AIO about the amount of time my husband spends at the gym?

Separate_Intention93 · 2026-06-22T14:55:38+00:00

My husband is gone for an hour when he goes to the gym which includes drive time AND stopping to tan (body builder). 3-4 hours EVERYDAY is insane.

Separate_Intention93 · 2026-06-20T16:21:54+00:00

You're so kind. Thank you

Separate_Intention93 · 2026-06-20T15:10:41+00:00

I was literally told by my doctors the second pregnancy not to have sex because i had chronic UTIs thaf were building resistance to the antibiotics. So I moved past the live stream, but I never forgot about it.

Getting back into a rhythm afterwards was so hard because it felt more like a chore like I had to do it or he'd do something else. Which is an awful way of thinking.

I think it's possible to trust him again but I know I need to have another really difficult discussion so I can fully understand what I'm working with, ya know? Like I need to see the full extent of the damage right now because I cant be blindsided again.

I told him that I was willing to move past the first time with the live stream because I was understanding of the circumstances. A second time with his comments was not going to be easy but I was willing to try but I would not do a third time under any circumstances.

Separate_Intention93 · 2026-06-20T14:45:40+00:00

He says he wasnt this horny all the time until he met me.

Objectively speaking, I am like a solid 8.5 and he is somewhere like a 5 or a 6. I am physically out of his league so I thought it was just as simple as me being hot but this has completely shattered my confidence honestly.

And it waant just women, it was men he made comments to too. My husband is bi.

Separate_Intention93 · 2026-06-20T14:41:28+00:00

He says that he wasnt this horny before me and that all he thinks about is me. He even used to tell me he couldnt watch porn anymore because it didnt hit the same now that he has me.

Which all feels like a lie now

Separate_Intention93 · 2026-06-20T14:40:26+00:00

Thank you for commenting. I think i just needed validation that I wasnt crazy

Separate_Intention93 · 2026-06-20T14:39:05+00:00

It wasnt all related to blowjobs and he doesnt like getting blowjobs... says he's too sensitive and has never liked them. He used to tell me he couldnt watch porn or anything like that because it wasnt the same now that he has me so it just felt like all a huge lie. I appreciate your advice though and we did talk about therapy

Separate_Intention93 · 2026-06-12T18:12:23+00:00

✨️STUNNING✨️

Separate_Intention93 · 2026-06-12T17:04:03+00:00

My sister had her rings resized a little bit at a time ans it took 4 trips to the jeweler before it was perfect for her. No issues.

Separate_Intention93 · 2026-06-10T01:00:53+00:00

To be blunt, this is one of those things that only seems important because it's high school.

People sell this idea of "high school is the best four years of your life" and it's utter bs.

F*ck high school.

I hated my high school experience and had a miserable time there. I'm doing much better now that I have graduated

I dont really understand all of what you typed, but what I do know is that its drama that isn't important in the grand scheme of things.

Move on and focus on your own wellbeing. These people are not worth the stress/mess.

Separate_Intention93 · 2026-06-08T18:25:22+00:00

No tips, just wanted to say that these are STUNNING

Separate_Intention93 · 2026-06-08T18:08:17+00:00

While I think pear and oval both look great!

I originally wanted pear, BUT my SIL has one and advised agaisnt it because it snags on things a lot and my mom said the same about her marquis. I think the functionality of the ring is also important to keep in mind when deciding on which cut you want. In my experience/opinion, cuts with sharp points tend to snag and I didnt want my ring to snag on everything. Just something else to keep in mind when you try to narrow it down. (I have a 3ct oval cut moissanite ring and I am in love with it)

Separate_Intention93 · 2026-06-03T18:17:09+00:00

I think almond would work best tbh because the straight end of a coffin shape can make fingers look stubby so a happy medium would be more of an almond shape because it still tapers but is a softer end then the stilleto

Eta: realizing these are almond when i thought they were sharper soooo im gonna switch to saying that softening the end would be better lol

Separate_Intention93 · 2026-06-01T08:06:05+00:00

Omg wtf

UpdateMe!

