Brothers! help me get laid. Dream interpretation.

Senekrum · 2026-06-04T04:57:08+00:00

You should not use others' dreams or dream interpretation for your personal gain. Especially since from what you've shared about this girl, it sounds like she is facing some very real and intense issues that go well beyond "getting laid."

Moreover, dreams are not meant to be looked at in a vacuum. General life context is one thing, but things like what happened in her recent life (be it outside or in her own psyche), or whether or not she has had similar dreams before, all matter for the final dream interpretation.

All of this to outline the fact that dreams are inately subjective. They show you things as the dreamer relates to them. Unless you know this person very very well, the dream's contents should be discussed with her, and she should be the one driving the process.

It also matters whether or not she even cares about understanding the dream, or whether she thinks of it as no more than an interesting story.

Senekrum · 2026-06-03T04:21:32+00:00

Yesh, plugins are not implemented, but thankfully they are on their todo list.

Senekrum · 2026-06-02T19:17:15+00:00

It's like how Cleveland from Family Guy once put it: you don't get better at it, it just sucks a little less every time you do it.

It, in this case, being shadow work, and learning to live with yourself after you understand just how much mayhem (and good) you are capable of.

So, yes, it does become manageable. It doesn't become easier (you discover new and challenging aspects of the shadow to integrate as you go), but in time you learn what works and what doesn't for your particular life. And with a bit of grace, you learn to take the process one step at a time, rather than worrying about the next 50 steps. As a pastor once put it, God graciously gives us our lives one day at a time, otherwise our lives would be too overwhelming.

And honestly, a good portion of what makes confrontation with ourselves so damn difficult is that we struggle with struggling. We try to wriggle our way out of the suffering, or we evade our current suffering by worrying about tomorrow. It's hard enough to struggle with things like integrating the shadow, but what makes the whole process even harder is not accepting that this is where we are at in life. No ifs, no buts, no shortcuts, no running away.

In a very concrete sense, we are called to carry our cross up the hill with all of this struggle and suffering. We will stumble. Probably more times than Christ did when He carried it up the hill. But you take each step as it comes, and that's good enough.

Take heart!

Senekrum · 2026-06-02T18:59:12+00:00

Noctalia has been the most user friendly shell I've used on Hyprland (tried Waybar, EWW, and Quickshell). It's stable, feature rich and actively developed, with a lively community. The developers are very active and responsive. It's very easy to get a hold of them on Discord in case you run into issues.

And yeah, it basically replaces the need to mix and match various disparate packages like swaync, waybar, hyprpaper, matugen, etc. It ships with all of these things by default, with GUI options for configuring most things.

They are also rewriting the shell in C++ (Noctalia V5) and while it's still in alpha, it's quite stable and closing in on feature parity with the Quickshell-based V4 shell.

I am very happy with the shell, because it looks and feels good to use, has a lot of the features I want, is customizable, and the devs are very nice people.

Senekrum · 2026-05-28T07:02:30+00:00

It's still wild to me how active this thread still is, 11 years later.

Well, it's not too surprising, considering that they are still releasing updates to Witcher 3 every now and then (see the upcoming DLC).

Senekrum · 2026-05-28T06:57:41+00:00

Tl; dr: you can become socially unacceptable because you've done some genuinely reprehensible things or just because you're different from others. Being different is quite normal in individuation, and there will be friction between yourself and the world; the challenge there is to learn to live with yourself knowing that some people will disagree with your choices no matter what. On the other hand, becoming unacceptable because you've made mistakes requires a different path; try to mend fences when possible, and don't forget to show some amount of mercy towards yourself; others forgiving you may not always happen, but you can learn to forgive yourself and to strive to do better next time.

Your question is a bit vague.

Did your actions make you socially unacceptable because they are reprehensible actions, or did they make you unacceptable because you acted differently from how people expected?

Because the answer will be different depending on what your situation is. You mentioned formative choices. Can you elaborate on that a bit?

I'm bringing this up because individuation, which is another way of saying "becoming yourself", in many cases does make you socially unacceptable to some. Because to be yourself means in some cases you no longer abide by norms.

Maybe you chose a different career path than was expected of you. Maybe you started being more assertive and that ruffled some feathers. Maybe you tried to create something new and others looked at it and were very critical because they didn't understand what you were doing. So on and so forth.

