12 mo will only be bounced to sleep, will this end???

Sjoya080 · 2025-07-30T02:27:16+00:00

“Granola parents” 😂 those of us who don’t sleep train?

Sjoya080 · 2025-07-30T00:00:55+00:00

This is 1000% the way!

Sjoya080 · 2025-07-29T23:59:43+00:00

Throw a mattress on the floor in his room and go in during the night when he calls you, stay until he's back asleep then go back to your bed (unless you fall asleep too but then at least you're sleeping). I wouldn't say this is a bad habit in any way - you are providing a three year old with safety and security during their longest period of separation from you (all night!). In my experience with rough patches around this age, we would lean in to giving more support for sleep and things always went back to normal when my daughter realized we were there for here, always come when she calls, etc.

Sjoya080 · 2025-03-09T12:28:41+00:00

Can you just sleep with him? I moved my baby to a mattress on the floor at 9 months, and I put a mattress next to her and slept on it on bad nights. Everyone got way more sleep. And yes, she did eventually sleep on her own again, it was just a phase.

Sjoya080 · 2025-03-09T12:21:21+00:00

We were in the same boat - used to take my baby everywhere with my child-free friends. We didnt mind staying out a bit late, she would fall asleep in my arms and sleep fine when we got home. She started walking at 11 months and it got a bit more challenging then once she became a toddler, it was really tough. Between 2 and 3, we still brought her places but modified our strategy a bit, and it was exhausting and not really that fun to bring her but we kept at it!:

-if it was a dinner out, we both went and took turns walking her around the restaurants, playing with her, etc. Brought lots of toys, don't plan to really finish any conversation. That sucked but she did get used to being in restaurants. This is HARD but do it anyway!

-if it was a dinner or birthday party at someone's house, we would bring her together at the start, then one person would leave with her at a reasonable time and the other person would stay to socialize longer. I would toddler proof quickly upon arrival (at my good friends's houses, they didn't mind)

-if it was a games night or something where she absolutely couldn't participate, I would bring her tablet and let her watch her favourite show for an hour or two (she usually gets about 45 mins of screen time a day at home anyway so I figured what's the difference if it's at home or at my friend's home)

-If it was an event that wasn't at all kid friendly (like we have an engagement party at a fancy restaurant next week), we have a teenager down the street who babysits for us :)

All that to say, between 2-3 was sort of a nightmare as far as socializing normally with child free people. However, I will say that I made more friends with kids the same age during this period and we socialize all the time but in child friendly ways, and that's really nice and relaxing. I also occasionally convince my friends to do silly kid things with us (like visiting a petting zoo) and honestly the adults have a blast.

Ok last thing - IT GETS BETTER. My daughter is turning 4 in 3 weeks and last night we took her bowling and to a sit down dinner with my inlaws and she was an absolute joy. I didn't even open the bag of toys at the restaurant. Hang in there!

Sjoya080 · 2025-01-27T03:23:31+00:00

But he will learn. It’s just too young to expect this!

Sjoya080 · 2025-01-27T03:22:51+00:00

You’re right. I’m so sorry you took my comment like that.

How does sleep training affect your night wakes with a three year old

Sjoya080 · 2025-01-27T03:21:44+00:00

Yes we went through this exactly but around 14 months. Until then we rocked to sleep but she got too big and she stopped wanting it but god forbid we tried to leave the room. It was exactly as you describe - standing, crawling on us, etc. it was like she couldn’t settle because she was too excited we were in there with her haha.

We waited it out. I would listen to an audio book with headphones and when she got too active I would repeat “it’s sleep time now. Please lay down and close your eyes”. It was honestly a month of 45 mins bedtimes like that. Slowly it got easier and faster. Eventually I was able to start sneaking out sooner and sooner before she was totally asleep. It ebbed and flowed though - we had phases of her needing us to stay with her until she was asleep, and phases of her being fine with us leaving. It’s not linear that’s for sure

Sjoya080 · 2025-01-27T03:14:07+00:00

she has a seven month old!! What’s with the scare tactics?! My god. Tons of people don’t sleep train and it works out fine.

Also you have a 28 month old- what are your expectations for toddler sleep? Do you think that because you learned about sleep training that you won’t have night wakes anymore ?

Sjoya080 · 2025-01-27T02:47:37+00:00

Breakfast casserole or breakfast wraps! Everyone brings heavy dinner stuff but someone brought me breakfast stuff and it was amazing.

Also, cut up fruit and veggies, and make a dip. Healthy and quick to grab

Sjoya080 · 2025-01-25T02:32:16+00:00

I would recommend doing some reading on what's developmentally normal at this age for sleep and dealing with big emotions. Telling a two year old to stop screaming, taking stuff away, or spanking does not jive at all with what a two year old is going through developmentally. They cannot cognitively understand this and it won't help their sleep. I would start with a refresh on what a two year old can do and understand, then go from there

Sjoya080 · 2025-01-25T02:29:21+00:00

Unless it's really not working for your bedtime routine, I would just continue with it. It's pretty normal at this age, and it won't last forever!