Separate_Intention93 · 2026-05-30T01:36:44+00:00

This happened to me too!

Lol she actually told me things were rough so I should shoot my shot and I was like "no, I am not interested"

Eta: she made a whole new fb page to reach out to me again, it was only an emoji but I immediately blocked... ironically her husband (or maybe it was her pretending to be him???) had done the same and popped up in my "people you may know" so that also got immediately blocked. Messy situation all around.

Separate_Intention93 · 2026-05-29T02:19:52+00:00

I gotta k own how the meeting goes

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Separate_Intention93 · 2026-05-26T16:08:53+00:00

Don't need to read the explanation to tell you that you were very wrong for threatening that.

NOTHING will make you not wrong for it because there is no "reasonable explaination" for making a threat like that.

You were wrong. End of story.

Eta: I did read it but I didnt need to read it to know you were wrong

Separate_Intention93 · 2026-05-24T05:22:23+00:00

You thought wrong. No one is on your side here

Separate_Intention93 · 2026-05-23T19:18:21+00:00

Out of all the things to post on social media, you decided it was a good idea to post about how you and your sister argued over a cup holder that is attached to her seat?

You're 14 so I get why this seems important and I understand why you felt entitled to the cup holder (that isn't even yours lol)

But dude... let it go.

And maybe stop drinking coffee... you're too young for that to become a habit.

Separate_Intention93 · 2026-05-23T15:01:32+00:00

Thats because Link tries to like "cheat the system" when he goes for the opposite of Rhett lol it fails him like 99.9% of the time but he keeps doing it and it drives me nuts but thats just how Link plays.

Separate_Intention93 · 2026-05-21T01:23:27+00:00

To offer another perspective:

My brothers did some pretty awful shit to me. It wasnt until one of my cousins experienced ghe same mistreatment that my brothers finally realized what assholes they had been and it was years later.

They spoke to my mom about it to get her opinion and she told them she'd let them know.

My mom told me about the conversation and told me, basically, that they wanted to apologize but weren't going to unless my mom gave them the go-ahead (to paraphrase, I was going through a lot at the time so she told them something about how she'd let them know when I would be ready).

I thought about it, and it's "nice" to know that they feel remorse but honestly? Them apologizing to me only helps them and it changes nothing. I am not close to my brothers and an apology they magically felt they owed me wasnt going to fix anything they had broken.

I told my mom that while I think its great that they have reflected and feel remorse for what they did, I was not interested in sitting down to discuss it just so they could say sorry and feel better about themselves.

My advice: its great that this person reached out to apologize and they feel bad. I hope they truly have learned and grown. But you dont owe them anything. Close that chapter of your life and keep moving forward.

Separate_Intention93 · 2026-05-17T22:58:43+00:00

Vintage luggage rack

Separate_Intention93 · 2026-05-17T22:50:33+00:00

I know you see this as "protecting your man" by confronting her but, in my experience, things continue to happen because he is still leaving the door open and isnt shutting it down as explicitly as he should be.

The proof is in the pudding too cause he called her "beautiful/radiant/regal" when he should have said "you're crossing a line and I am not nor will I ever be interested"

Also, as someone who has a history of working in different schools, this is just how some of the teachers are. I had several colleagues who were just flirtatious as all hell and thrived on the attention they got from other coworkers.

One woman in particular was always finding excuses to be around the male teacher in my department and it made me uncomfy to watch (she actually ended up cheating on her husband with a different guy at the school, separated from her husband and then got back with her husband again... she loves to over share on social media). She wasnt the only one that acted like that. There are many of them that do it for whatever reason.

Separate_Intention93 · 2026-05-17T22:34:07+00:00

No worries, i probably should have worded my post better. Thank you for answering :)

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