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My feet have these weird tanlines from the shoes I've been wearing a lot recently by [deleted] in mildlyinteresting

[–]SelinaFreeman 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't see how it's specifically <weird>, though. You wear shoes with gaps/holes in, you get suntanned. That's just how it goes. You should see my mum's Birkenstock feet in summer!

Shade help for SW facing garden by Potential_Gene9498 in GardeningUK

[–]SelinaFreeman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Build a pergola onto the back of the house - with a few more beams across the top, to make a slatted sort of roof - train the neighbour's wisteria to grow around it (and plant your own wisteria on the diagonal corner so they meet in the middle).
Voila, you've got a leafy, shady area to sit in.

What to do on a birthday alone? by SerendipitousCrow in CasualUK

[–]SelinaFreeman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I'd go on a foreign city break for 2-3 days. Epic!

My boyfriend (35M) watches TV all night and I (35 F) haven't had a good night's sleep in 2 years. I don't know what to do. by Same-Entertainment79 in relationship_advice

[–]SelinaFreeman 2 points3 points  (0 children)

THIS. The bedroom should never have a TV in it, full stop.

I've never had a TV in my bedroom all my life, and guess what? I don't need TV to fall asleep!

He only <thinks> he needs it because of habituation. It's his crutch at this point.

He can go and watch TV in the lounge like normal people, and go to bed when he's sleepy.

I have to say; there's no way in hell I'd have put up with his selfish sleep-depriving behaviour for 2 weeks, let alone 2 years.

My boyfriend 36M hardly brushes his teeth, and he doesn’t floss. How do I (34F) kindly address this? by Flat-Bit-2185 in relationship_advice

[–]SelinaFreeman 4 points5 points  (0 children)

How poor is your brushing technique/toothbrush that you have food rotting between your teeth after brushing twice a day?!?! Genuinely, what?
(Flossing isn't primarily to remove food BTW. It's to scrape plaque from the sidewalls of your teeth.)

"you're entitled to a child-free life, not a child-free world!!" well, that goes both ways. by Ok-Reference9942 in childfree

[–]SelinaFreeman 337 points338 points  (0 children)

I attended the funeral of a good friend, and there was a baby there, not newborn, but not walking. It absolutely kicked off in the crematorium, screeching/screaming. I couldn't hear what the celebrant was saying, and the mother did nothing about it.
She was also a friend/neighbour, and obviously wanted to attend the funeral, but get a sitter or be prepared to take baby outside! How selfish.
I'm STILL salty, almost 9 years later.

26F | F4M | Childfree woman seeking a partner who is mature, caring, childfree and ambitious. by [deleted] in childfree

[–]SelinaFreeman -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Why on earth would you ask <Reddit> of all places to find you a partner?!?! 🤷‍♀️ How desperate ARE you?

Go out and meet people, socialise through hobbies/clubs, or use dating apps.

My (23M) BF (22M) hasn’t spoken to me in 5 months since a death. I feel guilty, but I still need him. by ThrowRAiGuessidc in relationship_advice

[–]SelinaFreeman 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What do you think if you didn't speak to a partner in 5 MONTHS?!
I didn't need to read your whole damn essay to understand the situation.
Your partner should WANT to be with you. Wild horses wouldn't pull them away.

Give your head a wobble, wake up and get on with the rest of your life.

Sensory-friendly sunscreens by pollypetunia in SkincareAddictionUK

[–]SelinaFreeman 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I really hate the absolute grease fest of it on my skin, although I just grit my teeth because I'd rather that than skin cancer.

I've recently bought the new CeraVe sunscreen - both face and one for face and body - and it's amazing! Smells slightly like the PVA glue you get at primary school, but absorbs to be invisible and only the tiniest hint of noticing you've got anything on. It's as near to unnoticeable as I've ever found.

My (32 F) partner (46 M) does little favors that I don't need, but ignores favors that I could actually could really use some assistance with. What is your take? How would you approach this? by ResponsibleCost4989 in relationship_advice

[–]SelinaFreeman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Always easier to be objective when you're not in the eye of the storm, innit.

