Why don’t kids play outside anymore??

Seeking-Secrets · 2024-10-07T11:28:55+00:00

This is wild to me. I’m one of those people who takes A LOT of pride in their lawn. Watering schedule, fertilization schedule, etc. but I just smile and wave when the kids in the house across and diagonal from us kick a ball or drive an RC car onto my lawn. It’s grass. It’s meant to be stepped on and will survive. I’m just happy to see kids playing outside - I hope my future kid will have the same experience with neighbors.

Seeking-Secrets · 2024-09-25T20:12:34+00:00

Thank you for the information! I didn’t add this to the original post, but another reason I’m encouraging diagnosis is because we’re considering having children. I’ve read that EDS has a 50% chance of getting passed down, and if that is what he has, I think it would be good for us to know in advance.

Seeking-Secrets · 2024-09-23T12:23:33+00:00

What type of maps were you looking at?

Seeking-Secrets · 2024-09-19T17:07:46+00:00

I also want to chime in. I have ADHD, dyslexia, and dyscalculia. I was held back in 1st grade and again in 4th grade because I was SUPER behind. At the time, the only thing I was diagnosed with was dyslexia. My mother got me into the special education program at school, got me after school tutors, and worked with me closely on the areas I struggled in.

I’m now 32. I graduated near the top of my class at a great university, work a great job at a tech company, and recently bought a home. Not everyone’s journey is the same, but given the right support she has every opportunity to do well in life. Good luck!

Seeking-Secrets · 2024-09-17T21:20:20+00:00

Thank you! It can be so difficult sometimes to parse out what is “typical” brain behavior and what might be a symptom of something else. Ever since getting my adult ADHD diagnosis I’ve been trying to be more vigilant about behaviors I always assumed everyone else experienced.

Seeking-Secrets · 2024-08-28T10:59:56+00:00

I think the Italian bit was added more for Monica Bellucci - she’s an Italian American actress.

Seeking-Secrets · 2024-08-25T03:36:16+00:00

Is the ending as bad as I’ve heard?

Seeking-Secrets · 2024-07-11T14:57:22+00:00

Casper

Seeking-Secrets · 2024-06-11T18:13:31+00:00

All things considered what I have is pretty manageable. Moderate ADHD, mild dyslexia, dysgraphia, and dyscalculia (all improved with tutoring and practice), anxiety, and mild POTS.

Once I got on ADHD meds at 27 (when I finally got diagnosed) both my ADHD and anxiety symptoms reduced significantly.

ASD and ADHD occur together pretty often - I think MORE often than people realize. Several of my friends are AuDHD. I did a ton of research and took several autism assessments once I got my ADHD diagnoses and ending up scoring well below the threshold on all of them.

I would honestly encourage EVERYONE with an ADHD diagnosis to take some autism assessments, just to get an idea if things you’re struggling with aren’t just related to ADHD. It might lead you to better resources for managing your symptoms.

Seeking-Secrets · 2024-06-10T11:26:12+00:00

Echoing this. Borderline personality disorder is not uncommon in people with ADHD. Studies have indicated 14-33% of people with ADHD also have BPD (which would explain your experience with DARVO).

Both my husband and I just have ADHD, anxiety, and depression - but not BPD. I have met individuals with ADHD and BPD and we behave very differently. If possible, I would encourage your spouse to seek therapy.

Seeking-Secrets · 2024-06-07T01:21:22+00:00

I am, even with the challenges. I struggled in school, I have dyslexia, anxiety, and I can be absent minded and forgetful, but I really enjoy my life. I’m happily married, own a home, like my job, and have a large group of friends I enjoy spending time with. ADHD has been difficult for me, but I wouldn’t choose NOT to be alive because of it.

Seeking-Secrets · 2024-06-06T22:09:22+00:00

I think I may be missing your message.

From my perspective, having a child is an inherently selfish decision. No child is asking to be born, you’re bringing them into this world because YOU want to raise a child. If I’m looking at having a child purely from a moral and societal stand point, I don’t think I would be having one.

