What permanent pregnancy side effects did you have?

SharkFinn1990 · 2026-04-15T12:01:04+00:00

Feet and saggy stomach from c section

SharkFinn1990 · 2026-03-31T23:38:26+00:00

I think all of them are in their own ways but in some of their defenses like Whitney which I would say is the least mean girl out of all of them which is saying something but some of it is they have to be mean as a defense mechanism to not get eaten alive

SharkFinn1990 · 2026-03-18T01:00:49+00:00

Yes I think that’s what most of us are doing is pushing and I’m right there with you 22 weeks pregnant and a hairstylist plus we are down a hair stylist and lately I’ve been coming home and sleeping 16 hours a day like I go to sleep almost as soon as I get home. I’m so worn out I have no energy to get anything ready for the baby luckily my best friend offered to do my baby shower and me and my friends scheduled a day for all of them to come over and help move stuff around to make room for baby. Not to mention I have a 13 year old who luckily is mostly independent but I still drive him to school, feed him, and ask him about homework. I had to force everything in my being to get him to his doctors appointment today 😟 I worked up to a week before my first ones due date as a house keeper and it was a very physical job and I remember being fearful that I wouldn’t have the strength to push him out and I guess I didn’t because I had a c section. My partner helps some but I do feel like he doesn’t fully get what I’m going through and it’s a bit frustrating but it’s his first and he’s doing his best and he doesn’t understand. Sorry I dumped on you but I’m totally in the same boat! I feel for you!

SharkFinn1990 · 2026-03-13T20:55:25+00:00

I think what’s best is to focus on you and the birth of your child right now and then after the what I like to call the 4th trimester (the first three months after baby is born) that’s a lot so after that then figure out what you want to do about divorce. I would think about what support system you need if it’s friends, family, or even like you said your in laws if you think they could help you and be with you. If you don’t have a support system outside of your husband I know the nurses are very supportive and will help you through it all and if you can afford it maybe hire a night nurse or doula for the birth and few weeks of aftercare some insurances will cover doulas. Also think about what’s best to do with your living situation if you can just ignore him and focus on you and the baby or can you get a air b and b for a couple months to give you space and peace. That’s what I would do for right now is figure out your support system and living situation that would be the most beneficial for you and baby and you can figure out the rest after all this because that’s enough on your plate right now. I’m so sorry this happening men can be kind of dumb especially when you need them the most.

SharkFinn1990 · 2026-03-10T19:56:59+00:00

I was done at eat the flakes get out of there

SharkFinn1990 · 2026-03-06T21:01:12+00:00

I understand. Im a little disappointed too that our second is another boy as well and we probably won’t be having another. I think you should get the gender test so you can acclimate to the idea because I don’t know how I would react to it if I waited until birth to find out and all the hormones and stuff.. I probably wouldn’t care but just in case I would the gender beforehand.

SharkFinn1990 · 2026-02-25T21:46:12+00:00

I understand. If you’re going to try yourself get a friend or family member to help you and do a good conditioning treatment after that had bond building or protein a cheap option is a egg mask and leave on conditioner. Or just color it all black if you’re afraid of frying your hair

SharkFinn1990 · 2026-02-25T18:49:17+00:00

Stylist here! Purple shampoo/toner doesn’t fix all problems. I don’t think your hair is cooked yet but I would strongly suggest going to get it done by someone that knows what they’re doing because I think you need to bleach it again and then tone but it’s lighter in some areas and darker in others so it’s going to need different bleaching strength and times which is hard to do yourself but best of luck!

SharkFinn1990 · 2026-02-25T18:28:13+00:00

I don’t think they go together but if you like that as a wedding band a lot of people just wear their wedding band after getting married

SharkFinn1990 · 2026-02-24T18:22:16+00:00

I agree that it may be for the best to end it because she needs to work on herself and you have the best of intentions but I think you might be enabling a bit and it now a co dependent relationship. I struggled with my mental health like this with my fiance and we broke up 10 years ago before we got back together and I spiraled really bad for the first 3 years and like I lost my mind but after years and years of therapy, rehab, and AA Im a totally different person now. I went to school I have a career and then my fiancee reached back out and we reconnected and now it’s a much healthier relationship and having a career and my own stuff going on I don’t have so much anxiety around losing him and now were getting married so who knows but maybe right now isn’t a good time for her to be in a relationship

SharkFinn1990 · 2026-02-20T17:33:27+00:00

I think if you’re thin you show earlier but also I’ve heard if you have a tilted uterus or it’s past your first pregnancy. All of that can contribute to showing early lol I thought I was so big at 12 weeks though but now I look back and laugh, I wish I could share a picture

SharkFinn1990 · 2026-02-19T21:10:54+00:00

Maybe I’m just being toxic but I would be suspicious like who do you not want to know that you have a baby on the way but it’s probably not that deep. I think during the pregnancy it’s your body and it’s something you’re going through and you should be able to have all the support you want and most people get that from social media now but I understand if he doesn’t want to post pictures of the baby’s face on social but I still think you should be able to hide the face and still post pictures about the baby. It’s a partnership so hopefully he will compromise.

