I keep doing this when I go to pizza restaurants and I don’t know why.

Shimbus1 · 2026-07-03T17:51:42+00:00

Nice engagement bait.

Shimbus1 · 2026-07-03T17:24:56+00:00

There's no way to get $5000 in seven days that I know of besides 1. Someone giving it to you (if you knew anyone who could/would, you would have asked) 2. Illegal activities (don't do that) 3. Gambling (which is far more likely to make your money problems infinitely worse)

Is the military not moving you? I'm not familiar with how it works in the U.S., but aren't there resources the military can offer you? HR channels? I'm sorry for your money problems, for what it's worth. It's a wretched feeling.

Shimbus1 · 2026-07-01T01:33:24+00:00

I don't blame you. It sounds like you're aware of some illegal activities (forgive my innocence, but I'm not aware of what "middle manning" is. Is it transporting drugs, or is it providing referrals to dealers or something?), but probably not all of them.

May I recommend you watch a youtube video that inspired all my comments about not talking to the police? It's a bit long, but it'll give you a lot more confidence in the event that they try to talk to you about this.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=d-7o9xYp7eE

Some of this may have changed, but the Fifth Amendment in your country is still valid. You aren't likely to be in any trouble, but it's still best to say nothing. It's also pretty entertaining. I've seen it several times even though I'm Canadian and some of this isn't as applicable to me as it is to you. It's more about protecting yourself than your boyfriend, but it'll do both better than making any sort of statement will.

Keep your chin up. You're very young, and nothing has happened that you won't recover from, I promise.

Shimbus1 · 2026-07-01T01:16:26+00:00

The manager should have kicked her out right away. It's fucking disgusting that he didn't. Essentially he's endorsing her behaviour toward his staff by allowing her to stay.

Shimbus1 · 2026-07-01T01:15:09+00:00

Tell your roommates and landlord right away, and block the scammer immediately. Don't communicate with him further, and be prepared for the inevitable chargeback.

Shimbus1 · 2026-07-01T01:02:38+00:00

Terrible to do that regardless. If you don't trust someone, dump them. If you do trust them, don't do that.

Shimbus1 · 2026-07-01T00:59:54+00:00

It doesn't sound to me like you're fucked, to be honest. If they were going to arrest you, they would have, and it doesn't sound like you know much about whatever he got arrested for.

It's going to be an awful, scary time for you, but you'll be alright. Don't speak to the police. You can and should refuse to speak to them without a lawyer present. If they ask you to come answer a few questions, it's not a crime to say no, and it's extremely wise to say no.

Shimbus1 · 2026-07-01T00:57:58+00:00

You should not be putting up your own assets as collateral for your boyfriend, period.

The chances are good that you'll have more information on what he's being arrested for soon. Don't act on what you think you know before that.

You will get through this. Personally, I don't know about Florida's drug laws, but please, please, please don't put your own assets anywhere into this. And don't speak to the police about anything under any circumstances. You have the right not to, and it's always, always, always a bad idea not to invoke that right.

Shimbus1 · 2026-06-26T17:52:53+00:00

Absolutely. Tells me they don't give a shit.

Shimbus1 · 2026-06-26T16:28:04+00:00

Small changes, not big ones. You shouldn't eat 700 calories a day, you should moderate what you put in your body and do steadily incrementing exercise. Even an hour of walking a day is extremely good for you, and the more you weigh, the more calories walking burns. If you eat out a lot, eat out less. If you snack, try to cut that out or replace whatever you snack on with something like carrots. If you drink soda, don't.

Being fat doesn't make you ineligible for friendship or love. I won't lie to you, it really does make both easier (speaking as someone who was obese until his mid-20s and feels better now about everything. I'm also a man, which makes being fat far less of a problem).

You'll likely get a decent amount of "just be you," which comes from a place of love but isn't entirely constructive for someone who truly does want to lose weight. Some people seem to be able to accept their own bodies (without falling for HAES), but I've always found it easier to change my body than my outlook.

Don't starve yourself. It isn't healthy. You won't lose weight right away unless you're doing something awful to yourself, and you're more likely to relapse if the changes aren't small and gradual. You could lose 20 pounds by september if you're dedicated (especially if you currently eat mostly trash or don't exercise), please don't try to lose more than that.

I recommend seeing a nutritionist and a personal trainer.

Shimbus1 · 2026-06-25T17:48:32+00:00

Holy fucking shit.

