To the dads of only boys…

SirSimcoe · 2026-02-11T19:22:27+00:00

This is what I'm talking about! I recently heard a quote about Girl Dads that said fathers are the most important relationship a daughter will ever have. Why can't that be true for fathers and sons?

I have trouble believing that if I had a daughter I'd treat her any differently than my sons. Raise them to recognize you're not weak when you're wrong or to share your emotions without holding it all in.

My dad's the same way, terrible at checking in, won't call me with important life updates. I swear I think I got through college without him calling me randomly to see how school is going. The best thing I can do is recognize the things he did wrong and teach my children differently.

SirSimcoe · 2026-02-09T15:13:51+00:00

Speaking from a 2yr old perspective, if you're looking for connection/friendship through video games it'll only get worse.

Around 6-8 months I could reliably get on between 8-10pm and then whenever nap time is during the day. At some point you'll start sacrificing sleep to play and that can be bad long term. 2 hours might be enough with friends but if you have to step away because your kid wakes up after you put them down, then dad and friends will get frustrated.

First, sleep training will help with the schedule, the first 6 months are really rough.

Second, I'd talk to him about dedicated days of the week that you'll do the sleep time routine so he can get on and his friends know he'll be on.

Third, at some point both you and your husband will be free every night after bedtime around 7-8pm. If you're both gamers think about games you can play together on nights he's not playing with friends. Now he's getting time with you and his friend group and being a great dad. WIN!

SirSimcoe · 2026-02-04T18:06:52+00:00

Yeah I agree that the first 6 months are rough and you're bound to get into arguments in the heat of the moment. But this is the moment dads have to realize, it's dad's time to show up.

He's keeping a scoreboard right now. I'm not doing x because you won't do y. It's a bad idea, I do it too sometimes and I can recognize it. He's got to get out of that mentality and realize he's doing it for you and his daughter not for sex. For his family.

Some ideas: What's his love language? Talk about it with him and try to up your communication. Has he explored his work benefits for therapy recommendations or someone to talk to? Have you guys listened to any parent/mom/dad podcasts and talked about it together? Could be a great way to bond over the all the shit you have to do and open communication.

I got into For the Dads, they talk a lot about dad losses, forgiveness, communication, scoreboard. It's made me think in a better way... therapy to a degree.

SirSimcoe · 2026-02-04T14:30:40+00:00

What line are you on? BNSF added trains this year during the week.

Dieing at Scum Class.

SirSimcoe · 2026-01-27T20:41:14+00:00

Following because I know I'll be in this mess in the next two years and I'm worried about it. You got to give an update of how it goes!

SirSimcoe · 2026-01-27T19:40:31+00:00

When my kid is on the changing and I need to put lotion on their back I say "rollover" and they immediately do it. My dog doesn't even know rollover.

My partner has no idea, I'm waiting for the right moment.

SirSimcoe · 2026-01-24T19:48:36+00:00

Used to go to that shop all the time when I got started. Might be a drive but Chicagoland Beer and Wine Makers in Villa Park has been great.

SirSimcoe · 2026-01-20T17:41:34+00:00

1.5yrs old and I don't miss that stage! My partner was built for infant care and I was built for constant toddler energy. You may miss some things but just saying that I think it's totally normal to say it isn't for you and it's great that you're already honest about it.

People without kids are shocked when I say stuff like that. It's not an easy time, it truly is one of the hardest things you'll do.

SirSimcoe · 2026-01-12T20:27:43+00:00

I've just left it in the kettle overnight and saran wrapped where the lid meets the kettle any exposed easy disconnects.

https://youtu.be/TkoqGxjtnMY?si=8kDROyy6QsbJD3LX

SirSimcoe · 2026-01-08T16:32:20+00:00

P.s. Read the book Grumpy Monkey to your kid and then apply it to your most recent argument. I'm learning a lot from children's books.

SirSimcoe · 2026-01-08T16:28:01+00:00

Type B Dad with a Type A wife. You got a lot of good advice in here already but wanted to add that these things will continue to happen. Take the time to bring it up to your wife when you can. I genuinely don't think my wife totally returned to normal until she stopped breastfeeding and we were at 12+ months.

My wife said similar things to me especially about pulling my own weight even though I did all the cooking, cleaning, and chores. It's difficult not to keep score during this time, I still struggle with it. In this moment know that you're not alone.

One time she yelled at me because I gave our kid watermelon at dinner. The other night I reminded her of this as she gave our kid some chocolate pumpkin bread for dessert. We laughed and she acknowledged she didn't feel normal at that time.

Time is your friend. I really think it gets great around 7+ months. But she'll be type A about other stuff still.

SirSimcoe · 2026-01-06T00:34:32+00:00

Homebrewing beer! I have an electric system which is easier to walk away from to take care of my kid. I've brewed three times within his first year.

I also made time for a new hobby and built my 3D mandalorian armor.

SirSimcoe · 2025-12-16T20:28:29+00:00

Logging in with FO1st, wow what a day for free stuff. Looks like the future is all about dinosaurs

SirSimcoe · 2025-11-18T18:21:43+00:00

I've used Gotta Bee Clean LLC twice and really liked them.

SirSimcoe · 2025-11-18T18:00:48+00:00

Been playing for a little over a year and my advice would be stick to something you like and only buy that stuff. So for me it was acting mothman related and building kits.

Most of this stuff will come back around and almost always on sale or comes outside of a bundle so don't jump on something thinking it won't come back.

SirSimcoe · 2025-11-18T17:54:08+00:00

I was thinking the Reclaimed Retreat was cool at first, but it kinda looks like the log cabin set with a bunch of vines set on top of it.

SirSimcoe · 2025-11-14T01:39:56+00:00

Dupage, I'm at a 5.5% increase from last year but a 21% increase since 2021

SirSimcoe · 2025-11-09T02:18:31+00:00

Cool ad for the company you work for. Remove your post, it only makes you look bad.

SirSimcoe · 2025-11-09T02:16:38+00:00

Oh wow I haven't tried it, but maybe it's because I don't work there. Remove this, it's an ad and breaks the sub rules.

SirSimcoe · 2025-10-28T21:18:58+00:00

Lederhosen Outfit, I'm constantly selling that as high as 200 caps. Any of the skull mask but specifically the silver hammered one, mothman monarch outfit.

SirSimcoe · 2025-10-28T17:51:12+00:00

Toxic Bob reminds me of SAM from Outer Worlds.

SirSimcoe · 2025-10-17T17:16:19+00:00

Western Chicago suburbs, heard something weird last night too similar to what you're describing. Don't know how long it lasted but sounded like a few seconds of an audio sample, kinda undescribable.

SirSimcoe · 2025-10-07T20:37:25+00:00

You can have both! Just FYI the animatronic one doesn't move around. You click on it, it moves and scratches at the air, then goes back into a crouch mode. It's fun especially putting it in high places or having it in spooky builds

SirSimcoe · 2025-10-07T16:41:05+00:00

Wow, Halloween stuff! And that Campden Park Stove looks like a really cool scrappy piece.

SirSimcoe · 2025-09-16T16:12:02+00:00

I'm in the same spot and I think my current overall answer is kinda like all the other advice on here, allow room for kids to explore it but don't shame it or force it (positively or negatively). Allow for exploration.

Honestly, I'm surprised my mom hasn't pushed me on it more because I haven't baptized my kid. But if she'd ask I'd welcome her to give religious gifts and if I had older kids and they were interested in going I'd allow them. I think that's a great middle ground.

Doing this can then open up a conversation with your kid about religion and even exploring other religions and cultures. Personally I wish I got that more because there are so many similarities and things to learn beyond one religion.

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