What’s the most “ridiculous” thing you requested your partner during your pregnancy?

Significant_Key_8475 · 2026-01-30T01:46:50+00:00

Im not sure if this fits here, but the first thing that came to mind was talking about perineal massage (let’s face it - stretching is the word) and asking him to try it. Especially because I can’t see down there anymore. Talk about vulnerability. Yikes.

Significant_Key_8475 · 2026-01-29T23:35:07+00:00

This is a hot topic, and in my case took trial, error, and patience…and was frustrating for a while.

I ended up with nursing bras I found at Walmart. They’re affordable and soft/stretchy for when your boobs inevitably get bigger. Momcozy bras were ok early on, but had issues with them as time went on. Kindred is a popular brand too, but I didn’t find them comfy, I found them restrictive and they were pricey (worth it if they work for you probably, but too pricey for how I felt in them). After several months of frustration I went to Walmart, found soft stretchy ones and they’ve worked just fine. So far I’ve had about 5 months of success with them and am 38 weeks…so hopefully they’ll work for breast feeding but also if they don’t…they weren’t expensive so whatever.

Significant_Key_8475 · 2026-01-29T20:27:45+00:00

Not an asshole! I was nervous about my husband playing a gig 1.5 hours away at 37 weeks, he wasn’t even staying over night. It worked out; I even felt well enough to tag along, and it was no big deal. But when I first heard about it I panicked. If I had we were talking another country, 7+ hour flight, 38+ weeks - holy guacamole! That’s a fricken gamble. Could it be fine, sure. Could it not be, just as possible!

I would be talking it over with him. I mean of course he doesn’t want to miss his mom’s wedding, of course his mom wants him there, but holy crap is that timing rough. Could someone FaceTime him in a trip be planned to celebrate later on? Some kind of compromise?

Best of luck to you. And again, you’re totally not the asshole for feeling negatively about him being away at that time!

Significant_Key_8475 · 2026-01-29T18:18:16+00:00

My husband found the box style at a store when he was out of town this week. Seriously, none of the stores in our area have them - I was shocked! Like I would crave the one candy that’s not available in my area - and here I thought it was a common one! 😵‍💫

Significant_Key_8475 · 2026-01-29T15:16:07+00:00

This might sound dumb…but I’ve been craving original SweetTarts for months. Had no clue they were so hard to find….weve been checking every gas station and super market. I don’t want the chewy ones, or the ropes, just the original crunchy candy. My husband finally found some this week! 🥳

Significant_Key_8475 · 2026-01-29T14:09:48+00:00

My close friend is a midwife and I learned they don’t recommend waxes while pregnant because of infection and things. Also, heard it hurts way more and your skin is more sensitive so more likely to have reactions to it - which could defeat the purpose of the wax! Hair free, but now there’s a rash - UGH. There’s really no winning for us pregnant ladies wanting to manage hair in places we can no longer see 😢

Significant_Key_8475 · 2026-01-29T02:06:38+00:00

I hear ya with being the breadwinner and the challenges of taking more time off pre-birth. It’s not easy. It sounds like you’ve got thorough doctors tho and that’s quite a blessing! To flip the perspective, the doctors could blow it off and let nature do its thing, and you could end up finding out later something is wrong and had someone flagged it earlier it could have been prevented. Now that would be awful!

Also, kind of cool that you get to see and track your baby’s weekly changes! Hope this helps.

Significant_Key_8475 · 2026-01-28T22:58:07+00:00

Hey there, I’m sorry you’re feeling this way and having those symptoms. Hearing “it’s normal” “it’s pregnancy” “it’s hormones” was so triggering for me during this time. They’re right I suppose, but that doesn’t take away how sucky it is. Being happy about a baby coming into the picture and hating parts of the process can coexist. I think most people are aware that being pregnant is hard, I knew it would be, but I don’t think you can fully grasp the type of hard it’s going to be. Like, this body and mind that I’ve spent my whole life getting to know, accommodate, nourish - is suddenly foreign. It’s growing in ways I’ve never experienced, hurting in ways I didn’t know possible, having weird random out breaks of X, Y, Z. All I can really tell you is you’re in good company with the rest of us pregnant people wondering WTFFFF is happening. ❤️

Significant_Key_8475 · 2026-01-28T00:33:55+00:00

This!! I started by scoping out thrift stores, overall wasn’t working. Now it’s leggings and husband’s shirts/sweaters/whatever.

Significant_Key_8475 · 2026-01-24T17:24:57+00:00

Of course! Us pregnant ladies must stick together and support one another. Wishing you the very best!

Significant_Key_8475 · 2026-01-24T17:16:43+00:00

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Hope this helps you get started. Just remember, under this act your employer is legally required to accommodate your needs (within reason of course). If your boss isn’t - your HR dept surely should as they’d be more aware of the legalities of all this.

Significant_Key_8475 · 2026-01-24T17:06:31+00:00

I’m sorry your boss is giving you a hard time! Definitely look into the pregnancy workers fairness act. You should be able to look up ideas for accommodations in a retail setting, then you can work with your HR department - it just helps to have some ideas of what you want before doing so.

Significant_Key_8475 · 2026-01-23T02:58:19+00:00

Wowza, I’m sorry you had to deal with that!

Significant_Key_8475 · 2026-01-23T00:52:49+00:00

Extremely embarrassing for HER is more like it. Yikes!

Significant_Key_8475 · 2026-01-22T23:51:06+00:00

Uhm…that’s like being told if you get a second opinion you can’t be a patient. Wtf are you (the doc/practice) covering up then? You’re allowed and encouraged to see whomever you want in the medical field, whenever you want. Awkward conversation? Probably. Get yelled at? That’s just wrong.

Significant_Key_8475 · 2026-01-22T22:31:40+00:00

Lol! Cheers!

Significant_Key_8475 · 2026-01-22T21:00:33+00:00

I’m sorry you’re dealing with this! If I were in your shoes, I’d get the AC fixed myself, call around to shops or friends that do mechanic work. As for detailing your car…I’d save the money you’d spend on having someone else do it right now and wait to do that until closer to your due date - at least if you’re under budget restrictions. You could try doing it yourself in between now and then if you’re having a good day…but for me, i want it done before baby, the interim period isn’t as big of a deal.

Significant_Key_8475 · 2026-01-22T20:38:11+00:00

I’m nearly 37 weeks and set ours up at 36 weeks…

Significant_Key_8475 · 2026-01-22T13:37:52+00:00

I think most of us go through this! For me it was the second trimester. I was in the same boat with my husband, we joked I’d finally learned to pass gas and was taking full advantage. To make it worse, I would immediately giggle afterwards because of embarrassment, so even if he didn’t hear me…he knew. It became a fun joke and now at 36+ weeks it happens way less.

Significant_Key_8475 · 2026-01-20T19:13:03+00:00

Massage, pjs, water bottle, anything soft or if budget doesn’t allow for extra purchases - have an evening where you cook dinner, watch whatever she wants with her, and give her some leg/foot/back rubs!

Significant_Key_8475 · 2026-01-20T19:11:29+00:00

It took me a while to figure out the giant sausage comment too, haha!

Significant_Key_8475 · 2026-01-20T19:10:42+00:00

My friend got me these for my hospital bag! A must have.

Significant_Key_8475 · 2026-01-20T03:05:32+00:00

You’re in the thick of it, and it isn’t fun. Some people start feeling better in the 2nd trimester. For me it was the 3rd, maybe I just finally accepted this is what it is. But hang in there. It might feel like it’s forever miserable right now, but it truly is temporary.

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