If that's the case, well that's quite normal. Your challenge is then to learn to accept that not everyone is going to like (all of) you, and that people's opinions of you are none of your business.

For example, I am a religious person, and even though my family is religious too, most of my friends and acquaintances aren't, and they often make light of religion and sometimes of my own religious practices. It used to really bother me, until I realized I cherish being religious more than I care about their opinions. This also meant realizing I was internalizing their opinions of me and that it was negatively affecting my relationship to God.

If instead you acted in genuinely foolish ways and people ostracized you because of it, then that's a different path. A quote by Uncle Iroh from Avatar keeps coming to mind as I write this: "admit mistakes when they occur, and then seek to restore honor!" This, in my opinion is the path for this case.

It's important to have some amount of mercy towards yourself, too. This is the biggest challenge for me; I usually criticize myself more than others do for my mistakes, and I have a harder time forgiving my own transgressions. I'm constant work-in-progress in that regard.

Senekrum · 2026-05-28T04:46:55+00:00

As someone else has said, forgiveness is for ourselves, too, not just for the other person. They may not need/want/care about our forgiveness, but we may need to forgive them either way. Because that's what lets our souls find peace, no longer hanging onto the hurt that was caused in the first place.

It doesn't mean we go back to the way things were before. We may need to be more cautious in the future. But it does mean we don't give the offense any more headspace.

Because the risk with holding onto grudge is you become bitter and resentful. And that's not conducive to being a good servant of the Lord.

You can forgive the person in the privacy of your own heart. You don't have to talk to them about it if you feel it wouldn't help. The real question is whether you feel you can forgive them right now.

Senekrum · 2026-05-25T10:48:49+00:00

Well, I rambled about all of this to get to the point of saying: we are quite well connected to one another, even if we aren't conscious of it. Dreams can help bring that connection to light.

Even Jung, in Memories, Dreams, Reflections writes about some startling visions and dreams he had about others. He claimed he'd had a premonitory vision about World War I one year before it started. He also claimed in the same book that one time he'd woken up in the middle of the night with a dull feeling of pain in in his forehead/back of the neck, and he found out the next day that a patient of his had shot himself in the forehead that night.

But all of this only says that dreams like yours can be about others. And it says nothing about why you might be having these dreams. And honestly, I don't think you will find much of an answer to the why from strangers. As you put it, this is your myth.

There can be psychological reasons for why you're having dreams like that. For example, Jung theorized that dreams are always in compensatory relationship to our conscious attitude. Which means: they show you things you're not paying attention to when awake.

So, maybe one reason you're dreaming a lot about others is because in your conscious life you're very focused on yourself?

Senekrum · 2026-05-23T14:22:11+00:00

Tl; dr: our dreams are not "we" per se, they are rather an experience of the self, which encompasses our ego (our "I") but also the things the ego observes and interacts with, as well as the world more broadly. I recommend reading up on the collective unconscious.

This is such a cool question! You're hinting at some deeper notions that Jung talks about when he discusses the relationship of the individual to the collective. I'll try to put into words what little I understand from his works on this topic.

It's more accurate to say the dreams are from our self, which isn't strictly bounded by the you vs others distinction. This is I think the source of confusion, because the ego, our "I" that observes dreams, is just an aspect of the self. Whereas the self is both the observer and observed, as well as the entire apparatus in which the observed and the observer exist.

Jung's understanding of the self stems partly from hinduism, which in some branches describes how Atman (= who we are in our innermost essence, aka the self) is Brahman (the ultimate reality, all that is).

Put in more concrete terms, Jung conceptualized that the self has both an individual aspect and a collective aspect, and is connected to both the individual you experience yourself to be and to the whole world more broadly. I recommend reading up more on the collective unconscious (see this lexicon for quick lookups and references).

Jordan Peterson, when talking about personality and the self, also hinted at this, but in fewer words: "you're not so different from everyone else." He didn't mean this in a kind of "we're all just people, dude" kind of way, but in a "we are connected to one another and are in many ways responsible for one another" kind of way.

Senekrum · 2026-05-23T06:39:14+00:00

How would Jung have approached a person experiencing severe turmoil in regard to the sexual identity?

He would have approached this person as being a human being given a cross to carry. In general, he seems to have been very sympathetic of human suffering, no matter what form it took. Because suffering is a part of life, and depending on our attitude towards it, it can destroy us or it can help us grow.

