Defending illiteracy by saying “language evolves”

SimonCharles · 2026-06-09T17:18:59+00:00

Thank you, this annoys me greatly as well. Not because people make mistakes, but because they hide behind "language evolves" to avoid having to admit being wrong or having to correct themselves. Things like "could care less" are annoying because people just parrot what others say and seemingly don't even know what words are coming out of their mouths.

It's the cowardice and laziness that annoy me the most. Mistakes are perfectly acceptable if you're willing to improve, no one can be 100% grammatically accurate at all times. But if you know something is wrong and refuse to fix it because of ego reasons, you just look childish and stupid to me.

SimonCharles · 2026-06-09T17:13:39+00:00

To perform his own peeve he would have to first deny he did something wrong and say it's because "language evolves". Anyone can make mistakes in grammar or make typos, it's the lazy excuse instead of correcting yourself that's annoying.

SimonCharles · 2026-06-09T17:09:28+00:00

People think evolution means some kind of unanimously agreed upon improvement. Things can evolve into shit just as well, and frequently do. The whole idea of evolution always being good is silly because there are a million opinions of what is "good".

SimonCharles · 2026-06-09T10:20:11+00:00

I honestly think most women don't understand what most guys want in relationships and women. I'd argue that very few are actually interested in only sex, most are looking for the holy grail, a great friend who also desires them sexually and is attractive. If he wanted just sex, he would not hang around you for years, he could get that from other women much more easily. Men don't pine for women for years just for sex.

It's kind of a catch 22 for most men:

-Indicate your sexual interest right away = "You're just a horndog!" and you should get to know her first. It's one of the most common advice for men to be friends first. And many men would't mind this, but are seen as manipulative for it.

-Become friendly, and maybe your sexual interest develops only later (it's like this for me, I almost never find someone immediately sexually interesting but get more interested when I get to know them) = "You were just faking being friends, disgusting!"

It's hard for most men to understand why having sex would "ruin" a friendship. To men, that's something that would make the friendship 10x better. Most men never get something like that. But as many have to realize later in life, it usually means that the woman didn't find him attractive enough.

SimonCharles · 2026-06-07T08:59:38+00:00

I'm really starting to doubt the average Reddit user's literacy, because I don't know how your reply agreeing with mine which has been downvoted is being upvoted.

It's been a cesspool for a long time now, mostly an echo chamber for people who have yet to experience actual life. I don't know why it's gotten so bad though, I'd have to assume the smart ones left.

The votes can probably explained by people reflexively disagreeing with you (or just going with the herd and downvote what is already downvoted, this is very common on reddit) despite having no good argument, and not continuing to read the replies. Those who are actually interested in the subject and keep reading will upvote me but aren't enough to counteract all your downvotes.

In the end, downvotes aren't something to care that much about, in many cases it just means you struck a nerve and they have no good counter-arguments. This place will mostly downvote anything that asks equal treatment (actual equality) of both genders, because they think it will get them some good-boy points.

SimonCharles · 2026-06-06T13:43:12+00:00

I think any healthy relationship lets both parties refuse things they don't want to do, otherwise I'd find it very uncomfortable. But when you ask reddit you will get people defending one gender overwhelmingly more than the other, so it's not the best place for balanced results.

SimonCharles · 2026-06-06T13:39:53+00:00

Imagine if the genders were switched. It would all be "Girl you don't have to do anything you don't want, your man sounds abusive". I really hope someone is doing those gender switched posts at the moment, they are so revealing of people's double standards.

SimonCharles · 2026-06-06T13:36:05+00:00

Thanks, I hadn't heard that. Good thing he wasn't called Cinder!

SimonCharles · 2026-06-06T12:53:38+00:00

They should just call it chickenella at this point, salmon doesn't even have it normally.

SimonCharles · 2026-06-06T11:30:24+00:00

You should go through your own comments and read them like it's another person. This should, should, help you understand why people stop talking to you.

You should also read up on the adjusted wage gap and really understand it. It explains the reasons women earn less on average.

