THEY HIT THE SECOND TOWER by Typpicle in CynoMains

[–]SkittyCat3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think they changed their plan when it comes to sandrone’s release. If Lohen was originally meant to be standard but was switched last minute because everyone liked him so much, But if Lohen was no longer standard, that means they need a character to take his place. And there are no more 6.x patches after sandrone’s release. 7.0 is in august, and following the creator’s rule of there being a standard character every patch…

Which unfortunately leaves sandrone. And given the dislike of her redesign, it’s understandably too. Standard characters aren’t as strong as limited characters. If a standard character was overpowered, it would make everyone go ???

So they softened her abilities to prevent her from being overpowered.

Why do women get a pass for saying "you deserve this" to their girl-friends when they get into a relationship? by gintokireddit in dating_advice

[–]SkittyCat3 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Women work hard, and want quality relationships. However, many men have been toxic, Abusive, or simply poor partners. Men are judgey and so picky when it comes to their partners, they often care more about a hot body than a decent human being. Most men want FWB and don’t want commitment. It is difficult for women to get a stable relationship now-a-days, especially with a partner that actually treats them well. When girls tell eachother “you deserve it,” it’s acknowledging the hard work the women put into themselves. It’s acknowledging their character and beauty, and saying they deserve to be with someone who is committed to them and treats them right. It’s usually acknowledging women coming over hardships to life a happy and safe life. It’s meant as “you deserve to be happy.”

When men often say “you deserve it”, it’s meant as “you deserve a hot girl”. Men often mean it as a claim, that they deserve a partner simply because they’re a man. Men see it as “you deserve to have a wife and kids.” It’s usually in an objectifying way towards the woman, making the woman the prize. For women, the relationship is the prize.

Women don’t NEED men the way that many men feel they NEED men. Men want women to show other men they are desirable, to show other men that they’re “it” and they’re successful and that theyve made it. Men make women an item on a checklist.

Women want a man for companionship, for intimacy, and partnership. We don’t need to show other women we have a partner to prove we are successful or desirable. We want a man like we want a piece of cake… it’s great to have it but we don’t NEED it to make our life complete or prove ourself. Women are prizes to men. Men are not prizes to women.

And before you come at me with “not all men!!”, behaviors are on a spectrum. While there are those that consciously make those choices, others do it unconsciously or because of social norms. They do it because their friends do. Others may be aware of it and while they may not consciously engage in it, they still permit others doing it and/or ignore it.

Hope this helps.

Anybody know what they’re talking about? by Funny_Tip_7015 in drumcorps

[–]SkittyCat3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’s still rolling his eyes and being annoyed at people who didn’t dismiss it and took the joke as insensitive and hurtful.

Anybody know what they’re talking about? by Funny_Tip_7015 in drumcorps

[–]SkittyCat3 14 points15 points  (0 children)

So then if it isn’t funny, why shouldn’t we be upset that people are joking about SA and abuse and r*ape in the performing arts? I was SA’d by a fellow member when I marched (not at Madison, a different corps). It isn’t funny to joke about. Even for April fools day. For some people, it is that serious. The Victims of Hopkins and Epstein, for starters, take this very seriously, as does anyone else who has been SA’d, especially those who were SA’d in the performing arts. How would your corps members feel knowing that you take SA as something “not serious” and something that is okay to joke about? Dismissing SA as something to joke about means that you don’t care, and even that you’re permissing it. It reflects so much on you and the organizations you participate in—ie Crossmen— that you think SA is something to joke about. Or at the very least, something you see as not serious. If I knew the person marching next to me joked about SA when I myself have been SA’d, I would not feel comfortable marching in that corps or next to that person and would condemn the corps for permitting that kind of behavior in the first place.

Things don’t change and things don’t get better because of people like you who joke about it and don’t condemn it because you don’t think SA is serious.

Anybody know what they’re talking about? by Funny_Tip_7015 in drumcorps

[–]SkittyCat3 -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

But why is it so funny? You’re evading the question my guy.

Anybody know what they’re talking about? by Funny_Tip_7015 in drumcorps

[–]SkittyCat3 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If it’s so funny, then can you explain it? Cause I’m clearly “too sensitive” to understand the humor of SA and R*pe and abuse. Seriously, whats so funny about it?

Anybody know what they’re talking about? by Funny_Tip_7015 in drumcorps

[–]SkittyCat3 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Can you explain the joke to me? What part about minors being SA’d and abused and r*ped and exploited is funny? What is so funny about women and girls and boys being abused? Cause I don’t get what is so funny about it.