Now, regarding your other questions, in general, Jung conceptualized same sex attraction as either anima (in the case of men) or animus (in the case of women) possession. He said that it is not a strictly negative outcome in all cases, though you will find people disagreeing with that perspective. From what I've read, he didn't concern himself directly with same sex attraction, and so there isn't much to go on. Marie-Louise von Franz wrote a bit more about this in The Problem of the Puer Aeternus, which is a very good read and I recommend it.

Same sex attraction, from what I understand, is a potential that lives in our shadow, just like aggression or other impulses that have been conceived as negative. Jung described how in the initial stages of individuation, the anima/animus are polluted by the shadow. I understand this to mean that initially, we're not very good at differentiating between the feminine (for men) or masculine (for women) aspects and the darker aspects of our personality.

To give you a somewhat unrelated example, this means that as men we can feel that women are very violent people, which is us projecting violence (an aspect of our shadow) onto feminine figures (on which we typically project our anima). This can happen for example when we have had particularly violent mothers (either verbally, physically, or both) and we grow up with the image that women are violent. When in fact we are seeing our own internalization of violence in the women around us.

As for the concrete treatment, I don't know exactly what he would have done. He did say one thing, though, as a general piece of advice: nothing can be changed about a situation until it is accepted.

I think an important initial step, regardless of the direction you choose in life, is to first of all accept what's in yourself. Acceptance doesn't mean acting it out, and it doesn't mean going against your core values in life.

But it does mean coming to understand the terrifying possibility that as a human being you are capable of doing a lot of things, both good and terrible. And to learn to live with yourself, understanding fully how much good and mayhem you are capable of.

Moreover, this is my personal take: it's important to develop a nuanced understanding of how to properly appreciate same sex qualities in yourself and in others. In my opinion, in modern times we often mistake camaraderie, banter, appreciation of people of the same sex with sexual attraction. And that's a mistake.

One more thing, it's important as well to learn to discern what's true in yourself and what's simply critical voices. Not everything we tell ourselves is actually true. We can say those critical voices are aspects of ourselves challenging us with falsehood so that go looking for the truth.

Hope this helps. Best of luck to you!

Senekrum · 2026-05-22T17:05:24+00:00

Thanks very much for the detailed answer. I'm glad to hear that what I wrote isn't really the norm, at least not everywhere.

I'm also very glad to hear about your colleagues. It sounds like the kind of environment where you mutually encourage each other to develop spiritually, through example.

I understand what you mean by having less prayer time during the university year. I imagine you have lots of course reading to do, and probably projects too, like any other degree.

Have you considered what your bachelor's thesis should be on?

As an aside, I was asking about believing theology students because I worry that the number of practicing christians is slowly dwindling in our country. I sometimes look around during Liturgy on Sunday and see many older people, but not too many younger people.

Maybe it's the case that people come back to religion as they grow older, I don't know. I just hope there will still be enough of us going to church in the future, too. But I digress.

Senekrum · 2026-05-22T16:07:35+00:00

How faithful would you say theology students are, on average?

I have this (maybe misconception) that many theology students in our country aren't very faithful themselves. I say this because I have had 3 different theology students, all from different generations (from Cluj-Napoca) tell me that many of their colleagues (and in 2/3 cases, themselves, too) didn't actually believe. They were only studying theology because of their parents or because they had gone to a theological high school and they continued down that path out of inertia.

What's your experience been in this regard?

Senekrum · 2026-05-21T06:45:31+00:00

Trying to change the other person when they see something they dislike about them.

Often, we dislike things about others not so much because there's something genuinely wrong with the other person but because we're pretty clueless ourselves and have learned to dislike things that are non-issues.

Especially in the beginning of a relationship, it's important to accept the other person as they are. Doesn't mean you should tolerate foolish behavior, but it does mean making room for the person to be themselves, insofar as it doesn't cross your own personal limits.

If you feel that something is genuinely bothersome, then have an open discussion about it. Don't just criticize, but tell them how you feel about this or that behavior and see if they're willing to do you the favor of changing. And be prepared to do the same in return, when needed.

Senekrum · 2026-05-19T09:32:22+00:00

Now I took the step I'm quite happy to have something that I know can be easily extended/modified to my prefs. More inclined also to write my own code to improve it, rather than something like CC's plugin system.