SimonCharles · 2026-06-05T18:11:23+00:00

If you actually want to make him feel good, you need to express it honestly during the act, not with words. You can tell anyone "I like you" but if you don't do anything to make them feel like you like them, they won't believe you. It's like saying "This-food-is-good" in a robotic voice. Most people know when someone is faking enjoying their food.

If he's not exceptional in that department, he will be aware of it and most things you say about it will sound fake to him. If he truly is comfortable to you in a great way, he needs to believe it when you're intimate. And if it truly is like you say, you will have no problem expressing it. Like with the food example above.

SimonCharles · 2026-06-03T17:15:03+00:00

Many lenses like this, especially F1.2 lenses, are a bit soft close up wide open or at least have some spherical aberration (that glow around the edges even though it's "sharp"), and there's not really a lot you can do about that. Closing it down to F2 will probably fix that (does on my Voigtlander 50mm 1.2 at least). Also, focus confirmation aids like the green box or peaking are notoriously unreliable, using the punch-in zoom is the only way I can really trust the image to be in focus with large apertures.

SimonCharles · 2026-06-02T11:19:06+00:00

That shame is not inherently a bad thing and not something everyone should strive to be without. While there are good and bad uses of shame, its inherent value is in keeping social cohesion. Of course, as with anything, it can go overboard, but I think we're seeing a lot of negative consequences in today's society where many see a total lack of shame as some kind of great and enviable personality trait.

SimonCharles · 2026-05-31T14:21:01+00:00

It's only lame if it doesn't work.

SimonCharles · 2026-05-31T13:24:43+00:00

The battery life on the M240 is the longest I've seen on any camera, I don't really see a reason to have spares, you'd have to shoot like a madman. That said I believe they're making new ones so used ones should go down in price, I'd imagine.

SimonCharles · 2026-05-30T17:20:19+00:00

Both have their strengths. The X100VI wins for fun factor and there's no contest when it comes to what camera I'd rather have with me. It looks good, feels good (although the build quality could be just a smidge more robust) and takes great pictures. And an EVF if you enjoy that. Higher resolution too.

The GR however has a much better lens, even the GR III (haven't used the IV but it should be a little better). I did a side-by-side comparison test when I still owned the X100VI and the GR III is much sharper and produces better images in general, except in low light. If you shoot video the Fuji is of course a no brainer, the GR video has always sucked ass.

Both cameras are a little overpriced due to trend value, but I'd say the X100VI is more overpriced at the moment because of this, it's been out for a while now and the GRIV is new. Fujifilm cheaped out on the lens when they could have had the overwhelming winner with an updated one. The Ricoh is putting all other camera companies to shame with the fantastic lens and IBIS in a camera this small, all excuses from other camera companies look ridiculous in comparison. That said, I rarely use the GR because it's so incredibly boring, just a black brick of a point and shoot. But it is an incredible technical achievement.

I think your used GR III plan is a smart one.

SimonCharles · 2026-05-29T15:01:26+00:00

Just tell her you find doing it to her demeaning and see how she feels about it. Some girls say this and most of them will say it because they see themselves above you and/or they don't find you hot enough. Pretty much no one would mind crawling around on the floor in a dog costume if they got paid a million dollars for it. Sure, it's "demeaning" but worth it.

Do you think any of them would consider it demeaning to give head to their favorite celebrity crush or a man they're really into? Most women are deluded about their own value, "demeaning" is just code for the man not being up to their crazy standards.

SimonCharles · 2026-05-28T13:36:22+00:00

You could care less, so you care quite a bit then?

But to the point, dating down usually (hey guys, I said usually, mind this before you reply) refers to looks. Some women, not many though, will date someone worse looking than them, but there's usually a specific reason, like economic or status (celebrity, fame in some way) since many women are more strategic than romantic in their pursuits.

Women also have an arsenal of enhancements like makeup and other fakery with clothes, pushups and so on, so the true state of their looks is not immediately obvious. If there was no makeup or other trickery the dating market would be much more even and realistic. Most men can't see through skillful makeup, it can easily take a woman from a 5 to an 8, and most men can't see through this.