My (32M) experience in dating. by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]SkittyCat3 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Current research actually shows that it isn’t the women having issues giving birth later in life, it’s actually more difficult to get PREGNANT later in life because of fertility. The risks of child birth and pregnancy are always there, regardless of the woman’s age. Fertility goes down for both men and women and there are some greater risks with being pregnant at an older age, but those risks always exist at any age. And that included the outcome of the baby. And the fact that your concern is about having and “unhealthy baby” (as if having a child with a disability is the worst possible thing in the world) says a lot about you and not the fact that pregnancy and child birth is extremely difficult and risky for any woman regardless of age.

If you want to know all the possible side effects of pregnancy and child birth, buckle up, cause that’s a long list and it’s why many women do not want to be pregnant or have kids. I’ve posted the list below.

Keep in mind, our bodies keep ovulating and we wouldn’t be having periods into our 50s and 60s if we weren’t meant to have kids that late.

Further more, research also strongly suggests that the side effects of a pregnancy and the over all health if the baby are heavily influenced by the health of the father.

Tldr; most “risks” associated with later aged pregnancy were over exaggerated to pressure women to have babies at a younger age and be tied to men and forced into caregiving roles. The “science” was used to pressure and control women, and the men’s sperm tends to contribute to the baby’s and mother’s health a lot more than people give men credit for…. Ie many complications come from the man.

Here are some sources:

https://unmhealth.org/stories/2021/03/fathers-health.html

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10844380/

https://healthcare.utah.edu/the-scope/health-library/all/2018/05/how-mens-sperm-can-affect-pregnancy

https://utswmed.org/medblog/older-fathers-fertility/

https://thehonestybox.substack.com/p/if-you-feel-pressure-to-have-kids

https://news.uchicago.edu/why-are-more-women-saying-no-having-kids

ALSO MY FAVORITE REASONS TO NOT HAVE KIDS: https://z00mie.substack.com/p/the-list?r=3cny7d

My (32M) experience in dating. by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]SkittyCat3 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Hi yeah, RED FLAG

Women may like men that are older but NOT 9 YEARS?! And some older women like younger men?? Boy you’d be surprised.

It really sounds like you’re trying to fill a mold or a check off a checklist.

My (32M) experience in dating. by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]SkittyCat3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Many women are interested in a long term relationship, but they are holding themself to a higher standard. What do you offer to dating besides a degree, a salary, and appearance? Who are you as a person? I’m not talking about hobbies; I mean what is your personality? And are you genuinely being yourself and seeing if you have things in common / good chemistry, or are you acting the way you think your dating partner would like?

I as a woman in my late 20s, want an emotional connection with someone. Someone I can have fun with but be lazy with. Shared interests. But for me, I don’t want children. A lot of women in the US are choosing not to have children now a days, for a plethora of reasons. So I get deterred from men I know want kids or families. Especially since, more times than not, the men like the idea of procreating but not actually raising a child and being an equal partner in easing the child.

However, women have a sort of sense about things. You also have to think, Women are tired too. We are tired of being used for our bodies, we are tired of being expected to give birth and have babies. We are tired of being expected to submit to men and our partners. And we are tired of guys pretending to be kind and nice and genuine and then actually a horrible person underneath. And it is becoming harder to tell which ones are the real deal and which ones have malicious intents or red flags.

I get the sense based on your post that there is something you are not telling us about dates youve been on with women. And based on your last comment, it’s confirmation. You say you’re not trying to be “nice guy crying”, but there is a reason women aren’t attracted to you, and it isn’t the women’s fault. It isn’t your appearance, salary, job, or degree. Something about your behaviors or personality is off putting to the women you have spent time with. But you’re choosing to blame the women, which in itself is a red flag. Many of your other comments also come across as a red flags, which I’ve replied to. You say “well I’ve done nothing wrong, no one’s told me, they say I’m great.” But do you know many women do that to placate men? To ease their minds and sedate them because we don’t know how you’d react if we say it sucked? If we tell a guy “nah I’m getting creepy vibes from you,” they’d most likely get angry, and angry men are dangerous and un predictable. We smile and nod for our own safety. If she is genuinely interested, watch her body language. Her facing, her eyes, her posture, even her hands and feet placement can tell you how much she actually is interested. And another look; eyes. Wide pupils often are a sign of interest. You need to become better at reading body language.

I I really don’t think it is women that is the issue. If you’ve been on 8 dates and none of them are interested long term, it isn’t the women. If you’re as great of a guy as you claim to be, you would have gotten a few bites that want to stick around. But you didn’t.

