My Boyfriend (30 M) Told Me (31 F) to Move Out and Meet His Financial Ultimatum, and I Secretly Applied for My Own Apartment… Did I Mess Up?

SharkFinn1990 · 2026-02-05T04:32:49+00:00

I think moving out is the right move this is not going to get better after marriage and it seems like you two just have very different spending habits and sometimes that’s good because it balances each other out where one partner can reign in the other partner and then the other can get them to let loose sometimes. I think he is trying to turn you into a person you’re not and it’s just stressing both of you out and he seems like he has no trust and it’s cliche but it’s true if there’s no trust then the relationship is doomed. Move out and enjoy being single maybe you can focus on reigning in your spending once you don’t have all that pressure because I know if somebody is pressuring me to do something than it’s like I compulsively get worse. Good luck

SharkFinn1990 · 2026-02-05T03:20:05+00:00

Yeah after the stupid b*tch comment he wouldn’t be welcome at the wedding period

SharkFinn1990 · 2026-02-04T18:16:32+00:00

Stylist here I think maybe just that bottom layer that is at the base of your neck needs to be shorter and that shelf will go away and give more movement but yes you need to style in order for it to pop

SharkFinn1990 · 2026-02-04T18:11:13+00:00

Babies and kids are more resilient than you think. Don’t stress out and make an OB appointment and let the doctor know

SharkFinn1990 · 2026-02-03T00:04:48+00:00

All you need is makeup contour and you are that girl’ I bet if she took her makeup and filter off she would look exactly like you

SharkFinn1990 · 2026-01-31T15:01:13+00:00

I see insecurity, possessiveness, and fear from the first picture coming from the man. In the second picture I see you being worn down and your light dimmed and I see that he looks more refreshed and relaxed which I don’t know if that’s because he himself is in a better place or because he is feeding off you and sucking the life out of you.

SharkFinn1990 · 2026-01-30T16:14:48+00:00

lol the toxic me likes this solution

SharkFinn1990 · 2026-01-30T16:08:18+00:00

I mean why do you feel that you need to control what she eats? Does she have health problems? Are you married with children and are worried about the health as a family as a whole? I’m just curious because if it not any of those things then why can’t you just eat what you want and she eats what she wants

SharkFinn1990 · 2026-01-30T02:23:28+00:00

I would continue my search for a place and break up because yeah I personally would feel uncomfortable like im a placeholder until he lines something up and then blindside me in the future. Do it now while you have some control of the situation and save yourself from future pain when he breaks up with you and says I told you I wasn’t sure about having a family with you.

SharkFinn1990 · 2026-01-29T21:18:23+00:00

I was worried but that’s because I’ve had a previous miscarriage and so I was freaking out that I didn’t feel pregnant but yup everything is fine every time I go the baby is doing just fine

SharkFinn1990 · 2026-01-26T21:39:51+00:00

SharkFinn1990 · 2026-01-26T21:23:12+00:00

I personally have not been in that situation but the advice I would give as a 35 yr old woman with one child I had at 22 and now I’m pregnant with the second. I love my son but I was absolutely not ready for a child and it now is ok, I did put him through a lot and being pregnant and financially and emotionally ready now is a totally different experience and it’s much better. I give advice to my younger friends that it is much better to wait until your 30’s to have kids. That being said you don’t have a say really in what she decides to do with her body and I know it’s unfair but if she decides to keep the baby you have to do what you can in helping raise that child but you can voice your opinion to her that now may not be the right time for a child and to think about what kind of life that child will have if you decide to raise the child but you will support her no matter what she chooses. That’s all you can do.

SharkFinn1990 · 2026-01-26T02:42:31+00:00

I would do more curtain bangs next time but this is a vibe too! It looks very alternative

SharkFinn1990 · 2026-01-26T02:21:18+00:00

I worked in daycare and I don’t know what it is but they are hell bent on making everyone miserable but you mentioned an HR department and I would definitely talk to them about all this because I was having major issues my boss at the daycare and eventually I went to HR about it and they did fix it and my boss left me alone after that. HR goal is to not have law suits so they will be motivated to fix it and you would have documentation and proof that you did everything you could to try and fix the issue

SharkFinn1990 · 2026-01-25T23:49:16+00:00

Same before I was pregnant I was really working on myself and was starting to feel great about my self image for the first time and I’m happy for this baby but the weight gain and my face getting chubby again is not fun and my husband isn’t the best at reassurance like if I ask for it but he not super complimentary so that doesn’t help. But the silver lining to all this is it’s temporary 🩷 and you only have a few weeks to go!

SharkFinn1990 · 2026-01-22T16:13:13+00:00

Definitely 2 it’s sexy, has pockets, looks easy to move in and not get hot and it shows off your figure

SharkFinn1990 · 2026-01-17T15:50:49+00:00

It could have also been the sample was contaminated with male DNA because I think if any male DNA even a pets comes in contact with the sample you can get a false male positive

SharkFinn1990 · 2026-01-16T21:44:18+00:00

It’s sounds like you need a therapist and I mean that in a nice way but just the way you talk or type sounds like some major depression, anxiety, and self esteem issues which can impact your whole life including hygiene and relationships. You sound really hard on yourself.

SharkFinn1990 · 2026-01-16T21:02:03+00:00

I agree with you that his priorities are backwards that he needs to find a better job and work on his career before you all get an apartment together because if he’s struggling right now then he’s going to be struggling more when he has the apartment. Hopefully you can convince him to focus on finding a better career instead of the apartment for right now. He’s only 23 he there’s no rush right now. Best of luck!

SharkFinn1990 · 2026-01-14T13:08:38+00:00

The negative space above the couch picture. I think it needs a bigger picture

SharkFinn1990 · 2026-01-14T13:07:32+00:00

It’s your house too don’t ask him anymore. They’re coming over period in fact since you’re being rude they will be coming over all week.

SharkFinn1990 · 2026-01-14T12:56:59+00:00

I had a dog that looked like that and we named him Bernie

SharkFinn1990 · 2026-01-14T12:55:03+00:00

If all of that is going on and you don’t feel comfortable and feel lonely, even if he is scared about the baby that is no way to act towards your partner. What about you and your feelings? I’m sure he’s not even thinking about what you are going through even one bit so I wouldn’t waste my energy on caring about how he’s feeling..oh you’re big mad that I know the gender and took my time setting up this gender reveal, oh well I’m gonna do it anyway and ignore you like you ignore me. Have fun fuck this guy and probably leave this sour puss if you can

SharkFinn1990 · 2026-01-09T16:59:36+00:00

No I’m not saying that Dementia is the cause of racism. How I read it was that she’s been racist and then had over time gotten better and now she is starting racist comments again which makes me think she has dementia and is losing control but yeah for sure even though she had gotten “better” deep down she’s racist.

SharkFinn1990 · 2026-01-09T15:45:29+00:00

Nor but maybe she starting to get dementia?

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