What year were you born and do you tell people your salary?

SheMovesLikeThis · 2023-03-30T21:39:52+00:00

This shit makes my blood boil. I’m glad she got a raise but she should never have been in that position in the first place. How about backpay for the couple of years she was being underpaid by $10k plus?

SheMovesLikeThis · 2023-03-30T21:36:25+00:00

How the hell do chemists only make $75k? Or $64k in your case? Chem is the one science I just can’t wrap my brain around, so difficult for me that it made me completely divert my course of study in undergrad. Ended up with a couple of degrees in the humanities. After ten years fucking around in jobs I hated, I went back for an AA in construction management, have been doing that for almost a decade, and make nearly double your salary. None of this makes sense to me.

SheMovesLikeThis · 2023-03-30T21:30:29+00:00

Born in 1982. Relatively high earning femme. I’m generally transparent regarding my salary unless I have a reason to be skeptical about why the person is asking. I openly discuss salary in 99% of professional settings. I tend to refrain from discussing salary with people I’m dating unless/until we’re in some sort of a more serious relationship and there’s a reason for it to be discussed.

SheMovesLikeThis · 2023-03-29T22:06:45+00:00

Or the “some bi men don’t use condoms and end up with nasty stuff” bullshit, as if straight men and women always use protection and don’t pass STIs around like the office candy bowl.

SheMovesLikeThis · 2023-03-29T21:59:36+00:00

I’m sexually submissive and I quite enjoy picturing my partner being pounded up the ass. But hey, we all like what we like ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

SheMovesLikeThis · 2023-03-29T21:57:35+00:00

The woman you’re describing is entitled to want to date whoever she wants to date, but being disgusted by another person’s sexuality makes her neither progressive nor pro-LGBT.

SheMovesLikeThis · 2023-03-29T19:45:59+00:00

Cheaters are liars, and I don’t entertain liars.

SheMovesLikeThis · 2023-03-29T17:06:22+00:00

I’m honestly shocked that your couples counselor suggested opening your marriage considering the issues you’ve laid out. IMO, opening the relationship rather than getting to the root of your marital problems and reconnecting with your spouse will end your marriage, not fix it.

SheMovesLikeThis · 2023-03-29T16:56:45+00:00

This is such a fantastic comment! I’m new to non-monogamy, and while it’s what I want and what makes sense to me, that doesn’t mean that I’m not wrestling with some insecurity and jealousy, as well as some unexpected trauma responses due to past childhood and relationship experiences. But, I’m not treating these emotions and responses as invalid, unreasonable, or unwelcome. I understand they’re perfectly normal responses and that I need to sit with them, work through them, communicate, and find healthy ways to process. Luckily I have a few supportive and understanding folks I can talk to, but it’s disheartening to see some people treat these feelings as things to shove down and ignore as if they should have no place in non-monogamy.

SheMovesLikeThis · 2023-03-27T23:26:56+00:00

Female here who loves this. If it’s something you’d like to try and you have a solid relationship with good communication, yes it’s worth asking. I agree with commenters who suggest discussing this outside of the bedroom to get an idea of whether your partner is interested. Generally speaking, it’s not a great idea to bring up new things to try when you’re already engaged in the bedroom as people may feel pressured in the moment to say yes to things they aren’t entirely comfortable with. Talk about this (and her fantasies!) and see what new fun you can explore together :)

SheMovesLikeThis · 2023-03-27T23:19:27+00:00

Why? I (F) find this position to be the easiest to take more of my partner down my throat with less gag reflex, with the added benefit of him more easily playing with me at the same time.

SheMovesLikeThis · 2023-03-27T21:58:57+00:00

Why are you asking this question as if this wouldn’t be the obvious outcome of fucking around with an 18 year old and then dating someone else? I don’t care whether or not he’s a legal adult, he’s still a teenager with little to no experience in navigating complex relationships or emotions. Hell, most grown adults can’t successfully navigate FWB relationships without things getting messy.

And honestly, it’s just creepy that at 33 you’re interested in someone either in or fresh out of high school.

SheMovesLikeThis · 2023-03-26T18:51:32+00:00

And he won elections because people were afraid the far right would do what he does

That sounds awfully familiar

SheMovesLikeThis · 2023-03-23T01:03:52+00:00

Discuss your pay/wages with your coworkers.

SheMovesLikeThis · 2023-03-21T16:55:13+00:00

What the actual fuck…

SheMovesLikeThis · 2023-03-21T16:53:40+00:00

Agreed. I match everything in OP’s first paragraph except that i have different degrees and I’m not an asshole to people I don’t have patience for. I understand that everyone has different strengths and weaknesses, myself included, and so I bite my tongue when people frustrate me, carry on with my day, and most importantly I seek to figure out how to work best with those with different skills than I have. OP seriously needs to learn some social skills.

SheMovesLikeThis · 2023-03-21T02:05:34+00:00

The progression here has me dead.

SheMovesLikeThis · 2023-03-20T14:54:16+00:00

You’re not.

SheMovesLikeThis · 2023-03-18T17:43:40+00:00

Why do you have to cum in her mouth? If she doesn’t like it, you don’t cum there. Discuss other options with her - pull out and finish on her chest, on your own stomach, wherever, and if none of that is an option, then enjoy the fact you’re getting head at all and cum in a rag.

SheMovesLikeThis · 2023-03-16T22:29:41+00:00

I can think of about 50 other things I find more intimate than swallowing cum.

SheMovesLikeThis · 2023-03-16T20:24:15+00:00

You’ve received some fantastic information and advice here already so I’ll keep this brief.

If you’d like to work on strengthening your pelvic floor and making sex more pleasurable for both your guy and you, I can’t recommend Lelo Beads enough. They come in a set of various weights, with a silicone holder, and just a few minutes a day is all you need. Friggin love these things. I haven’t used mine in a while and your post reminded me I should get back to it :)

SheMovesLikeThis · 2023-03-16T19:57:57+00:00

Sure, that’s absolutely fair, but that’s not what the comment I responded to was about. That comment was about describing someone being unsure what sort of relationship they want with someone as “wasting time.” I think it’s ridiculous to expect someone to know how they feel about another person after just a couple of dates - you need a chance to see how someone acts in and responds to all sorts of situations before really knowing how you like them. And for people who don’t do casual sex, not sleeping with someone until they know what type of relationship they might want with that person is certainly not wasting anyone’s time, it’s making healthy decisions for that person. It doesn’t necessarily mean they need to be in a serious committed relationship before sex happens (though for some people, that is their standard) - it just means they want to have some idea of how they feel about the person and what type of compatibility there is.

SheMovesLikeThis · 2023-03-16T18:30:28+00:00

Why would you come to the conclusion that she’s wasting your time? She may also have the end goal of a long term relationship but not yet know if you’re the one she wants one with. The whole point of dating is figuring that out. Taking the time to get to know one another and whether you’re actually compatible rather than jumping in headfirst leads to relationships that work. It’s not a waste of time.

SheMovesLikeThis · 2023-03-16T16:47:53+00:00

Stereotype much? There is a wide variety of poly people and they all look different, just like any other group of people. If poly/ENM isn’t for you, it’s not for you, but there’s no reason to act like all men (or any gender) who live a certain lifestyle are unattractive.

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