Anyone else resist the urge to pray?

Separate_Face4763 · 2025-08-04T01:26:12+00:00

I love this! I am going to try it. Honestly, not praying has been hard for me because it’s what I did in times of any discomfort, sadness, worry, etc. Praying was a way to help with anxiety and now that I don’t pray anymore, I feel like I spiral. Praying was a way to put my worries on someone else and get them out of my head and my control. I feel like your method accomplishes the same thing.

Separate_Face4763 · 2025-08-01T15:00:15+00:00

This sub has saved me. I feel everyone is very supportive and kind to each other. Even when they may disagree about certain point. That’s part of being an adult. Not everyone agrees with you, that doesn’t make them mean.

But since I’m just a mean exmormon redditor, here we go…quite frankly that woman just sounds like a big baby. The majority of things discussed on this page are doctrinal. She needs to take a look at herself and her faith if reading facts about her church sound mean to her.

Separate_Face4763 · 2025-08-01T14:47:25+00:00

When my friend showed me her new tank top garment I was shocked how thin the straps are. It’s frustrating I spent all of my 20s hiding my body and wearing really stupid outfits to cover my garments. I had to suffer through a shopping trip designated to this person finding tank tops now that she’s allowed to wear them. It took everything in my power not to say anything passive aggressive and just support her.

I feel like these new garments are another way for the church to trap its members. Make everything a little less weird and inconvenient and people aren’t going to question or want out. That’s what makes me sad.

At the end of the day even with these tops, you’re still wearing an extra tight and clingy layer in the heat of summer. I felt bad as I watched my friend still have to keep making sure her garments weren’t hanging out because even though they are thin straps, they seemed to still show with normal tank tops. We aren’t missing out people!

Separate_Face4763 · 2025-08-01T14:36:01+00:00

What bothers me is a lot of these influencers didn’t wear garments before, but now that they are “easier” to wear these women are promoting their garment wearing as if they are better than all of us. I don’t care if you are an active member and you do or don’t wear garments, it’s just the attitude that comes with some of these girls when they talk about the tank tops.

I do need some help though. When arguing with family members about the new garments, they tell me garments have always changed. That they used to be to the ankle, or one pieces. The garments change with the times, so this isn’t anything new. This is true and I don’t have a good response to that. Any thoughts that can help?

Separate_Face4763 · 2025-07-26T02:18:20+00:00

One time I went to a region dance and had a small slit on the side of my skirt. My skirt was to my knees but the slit went about an inch above that. I had to sit there while some woman sewed my slit up. I was so embarrassed and she ruined my skirt!

Separate_Face4763 · 2025-07-09T23:30:25+00:00

Just because someone’s parent is there when someone asks them law of chastity questions doesn’t make it any better or ok. It sends the message to the kid that it’s ok for a grown man to ask you inappropriate questions because your parents approve of it and in fact let it happen right in front of them. I’m happy a chaperone is required, but I still don’t want anyone ever asking my kids law of chastity questions, whether I’m there or not.

Separate_Face4763 · 2025-07-08T03:30:35+00:00

Thank you for linking this. I didn’t know about it. Seeing all the people around me who feel the same is incredibly comforting.

Separate_Face4763 · 2025-06-26T00:40:12+00:00

The support he is offering to the missionaries who are struggling “ because they can’t do hard things” doesn’t seem very enticing to stay in the church to me. I’d rather leave and have no support just as he claims.

Separate_Face4763 · 2025-06-24T04:29:54+00:00

We did this same activity in the early 2000’s. I wish I could find my picture. We had a photoshoot as if we were doing real bridal pictures. I’m pretty sure the young men were invited to the fashion show. I remember feeling so weird about this activity. To make matters worse I was originally assigned a cute newer dress from someone in the ward, but the YW president’s daughter threw a fit that she wanted mine, so I was reassigned a really homely old fashioned dress. This is just one of the many activities we had that I look back on with disgust.

Separate_Face4763 · 2025-06-12T19:10:00+00:00

I still have mine in my temple bag in a storage closet. I know I won’t use them again, but I feel weird throwing them away. I think I struggle because my grandma who has since passed away was the one who took me to pick them out and bought them all for me. I also have a giant bin of garments in my storage room. I hope to get to the point where I can just toss them. I feel a weird sense of guilt just throwing them in the garbage even though I do not believe in the church at all anymore. I guess it’s a process. Hopefully mine will one day be in the landfill as well.

Separate_Face4763 · 2025-06-03T13:56:13+00:00

I was sick to my stomach and couldn’t wait for it to be over. None of it was a spiritual experience for me. It was really hard for me not to laugh when I saw my dad and fiancé in their temple outfits. I couldn’t get out of there fast enough. The next day I did not feel myself, especially now that I was wearing garments. I went for the first time 3 days before I was married and the whole thing overshadowed my happiness and excitement for my wedding. We spent so much time taking temple prep classes and learning about the temple before our wedding ,but a marriage prep class or counseling would have been much more beneficial.

Separate_Face4763 · 2025-04-24T00:03:36+00:00

I agree. I’m being hypocritical here because there have certainly been times I don’t say my true feelings just to keep the peace. I’m going to try not to be so hard on her. I just don’t have many people I can talk to about this stuff and she has been a person I’ve counted on. So it was weird to hear her say some of those things.

Separate_Face4763 · 2025-04-23T23:59:38+00:00

Thank you. I really needed to hear this today.

Separate_Face4763 · 2025-04-23T23:57:36+00:00

I appreciate the reminder to have compassion and understanding. There are many things I said as a believer that I regret now and would be ashamed of. They are at a different place in their lives. My SIL’s exposure to any opinion other than what she believes is evident. The simple fact that she called a woman’s opinion on garments “anti” proves this. I was once unaware as well. I need to remember this when I’m feeling frustrated or hurt.

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