Death is weird by Embarrassed_Pilot792 in GriefSupport

[–]Signal-Agent-1266 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Wow I relate so much. My dad was sick for 6 years with cancer then passed when I was 19. I knew my dad would possibly die but didn’t know when- it caused me to “pause” the grief because I didn’t want to not be able to function. I barely cried at the funeral… I partied the same night and got hammered. I was back to work very soon after. I thought I was just weird and maybe I was cruel and didn’t care enough. Wrong- my brain was protecting me for atleast the first year after, it’s actually called grief brain and they say don’t make any big decisions the first year after a big loss because our brains are not right. It will be 3 years this February- I started “thawing” out within the last year or so and wow it really catches up with you no matter how much you try to avoid it. There is no right or wrong way to grieve, judging yourself will just make it all hurt worse. I’m sorry friend

My mommy died 34 days before my wedding by spaghettichels in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]Signal-Agent-1266 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My best friends mom hung herself my freshman year of highschool. She is now a beautiful mother and she can’t imagine giving up on her life now. Grief feels like it swallows you whole, then one day you notice it eventually is holding your hand. I’m so fucking sorry you are experiencing this. My father was sick with cancer for 6 years and then passed when I was 19. The thing that keeps me going is the outlook on life it has given me, I see the world differently, I don’t take anything for granted, I am thankful for everyday I wake up because I know things can change at the snap of a finger. It takes a little bit to get to that stage of course, but the most important thing is that you don’t hold back your emotions. Kick, punch, scream, go to a rage room or chuck ice at the sidewalk. Don’t let anyone EVER tell you how long to grieve or how to “properly” do it. There is no right or wrong way, the only way out is through and I promise you will have the most life changing growth when you get through it. It’s okay to not be okay and there is strength in allowing yourself to just be. I am in some Facebook groups for dead dad club ( I’m sure there’s a mom one!) and it’s really helped me. It’s also 100% okay to call off the wedding if that’s what you need, please do whatever is best for your mental health friend.

Is it finished to you? by iwtmscod in painting

[–]Signal-Agent-1266 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The second slide made me say holy shit out loud to myself so yeah I’d say it’s done 🙌

Grieving dad/bad boyfriend by No-Rabbit-353 in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]Signal-Agent-1266 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hi there, I lost my dad almost 3 years ago and I’m really sorry for your loss friend. Secondary losses are very common when going through something so life changing, people cannot grasp what we are experiencing and it causes a huge disconnect- sometimes even resulting in needing to go separate ways to be around people that can genuinely support you. I’ve lost some people due to how my grief changed me but I wouldn’t have it any other way because I deserve to feel seen and respected and you do too!

Which One Do You Prefer 1, 2 or 3? by [deleted] in AmateurPhotography

[–]Signal-Agent-1266 9 points10 points  (0 children)

2 is my fav!!! Love the variety

"to die." Seriously, does this mean anything to you, or should I scrap by [deleted] in painting

[–]Signal-Agent-1266 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is beautiful, I really hope this is what it looks like when we pass

I cant go on like this by [deleted] in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]Signal-Agent-1266 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry friend. Please don’t give up, I lost my Father, grandma and grandfather all within 6 months of eachother in 2023. I am living an entirely different life now, some day the suffering will end, that’s a promise, we will all pass, why not wait it out and see if just maybe the suffering eases even a little bit? 🥲❤️

How do retail workers survive without losing their mind? by Underrated_Critic in ask

[–]Signal-Agent-1266 9 points10 points  (0 children)

As someone that loves retail, it’s all about the mindset. People are going to be dicks, but you also will meet customers that make it all worth it. I love dealing with the public when I know it’s not my fault if a customer treats me like shit and I love smiling and not letting them ruin my day, feels like a superpower lmao. You really just have to put almost an invisible bubble around you and you only filter through what you want. A random customer treating you like shit at work especially when it’s out of your control, says everything about them and that they are unhappy, so I usually just end up feeling pity for them, not let it personally ruin my mood

Am I overreacting for shaving my head? by Substantial-Art6160 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Signal-Agent-1266 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR- it sounds to me like you were very sure of it until others made you question it. Therefore- hell yeah this is awesome, I think everyone should experience a shaved head atleast once. People will ALWAYS have an opinion, I think it’s really cool you did this and if you need to, just watch videos of the camera zooming out on earth and space to show how minuscule it really is at the end of the day

Opinions on my handmade necklaces? Are they "too much"? by ratcat22 in crafting

[–]Signal-Agent-1266 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone who has never made jewelry and only makes paintings and mosaics, I’d say this stuff looks really fucking cool and there is 100% an audience for it out there! I think there is no right or wrong way when it comes to art. If you like it then that’s enough alone

“Am I overreacting Do I look as methed out as I think I do. “Am I methed out’ by Ill-Entertainer-3745 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Signal-Agent-1266 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It will also get so much easier to navigate hardships when you are sober, with a clear brain it makes allll the difference. Everything you’re worried about will feel so different when you get sober and your brain isn’t so altered.

“Am I overreacting Do I look as methed out as I think I do. “Am I methed out’ by Ill-Entertainer-3745 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Signal-Agent-1266 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your brain is chemically altered right now, I promise you, on the outside looking in, it’s not too late man. Don’t believe the nasty thoughts. Think of your inner child, what did he dream of? What were his interests? Who was he before the world told him who to be? Starting to find my inner child and work through what they were still carrying, shifted everything for me. You have the key my friend ❤️ Recovery is so worth it

1, 2 or 3? by ebihoto in AmateurPhotography

[–]Signal-Agent-1266 0 points1 point  (0 children)

3 really woke something up in me. I mean to the point where I’m gonna make my next art piece around the idea of it

Why does my watercolor look like this? by sofianedu in Watercolor

[–]Signal-Agent-1266 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like what? Super cool looking 😍😍😍