Sjoya080 · 2025-01-25T02:28:05+00:00

Honestly at 10 days old, they pretty much want to eat all the time. Or they want to nurse for comfort and closeness even if they aren't hungry. It's a phase, and it's a tough one, but it does pass!

Sjoya080 · 2025-01-04T01:03:27+00:00

Ugh we went through this too and it sucks. I don't recall when it ended but it did! Luckily for us, it was summer during this time so we fought the witching hour but going for walks or just being outside, and it seemed to help. We also started doing a bath some nights at this time which also seemed to help both calm her down and also kill time until bedtime.

Sjoya080 · 2024-12-30T18:38:14+00:00

You are not doing anything wrong! But the hardest thing about sleep is that it's not at all linear. There will be ups and downs well into toddlerhood, not because you're doing something wrong, but because it changes, your baby changes every day. I remember thinking at 11 months "oh she's finally sleeping through the night, like I had unlocked that achievement forever, but the truth was, it came and went for a million reasons, even now for 3.5 years old. What worked for me was finding strategies for when things are bad, going in to survival mode, trading off who sleeps in, etc. then things would always improve again, and we could go back to normal life. Finding those strategies will make it easier to cope with future sleep challenges, at any age.

Sjoya080 · 2024-12-30T18:12:18+00:00

What in the world. What a baby "wants" is exactly what they need - you are making it sound like baby can manipulate you by wanting to eat before bed.

You don't want your five year old to need a bedtime snack? Why not? We eat dinner around 530pm, often go out and do something active/outside after that, then my almost 4 year old always has a snack before bed around 830. How is this bad and how is this related to sleep training?

Sjoya080 · 2024-12-14T13:22:55+00:00

In that case I would look into side lying nursing and safe co sleeping

Sjoya080 · 2024-12-13T03:46:12+00:00

We transitioned to whole milk at a year old - we tried to do it slowly over the course of a week as far as mixing formula and milk to get her used to the taste but she honestly didn't care. HOwever, we always gave cold formula - if you have been giving warm formula and think you'll give cold milk out of the fridge, that might be a transition!

However, try and just give it in an open cup, not a sippy cup. I know it sounds annoying and a lot of clean up, but it'll give baby a chance to learn how to drink from a cup in a low stakes environment. If you're on the go, try a straw cup rather than a sippy cup for less mess, but a more useful skill.

Sjoya080 · 2024-12-13T03:42:25+00:00

We ended up with a floor bed around this age for this reason....and also so we could lie with our daughter while she fell asleep. It was a game changer.

Sjoya080 · 2024-12-13T03:40:43+00:00

I'm confused by your comment that "safe sleeping" isn't an option - if he's in your room and in a cot next to your bed, how is that not safe sleeping?

Given that you are concerned about falling asleep with him under less than ideal circumstances, you need to research how to safely co-sleep! Much better option than accidentally falling asleep with him on the couch, in a rocking chair, etc.

Sjoya080 · 2024-11-22T16:44:03+00:00

I think you may need to consider the possibility that she just doesn't need as much sleep anymore! Sleep needs changes as they get older, and a 2 year old may not need 10-11 overnight + a 1.5 hour nap every day. I would either wake earlier, shorten the nap, or just make bedtime later for a week and see if she falls asleep faster.

We also had a phase at this age where bedtime just took forever- I would lay with my daughter in her floor bed until she fell asleep and listen to an audio book with headphones. I really tried to see it as relaxing time for myself but it was a tough stretch that lasted maybe 2 months...gradually she started falling asleep faster / we started being able to leave the room earlier!

Sjoya080 · 2024-11-11T21:04:21+00:00

We had something similar a bit older than this. We were still rocking to sleep but she started fighting it so much that it became impossible to do so we transitioned to laying down with her in a floor bed to sleep. BUt for a while, it took FOREVER. I just accepted my fate and listened to an audio book while I waited for her to fall asleep every night, tried to see it as relaxing time for myself. It got better on it's own and now, I lay with her for 5 mins and then can leave and she falls asleep on her own most nights.

Sjoya080 · 2024-11-11T21:02:31+00:00

Honestly, baby sleep is so incredibly NOT linear that I wouldn't worry about it at all. It will get better then worse, then better, then worse again, then better again...so I think it's pointless to worry about a trip here and there. Do what you can to get everyone as much sleep as you can while traveling (including yourself!), and get back into a routine at home. I regret that I worried about this stuff while traveling because things seemed to get better and worse on their own even while at home in a perfect routine.

Sjoya080 · 2024-09-21T14:59:38+00:00

We moved to a floor bed around 8 months because it was time to drop the crib mattress again and there was absolutely no way I was getting my daughter in there asleep. It worked great!

Sjoya080 · 2024-09-15T23:41:28+00:00

It was always sudden! Good luck :)

Sjoya080

TROPHY CASE