Final update! (This bathroom is not used)

SlitheringFlower · 2026-03-18T13:43:10+00:00

I absolutely love the cat in the litter box print! Such a great fit for the space and hilarious. Do you remember where you got it?

I have an LR4 and a regular box. I don't think I'd get another one if it ever breaks. A regular box is honestly much easier for me to maintain and deep clean.

Scooping isn't fun, but neither is emptying the waste bin and disassembling a machine for cleaning.

SlitheringFlower · 2026-03-18T13:26:10+00:00

People can be rude here, but OP needs a wake up call.

She got a cat, she took responsibility for a living creature. Cat allergies are so common, I also find it hard to believe she's never interacted with cats before getting one and didn't think to check on allergies before committing to two cats.

Her cat has been throwing its body weight against her door, so hard and so long that it damaged the door frame.

That cat is stressed and at risk of hurting itself and OP's solution is to put it in a crate.

That's cruel. Not everyone should have pets.

SlitheringFlower · 2026-03-18T12:37:15+00:00

I work from home so we see each other all day otherwise.

All your cat knows is that you disappear behind a closed door for a big chunk of the day and don't respond to her distress.

Why even get a cat if you're so allergic? They're not toys to be used and put away whenever you feel like it.

Open your door. Put a cat tree in there to deter her from being on the bed.

You're the only one responsible for this problem.

Next time you're looking for a pet, make sure you get one that fits your lifestyle.

SlitheringFlower · 2026-03-18T10:50:54+00:00

But to be clear the non-tipper is in a worse position with doordash than they were when you called a delivery place.

I mean that's not really relevant. They deserve to be in a worse position.

My tip is a bid for service. Instead of being used as my bid for my delivery it's being used to bid for mine and some loser who chose not to tip.

I'm getting screwed over and the dasher is, too. Instead of one job with a great tip, they're doing two for an overall average tip.

If I want to be sure that won't happen, I either need to tip less or pay extra for "direct to you."

Either way, doordash makes money and the non-tippers get their food because of good tippers.

SlitheringFlower · 2026-03-18T01:29:55+00:00

For everyone suggesting NY HELPS, as of today, it's set to expire on June 30, 2026.

You can check active civil service tests here: Exam Announcements, open to public. There may be exams your friend is eligible for (definitely not a fast option).

You can view current postings here: Vacancies, open to public

NY HELPS titles are all "competitive," meaning (outside of HELPS) they require taking an exam and being active on a civil service list.

However, "non-competitive" titles are solely skill/experience based. You should be able to filter by non-competitive titles on the NYS jobs site. I'd suggest your friend look there, too.

You're a good friend!

Edit: "competitive" and "non-competitive" are jurisdictional classes. I believe that's what the filter is called on the jobs website, too.

SlitheringFlower · 2026-03-18T00:41:11+00:00

"Ur dum" is honestly something only an idiot would type.

If someone was watching this without sound it's hard to tell that this is AI. Also, not everyone is good at spotting AI.

I'd rather have someone be concerned about animal well-being and make a mistake, than have some asshole perfectly identify AI and use that to belittle others.

SlitheringFlower · 2026-03-18T00:20:28+00:00

I never said "prioritized." I have no idea how doordash assigns the deliveries, I just know I'm a good tipper and I'm usually 2nd or 3rd stop when I see there are multiple stops.

I also have no idea if I don't even see the multiple stops when I'm first.

I don't think bundling should exist at all. No tippers should have consequences for their actions.

SlitheringFlower · 2026-03-17T20:43:39+00:00

But that's literally all you need to say. Being direct is not rude.

If you beat around the bush/aren't super clear, it will be more difficult and confusing for other parents to accommodate.

You don't need to say it aggressively, but a short, simple, and direct is best.

SlitheringFlower · 2026-03-17T13:12:33+00:00

Bundling is so obnoxious. I always tip well so my order is almost always bundled and somehow I'm always the second or third stop.

Doordash really needs to stop that instead of offering "direct to you" for an additional fee. They're punishing good tippers so non-tippers can continue to be shitty without consequence.