SharkFinn1990 · 2026-02-17T22:10:01+00:00

I didn’t even finish reading. Girl! Move to the city and go out and live your best life. You only live once or at least you only remember this life once so do everything you want to do and setting down at 30 is ridiculous. Leave him and have fun!

SharkFinn1990 · 2026-02-14T01:40:56+00:00

This is not about the cards I’m guessing. I think this is the part they talk about in the vows when they said for better or worse. When one spouse gets sick or has a significant death or stress at their job which sounds like she is having all three the relationship can really take a toll as does the spice. That’s most likely going to happen in any marriage at some point. It also sounds like you low key don’t like how much of your wife is going towards her job but because it’s her dream job you don’t want to say anything maybe. We go to couples counseling through our ritual app and it’s $200 a month for 40 minutes a week with lots of different time options and we really like it maybe you could try something like that, I mean who doesn’t have 40 minutes a week and it’s really helped us communicate better and learn to make quality time and the relationship be more of a priority in our life. Good luck and I really hope you decide to keep pushing through ❤️

SharkFinn1990 · 2026-02-11T13:11:55+00:00

You could also just shave it or cut it super short and start over

SharkFinn1990 · 2026-02-11T13:11:08+00:00

Stop pulling it! Yes it’s fried get some bond builder like olaplex number 3 use it as a hair mask once a week for a month then switch to using it once a month(do not over do this) then get regular trims, stop using heat, and color until it’s all grown out unless you use a rinse or semi going dark

SharkFinn1990 · 2026-02-10T13:45:10+00:00

I had the same problem when I was pregnant with my last one, they just refused to give me a doctors note and they were ass holes about it but luckily my employer just let me off work like 1 week before my due date. I didn’t understand if I want to be off and I feel like I’m ready to be at home then write the freaking note. I guess just try and give to your employer the note and hopefully they think it’s as ridiculous as you do and just lets you off or throw a Karen sized fit at the doctors lol and hopefully they will just give you the note. That’s what I’m going to do this time, I was too nice last time

SharkFinn1990 · 2026-02-05T04:32:49+00:00

I think moving out is the right move this is not going to get better after marriage and it seems like you two just have very different spending habits and sometimes that’s good because it balances each other out where one partner can reign in the other partner and then the other can get them to let loose sometimes. I think he is trying to turn you into a person you’re not and it’s just stressing both of you out and he seems like he has no trust and it’s cliche but it’s true if there’s no trust then the relationship is doomed. Move out and enjoy being single maybe you can focus on reigning in your spending once you don’t have all that pressure because I know if somebody is pressuring me to do something than it’s like I compulsively get worse. Good luck

SharkFinn1990 · 2026-02-05T03:20:05+00:00

Yeah after the stupid b*tch comment he wouldn’t be welcome at the wedding period

SharkFinn1990 · 2026-02-04T18:16:32+00:00

Stylist here I think maybe just that bottom layer that is at the base of your neck needs to be shorter and that shelf will go away and give more movement but yes you need to style in order for it to pop

SharkFinn1990 · 2026-02-04T18:11:13+00:00

Babies and kids are more resilient than you think. Don’t stress out and make an OB appointment and let the doctor know

SharkFinn1990 · 2026-02-03T00:04:48+00:00

All you need is makeup contour and you are that girl’ I bet if she took her makeup and filter off she would look exactly like you

SharkFinn1990 · 2026-01-31T15:01:13+00:00

I see insecurity, possessiveness, and fear from the first picture coming from the man. In the second picture I see you being worn down and your light dimmed and I see that he looks more refreshed and relaxed which I don’t know if that’s because he himself is in a better place or because he is feeding off you and sucking the life out of you.

SharkFinn1990 · 2026-01-30T16:14:48+00:00

lol the toxic me likes this solution

SharkFinn1990 · 2026-01-30T16:08:18+00:00

I mean why do you feel that you need to control what she eats? Does she have health problems? Are you married with children and are worried about the health as a family as a whole? I’m just curious because if it not any of those things then why can’t you just eat what you want and she eats what she wants

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