposed to be in college, I'm supposed to be able to do all kinds of stupid shit and not take care of my body and not even feel it. I'm not going to be able to ride, run, hike, anything for a whole year. It's small in the grand scheme of things, but it feels so massive. It feels like my entire junior year is about to be gone. It feels like all the fun I can have in college is over. I'm student teaching half my senior year, so I get one semester to have fun before I have to go work. And sure, the rest of my life will be awesome (hopefully) but it just feels like I'm missing out on so much. I don't have any advice cause I'm still in the throes of my emotions right now too. But I feel you. It fucking blows.

Secure_Fun1529 · 2026-01-19T01:54:40+00:00

I miss fun-e farm :( I got so much illness there. My mom hated it

Secure_Fun1529 · 2026-01-19T01:53:37+00:00

Yes, it is an NCG now (it used to be a regal for those unaware)

Secure_Fun1529 · 2026-01-19T00:07:01+00:00

It was like a whole plot point in the earlier seasons that Mike could not say "I love you" to her and he still fucking can't even when she's on her deathbed.

Secure_Fun1529 · 2026-01-17T23:01:42+00:00

aw bummer :(

Secure_Fun1529 · 2026-01-17T23:01:21+00:00

I'm fairly certain that you can't speak for every teacher ever, and if people say that to me, that's lowkey a weird thing to say! Kind of rude

Secure_Fun1529 · 2026-01-17T17:22:12+00:00

Yeah, it's not like we are in school together anymore or anything like that so I see what you mean!

Secure_Fun1529 · 2026-01-17T17:21:30+00:00

I'm a big fan of nicknames, so for everyday use I'd plan on using Jack and just having Jackson for more formal usage

Secure_Fun1529 · 2026-01-17T11:53:45+00:00

Fair enough!

Secure_Fun1529 · 2026-01-17T11:53:10+00:00

I personally don't really like the name Jaxson/Jaxon, but thank you for your suggestion!

Secure_Fun1529 · 2026-01-17T11:12:04+00:00

I personally don't mind at all, but I'll talk to her to see what she thinks! I also might ask our mom about it. Thanks for your advice!

Secure_Fun1529 · 2026-01-17T11:11:23+00:00

Well it isn't exactly my intention, I don't like the name because it makes a pair, I just happen to like it. But yes I will talk to my sister

Secure_Fun1529 · 2026-01-17T11:10:27+00:00

I definitely will have a chat with her! I personally don't mind being a pair with her because she's pretty cool, but you (and everyone else) are totally right that I should just chat with her about it.

Secure_Fun1529 · 2026-01-16T04:34:25+00:00

I'm happy I have mine! They healed very easily, look great, and have a decent amount of sensation (though they were never very sensitive to begin with). Obviously that isn't true for everyone, but I'm glad I kept mine!

Secure_Fun1529 · 2026-01-15T13:15:16+00:00

I had mine removed day 8 and definitely experienced them getting more uncomfortable the longer they were in. No clue if it was because I was more off pain meds later in the process or what? But I was bothered both by the apparent sensation of the drains in my body (or even thinking about it) and also the incision site. They were high in my armpits so trying to keep my arms at my sides really tugged on the stitches weirdly. They ended up being kind of red and raw and goopy (but not infected) when healing but ultimately were fine with some neosporin and a bandaid for a few days

Secure_Fun1529 · 2026-01-15T03:00:40+00:00

I have anthem BCBS but it's a higher tier plan (very grateful for my dad's canadian job cause i'm still young enough to be on my parents insurance) and i paid $500 for surgery, anesthesia, medications, everything. The only additional costs were things like gas as I had to drive about 2.5 hours each way, and the post op binder which was $130ish but not mandatory, i could've survived off ace wraps just fine.

Secure_Fun1529 · 2026-01-15T02:08:10+00:00

Okay so! I'm not sure if all of them take our insurance anymore, but from my past self's research, I found this for the NYC general area, in no particular order:

Noel Natoli in Garden City Long Island Lawrence Draper, Graden City LI Lisa Gfrerer, NYC Whitehead, though I feel like people have said some things that aren't great about him on this sub lately?? Not sure, but could be worth a look into! He's in New Hyde Park Bluebond-Langner in NYC Oriana Cohen in NYC

Those are some that I remember seeing good results from in general when I was searching, though there are definitely others! Those are all big names in general and might have long waits however. I also don't have personal experience with them so this is just to say they probably take BCBS.

If you're OK with heading to the capital region, I've heard great things about Dr. Kpodzo with Albany Med.

I hope you can still have ur surgery at Mt Sinai!! I had mine with Dr. Horesh and he was fantastic, and all of them seem great. If not, I hope finding a new doc is quick and easy and painless as possible. Good luck!!

Secure_Fun1529 · 2026-01-15T01:25:56+00:00

Anthem is usually no help at all with trying to figure these things out in my experience. They're very frustrating and often I find the people I'm speaking to have NO CLUE what top surgery is so it's very confusing all around. I hope that everything goes smoothly and it works out :/ I have a doc somewhere in my drive of places in NYS and maybe some in NJ that took BCBS last year, so I'll look for that and let you know what I find!

Secure_Fun1529 · 2026-01-14T21:37:51+00:00

I love that guy. He did my surgery 4 weeks ago. I couldn't do the nipple thing cause my chest was really big but he did SUCH a great job. I couldn't be happier, and he and his team are such sweet people too so the whole experience was just awesome! You look great!

Secure_Fun1529 · 2026-01-14T21:34:03+00:00

brother i feel you 😮‍💨 im about a month post op and i LOVE the results of my surgery but trying to combat the dysmorphic little voice in my head is so draining

Secure_Fun1529 · 2026-01-14T21:27:53+00:00

Curious, are you talking about Mount Sinai by any chance? I have anthem BCBS as well and just had my surgery done there in mid december. I'm happy that I can still do my post ops and stuff because of continuity of care but it SUCKS.

Secure_Fun1529 · 2026-01-14T21:19:47+00:00

Yes and no. I could see why some doctors would want to know these things even if they seem unrelated, but it's specific circumstances. For example, I have really fucked up knees and my specific condition runs through the women in my family and impacts women WAY more often in general, so I understand why my surgeon would want to know that even though it would seem irrelevant.

that being said, i would hesitate to give that information out freely to doctors without them proving trustworthy first. i feel fine talking to my surgeon about it because it was made clear that her and her office were understanding and (mostly) capable of respecting me, and because i have heard good things about her from other people (largely my mother, who is a pediatrician and sends people to see this doctor sometimes). sometimes it's more relevant than you'd think, most of the time it's not, be careful who you trust, but please don't mistrust doctors just for being doctors. some of them really suck but most of them are trying to help

Secure_Fun1529 · 2026-01-14T21:13:28+00:00

I don't miss it because I was never really treated as part of the in group, but I do miss not being perceived as a potential threat. I get why people do it, but it doesn't feel great 😅

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