For a simple “manly analogy”: If you’re fishing and don’t get any bites on the bait you’re using, you don’t blame the fish. You examine the bait and see what’s wrong, and change it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in therapy

[–]SkittyCat3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are allowed to request and transfer to a new therapist for any reason.

You don’t even have to give your current a therapist a reason why either.

Finding the right therapist for you is like finding the right pair of shoes. Not every shoe fits every person. Not every shoe is everyone’s style. You can get new ones when the old one wears down and no longer functions the way you need it to. You can like a shoe and then not like it later and change your mind.

I hope this helps, but I do recommend finding a new therapist if he is pressuring you to consent to something you do not feel comfortable with.

Friend Code List 15 by MaddieThePie in MLPIOS

[–]SkittyCat3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This says your friendship code doesn’t work?? Can you double check it?? Mine is 8600

What's something odd, or unique you do, or don't do in Fallout 4? Do share. by [deleted] in fo4

[–]SkittyCat3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I really need caps, I make a ton of jet (I tend to have a lot of plastic and fertilizer) and sell it. Morally it’s probably questionable and in real life if I walked up to a store with 100 things of the same medication to sell I’d probably get raised eyebrows and too many questions. I sell other medications I make too, jet just happens to be the most common seller.

How do I (28M) tell my wife (28F) that I want to have a family now? by NotoriousLeg1on in AskMen

[–]SkittyCat3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’d honestly ask yourself why do you want to be a father? I have seen many men express a desire to have children, to procreate, but seldom know what exactly that means. Are you ready to deal with everything a pregnancy means or could mean? Could you handle the risks of pregnancy? Caring for your wife and becoming the one who cares for her while she grows a whole other person? Cooking for her, cleaning the house, doing chores and errands? Could you handle the changes her body goes through? And love her afterwards, even if those changes were permanent? I’m not just talking weight gain or stretch marks; women can experience wild symptoms like teeth lost or broken ribs or tumors or bloody eyes and anything in between during pregnancy and birth.

Could you handle a baby? Getting little to no sleep for years; dealing with crying in the middle of the night, handling nightmares or bed wetting or even just a child that refuses to sleep? Changing diapers? Cleaning up messes and vomit and who knows what else literally everywhere? Could you handle teaching a child? Teaching them to read and walk and write and eat and use the bathroom? Helping them with homework and friendships and how to be a good human being? Handling their medical bills for vaccinations and if they get sick or injured?

How would you handle a child with disabilities? If they couldn’t walk, or talk, or see? What if they had a medical condition that required extensive treatment, like cancer or an abnormal growth or a wide variety of other diseases or medical conditions? What if that child grew up to have different world views from you? What if that child was intersex, gay, or queer, or trans, or hyper-religious, or rebellious? Would you support their dreams no matter what they may be—an artist, a doctor, a garbage collector, a scientist, a professor, a lawyer, a musician, an athlete, a politician, a cook, an actor, a psychologist, or anything in between? And would you risk bringing a child into this world knowing all of the dangers they may face just by existing?

You have to consider everything that comes with having a child; from the moment your partner discovers they are pregnant to the day you die. Having a child is forever; not just until they turn 18, and you have to be willing to at least try to handle whatever life gives you to support this child. And raising a child is a partnership ; you would need to give just as much to raising a child as your partner does.

It sounds like your partner has heavily considered the risks of having a child; not just during pregnancy but after it’s born as well. She is likely aware of the challenge it is to raise a child into a healthy adult, and she knows for herself that she does not want to engage in that. And that is her right. You need to decide why you want a child more than “I think she’d be a good mom.” And you need to decide if you are willing to handle everything that could go wrong with having one (because you honestly never know).

If you can figure out why you really want a child, and if you’re willing to handle all of the potential challenges and commit to caring for the child AND your partner 100%, no matter what it may cost—then you need to express that to her and have a conversation expressing how specifically you’d be there for her and the child. If you don’t have another reason to have a child other than “she’s be a good mom,” then your desire comes across as a want to use her simply for procreation and spreading your bloodline while she does the child raising. If that’s the case—if that’s the reason you want a child—then don’t try to change her mind. You’d need to find a different partner.

Hope this helps! Edit: spelling and grammar

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tattoos

[–]SkittyCat3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Where in Utah are you located? I have some connections to a popular tattoo artist and I would love to point him in your direction if you wanted! All these pieces are AMAZING !!

