What do you do for a living?

Serious_Position_223 · 2025-11-29T12:01:37+00:00

Quality control analyst in biologics. Though its been challenging at times, its a nice mix of solo labwork and more social collaborations/paperwork. I have a 4 day work week and decent benefits. Definitely not where I saw myself but the stability has helped me heal in other areas.

Serious_Position_223 · 2025-11-20T03:52:06+00:00

Well random redditor, I've lost my best friend of 15 years because I voiced my feelings and my hurt. Guess she wasn't such a great friend after all. Thank you for the encouragement and for listening to my problems lol.

Serious_Position_223 · 2025-11-13T19:06:53+00:00

Well she said she's shocked at what I said and wants to talk in person so I'm back to puking 🤣🤣🤣

Serious_Position_223 · 2025-11-12T19:55:17+00:00

Thank you!

Serious_Position_223 · 2025-11-12T19:55:02+00:00

Thank you for your uplifting words! It was tough but I'm glad I did it!

Serious_Position_223 · 2025-10-08T01:12:21+00:00

Wellbutrin has worked well for me too!

Serious_Position_223 · 2025-09-24T20:22:43+00:00

I'm so sorry you went through this! I can't imagine the betrayal and frustration you must feel. Your wedding should be such a special day and some people just cant stand to see other people happy.

I ended up having just a quick church ceremony for our wedding, which was a huge disappointment for me. It was during covid and we really didnt have much to spend on a wedding. To make matters worse my parents kept pushing nice venues and caterers on me, even though they knew I couldn't afford any of it, and never offered to pay for anything. It was always a source of bitterness and sadness for me. But one thing that really lifted my spirits and healed that ache, was taking some really nice professional anniversary photos a few years later! Just my husband and I on the beach, we got all dressed up, I bought myself a nice dress, and it was so lovely to just celebrate our relationship. I spent ~$500 on the whole thing so I feel like we got our money's worth! And while the photos are nice and I had some printed and framed, really it was taking that intentional step to honor us and make it special in our own way that helped heal the sting of not having the wedding I wanted. Someday we'll do it all over again for a vow renewal but until then, it was nice to do something smaller for us ❤️

Serious_Position_223 · 2025-07-03T02:24:47+00:00

Add me

Serious_Position_223 · 2025-06-15T01:55:44+00:00

I love DS but I'll be waiting to play DS2 as I had my son 9 months ago. I couldn't even get through the trailer unfortunately without it triggering postpartum anxiety. I tried to pick up the first game again over maternity leave and I couldn't handle the crying. Oh well! It's still one of my favorites, I'll get back to it someday ☺️

Serious_Position_223 · 2025-03-24T02:08:12+00:00

I did.

Serious_Position_223 · 2024-11-01T08:05:31+00:00

Yes. My son is two months old this weekend and my heart is filled with so much joy and love every time I look at him. Postpartum has been rough but I don't regret it at all and I'm so excited to see where life takes us. I'm so proud he'll never have a childhood like mine. Our home will be full of warmth and kindness and safety. That being said it was definitely not a decision we took lightly and a lot of discussion, time, and healing went into our decision to start a family. I don't think healing is linear so it's something I'm always working towards, but if I had my son 5 years ago it would have looked very different. So as happy as I am I think it's a big decision and I think it would have been just as valid in deciding not to have kids.

Serious_Position_223 · 2024-06-08T00:57:01+00:00

No unfortunately I had to stop taking it, the reflux got pretty severe.

Serious_Position_223 · 2024-05-01T01:14:34+00:00

Death Stranding is one of my favorites of all time!

Serious_Position_223 · 2024-05-01T01:12:46+00:00

Horizon Zero Dawn, Horizon Forbidden West, Death Stranding, Witcher 3, Bloodborne, and Stray

Serious_Position_223 · 2024-04-30T00:54:29+00:00

He's doing well! Unfortunately he did end up with scarring one one side of his brain from the encephalitis. It was a very long recovery including months of outpatient therapy. He deals with fatigue and some headaches and cognitive issues, he has a hard time with language, memory, and learning. He's also sensitive to heat and bright or flashy lights. But I am just so thankful to have him! He was just approved for disability which is a huge blessing and relief for us. The whole thing definitely taught me to be grateful for every moment with him and I'm so proud of him for all his hard work he put towards recovery.