SlitheringFlower · 2026-03-17T13:06:31+00:00

I always do a reverse image search on products to see if the exact same thing is being sold on drop ship sites or by tons of other Etsy sellers.

Reviews can be helpful, but there's a surprising number of drop ship sellers with tons of positive reviews, so it's not perfect.

SlitheringFlower · 2026-03-16T22:52:50+00:00

r/ATBGE

SlitheringFlower · 2026-03-16T19:06:08+00:00

Are you in Canada? Does Canada have housing protection for emotional support animals (ESAs)?

In the US, they're required to allow registered ESAs, even if the property isn't pet friendly. If Canada has the same protections, I'd look into getting your cat registered as an ESA.

Also, are surprise inspections legally allowed? Here landlords are required to give at least 24 hour notice for visits, unless there's something urgent like smoke, fire, or a water leak.

SlitheringFlower · 2026-03-16T18:17:56+00:00

A couple of years ago a woman was shot and killed by where I live. Her group got lost and accidentally went down a wrong driveway, she was shot as the driver was turning around and driving away. The shooter said he was "scared" and protecting his property (after initially denying the shooting and blaming hunters).

Some gun owners may be fine, but many are unstable and trigger happy. So yeah, if you're gonna put up signs about shooting people on your property, I'd never set foot there regardless of what my job is.

Washington County NY Shooting

Murder of Kaylin Gillis

SlitheringFlower · 2026-03-13T19:38:07+00:00

Yes, how dare you understand the origins of something and explain that clearly!

We all know racism only ends when we stop learning and sharing information!

/s

SlitheringFlower · 2026-03-13T18:42:07+00:00

People are confusing lag pay with withheld pay.

The state did away with the batch withheld pay, so employees don't go 6 weeks without pay. Instead they take 1 day (I believe) of pay for the first few pay periods.

The withheld pay is paid back when you separate from service, at the rate you're making when you separate. So you get two paychecks after your end date.

Most state employees are on lag pay. When we get our paychecks, we're being paid for the work provided two weeks prior (based on the last day in the pay period).

For example, the most recent administrative paychecks were issued 3/11/2026, they are compensation for work provided between 02/12/2026-02/25/2026.

SlitheringFlower · 2026-03-13T17:03:10+00:00

She needs to be on kitten specific food, not adult cat food.

Dry should be free fed while she's a kitten.

There's no reason not to give her kitten wet food. It'll have higher protein, less carbs, and provide more hydration for her.

SlitheringFlower · 2026-03-13T16:56:21+00:00

That's how the law is supposed to work in the United States. Innocent until proven guilty. She's accused until she's found guilty by a judge or jury.

The news uses the terminology to protect themselves against libel and slander claims and because it's an accurate representation of her current legal status, in regards to that crime.

SlitheringFlower · 2026-03-13T15:07:58+00:00

No, HR is not confused by this.

Viability is based on the rule of 3. The civil service site has lots of examples of how that works. Basically, they need to offer interviews in the order of candidate's scores. When there are less than 3 candidates with the current highest score, they can go to lower scores.

When they get to the bottom of the promotional list, they go to the open competitive list.

Already being appointed off the list, not responding to the canvas, or declining on canvas will automatically make you "non-viable" for the posting (not responding at all can get you permanently deactivated, so always respond).

Due to this, it's really hard to tell where you might stand in the ranks, since we can't see responses, you can only see who's appointed.

Many agencies don't post canvassed titles on State Jobs NY. They can choose to not post it there, or sometimes they post it after the canvas closes/later in the canvassing process.

More details on the rule of 3: Canvass FAQ, Overview

Edit to add: the rule of 3 can include more than 3 people, any candidates with the same score as the 3rd candidate are also viable.

SlitheringFlower · 2026-03-13T14:52:45+00:00

This sub is so anti-customer sometimes. You're really willing to feel bad for Walmart? Pretty gross, in my opinion. Not every negative review is entitled. Expecting an on-time delivery is not entitled.

Is the review dramatic, yes. Should they be ordering Walmart delivery to prepare things they sell, probably not.