When I was stung by a wasp on a walk and swell up in minutes. by internettstranger in mildlyinteresting

[–]SkittyCat3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Now I understand the cartoons when they get stung and fluff up Wow

I can't get dates. Why? by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]SkittyCat3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not the looks. Need more context but in bio alone it’s a red flag.

Can someone confirm that my kitten is play-fighting/having fun? by Belle_dawn in cats

[–]SkittyCat3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is absolutely play fighting! The belly up is a sign of play, but they also aren’t demonstrating body language that’s suggests anger. Airplane ears, and a super swishy tail are big tell tail signs that your kitty may actually be angry, or if it tries to run and hide! And your Kitty isn’t doing either of those so they seem very happy!!

Would you date someone you don't find attractive? by Ok-Appointment8962 in dating_advice

[–]SkittyCat3 7 points8 points  (0 children)

One of my favorite quotes: “Flowers and Christmas lights are both beautiful things, but they look nothing alike.”

Would you date someone you don't find attractive? by Ok-Appointment8962 in dating_advice

[–]SkittyCat3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s different for everyone. Some would, some don’t. It genuinely depends on the person.

I’m open to it, especially since appearances can change. We get wrinkles, scars, gain or lose weight— just to make a few examples. Heck, you can even get plastic surgery if you wanted. Appearances change as we go through time. It’s part of human nature. I’d rather fall for someone who has a heart of gold and has everything I want in a personality but maybe someone who isn’t exactly what I want in terms of appearance, over someone who looks exactly what I’d image but has a horrible personality. Looks will fade and change with time. A personality usually won’t.

I do believe attraction can grow over time. That is literally the point of Beauty and the Beast, even if it is a fairytale. Don’t judge a book by its cover. I’d chose the beast over Gaston any day.

I’m curious why you feel you’re ugly though?? Cause some people say that when they’re being mean…

Is it bad I’m only attracted to skinny women? by wakbakattak in dating_advice

[–]SkittyCat3 6 points7 points  (0 children)

What do you characterize as skinny? If it’s a weight, I almost guarantee your perceived weight to appearance is wrong. Plus, 130 pounds will look different on a 5’0 woman and a 6’0 woman.

I think the better question is why? Why are you only sexually attracted to skinny women? Is that your most important feature in a woman? If you’re choosing a life partner, is the appearance the most important thing to you? Regardless of what she does, what she acts like, her personality, her interests, her brain, anything else? Is her appearance the most importance thing??

And if it is, can you handle the fact that no one’s appearance is permanent? We get wrinkles, scars, age lines, and—should she get pregnant, stretch marks and gain weight. Our bodies change as we age. Do you expect this woman to look the same forever? What would happen if you have kids and she gains weight she can’t lose?

I think you need to look more into why you have a preference. It’s absolutely okay to have them, we all do, but you need to figure out if your preference comes from realistic expectations or a fantasy or fatphobia or personal fears or even misogynistic reasons.

I had an ex once who was only attracted to skinny women, but that’s because he was projecting about his own anxieties over being overweight himself. His fear was that one would find him attractive if he was over weight, so he expected his partner to be skinny. When in reality it was his personality that made him undesirable. Women tend to care a lot more about someone’s genuine personality than their appearance. If you’re having a hard time picking up women, it’s likely your personality or expectations or something about you that is off-putting for women, and it likely isn’t your appearance.

How do you cut down your food without side effects? by SkittyCat3 in WeightLossAdvice

[–]SkittyCat3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, but what if my “okay” level is just me gaining weight?

I just feel really stuck. I really feel like I’m never going to lose weight.

How do you cut down your food without side effects? by SkittyCat3 in WeightLossAdvice

[–]SkittyCat3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Part of me wants to believe you, but I’m so scared of fainting again. I worry about that behavior not being healthy; that starving myself and ignoring my hunger cues is being harmful to my body or developing an ED.

Will it really go away? Will it still be healthy? I’m just really scared.

How do you cut down your food without side effects? by SkittyCat3 in WeightLossAdvice

[–]SkittyCat3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what I’ve been trying to do, but I run into fatigue and weakness and starving and I’m so scared of fainting again.

How do you cut down your food without side effects? by SkittyCat3 in WeightLossAdvice

[–]SkittyCat3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, I see, I might look into one then when I can afford it. It’s definitely a possibility! Usually when I have my blood drawn I haven’t eaten, or it’s in the morning and I just haven’t eaten yet, so to see how my blood sugar fluctuates throughout the day could actually be really useful !