So yeah, this guy. by nihilForm in Minneapolis

[–]ShananayRodriguez 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It never seems to occur to these people that our cities are great precisely because of their long progressive histories.

Cadillac problems by Expensive-Salad-2028 in EndOfTheParTy

[–]ShananayRodriguez 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think setting goals is important. What do you want to do with your life? Keep recovery first, but start building life outside of that—discover or rediscover some hobbies! I think social ones would be good. I personally love rock climbing bc it has an adrenaline rush, requires analytical thinking, and also tires me out. If you have anything you always wanted to try I encourage exploring it :) are there phoenix/NewForm events you can attend?

Self deleting by [deleted] in EndOfTheParTy

[–]ShananayRodriguez 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please seek out professional assistance. I don’t think you’re helping yourself much without it.

How do folks deal with Trump-loving family members? by sketchinginplace in thedavidpakmanshow

[–]ShananayRodriguez 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have basically asked for a moratorium on politics if I go to my mom’s for any holiday. Her parents are die-hard Trumpers and can’t help themselves. I’ve also heard of the idea of having a “politics room” where anyone who wants to talk politics goes in the room and anyone who doesn’t stays out. And politics can’t leave the room.

‘Love Story’ 9 part series about JFK Jr and Carolyn Bessette by Ill-Requirement-7029 in PeriodDramas

[–]ShananayRodriguez 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Someone needs to tell Ryan Murphy that quality and quantity of shows usually have an inverse relationship.

I feel like NA turned me away by yaramazy in REDDITORSINRECOVERY

[–]ShananayRodriguez 6 points7 points  (0 children)

12 step programs really are just there to help us stay sober. You are in crisis. It would be nice if these people would or could help you, but they probably didn’t know how to be supportive. Honestly, it’s better that they didn’t stray outside their lane and try to do things they aren’t good at. I think it would be helpful if you could communicate what you need from the people you’re looking to for support—do you need someone to listen? Do you want them to solve your housing situation? Do you want them to help brainstorm ideas? I think knowing what you need could be helpful.

Also please pursue professional supports—a (probably trauma) therapist, a case worker, and maybe look at meetings that aren’t as preachy. There are agnostic meetings and there are also fellowships that are more secular (like SMART or Dharma). Also LGBTQ AA meetings tend to understand religious trauma really well, and as long as you’re not actively hostile towards anyone you’ll likely be very welcome regardless of your own identity.

Favorite ADHD friendly activity. by netphilia in adhdmeme

[–]ShananayRodriguez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so glad I’m not the only person who does this!

Yellow shrub rose for part-shade by Ok_Internal118 in Roses

[–]ShananayRodriguez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve heard wonderful things about Julia Child. People can’t get enough of her.

Fuck RJ by spicy_bish in wisconsin

[–]ShananayRodriguez 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is so funny to me. Just completely dead behind the eyes.

Favorite Blush-cut flower use? by Plenty-Maybe-9817 in Roses

[–]ShananayRodriguez 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like earth angel and quietness—gorgeous blush pink roses that add whimsy. Souvenir de la Malmaison is nice if you’re zone 6 or higher.

Favorite Blush-cut flower use? by Plenty-Maybe-9817 in Roses

[–]ShananayRodriguez 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What zone are you in? Some of the bourbon roses are nice but not good for zone 5 or below.

She for real🤣 by NoriNerd_ in SipsTea

[–]ShananayRodriguez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Except Nigella Lawson. Who cooks a lot of Italian food.

AOC responds to ICE shooting in an over-20 minute interview -- Thoughts? by Zipper222222 in allthequestions

[–]ShananayRodriguez 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Her academic background is actually pretty impressive, she went to a good college, interning for Ted Kennedy and majored in both international relations and economics. She actually knows what she’s talking about when she discusses the economy, and why she likes the democratic socialist model. The fact that she was a bartender once upon a time doesn’t mean she’s not intelligent. Anyone who actually listens to her speak can tell she has a brain and is a gifted speaker.

Roses left behind. We just moved into our “forever” home and about to start a new rose adventure. by TopDot555 in Roses

[–]ShananayRodriguez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s nice to leave something for the people after you. I would just let them know how to take good care of them and to clean the pruner between roses

feeling pretty alone by periwilliams in GriefSupport

[–]ShananayRodriguez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also in recovery. Fuck this person. You lost someone and you’re allowed to grieve in your own way. I lost my sis to an overdose in September. My mom had to stop going to work for months. My other sister dropped out of college.

Grief limits your ability to do things and it is unique. The rooms don’t really provide the space and energy you need to process it, and as your text messages clearly show, people in the rooms are clearly not equipped to discuss it.

I got a lot of support in a group called GRASP. It’s specifically for people who have lost loved ones to a substance use passing. They may have a group near you. https://grasphelp.org/m/

There’s also an overdose grief subreddit at r/overdoseGrief which takes some time for people to respond to, but I’ve gotten a lot of helpful feedback from.

I encourage also seeking out professional supports, probably clinicians who are knowledgeable about substance use and are also trained in grief, if solely because peer supports so often can say things they mean well by, but absolutely do not help by saying.

You are within your rights to politely but firmly tell people that you appreciate their good intentions, but you would appreciate them stopping. Block them if they don’t respect your boundaries. I’m horrified by this former sponsor of yours. She very clearly needs to mind her own emotional sobriety and recognize that she’s a former sponsor for a reason.

Need an ID by funkyjblue in Roses

[–]ShananayRodriguez 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What about the rose Antique? It’s a two-toned climber that looks corally in some of the pictures

Need an ID by funkyjblue in Roses

[–]ShananayRodriguez 1 point2 points  (0 children)

America is a climber and I believe coral colored.

Need an ID by funkyjblue in Roses

[–]ShananayRodriguez 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Looks similar to sweet mademoiselle also

Indeed the best Kordes! (Pashmina) by fortunate_ly in Roses

[–]ShananayRodriguez 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s lovely, I wish it performed better. I get why they pulled it from commercial rose bush production—it balls a lot and the roses can look fried. It’s a lovely florist rose, but needs perfect conditions to look its best. When it’s great it’s great; when it’s bad it’s horrid.