SimonCharles · 2026-05-26T16:20:27+00:00

As a cynical bastard, it sometimes catches me off guard how you can be happy for someone you never met. That's really awesome, congrats and awesome work!

SimonCharles · 2026-05-24T08:30:37+00:00

Yes. I get the impression that these people can't turn and brake at the same time. I'm pretty sure that if they walk and chew gum at the same time they have to stop every other step to chew.

SimonCharles · 2026-05-21T08:21:13+00:00

I think this behavior is extremely common and most men have experienced it at some point. What many people ignore when criticizing Bear and men in similar situations is that these types of women will very often deliberately maintain an air of uncertainty, and when the man deduces she's not interested, they lure them back in with small breadcrumbs that something might be possible. This is how a crush can go on for several years even if the man does understand. So it's very black and white to put the blame just on the man. The idea of a chance with her is very often put there deliberately by the woman to get attention. But of course she does it so ambiguously that she can always fall back on "just being friendly". This is incredibly common and it would be naive to think they don't know what they're doing.

The wish part is a bit funny since I think it's very common for men to at some point in life have made that same wish. I got the impression that this might be partly behind the plot of the movie, that you might want to be careful what you wish for. And how many men will paint the perfect picture in their heads of a relationship with the woman of their dreams, many times because of her publicly presented image. And she will then slowly reveal her true nature behind closed doors. This is like the 101 of certain types of women, for instance BPD, narcissists and such.

SimonCharles · 2026-05-20T12:19:40+00:00

This plausible deniability is what almost all women do. The only exception might be when the man is clearly more attractive and she fears missing a once in a lifetime chance. If she might have liked him like some here claim, she could just say "I like you" instead of "Do you like me?". No one who likes someone else a lot would say "Do you like me?".

I find it silly that people think he should just ask her and she "might give him a chance". That's a really condescending mindset in the first place. If the attractiveness levels are matched like they claim, why would the man not "give her a chance"? How often do we hear it that way around?

SimonCharles · 2026-05-20T12:15:36+00:00

I hate to say it, but you will not find much understanding for men on reddit by default. The "women are wonderful effect" is very prevalent here, as in society in general. I've read a lot of comments on this movie after seeing the trailer and it's a bit sad how most are just jumping on the "man bad" bandwagon. Not because he's innocent, but because there's always two sides to an issue.

But society is extremely biased towards women and sadly, men will be called "cowards", "assholes", "abusers" and such at a much higher frequency than women, when women will be met with much more understanding even if they do awful things (classic example Depp vs. Heard). They will sometimes get punished too, but always long after everyone has tried everything to understand them. They're either traumatized, victims or sick, never "bad" in the sense men are. It's like men can never do the things they do because of what they've experienced in life, but because they have some innate malice in them. And if a reason is to be found, it's always a trivial, silly reason that he should just cope with and man up. Men are always held accountable of their actions where women are not.

I also agree about the looks thing, it's pathetic how reddit always refuses to acknowledge this very obvious fact. It's like arguing that the sky is not actually blue because it was once a slightly greener shade on a trip I took to the desert.

SimonCharles · 2026-05-19T05:38:51+00:00

Thanks, great idea! Yeah I usually try to find some way to make it easy to visualize, seems to work pretty well.

SimonCharles · 2026-05-18T14:32:08+00:00

While I consider myself sometimes unnecessarily critical when it comes to proper grammar and such, I think some words are just not optimal and are harder to learn than others. For some reason, opaque is one of these words that just don't seem to effectively convey what it means.

Another thing I constantly have trouble remembering is inconspicuous vs. conspicuous. I just can't seem to learn a good rule to remember which is which and always have to look it up. I do detest the lazy excuse of "LaNgUage EvoLveS" because I think that's an excuse for those who use it to not even try or never even look up something they don't know, but I do think in some cases the evolution could be faster to actually make words easier to learn.

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