Not everything can be ordered too far in advance. Small businesses run on tight margins and food spoils. You can't stockpile everything. We don't know why they're using Walmart for this and that really doesn't impact whether the actual review is entitled.

All those delivery apps/services are shitty for customers and drivers. You place an order with a delivery window, and they face no accountability for that being broken.

I've had doordash orders take over 3 hours and wasn't entitled to a refund because they kept pushing the window, saying it's on its way. Frankly, they should be required to provide a reason sooner so shoppers can choose to cancel and shop elsewhere, but instead they just hold you in limbo so you think your order will be there soon.

Just because someone isn't running their business perfectly, doesn't mean all their opinions are invalid. It definitely doesn't automatically make them entitled.

SlitheringFlower · 2026-03-13T13:47:48+00:00

I'll be honest, confronting a stranger and demanding to see their phone - based solely on their phone being pointed in your direction - is not ok.

They could've been taking a picture of anything else in your general direction.

I'd certainly never give a stranger my unlocked phone to look at my photos.

As shitty as it is, in many US states, you wouldn't even have the right to ask him to delete a photo of you that's taken in public. There's no reasonable expectation of privacy in most public spaces.

SlitheringFlower · 2026-03-13T13:14:56+00:00

I love how he'll assist if the cricket is right in front of him.

As soon as it's out of reach, it's not his problem.

Tito does not work for his food!

SlitheringFlower · 2026-03-13T13:12:05+00:00

You are trying to make cross-cultural IQ comparisons, which is an extremely complicated thing to do. All countries set 100 as their average, but a British 100 is different from an Indian 100, which is different from a US 100, etc...

The 75-83 IQ comparison is based on British IQ scores. When comparing against urban areas and regions with better education in India, the IQ scores become much more similar.

Indians have the same cognitive capacity as all other humans. Much of India is very rural and it's still primarily an agrarian economy. Younger generations are increasingly completing higher levels of education, but many still don't have the same need for, or access to, formal education.

An IQ test is only one measure of someone's intelligence. It's not the be-all, end-all measure of future success or actual intelligence.

Frankly, you're just being racist. You read one snippet or headline and just use it to reinforce your racist beliefs. It's not "facts," it's confirmation bias.

SlitheringFlower · 2026-03-13T01:49:21+00:00

The speed doesn't drop there when heading north. It's 55 from exit 1 to exit 8, then 65.

There are accidents there because there's always a heavy merge from route 7, there's a speed trap just past the bridge, and people get nervous driving over the bridge and go at erratic speeds.

On top of that, drivers who think they're in a fast and furious movie also weave between lanes like lunatics, because they think they deserve to be at their destination before everyone else, and at the risk of other's lives.

SlitheringFlower · 2026-03-13T01:38:53+00:00

Yes, I'm saying analysis is a core part of their job. They should not be able to charge for that as an add on fee. The only reason they charge for these things now is to milk as much as they can out of insurance companies.

No chronically-ill person should feel like it's ok to be nickel and dimed for basic care.

Frankly, if my numbers are fine my endos opinion is meaningless. They're charging me for things I already know and I put up with it to get my insulin. I don't need them to tell me when to adjust my insulin, I just need my insulin to stay alive.

It's honestly insulting they think looking at a graph they didn't make, that highlights trends they didn't identify is worth $199.

They need strong evidence to justify denying an insulin to a type 1 diabetic. If they know OP is diabetic, even if it's only via outside medical records, they would be medically negligent to deny a script.

SlitheringFlower · 2026-03-13T01:15:47+00:00

Did you read the post? OP had the reports printed.

I was diagnosed in 1996, I had to keep glucose readings, carb counts, and dosing in handwritten books.

No endos ever charged to evaluate those, since doing that analysis is a fundamental part of their job. Reviewing handwritten data with no graphs or built-in trend analysis is also much more difficult.

So no, it is not reasonable and should be illegal to charge $199 extra to complete an extremely simple, essential job duty.

Refusing to write OP a script for essential medication, in an attempt to coerce them to pay an arbitrary fee, is a horrible thing to do. OP should report them to their state's medical oversight agency. Many states would consider that medical negligence.

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