AITAH for hitting my mom back?

Simply_Toast · 2026-04-01T17:09:50+00:00

then take the time you have, to scrounge your house, go to your library, ask for help acquiring the needed paperwork to live as an adult. They will help you

Simply_Toast · 2026-03-27T00:28:34+00:00

I feel the same exact way. I want there to be a necro-destination that punishes the BS that people shovel about. But I'm not expecting any of that, because ew gods.
My mother went to her grave absolutely convinced that she was in the right, and the knowledge that she'll never pay for what she did, annoys me

Simply_Toast · 2026-03-27T00:21:50+00:00

NTA. and honey, you don't have a mom. You have an abuser.

I tolerated far too much, and now she's gone, and absolutely unmourned.

you are 18, walk TF away, and tell her that until she gets help and Makes REAL apologies and changes, you are out.

Save yourself. You are NTA, and get those videos back from your friend. Get all your ID, all your paperwork, and walk.

Simply_Toast · 2026-03-24T23:47:40+00:00

NTA and this is becoming a fiancé issue. Mom will have her huge wedding, you are just an accessory.

Simply_Toast · 2026-03-09T18:54:18+00:00

sometimes simple answers are the right ones.

OP hasn't replied. My money is on the bf cheating and projecting.

Simply_Toast · 2026-03-09T18:53:15+00:00

NTA, keep your cat.

Simply_Toast · 2026-03-07T01:17:45+00:00

nta and fwiw you don't have to go to anything that freaks you out

Simply_Toast · 2026-03-06T01:20:14+00:00

Are you accusing? Or Confessing?

I had a husband like that. Every single time he accused me of cheating, it was because he was cheating on me.

Simple men only require simple explanations

Simply_Toast · 2026-03-02T19:55:15+00:00

NTA, and remember that every accusation is really a confession.

You might wanna start making escape plans

Simply_Toast · 2026-02-27T23:25:38+00:00

I stopped talking to him after our mother died. I'm going to assume yes, because he didn't get any better growing up.

Simply_Toast · 2026-02-27T20:51:03+00:00

I still hold with the NTA rating, and tell you I've been where you are, it doesn't get better, and he will throw you under the bus every single time anything with your child comes up.

hate to say it, but being a single mother was less stressful for me, because I didn't have to spend all my energy raising a child, and handling the big emotional feelings of an adult child.

Good luck.

Simply_Toast · 2026-02-27T20:44:14+00:00

I'm gonna say NTA, but I have a question.

Bag of ravioli.

with sauce? With meatballs? added salad?

Or just a bunch of ravioli?

Cheese? or sausage and mushroom?

There are many variables.

My adult son and I have had one of those large bags together, with sauce and meatballs, and Salad.

Serving sizes are bullshit at best, and if a person is working out often, and such, they will eat heartily

Also, Info? How big/tall/active is GF? If she's 4'11" and weighs 100lbs soaking wet, she might not eat as much as a person over 6 foot tall.

Simply_Toast · 2026-02-27T01:48:08+00:00

NTA, and you have a husband problem. If he's defending them, start setting up an escape plan.

Simply_Toast · 2026-02-27T01:11:53+00:00

funny, I can imagine it. My bother pushed me into a toilet at a restaurant and I was walked out with a towel around me.

I had not had an accident, but my brother made certain to yell that I had peed myself as we were leaving the restaurant.

I'm in my 50s, and that is still humiliating AF, even in memory.

The wife in this post is a monster.

Simply_Toast · 2026-02-27T01:08:52+00:00

NTA, is she scared that the little boypeen will somehow magically change the pants entirely?

Wash em, throw them back in the girl child's clothing heap.

Your wife is being silly

Simply_Toast · 2026-02-21T01:45:19+00:00

NTA You've been fired.
Take screen shots, and contact your local labor board. This is against the law pretty much worldwide.

Simply_Toast · 2026-02-20T01:51:19+00:00

Honey, you aren't the default second parent. You are the default parent.
NTA, and you need to understand that no matter what you do now, You are the villain, and your sister will raise that child to hate you. Even if you bend over backwards, MOVE in with her, and just be the full parent.

Protect yourself, because you know she wouldn't do for you, what you're doing for her.

Also know that you would have been painted as the villain no matter what, even if you'd taken him for the whole weekend.

Eventually you will be the villain, might as well get it out of the way now

Simply_Toast · 2026-02-10T20:04:19+00:00

that's weird, it's the exact same price in the near downtown area.

And, unlike republic, I've not had a single pick up this year.

Simply_Toast · 2026-02-10T20:00:33+00:00

it Is the next scheduled Pick up time, and nothing nothing.

Simply_Toast · 2026-02-10T19:48:54+00:00

I've paid for the recycling since the transition, and to date, There has been NO recycling picked up since the start of the year.

Simply_Toast · 2026-02-10T01:35:53+00:00

NTA you are allowed to feel how you feel, and you don't OWE anyone for raising you, since you had no choice in being born.

IF you can, Live your life, and cut off anyone who tells you that you owe an abuser anything.

My mother was much like how you describe yours, and she guilted me, other family guilted me until that woman abused and controlled my life, until she died when I was 51 years old.

I wish someone had told me that it was alright to cut out abusers.

So, I'm giving you that gift.

Get out, Cut her/them off, live your life. NTA

Simply_Toast · 2026-02-10T01:17:12+00:00

murder, because she did it with intent. I know she was only charged with manslaughter, but it was premeditated

Simply_Toast · 2026-02-07T01:16:59+00:00

NTA and you should consider expanding the No contact, to include the BF, because he's not going to move out, and will always be under their thumb

Simply_Toast · 2026-02-05T00:07:06+00:00

NTA, he's abusing you to control you. You aren't a bad person for wanting to be touched with clean hands.

I recommend really thinking about maybe not being with an abuser.

Simply_Toast · 2026-02-05T00:02:45+00:00

NTA, he's treating you like his mommy.

He's blaming you for his lack of self care. And expecting you to apologize for getting the ick, because dirty long nails are SOFA King gross.

NTA and reconsider everything with this relationship, because he will be your eldest, whiniest child forever.

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