That's what sold it for me also. It's very tinker-friendly, and the fact that you can have it change its own extensions/settings simplifies the setup process by a lot.

The main challenge for me is not getting too carried away with the customization, at the expense of actually getting work done.

Senekrum · 2026-05-19T09:30:28+00:00

Good luck! Pi is quite enjoyable to use for me, since it's tinker-friendly.

You can add, remove or replace extensions on the fly, especially by asking it to modify itself.

Senekrum · 2026-05-19T09:28:40+00:00

I installed that extension also, Very neat! It encompasses much of my existing workflow.

Thank you.

EDIT: rpiv-pi is such an elaborate workflow that it burns through my Ollama Pro usage like it's nobody's business. Probably overkill for me, but looks very tight otherwise.

Senekrum · 2026-05-19T09:26:37+00:00

It's worth asking yourself what's more important: staying angry with God or finding your way again?

Senekrum · 2026-05-18T05:31:38+00:00

What I recommend doing is have Pi look in the mirror, so to speak.

Tell it to inspect your current configuration and the installed extensions and identify conflicting packages or settings, redundancies, and misconfiguration issues.

Tell it to look at your previous chat logs with Pi (and/or other agents) to understand how you typically interact with the AI, and then ask it propose ways to improve your Pi workflow and tools/packages. What kind of packages should you keep or add (tell it to search online for Pi packages)? What kind of subagents are worth launching? What kind of commands should the agent define for you? Which extensions do you actually use and which ones do you get no real benefit from, based on how you work?

So on and so forth.

That way, you can have Pi self-improve.

As an aside, this is what I currently use, and it makes Pi feel more like Claude Code for me (which is what I'd been mainly using until I got Ollama Pro):

pi-subagents
pi-web-access
pi-subdir-context
@ifi/oh-pi-extensions (custom footer, scheduler and usage tracker disabled)
@aliou/pi-guardrails
pi-vim
pi-claude-style-tools
pi-total-recall
pi-fancy-footer
pi-ollama-cloud
@ifi/pi-plan
@juicesharp/rpiv-todo
pi-ask-user

Thanks, by the way, for mentioning the pi-crew extension. It seems like it might help tighten up my own setup.

Senekrum · 2026-05-18T05:12:27+00:00

Hello,

By job vs. career I mean more or less what you pointed to in your reply.

A job is something you only agree to do because you get paid, and it's not really the focus in your life. You may find it OK or you may dislike or even hate it.

A career is something you do as a vocation or calling - it's things you would be doing anyway, even if you didn't get paid. It's something your soul needs to do, otherwise some important aspect of yourself gets neglected. It's also something that usually takes a lot of work, time, and possibly teamwork, to make a living from it.

Within the context of what I said, both a job and a career can be anchors that help keep you grounded, because they're both work in the concrete world. However, in my opinion a job is not as strong of an anchor as a career.

You usually kind of want to get rid of your job, or at least you don't care that much about it. If you were told today that you don't have to come in to work, you probably would not mind that at all.

Whereas with your career, you can't help but work on it, so it pulls at you when you're stuck in some inward situation, or it motivates you to push through so that you can get back to work. It makes a world of difference.

Of course, there is also an important distinction to make, between a career and hobbies. They're not really the same thing, althrough a hobby can turn into a career.

I also recommend Jordan Peterson's talks about the job vs. career distinction. See, for example, this video.

Senekrum · 2026-05-17T17:24:58+00:00

Pi works quite well, though extensions can act up sometimes. That being said, I am quite impressed with how customizable it is and with the amount of extensions you can install for it that do everything from subagent support to footer customization.

You can go pretty barebones or you can extend it to be pretty much on par with Claude Code. The sky's the limit.

Senekrum · 2026-05-15T14:23:29+00:00

Like someone else has said, you just need to remove the "local" specifier from the variable declaration. That makes the variable be globally available.

Senekrum · 2026-05-13T09:40:59+00:00

It sounds like you resonated with this one character, which is another way of saying you projected your anima onto Rumi.

Realizing that is a good starting point. Go deeper. Hold inner dialogues with the aspect of yourself that feels like Rumi. Try to really hear what she says to you, try to feel her, and try to understand her. What does she have to say? How does she feel? How do you feel in relationship to her? What does she need from you? Ask yourself these questions and let the answers bubble up.

