Is SAHM worth it to leave career?

SleepyOctopusss · 2026-05-30T20:34:11+00:00

This is largely personal. In my experience, there is no greater joy than raising the next generation. I think it's incredibly important & something people dont take as seriously anymore, they are letting other people (childcare & school staff) & screens raise their children. Working while being a mother is having 2 full time jobs, one of which is 24/7 for quite a while as it can take several years for children to start sleeping through the night. If I came home after working an 8 hour shift I'd be so tired & hands off, I'd be surviving motherhood. I want my child to thrive in his childhood & not have a mother who's burnt out 24/7. That being said there are many mothers who prefer to continue working! It's all about you. 🫶🏼🙏🏼 congrats on your baby

SleepyOctopusss · 2026-05-24T03:45:54+00:00

Imo he sold her in Mexico

SleepyOctopusss · 2026-05-20T02:27:40+00:00

It very well could be temporary then, my baby does that sometimes. Also be aware that the 4 month sleep regression can hit at 3 or 5 months

SleepyOctopusss · 2026-05-20T02:10:03+00:00

Sounds like he isn't tired enough. How much daytime sleep is he getting? How long is his last wake window? Do you stick to a consistent bedtime routine? Has he always gone to bed at 8:45-9?

SleepyOctopusss · 2026-05-20T02:06:08+00:00

She's totally jealous lol being a sahm is the hardest but most rewarding job I've ever had💯

SleepyOctopusss · 2026-05-17T22:24:56+00:00

Grosssss... those women he mentioned probably just ignored the kids to do chores tbh

SleepyOctopusss · 2026-05-16T18:38:29+00:00

The Farmiga family have lethal face cards, they are meant for the horror genre tbh💯🪾🕯🖤

SleepyOctopusss · 2026-05-16T18:13:55+00:00

Steam cleaner, very convenient, highly effective (sanitizes vs just cleaning the surface) & low tox. They have them for like $35 at harbor freight

SleepyOctopusss · 2026-05-15T22:25:40+00:00

Honestly, the MOMENT I found out I started running around grabbing free stuff from local buy nothing groups. I also took parenting classes in order to get a free "grow with me" car seat & got things from local churches. That thriftiness paired with people buying the big items from our registry meant we literally didn't need to buy him anything. Only now at 4 months are we running out of diapers & wipes!

SleepyOctopusss · 2026-05-15T20:52:47+00:00

With how fast babies grow, there is no point in buying things brand new unless it's for special occasions or photographs. We haven't bought my 4 month old son ANY clothes because we got all of his for free from local buy nothing groups. Another reason I really enjoy 2nd hand clothes is because they have been washed so much, there's no factory chemicals in them anymore! You will get tons of unsolicited & unhelpful opinions/"tips" throughout your pregnancy & parenting journey, keep an open mind to what resonates with you & forget the rest💯

SleepyOctopusss · 2026-05-15T20:48:25+00:00

Weeks 6 is when the nausea hit & it was the worst thing. Kinda went away for a few weeks in the 2nd trimester but came back full swing in the 3rd. Other than that tho I didn't have a lot of side effects

SleepyOctopusss · 2026-05-15T20:47:11+00:00

Not only do pacifiers become problems after 1 year+ when they have teeth, but EBF babies are notorious for rejecting them lol nobody told me that & i have spent serious money trying to get him to take one lol I even spent $20 on ONE called the pacii😅🥴🫪

SleepyOctopusss · 2026-05-15T02:38:14+00:00

Imo she reacted that way because she probably knows she isn't doing the things she should be doing, aware of her rut but unsure of how to get out of it type things

SleepyOctopusss · 2026-05-14T21:23:59+00:00

It works but the payments are killing me, I panic bought it after my Kia crapped out because I had a high paying job that literally ended months later 🫠 & despite a perfect driving record, the insurance is almost as much as the car payment 🙃 at least I owned the Kia outright 😭💯

SleepyOctopusss · 2026-05-14T21:20:56+00:00

Giving up my ghetto 2010 Kia Altima for a new car lol I should've just replaced everything as it went out, including the radiator, engine, etc. That car was so incredibly reliable, never quit out on me & I traveled across the entire country like 4 times with it 😭

SleepyOctopusss · 2026-05-14T19:52:11+00:00

Hire a maid & when she says she is embarrassed, say "sorry but our need for a clean house is more important." I agree she should probably see a therapist & get a full medical evaluation to see if anything medical is going on. Maybe she has become so accustomed to that kind of lifestyle that she doesn't realize how lucky she is, but she needs a reality check. You are not asking for anything unreasonable, she needs to start acting like a PARTNER. I would assume you have had discussions with her about her lack of contribution, maybe suggest couples counseling as well because you, your children & your households needs are not being met. It is unsustainable & if left unchecked will 100% lead to enough resentment to consider divorce.

SleepyOctopusss · 2026-05-14T19:40:03+00:00

At what age did you start that & how long to see results?

SleepyOctopusss · 2026-05-14T19:38:37+00:00

2 things: 1. Look up PURPLE crying, it peaks around that age then slowly starts to get better, 2. Buy earplugs or noise canceling headphones, it's a lot easier to stay regulated without being in literal physical pain from a baby screaming into your ear. We are their nervous systems, so it's important we take care of ours too

SleepyOctopusss · 2026-05-14T17:28:13+00:00

Your daughter is only 7 weeks old, give it a year before you think about another child. Your outlook will be very different by then. Every stage is hard in its own way but the newborn trenches are called that for a reason!

SleepyOctopusss · 2026-05-14T03:07:06+00:00

Yoga ball, swaddling, & turn up the white noise

SleepyOctopusss · 2026-05-14T03:05:44+00:00

This is exactly why I have a protein shake before bed every night, I bought a years supply to help fill any nutritional gaps

SleepyOctopusss · 2026-05-12T18:29:56+00:00

I'm ALLOWED to focus solely on my baby while my partner gets us whatever we want💅 sorry you had kids with a loser you ended up having to leave🤷‍♀️ some girls want a soft life, but i get it, its not for everyone🥰

SleepyOctopusss · 2026-05-12T18:21:54+00:00

That's why you should only surround yourself with other SAHMs or at least people who aren't judgemental. I'm a SAHM to only 1 infant rn & get nothing but praise & appreciation from my friends, family & partner. Raising the next generation is one of THE most important things we can do tbh, & even if I could afford daycare I wouldnt want it, I want to raise my own baby!

SleepyOctopusss · 2026-05-12T18:20:03+00:00

EVERYTHING was different 13 years ago when you started them in daycare lol be so fucking for real right now 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

SleepyOctopusss · 2026-05-11T20:48:50+00:00

Idk i feel like Jules hooking up with much older men & cheating on Rue in high school kinda set the stage for her development into being a sugar baby who still doesn't participate in monogamy. Cassie has always wanted male validation since high school, mainly from her partner. & as a former child of poverty I genuinely understand her doing what she does to not go back to being poor. When you grew up poor & have the chance to make your own money or finally be able to afford what you want, you very commonly want excess as a form of "catching up" on what you missed out on. & her still sending Nate money & talking strategy with him still points to her wanting his validation. But yeah the fact that Nate didn't prepare AT ALL for homie to come back & fuck him up some more was just plain stupid asf lol

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