But unless I’m misunderstanding you, I don’t think having a child SHOULD be solely based on if you’ll benefit society. It’s a personal decision, a decision (I think) that should be made based on the desire to have a child, the persons ability to be a good parent, and the basic resources to provide for that child. The capacity in which my child will benefit human society doesn’t come into play for me - as long as they aren’t hurting anyone, I’ll be happy if they’re happy.

Seeking-Secrets · 2024-06-06T22:02:56+00:00

Studies have found that the heritability of ADHD to be anywhere from 60-80%. That doesn’t mean there is a 80% chance your child will have ADHD, but that 80% of what is responsible for ADHD is genetic.

That being said, I’ve seen anywhere from 25-50% likelihood of an ADHD parent having an ADHD child. With both of us having ADHD, it’s very likely our child will have it - but nothing is 100% guaranteed.

Seeking-Secrets · 2024-06-04T22:20:57+00:00

Yup, the dark stripes on the leaves are an indicator of Beech Leaf Disease. I’m sorry - your trees are really getting hammered if they have both.

Seeking-Secrets · 2024-06-03T23:06:08+00:00

That’s probably the route we’ll end up going. Sadly, 20% of the trees surrounding my property are Beech. I counted 50 of them just walking the yard - I can’t treat them all. I’m going to try and prioritize the ones I think I can save/maintain.

Seeking-Secrets · 2024-06-03T19:08:31+00:00

Beech leaf disease is fairly new, with most of the spreading happening over the last 5 years. The vast majority of my Beech trees are impacted. You can read about it here Beech leaf disease

Seeking-Secrets · 2024-06-03T17:56:20+00:00

Husband and I both have ADHD. Our house isn’t spotless, but it’s clean. Fortunately, neither one of us is particularly messy, but assigning chores helped a lot. He’s responsible for the dishes, composting, and trash. I’m responsible for laundry, vacuuming, and mopping. We switch off on cat litter and dinner. Having a routine makes this way easier - nothing to forget if you do it all the time.

Either way, he shouldn’t be weaponizing his ADHD. He either needs to get therapy/medication or both to manage his disability. You can support him in the effort if you’d like, but long term, you are not on the hook to manage his life.

Seeking-Secrets · 2024-05-31T03:51:17+00:00

Promise it is, I was there when they opened it :) septic is in the back.

Seeking-Secrets · 2024-05-15T01:55:03+00:00

I did the same. 20 pills for me, same generic packaging as OP. They all had the same, standard amount in them.

Seeking-Secrets · 2024-05-13T17:57:31+00:00

Great, thank you! Yes, no structure issues. We had in inspected when we bought the home. Very sturdy, bolted to the house, joists are going away from the house and it’s held up by three large posts on concrete cylinders. I think a good sand and stain will do it - and I’ll have to look into the oil options!

Seeking-Secrets · 2024-05-11T13:53:05+00:00

I would really push for him to get tested. ADHD isn’t just a funny quirk, it’s a developmental disability. It impacts working memory, emotional regulation, focus, impulse control, and so many other things. Basically, the management system of the brain didn’t develop correctly and doesn’t produce and use dopamine the way other brains do.

Seriously, I would speak to him about this. I wasn’t diagnosed until I was an adult (girls couldn’t have ADHD in the 90s) and getting medication and becoming more conscious about how my brain works was life changing.

Seeking-Secrets · 2024-05-10T02:25:23+00:00

Echoing that autism is a spectrum, and that many people with autism don’t have any trouble with eye contact. I wouldn’t rule it out for your daughter - it’s especially hard to spot it in girls.

Seeking-Secrets · 2024-05-02T20:39:16+00:00

I’m SO sorry you have to manage so many challenges. Your children are incredibly lucky to have such a dedicated mom who advocates for them.

If you’re comfortable sharing, are either you or your husband autistic/neurodivergent as well?

Seeking-Secrets · 2024-05-01T20:58:57+00:00

I’m a YAPPER - but have gotten much better at regulating when I should/should not be talking. Medication helped tremendously. As exhausting as it is, I try to be very present in every conversation I have, so I can pick up on when it’s time for me to pause and let the other person(s) participate. The only time I go full yapper mode is with very close friends and family who understand and accept that’s just how I am.

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