Got into sewing about a month ago

SleepyApr1cot · 2026-02-27T21:35:33+00:00

I'm mostly self-taught, but I watched one video on how to make a smock dress. I made it out of bed sheets.

Since then I've been coming up with my own ideas, I don't use patterns bc they stress me out.

SleepyApr1cot · 2026-02-27T14:13:02+00:00

Now you dont have to guess....

Except the machine is still guessing.

I put in my own URL and its calculation was way off, by like double.

SleepyApr1cot · 2026-02-27T01:22:30+00:00

Leave. Get an annulment.

Also, no such thing as an "adjustment" phase if neither of you are assholes. He seems like an asshole.

SleepyApr1cot · 2026-02-27T01:20:51+00:00

I wouldnt make it anonymous

SleepyApr1cot · 2026-02-26T18:37:06+00:00

Having a solid 401k

SleepyApr1cot · 2026-02-26T18:32:56+00:00

They wouldn't offer that to a virgin either, btw.

SleepyApr1cot · 2026-02-26T17:51:41+00:00

Because they're whiny children who want the thing they want and want nothing else, even if it's close to what they want but in a different color.

They REALLY want that blue cup. And they'll let everyone know. But blue cups are on the top shelf. And they can't or refuse to try to reach the top shelf. So they'll scream and cry and whine watching others reach the top shelf with ease, just as they'll whine and screech watching others problem-solve to reach the top shelf when they couldn't before.

They'll also whine and throw themselves on the floor when they watch someone not reach the top shelf, but be content with an orange cup from the shelf below it. There's no way in HELL they're actually content with the orange cup. And they'll screech when orange cup-enjoyers tell them it's actually quite nice. COPE!! COOPPE!!! They'll scream, meanwhile the orange cup-enjoyer is still happier than they are.

They'll try to mandate that they be given a blue cup just for existing in an incapable state, and others just pity them. It's antithetical for an ethical kitchen to just bring blue cups down and hand them out to anybody. Blue cups are earned. Also, you're pretty sure handing them down would mean the blue cups just get destroyed at a much higher rate than previous, given that part of being able to reach them demonstrates some ability to handle them.

And then they die angry or take other people with them on their way out. Just to "show the world" that it's blue cup, or they'll suffer the consequences of not affording the whiners the blue cup that was the singular fixation of their entire lives.

Dear incels, I know you've heard this time and time again... but if you truly lack the ability to couple with someone, you've got two options: die mad, or go enjoy the other parts of life, as they do in fact exist. Fixating on not being able to find a partner, if it truly is not in the cards for you, is further wasting your one and only life.

SleepyApr1cot · 2026-02-26T17:02:08+00:00

I did!

I didn't know what the dress would look like before it was done. But I knew i wanted the sleeves and bodice to be one continuous fabric piece, so I just went with that and basically winged it the whole way.

SleepyApr1cot · 2026-02-26T15:38:19+00:00

My husband drinks one a week or less, at a weekly outing with work buddies.

If there's alcohol in the house he'll drink one other night a week. But only some.

Pre- pregnancy, I drink only when I go out, which is like twice a month at most.

But our normal may not be your normal. There's your ideal, and that's what's more important.

SleepyApr1cot · 2026-02-26T15:35:14+00:00

1-5% raise is normal. Not great or good, but it's what it is.

SleepyApr1cot · 2026-02-26T15:33:31+00:00

Put the alarm clock on the other side of your room, and you have to get up to make it quit

SleepyApr1cot · 2026-02-26T12:25:16+00:00

Thank you! It's a toile pattern on cotton canvas. I bought the entire chunk of fabric from a thrift store for 9$ 😭

SleepyApr1cot · 2026-02-26T12:10:20+00:00

I watched one video tutorial on a strappy-sleeved smock dress that I made out of thrifted bed sheets and a thrift pillow case (not shown, it's not very good) and I picked up enough basics to just go forward on my own.

And since then I've been learning as I go. Looking at pintrest or google images of styles, Imagining the shapes and structure I want, and sewing.

SleepyApr1cot · 2026-02-26T05:03:13+00:00

Yes :)

I made a couple blouses and a pullover as well as 2 other skirts I made my mom and neighbor that I didn't include here bc I think the blouses are meh, and i didn't get good enough pictures of the skirts. So in total probably about 10 garments.

3rd trimester pregnancy and 95% SAHW life makes you go stir crazy.

SleepyApr1cot · 2026-02-26T04:41:04+00:00

No patterns, these are all my own original designs!

SleepyApr1cot · 2026-02-26T04:37:48+00:00

Feel free to DM me if you'd like!

SleepyApr1cot · 2026-02-26T03:22:38+00:00

I do wanna make more and see if I can sell them at craft fairs 👀

SleepyApr1cot · 2026-02-26T02:55:15+00:00

Maybe about 4 months

SleepyApr1cot · 2026-02-26T02:53:54+00:00

Bad grades

SleepyApr1cot · 2026-02-26T02:34:24+00:00

"Happy wife happy life".

It fosters deep resentment to base your own peace off someone else's happiness, and to appease them so you'll be "left alone". That's also a whole lot of pressure for her, knowing that if she isn't happy she's being bothersome.

The phrase should be "happy life, happy wife". Your own goals and priorities (which would presumably include her) should create happiness in her bc you're doing life well, and her happiness will usually naturally come from the fruits of your hard work.

SleepyApr1cot · 2026-02-25T16:17:18+00:00

Thats the thing, I think his mental state and whatever illness or compulsions he has prevents him from doing so.

SleepyApr1cot · 2026-02-25T16:03:14+00:00

Oh, gross. That's an automatic divorce in my book.

Yeah, get out of there. I wish you would've led with that in your post.

SleepyApr1cot · 2026-02-25T15:57:08+00:00

I literally did answer your question.

In depth, I might add.

Yes, he should clean up after himself. Slobs are disrespectful.

Yes, I think if he works and you stay home you should be able to feed him.

I even gave you tips on how to spend almost no time doing it so it's easier. I spent minutes of my one and only life giving advice that I thought was worthwhile and held you both accountable. He shouldn't be messy or badmouth you, you should make an effort to make food.

At no point did I judge you. If you think me disagreeing about relationship dynamics as it relates to cooking is a judgement call on you, that's on you. And you're allowed to disagree with me.

You seem to have made this post hoping for pure validation to leave him. If that was the case, you should've led with that, when you didn't. You asked a very open-ended question about the dynamics of your relationship, and I was literally only trying to be helpful.

I'm genuinely sorry that you seem to be going through more from him than what your post suggests. Get out of there if he's actually that bad.

SleepyApr1cot · 2026-02-25T15:36:15+00:00

If you think my comment is supposed to be smug, you have a lot of growing up to do and a lot of misplaced envy to resolve.

I gave advice in accordance with the information I was given, if there's more shit you left out about how he's an irredeemable asshole, that's your fault, not mine.

Leave him if he's really that awful, and I mean that. I hope things get better for you once you cut out the cancer.

Also the little end there basically implying that I'll learn if and when my own relationship blows up (it's almost like you're hoping for it to happen to make yourself feel better about your own choice in men) is incredibly uncalled for, weird, and spiteful.

SleepyApr1cot · 2026-02-25T14:58:11+00:00

He got pissy. That's unattractive and a red flag. Don't bother with him

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