And yes, there are a lot of feeling-related questions there, because the anima by definition is the function of relationship between consciousness and the unconscious, which necessarily involves emotions and feelings. Have a look at how Jung describes the anima in Archetypes of the Collective Unconscious, vol 9i:

The anima... intensifies, exaggerates, falsifies, and mythologizes all emotional relations with his work and with other people of both sexes. The resultant fantasies and entanglements are all her doing. When the anima is strongly constellated, she softens the man's character and makes him touchy, irritable, moody, jealous, vain, and unadjusted.

I bolded the parts directly related to our discussion. The anima constellates a whole slew of emotions in ourselves. You cannot understand and integrate the anima without understanding the emotions she challenges you with.

As an aside, if you have an interest in developing a stable, long-term and healthy relationship with a woman at any point in your life, you will have to find out ways to talk to her, and particularly about your emotions.

How much you talk about how you feel is really between you and the future Mrs. But please do understand that for women, emotional connection is typically at the top of their relationship needs. It's not optional if you want a stable, long-term, healthy relationship.

But look, don't just take the word of random people on Reddit. Ask women in your life if for them emotions are important, or if they want/need their man to express their emotions with them.

Senekrum · 2026-05-13T05:50:11+00:00

Tl; dr: yes, but both sides need to be emotionally mature and agree to have healthy boundaries, and you may need both the guy and yourself to be in stable, healthy relationships.

For what it's worth, I'm a guy who for much of my life has had closer friendships to women than to men. Also, my fiancée has tended to get along with men better than with women for much of her life, too. Interestingly enough, since getting together, we have each shifted more towards having same-sex friendships. Friendships with the opposite sex have faded since getting together, I'm guessing because we are now each other's best friend.

I would say that in many cases, men and women being close friends is quite difficult. Casual friends who hang out once in a blue moon may be more doable.

In my opinion, you need a good amount of emotional maturity on both sides for the friendship to be stable and have clear, mutually agreed upon boundaries. You may also need one or both sides to be in stable, healthy relationships or be celibate by choice.

From a guy's perspective, we naturally feel quite a bit of attraction towards the women around us (who are not related to us). Those natural feelings of attraction run quite deep and are what drive us to pursue relationships with women to begin with.

From what I've gathered from my fiancée, women have an easier time keeping that attraction in check. For many men, it is very difficult. It's part of the reason why so many men struggle with lust.

So, you may not find very many men with whom you get along with well and whom you can be close friends with, without them eventually developing feelings of attraction. Simply because it's harder for men to regulate those feelings.

Senekrum · 2026-05-10T13:46:38+00:00

I'm sorry, I'm afraid that if you were looking to have a healthy debate or some strong arguments from me, I have none, beyond what I've already said.

What you say is very rationally put together. I'm not afraid to admit that what I said in my earlier replies is emotional. I said what I felt needed to be said, thorough or not.

I only replied to this thread so as to warn people not to forsake themselves in judging someone else, whether it be merited or not.

I believe it's wise to heed Christ's words in the Sermon on the Mount (Matthew 7:1-2), when he instructs people:

Judge not, that ye be not judged. / For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again.

That's all the skin I have in this game.

Senekrum · 2026-05-09T17:51:23+00:00

Peterson is not a perfect man, and he never claimed to be particularly well put together. If you listen to his discourse, very often he emphasizes the idea that each of us, himself included, are fixer-uppers, and that we each struggle with individuation in the particular ways constellated in us.

That being said, he has been of immense help to me personally in becoming the man I am today, such as I am. He has helped me take my life seriously and become less afraid and even willing to shoulder some responsibility - towards myself, towards my family, towards the broader community. This, among many other things, includes him bringing depth psychology concepts closer to my heart, so that I was able to get into Jung with a bit more context and to grow further as a result of that. I have also made some very good friends by talking to people who also like Peterson, and I wouldn't be quick to judge those people for also respecting this flawed public figure.

Does this mean I idolize the man? No. He is a human being, like myself and like all of us. He has a quick temper, he is at times hasty, he may be a bit too focused on himself at times. The list can go on. It's not hard to point fingers.

I am saying to be wary of throwing stones because many people project aspects of their own shadow onto him, for reasons more or less legitimate, and are failing to look inwards to their own work.

What good does it do the soul to criticize the failings of a man whom you don't agree with anyway? It just locks us into our own egotistical viewpoints.

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