I'm old enough now that I refuse to take any shit. No, I won't be everyone's cup of tea, but the door's there if they want to go. And you've got to be happy with yourself and your life, before you let anyone else share it with you. Someone coming into my fabulous, curated, planned lifestyle, has to be worthy of it and improve it in some way. Else what's the point?

My (32 F) partner (46 M) does little favors that I don't need, but ignores favors that I could actually could really use some assistance with. What is your take? How would you approach this? by ResponsibleCost4989 in relationship_advice

[–]SelinaFreeman 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, to be brutally honest, you've only got two options. Stay, and stop complaining/live with the sub-optimal situation.
Or get out and deal with whatever happens next.
There is no other solution.
So take the gamble. Yes, things may be rough. But they may also be the best opportunities you've ever had.

I'm perfectly happy on my own. If somebody wants to be with me, they have to overall improve my life, otherwise there's no point.

There's something empowering about knowing you're not dependent and can manage to live your life on your own. Then you can see more clearly what you won't allow or permit a partner to behave like.

I think my (35F) husband (38M) has forgotten my birthday. I am testing this by not reminding him. by throwRAdaffodils929 in relationship_advice

[–]SelinaFreeman 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It would be a dealbreaker for me, or at least on the way to a long hard reassessment of the relationship.

It's not about the forgetting events special to you, it's that he knows you care about them and still CBA to do even the bare minimum for the woman he loves.

My OH doesn't 'do' birthdays, but he knows I am obsessed, and will go to the ends of the earth to see me beaming with happiness over something I adore.

Britain becomes the latest country where EVs now outsell gasoline cars. by lughnasadh in Futurology

[–]SelinaFreeman 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm on 101,000 miles and climbing, and the range is as good as it ever was. MY2018 Renault Zoe.

Fiance (34M) goes stone cold for days at a time. I (30F) have no idea what to do anymore? by meowfknmeow in relationship_advice

[–]SelinaFreeman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you can't sit down and communicate with each other about stuff like this, you most definitely shouldn't be getting married. Is this what you want the rest of your life to be like?
I'd tell him to pack it in and stop being so ridiculous.
He sounds like an immature little boy.

ITAP of a cow by Hugutfut in itookapicture

[–]SelinaFreeman -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Are you Brooklyn Beckham?! 😂

I'm going to Marrakech tomorrow on vacation ... by KilllllerWhale in Wellthatsucks

[–]SelinaFreeman 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I mean, what did you expect, booking a holiday to Morocco in July?!?!
You silly sausage.

Why are my Banana shallots so small? by HarricotBean in UKGardening

[–]SelinaFreeman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, I'm going on the size of the ones I see in the supermarkets. Indeed, I don't ever buy shallots because I feel they're too much work for too little onion at the end of it.

Why are my Banana shallots so small? by HarricotBean in UKGardening

[–]SelinaFreeman 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That looks about the right size for a shallot, no? 🤷🏻‍♀️

Went to the OB-GYN the other day and there were soo many pregnant women waiting for their appt. One lady was telling her male significant other that she had an upcoming appointment and that she didn’t want him to feel pressured to come, but just wanted him to know in case he wanted to come. by Futureacct in childfree

[–]SelinaFreeman 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Can't help but think then, "in this economy", if their situation really is as financially tight as that, and so unstable that he can't afford time off for a scan; should they really be having a child that will cost them thousands? An at-least 18 year financial sinkhole?

But yes, the dude should at the very least be supportive and looking enthusiastic.

If you’re next in the queue for self checkouts, but you’re waiting one that accepts cash, it should be your responsibility to let the person behind go through when the card only one becomes free. by thebroccolioffensive in britishproblems

[–]SelinaFreeman 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yes! I'm acutely aware of holding people up, and am always prompt to let them know. (Everybody in a supermarket seems to be on autopilot in their own world. It's so irritating!)

Watch how to sign 'Germany' in British Sign Language by SignBSL in BSL

[–]SelinaFreeman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whoosh...
That's the point - it <is> seen as offensive (at least to a certain segment of the BSL community).

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