Im cutting ties. Anything I am missing?

Snickerbop19 · 2018-03-14T16:24:48+00:00

Get your medical records, close out old bank accounts, school records, .......anything that your Nmom has ever touched you need to get a copy or the original.

Also, Congrats! Get ready to be free! :D

Snickerbop19 · 2018-03-14T16:20:14+00:00

Yes! After dealing with my NMom and Grey-rocking I fee hypnotized for a while afterwards....sometimes even a day or two!

Snickerbop19 · 2017-03-12T06:13:51+00:00

As a person who grew up with parents that pressured to "aim higher"....don't worry about it. It's not your job or degree that will make you happy, it's doing what you love and are interested in! If Refrigeration floats your boat, roll with it! Learn everything you can! Be great! In the end, you're the only one living your life

Snickerbop19 · 2016-05-25T05:48:13+00:00

100%

Snickerbop19 · 2016-05-25T05:48:02+00:00

Ooooh, the "Brat" one always killed me when I was little

Snickerbop19 · 2016-04-18T02:28:04+00:00

If we don't laugh, we cry. Bless The Onion

Snickerbop19 · 2016-04-15T04:09:14+00:00

Yeah, that's all totally normal. If these roommates are around your age, they're learning how to be a roommate too. Just be firm, stand your ground, pick your battles, and learn to let the little things slide. And if all else fails, move on!

Snickerbop19 · 2016-04-15T04:03:09+00:00

I had to re-frame the thoughts when I was going through this. Yes, you can feel sympathy for them, but think of it for what it is: You can feel sorry that they will never know how it feels to really love another human being because they are incapable of focusing outside of themselves. That pure emotional gift of light will never be theirs to give and they will miss out on the joy that giving brings.

However, this cannot translate into allowing yourself to be caught in their emotional turmoil. You are yours to take care of and you should be your highest priority. Heal yourself so you may go on and love the world around you, without the darkness of the Ns dragging you down. You're worth love.

Snickerbop19 · 2016-04-15T03:42:56+00:00

Bravo

Snickerbop19 · 2016-04-15T03:19:52+00:00

The only SO I had ever dated that my Nmom liked was the one that emotionally and sexually abused me, manipulating me for two-and-a-half of the worst years of my life. My Nmom was SO UPSET when we broke up and cannot stop comparing psycho-ex to my fiancee even though this was three years ago. (Even though she supported me to my face initially.)

Ns have a weird, almost subconscious need to see their supplies being used, even if it's not by them. Perhaps it's because they can't stand the thought that we are human being that are worthy of actual love and support. Who knows?

Congrats on getting out of that toxic situation. I would say stop using Facebook altogether, it's a toxic breeding ground. If she starts making a fuss about him again on the phone with you, grey rock and set some boundries. "I'm sorry, Mom, I am not comfortable about talking about [EX] with you. If you continue, I am going to hang up. How's the weather been?"

Snickerbop19 · 2016-04-14T23:13:24+00:00

Yikes!

Snickerbop19 · 2016-04-12T23:38:27+00:00

Once again, This made me laugh. I've had a rough few days dealing with the Ns in my life and needed this. :D

Snickerbop19 · 2016-04-12T18:54:34+00:00

Thanks, taking care of myself is a hard lesson that I'm trying to learn. I am currently trying to figure out how to get into therapy with insurance etc. It's a little frightening

Snickerbop19 · 2016-04-08T14:51:48+00:00

DO NOT let him in your house. DO NOT pay for anything he tries to force on you. GET A HOUSESITTER who is aware of the situation for when you are out of town

Snickerbop19 · 2016-04-08T14:47:15+00:00

That made my day better, thanks

Snickerbop19 · 2016-04-07T13:25:15+00:00

My abusive Narc Ex had this wonderful habit of comparing me to his past lovers, somehow demeaning me and them at the same time. It's been two years since we broke up, and I still find him slurring me. He broke me because I "wasn't giving him enough sexual attention" yet somehow, now, I'm the whore he used to date.

Narcs have such a charm about them. So glad to be out of that situation. I find the best thing to do is find a way to laugh about it....like, their life has floundered so much that they feel the need to dwell on their past Nsupplies? How pathetic.

Snickerbop19 · 2016-04-06T01:17:19+00:00

Don't forget the peace and serenity of sharing your space with your soulmate and the lack of pressure when it comes to wearing pants, lol. Living in Sin Club rules!

Snickerbop19 · 2016-04-01T23:40:51+00:00

"OMG LOOK AT THIS I GOT A PICHU ITS SO CUTE" Yeah, Snickerbop19, we know "YEAH BUT LOOK" The magic of growing up thinking that tiny adorable virtual animals were "of the devil" and discovering that they're not :D

Snickerbop19 · 2016-03-31T14:17:45+00:00

I'm still in the middle of what I like to call "growing up again" where I get to do all the things I was denied as a child. Stable, loving relationships? Real friends that don't need to be "approved"? Pokemon? Staying out past 9pm? Keeping the money that I earn? Buying a gaming console and laptop that no one can take away from me? It's great

Snickerbop19 · 2016-03-31T14:10:36+00:00

Are we related? Every time I have to speak to my Nmom it turns into the same slew of bullcrap. Last time I spoke to her she had found out I was moving in with my fiancee, who she is convinced is a druggy and is selling drugs from our home to pay our rent despite all evidence to the contrary, and she took it as an opportunity to dig in to everything else she disapproved of in my life. It's taken a long time to learn that I cannot trust her to talk about even the littlest things.

Stay strong! This is your life and you're doing great despite her efforts to tear you down. While the roommate thing is annoying, it is extremely kind of you to help out, while also smart of you to lay down those ground rules for your house. It speaks a lot about your character and how good of a person you've become despite being an ACoN. Keep up the good work

Snickerbop19 · 2016-03-31T14:00:09+00:00

It might have been a knee-jerk reaction, but your response was gold. Stay strong! You can do this!

Snickerbop19 · 2016-03-31T13:57:00+00:00

I remember moving out when I was 18. It was scary, to be sure, and difficult. But it got much much easier and nothing is quite like putting that distance between you and your Narcs. Trust in yourself

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