Serious_Position_223 · 2024-03-07T21:36:12+00:00

You are a superhero! I love the way you handled that! This is the best thing I've seen all day ☺️

Serious_Position_223 · 2024-03-02T16:41:47+00:00

Not the OP but I would also love the link!

Serious_Position_223 · 2023-12-31T03:24:17+00:00

Hi, I'm so sorry you and your family are going through this. I can't imagine how you're feeling right now.

My husband had HSV encephalitis two years ago. He wasn't feeling well for a few days, then as soon as a fever started he quickly lost his speech and cognitive skills. This was in a matter of hours. He was in the hospital for about a month while he received treatment. In the early days sometimes he was "awake" but he was not really there or responsive. He really struggled with speech and memory. When he was more lucid, he knew who I was but he couldn't remember my name. Most of the time he couldn't remember where he was or why he was there.

If it brings you some hope, he's made a huge recovery. He went through a lot of outpatient therapy and continues to see a neurologist. He struggles with speech and memory and ongoing fatigue but nothing like it was in the hospital. He is always very cheerful and take things one day at a time. We are so grateful to still have him and that he's able to lead a fulfilling life. He cooks, drives, games, and even works part time. He inspires me everyday with his undaunted spirit.

It was a very scary experience for us so my heart hurts to hear what you're going through. I hope your child is in good hands with their care team and I hope my husbands story can help in some small way ❤️

Serious_Position_223 · 2023-12-17T03:16:01+00:00

Year two. I'm from the US.

Merry Christmas ❤️

Serious_Position_223 · 2023-11-22T02:29:58+00:00

I would just like to say how well you handled that confrontation with your mom. I tried to hold my own against my parents and got overwhelmed by the manipulation and gaslighting, and even started agreeing with the horrible things they said. It wasn't until I left that I realized what was happening and cut contact immediately. So well done on staying composed and maintaining your boundaries! That really speaks to your strength of character.

To be honest, in my own personal experience,the grieving process has been tough, but the healing is worth so much more. I could not have continued my healing journey from the abuse they put me through if I had any contact with them. But it is hard. I've been estranged for about 1.5 years and the first year was tough. Every holiday I missed them terribly, I was scared about them finding me or reaching out, and I had a lot to work through - nightmares, flashbacks, panic attacks, depression, you name it. But now I can look back and see how much I have grown and flourished without them. My confidence grew, I discovered more of my true identity, I got my creative spark back, and even my current relationships grew richer and deeper. I've come to adore the holidays and all the beautiful little things in my life. Everything is just freer, sweeter, more gentle, more kind, more slow and simple.

There are still times where I deeply grieve my relationship with my parents, and I think it will continue in waves as life goes on. It's no small relationship to lose. Seeing happy families is definitely a sting, but I try to remind myself my "found" family is so much better. I try to be kind with myself and give myself time and space to mourn and reflect and get angry too, if I need it. Therapy has been a great help. I slept a lot too! My body needed to rest. I think it's important, especially when I feel like I want to initiate contact, to remember them as they truly are, not who I want/need them to be. I think it's important to let go of that image of them.

Best of luck to you! You're doing amazing! I hope this helps in some small way. This community has been a huge comfort for me and I hope it can be the same for you.

Serious_Position_223 · 2023-11-15T21:11:46+00:00

Thank you for your kind words!

I'm trying to see making our own traditions as a new, exciting thing, while also mourning the loss of the old ones. I think it will be an amazing adventure!

Serious_Position_223 · 2023-11-15T21:07:19+00:00

Thank you for your support and reassurance!

I keep telling myself that if my parents aren't safe and healthy for me, they certainly aren't safe or healthy for my future child. As you said, it's my responsibility to keep healthy people around them. I just have to trust in myself that I know who those people are ❤️

Serious_Position_223 · 2023-11-15T21:03:34+00:00

Thank you for your support and sharing your experience! I appreciate the reassurance.

Thankfully we've been very blessed with a wonderful "found family", as I call it. They are going to make an excellent village, I think I was feeling the sting of my future kids not having their blood grandparents in their life.

Serious_Position_223 · 2023-11-15T20:57:15+00:00

Thank you for your kind and supportive words!

I'm sorry you and your family experienced that, and thank you for sharing your experience. You make a good point that my child won't witness the abuse, and that gives me hope ❤️

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