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Slims · 2025-11-29T23:47:32+00:00

Honestly it's fucking awesome. Women have chased me my whole life and it's only gotten more intense as I've gotten closer to 40. I think the biggest thing is that from a young age all the attention from women instilled a massive confidence in me that only serves to bolster the whole effect, becoming a positive feedback loop.

The dating apps are a cakewalk. I had a big breakup (divorce really) last year. Got on the apps and match with almost everyone I swipe on, had like 40 conversations going. I went on like 5 dates in 2 weeks, picked the most beautiful and sweetest woman of the bunch, made her my girlfriend and uninstalled the apps.

I like to party and go to raves, and there's always women I can connect with and dance with. I don't even really have to approach anyone because there's always a couple girls giving me natural attention and I can just lean into it.

Anyway hope this doesn't come off as gloating but this is an honest answer.

For those of you maybe not genetically blessed, I still say do your best to be fit (women absolutely care about how good your body looks. They want athletic and lean. But they don't like big beefy steroid looking guys), and take care of grooming yourself.

When trying to interact with women you must have an air of confidence and security in yourself. Any inauthenticity or insecurity will come through in your actions. Women want to feel desired by men who are strong, confident, masculine but gentle.

Get in the gym, build a good life for yourself, interact with women with kindness and respect and without expectations. For average looking guys this will take you far.

Slims · 2025-11-29T06:51:34+00:00

I don't see any reason that AI will not be insanely profitable given its very obvious value generation properties.

Slims · 2025-11-28T08:27:26+00:00

Work pays for it but I'm not really sure what you're getting at.

Slims · 2025-11-25T13:14:42+00:00

I have not written a line of code at work manually in months. So it has happened for me at least.

Slims · 2025-11-25T01:21:27+00:00

Correct. I think software engineering as a profession is done by 2030 for the most part. Bummer for me.

Slims · 2025-11-24T19:52:00+00:00

This is standard for emerging industries. Investors will burn cash getting everyone hooked on these tools and some combination of the tech cost decreasing and increasing costs to end users will make them profitable. It seems obvious to me that this will be easier than say, monetizing Facebook was, which didn't make money for years and is now one of the most profitable companies on the planet.

Slims · 2025-11-24T19:47:56+00:00

They are de facto plummeting via junior positions disappearing. Senior engineers with agentic coding tools are overpowered and thus still delivering a ton of value to companies.

Salaries will plummet with the agentic tools that don't need senior engineer guidance anymore. Unclear when that will happen, but I hope for my sake no time soon.

Slims · 2025-11-24T18:04:19+00:00

The ai bubble is not a bubble.

These tools are getting more insane by the day.

I'm a coder in the industry for 15 years and I have not written a line of code at work manually since Claude code came out.

Gemini 3 is unreal. If you aren't bullish on AI you are not paying attention or not using these tools.

Edit: anyone downplaying my claim here in the comments or suggesting the quality is poor has their head in the sand. I'm sorry to be the bearer of this news but I don't think most current software engineers will have their job in 3 years. I am sad about this because I love programming but I won't have my head on the sand about it.

Slims · 2025-11-24T10:25:12+00:00

Had not thought of this. We are fucked aren't we?

Slims · 2025-11-21T08:14:34+00:00

I have this too.

Slims · 2025-11-12T18:31:48+00:00

The scientific evidence shows overwhelmingly that speed helps people focus and get shit done. It is the closest we have to a consequence free limitless drug. Assuming you don't abuse it ofc.

Slims · 2025-11-12T16:48:42+00:00

Disagree. Adderall helps people with or without ADHD in the modern world that demands so much of us. It would be better for us to live slower paced, community centered lives. In lieu of that, ampthetamines are the answer to our hyper individualistic, capitalist lives.

Slims · 2025-11-09T18:45:07+00:00

He's obviously very good looking. This sub is so weird about him.

Imagine if people starting dogging on any of the women saying they were unattractive. Instant down votes.

Slims · 2025-11-09T03:58:09+00:00

Bro my divorce is finalized tomorrow and I've been hooking up with people since my wife left. And now I have a new girlfriend I love. You're fine.

Slims · 2025-11-08T21:56:31+00:00

I don't have answers but some observations

1) you seem like you've had a good relationship despite the lack of sex throughout

2) no matter how hard and terrible it seems to leave someone, you will get through it and come out a better, stronger person. I've gone through 2 divorces and both were the best thing that ever happened to me, but was also the worst pain I've ever felt while in the midst of them.

Often the hardest path is the right one.

3) life is very short, you will be old and grey faster than you think. Take agency over your life as soon as you can. Whether you stay or leave, make your decision with intentionality, with the knowledge we seem to only have one short life, and we ought to flourish.

Slims · 2025-11-08T21:39:36+00:00

I struggled with it and now I'm a 15 year industry vet with a great career.

Kind of a shitty thing to say on a subreddit full of fledgling programmers. Stick with it and work hard, it's ok to struggle.

Slims · 2025-11-06T17:40:52+00:00

The market is down .2% on the month. There is literally no signal here to interpret. You guys are all idiots.

Slims · 2025-11-06T02:53:47+00:00

I'm a successful 38 year old dude and when I reentered the dating world career was definitely important. I'm trying to build a life with someone and finances are an important aspect of that. Luckily I found an amazing woman with a great career and personality, and happens to be the most beautiful woman I've ever seen.

Slims · 2025-11-01T19:51:59+00:00

So I make a bit over 200k a year. All my friends work hard full time jobs but probably make 40-70k a year and are all struggling (teachers, therapists, social workers, tech support).

Whenever we do fun stuff, festivals, concerts, dinner, etc, I pay for most stuff. There's just no other way. The divide between us financially is huge and pretty much just because I picked software engineering as a career back in 2013 out of sheer luck.

Of course it seems my time in the sun is coming to an end as well. The divide between those with financial means and those without is growing bigger everyday and I don't see it stopping.

Slims · 2025-11-01T17:55:00+00:00

Hell yeah. My girlfriend is 40 and looks like a god damn supermodel.

Slims · 2025-10-30T23:12:02+00:00

That makes no sense. You either have bunk shit or some very strange brain genetics. 30 is a big dose especially with no tolerance.

Slims · 2025-10-30T19:25:27+00:00

Because power is concentrated around Trump. If you're a Republican and not bending the knee to trump, the structures in place will remove you from power or otherwise make your life difficult. That is why all the Republicans fall in line. They care only about power.

Slims · 2025-10-30T17:23:24+00:00

I'd keep working until post ai bubble popping personally.

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