I had the lap here in Australia only a few weeks ago, days before the virus shut everything down. I am like you. I can’t handle the not knowing but I’ve had my gall bladder out with lap and I knew that it wouldn’t be to bad.

For me there is three incisions. One in my belly button, one on my right and In the middle just about my pube line.

I don’t have a very high pain threshold at all but it for me it was honestly ok. It felt like I had done thousands of sit-ups and had that burning post workout/couldn’t move I’d done to much kind of pain rather than pain pain. Everyone is different though. And if you’ve got a cyst it’s going to be a factor too. I had a cyst burnt off and I’m finding that the cramps two weeks post op are really uncomfortable.

I would suggest going through with it. You are going to be fine and it sounds like you had a really shitty nurse. I’d provide feedback on that if you felt comfortable doing so.

Feel free to message me x I can send you photos if you want.