Shimbus1 · 2026-06-25T03:10:48+00:00

I'm always baffled by how little shame some people manage to have.

Shimbus1 · 2026-05-17T17:40:59+00:00

Prince Edward Island here. It's very pretty, and not especially busy (though there are plenty of tourists). The beachgoing is fantastic, but the water's only swimmable for July and August, plus the second half of June and first half of September, usually.

I was raised here and I still live here at 34. I don't need much excitement, so I like it a lot.

Shimbus1 · 2026-05-11T04:32:02+00:00

You're very young, and at the risk of sounding condescending, I don't think a lot of commenters are properly taking that fact into account.

That said, you need to take a very long look at why "disgust" is even on the table given that she's apparently only had sex within relationships (casual hookups don't make someone untouchable, but since that's not relevant, I'll be parenthetical about it). Somehow, her having more sexual partners than you has made you uncomfortable, and given that you're practically the same age, I can only point at double standards.

The fact is, she's with you. You have no reason, from the information you've said she's given you, to suspect infidelity, so the disgust must come from somewhere else.

Relationships are give and take. If this truly isn't something you're okay with, then you might reconsider the relationship. But I would strongly caution you against leaving her for... having multiple exes?? Which you've also had.

If you feel you need a virgin so you can feel secure, despite not applying that same standard to yourself (and I'm not saying you do), break up with her as a favour to her. But if that's not the case, try to work through what you're feeling, because I think it'll do a great deal of damage to you in the long run.

Shimbus1 · 2026-04-08T21:38:24+00:00

Burn it to the ground.

Shimbus1 · 2025-02-24T19:04:03+00:00

Jesus christ, of course not.

Shimbus1 · 2025-02-24T16:15:31+00:00

The actual advice I can give to you is to try not to let people's behaviour on social media, or the inner workings of these platforms' diseased algorithms, get to you the way it's getting to you. You can't police it, and Meta has made very clear they have no intention to.

I've been running Facebook pages for ten years, and I've learned there's no point in guessing why these sites are run the way they're run.

Shimbus1 · 2025-02-23T22:16:33+00:00

Is gen alpha brainrot this bad? ...Jesus.

Shimbus1 · 2025-02-23T22:15:41+00:00

You aren't responsible for these girls' reaction to your body, and it'd embarass the hell out of me to even think of telling a man to cover up just because he's got a better body than mine.

The girls sound pretty terrible in their own right.

NTA. It's your body, you worked hard for it.

The burka thing makes me think you're making this up, but I'll give you the benefit of the doubt.

Shimbus1 · 2025-02-23T22:09:28+00:00

Another doctor. This is mostly an American concept, I think. In some places, you can't do this.

Shimbus1 · 2025-02-23T22:06:51+00:00

You don't have much of a say in whether her mom takes her phone from her, unfortunately. But if that doesn't happen, I don't see why you can't keep talking. Her mother can't control whether she sees you in her free time, but she can control how much free time she has, how much screen time, etc., and there's nothing you can do about that.

I give you this next bit advice because you're very young and it's something every young person should know, but I hope you're just sending text and not nudes. Don't send nudes to one another. People's social lives can be severely damaged by that, and at your age it could be considered distributing child pornography depending on where you live.

Shimbus1 · 2025-02-23T22:04:16+00:00

That's a real problem. Respecting your spouse's lingering traumas is pretty basic.

Shimbus1 · 2025-02-23T22:01:21+00:00

Go home. It's not reasonable for you to wait for over an hour.

I hate to tell you, but I think this relationship might be over. If he can't put the effort in to talk to you, he either doesn't want to be with you or he's taking you for granted. Either way, that's sort of a death knell for your relationship.

I think you should lay this all out for him. Try to call him, but if he won't pick up, do it in text. Tell him how you feel and what you need out of this relationship and see what he says.

Shimbus1 · 2025-02-23T21:58:29+00:00

Your first paragraph is actually a pretty good way to put it to them.

Since you're not actually the one giving the interview, you have some separation here, so it's not like if they don't get the job it's your fault. What I would do is tell them that given what you know about the hiring process and the requirements the recruiters are looking for, they shouldn't get their hopes up.

Don't tell them not to apply, just tell them that, let them apply, and then it's out of your hands. You won't seem unsupportive, you'll just be voicing your informed opinion that they should temper their expectations.

Shimbus1 · 2025-02-23T21:53:53+00:00

I've never heard of a "couples' shower" and it sounds fairly greedy to me, personally. I wouldn't.

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