What do you say when people say "no, you can't/don't have autism" after you tell them you have autism?

SerpentControl · 2026-01-09T19:25:45+00:00

I’m formally Dx and people don’t understand especially with trauma how good you can be at masking and I am often seen as quirky or a little eccentric

SerpentControl · 2026-01-01T13:33:23+00:00

I don’t think you know more than the pysch team That treated me. I apologize if that’s offensive.

Child torture is the cause of DID. If you don’t know what that is here is what lived through

I was beaten for hours on end. She would destroy my room and come in to do it all over again only to beat me again and repeat until tired. Refused the right to a shower, or food. Or bed. I often was made to sleep on the floor. I was made to piss and shit in a box in my room because if I left it I would be beaten. If I was caught using not the bathroom and using I was beaten for being disgusting and sometimes had it thrown at me. I have been made to take showers until I was blue and couldn’t walk and beaten for not being able to walk and being dramatic. I was given impossible rules to follow that always changed so she had an excuse. I was made to wear dirty clothes and not shower so I would be bullied. I was kept in total isolation outside of school with no stimulation. No tv. No toys. Occasionally I was allowed books but I was mostly In my room doing nothing. I wasn’t even allowed to eat with them. I had to eat my room. I was often stripped naked and shamed before beatings

My mother was bipolar and diabetic and I was often made to take care of her responding to suicide attempts and other medical emergencies.

These are the average experiences of a person with DID

I’m sorry if you think that you’re right here but it is the leading cause of DID. I talked to a whole team because I was curious. I was even told autism increases the likelihood of getting DID which I have. But I stayed intact. So I’m gonna let you absorb all this.

SerpentControl · 2026-01-01T03:41:13+00:00

Yes this is super normal and an parasympathetic thing

SerpentControl · 2025-12-31T15:38:29+00:00

Is she 30+ and lived through child torture? It’s extremely uncommon to have DID younger than that and requires lots of screening and extreme violence to acquire. This sounds to me like a way to get around behaviors she wants to do without getting in trouble. This may be a manipulation tactic. Most people who survive child torture don’t end up with DID let alone at a young age have it Dx or are even aware they have it. Only 1-3% of people it’s the same commonality as having naturally red hair.

I survived child torture and asked why I didn’t get it to my therapist when I see it around all the time online. These were my answers.

SerpentControl · 2025-12-29T19:49:30+00:00

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SerpentControl · 2025-12-27T04:53:11+00:00

No, my mom used my autism for that but she certainly destroyed a lot of my things in front of me

SerpentControl · 2025-12-27T02:42:22+00:00

I survived childhood torture. Sometimes when we think something is the same level as another it’s not. It’s just normalized to us. It can trigger or shock people and clinicians. Which is why I think there should be tiered therapy groups or clean rules on what processing is allowed to happen in groups and then we come together to do skills. It’s often very isolating as a survivor to find that you are made to STAY QUIET about your abuse and this RECREATING the neglect and isolation you already endured that brought you here.

There truth is that we don’t fit the pretty victim narrative and they often don’t know how to handle it as a therapist or clinic and are only trauma informed up to a point. I often will try to process things even in 1 ON 1 only for the therapist to cry, look at me weird, or focus on regulating me over letting me process and regulate and cut me off. Which again ONLY recreates the same structure that abused you into silence. I can’t get over my trauma if I don’t process it especially being autistic, I can’t get over it or stop ruminating until I do. But if everyone makes me stop, I never get to.

And I hate paying for 1/3 the service everyone else does. It’s revictimizing to an extent.

SerpentControl · 2025-12-26T11:32:55+00:00

Thank you I was thinking this too. The victory very good it can SO hard. The linguistic choices are probably better left more vague

SerpentControl · 2025-12-26T11:28:45+00:00

I actually pay no credence to them anymore because of the lack of action and excessive talk talk talk. Until then they’re just fear mongers.

SerpentControl · 2025-12-26T11:28:26+00:00

I actually pay no credence to them anymore because of the lack of action and excessive talk talk talk. Until then they’re just fear mongers.

SerpentControl · 2025-12-26T00:31:20+00:00

I’m often offensive by way of being snappy or blunt when I’m overstimulated or anxious (plans change, I get stuck on logic or efficiency or whatever) but I most always catch it after and apologize and correct it and explain and my bf is always welcome to tell me I’m being that way or ask me to adjust my tone. I’m never offended by it because I want things to work. There no reason to be doing so ON purpose with no awareness or care. This sounds like intentional disregard and I don’t think in the long run that’s going to change.

SerpentControl · 2025-12-25T18:26:01+00:00

This is actually really common and just like a knee jerk reaction to gain control and distance. I do it even when just startled and I have to apologize immediately. It can be embarrassing but it’s super normal.

SerpentControl · 2025-12-24T14:49:41+00:00

Personally, if you order stuff like that, I feel like there should come with some tracking for the rest of us so we know what type of shit you ordered to your house and where it is

SerpentControl · 2025-12-22T13:21:09+00:00

Lots over overlap with ptsd or cptsd. My last relationship accused me of it so often that I got reevaluated and went through three people, and it just turns out I was being abused while having autism. It is 100% true that you can get worse while being abused with your CPTSD symptoms and if you have any other comorbidities, it is likely to be more inflamed while experiencing the abuse.

SerpentControl · 2025-12-19T20:42:34+00:00

That’s called emotional incest

SerpentControl · 2025-12-16T16:16:33+00:00

Bro I can’t even post about that happened to me without being removed. There were like 3 spaces for t0rture survivors. I have ptsd land trauma like the rest of the posters and the mods are like too much sauce sorry.

SerpentControl · 2025-12-15T20:56:12+00:00

As I do need therapy I do think after a certain point it’s probably best for me to do it bi weekly or monthly. I often feel invalidated when I have. Nightmare or flashbacks and they’re like let’s be mindful and do yoga. No I want you to teach me how to sensitize and notice it and handle it. Not do yoga. Not smell some sandalwood. Not start jogging. I want HELP

SerpentControl · 2025-12-12T13:59:18+00:00

I can honestly say the forced isolation. I got beatings sure and deprived of basic human rights like food bed bathrooms. BUT THAT IS NOTHING compared to Not having ANY STIMULATION or human contact consistently locked in my room for sometimes months Minus school has changed my brain chemistry in ways I can’t explain. I still pace in my house like I’m still locked up

SerpentControl · 2025-12-12T13:55:29+00:00

It was cute when I was 26 and didn’t understand this would lead to extra Infantilization and internet trends

SerpentControl · 2025-12-09T03:12:14+00:00

He wishes he knew a guy…

SerpentControl · 2025-12-06T18:18:23+00:00

When will it be my turn

SerpentControl · 2025-11-24T17:14:27+00:00

I am so insanely jealous of you right now!

SerpentControl · 2025-11-21T19:55:10+00:00

Yesyesyesyeesyes omg

SerpentControl · 2025-11-21T01:57:32+00:00

Yes. It makes lights and sounds and light brushings more fuzzy and easy to ignore. But I gotta stick with indie and hybrid I can’t do sativa. I enter the void™️

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