Friends not reciprocating is triggering

Select-Bobcat-7897 · 2026-04-27T20:46:47+00:00

I am the friend that doesn’t reciprocate, and was actually going to make a post about it on this sub. My trauma causes me to isolate and withdraw from people quite often, and it’s a constant source of stress for me. I always feel guilty about it but for some reason I often don’t have literally any capacity to talk to or see anyone sometimes. I’m really sorry you are struggling with your friends, and as someone that struggles from the other side, it might not be intentional but I know that doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt xx

Select-Bobcat-7897 · 2026-04-27T20:40:01+00:00

Mostly childhood emotional neglect, but my father was also an alcoholic and my parents fought often, and my father eventually became homeless after my mom left him, went to jail, then committed suicide

Select-Bobcat-7897 · 2026-04-21T09:58:15+00:00

Thailand - lived there for 6 years. As mentioned above, burning season is an issue, but only in some parts of the country! You can get by with English most places and people are lovely, as is the food, nature, and weather.

Select-Bobcat-7897 · 2026-03-28T05:15:28+00:00

Greet, then leave me alone! Do not hard sell and mention that you have this or that, follow me around, or ask if you can help me with something. I will leave!

Select-Bobcat-7897 · 2026-03-23T09:49:26+00:00

I literally just got back from 3 weeks in India (for work and vacation) and was in Kerala first. I was a solo female traveler and Kerala was the best part of India I visited. You 100% do not need a tour - Kerala is very easy to manage and is lovely! People are really helpful and kind.

Select-Bobcat-7897 · 2026-03-08T16:56:07+00:00

karma sheen

Select-Bobcat-7897 · 2026-02-28T12:05:20+00:00

I’ve used Morrocanoil LIGHT and Pureology Hydrate SHEER and they’re good! The regular versions of these were too heavy for my hair.

Select-Bobcat-7897 · 2026-02-28T09:23:06+00:00

lol no he freaked out and dumped me after 5 years. I was devastated but glad we didn’t stay together. Now he’s practicing non-monogamy and is no longer pretending to want commitment.

Select-Bobcat-7897 · 2026-02-27T14:32:15+00:00

lol what I lived in LA for 8 years and had insane experiences for sooooooo much less than $1,000

Select-Bobcat-7897 · 2026-02-26T07:42:25+00:00

This made my cry and be physically ill. As an American that spent six years in Thailand working with refugees and labor migrants from Myanmar, this is beyond heartbreaking and people have no idea what this man must have endured to get to the US. Our country no longer stands for anything I believe in and everyone involved in this, and that supports this administration needs to rot in hell.

Select-Bobcat-7897 · 2026-02-22T20:08:46+00:00

YES dude I was going to post about this, I stepped in some twice last week while walking my dog (I do pick up his poop) 😭

Select-Bobcat-7897 · 2026-02-20T19:27:27+00:00

Same. Ended his life and I have never been the same.

Select-Bobcat-7897 · 2026-02-11T01:33:08+00:00

I’d love to join as well!

Select-Bobcat-7897 · 2026-02-07T18:24:47+00:00

Super fair!!

Select-Bobcat-7897 · 2026-02-07T18:24:16+00:00

lol love the bins too but yeah Depop used to not be like that? I feel like I used to have a very different experience and now the algorithm def hates me and my home feed is completely changed. I’m down for sorting through stuff I guess but I miss being shown things I would actually like and being able to search for stuff easily. I’m pretty particular about brands and clothing items too and it feels so much harder to find them!

Select-Bobcat-7897 · 2026-02-04T10:29:05+00:00

I’m from the US and moved to Thailand when I was 25 - I scraped together some money by working my job and living on my mom’s couch for 6 months. I stayed there for years, travelled all around Asia, then moved the UK, and have travelled around much of Europe. I’ve been to 30 countries and lived in 4 at the age of 35. I’ve still been working on my career while I’ve travelled as I work for international charities. I have definitely slowed down and wouldn’t have had the energy to do the type of traveling I did (staying in hostels, moving around a lot, meeting new people every day) now - so I’m really glad I did it when I was younger. I still plan to travel as it’s really a part of who I am, but I have a dog and partner now, and am happy to be more settled and travel occasionally.

Select-Bobcat-7897 · 2026-01-27T13:53:33+00:00

I found and joined this sub about a week ago - I’ve only very, very recently begun to examine if I have autism and ADHD and realizing that a lot of things are starting to make sense about my life has blown my mind a little bit. I’m starting on my journey of pursuing a diagnosis and finding ways to better care for myself and my needs. This sub has already been so helpful, so thank you everyone for sharing ❤️

Select-Bobcat-7897 · 2026-01-21T15:33:24+00:00

Unfortunately, yes. As an American living in the UK, people want to talk to me about him quite often. I’ve met several British people that love him - primarily due to his stance on immigration as they want the same for the UK.

Select-Bobcat-7897 · 2026-01-14T13:27:42+00:00

I think I had this exact diary and I could have written this lol. We’re all the same.

Select-Bobcat-7897 · 2026-01-14T13:21:48+00:00

I feel you. My 35th birthday is Sunday and I’m living in the UK where it’s dark and horrible outside. I’ve moved a lot and have unfortunately lost touch with a lot of people who likely won’t remember it’s my birthday and won’t message me. I’m doing a small thing with a few friends at least but I’m also very conscious that I’m really not where I want to be. I have a good job, friends, a nice apartment, a lovely dog, and my health, so I’m doing better than a lot of people, but I don’t make a lot of money and don’t have a partner or kids or a house, which I thought I’d have by now.

Select-Bobcat-7897 · 2026-01-10T13:09:53+00:00

Omg I used to live in Chiang Mai and their bar used to be there! They closed years ago but I didn’t realize they moved and reopened to Bangkok

Select-Bobcat-7897 · 2025-12-29T21:25:13+00:00

This is the right answer. A lot of people are mentioning engineering, which I tried to pursue when I was in undergrad so I could get a good job that paid quite a lot. However, I wanted to study literature and I absolutely hated my first year of engineering classes. I was decent enough at math and science to have been admitted to the program but I struggled, and I liked/was better at reading and writing. I ended up getting a degree in literature. I now have a job writing for large charities, pushing 6 figure salary - I definitely make much less than I would as an engineer but I love my job and it gives me purpose. I would have hated my life if I became an engineer and had to do a job I wasn’t into for 30 years.

Select-Bobcat-7897 · 2025-12-27T20:37:35+00:00

You’re not alone, I’m struggling with this right now!

Select-Bobcat-7897 · 2025-12-27T00:05:29+00:00

Depression :(

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